i m so fed up..
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there is tis ger who is my bf very good fren...
this ger last time did like him b4 n did try to sound him out but my bf rejected her..after he rejected her, she accepted a guy who woo her at tat time and till now they still tger for 3 yrs plus le. BUt..she n my bf still remain as very very close fren..
since last year wen i started wif my bf, i begin to realise tat tis ger n him are kinda close..they did msg, tok n go out wif each other..
till today which made mi damn pissed off.cos i actuali saw wat tis ger sms him..
"i've been crying for 2 days oredi i m very very sad rite now..."
my bf reply:" y wat happen?"
tat ger:"i miss the puppy i gave to someone"
after my bf reply her, she keep smsing him again n again non-stop telling she's been crying now n v v sad, even see newspaper oso remind of the dog.then my bf keep replying ask her dun cry...
at tat moment i m damn pissed oredi..hey come on, wat r u implying?trying to gain sympathy frm my bf?i really dunno wats the purpose lor..can u guys tell mi? i m damn hot rite now!!! i noe tat ger all along had a crush on my bf n trat him real gd but she oredi had bf liao n y cant she msg her bf? y muz she msg him?
can sumone tell mi wat to do? rite now i m damn TL n i jus quarreled wif my bf..he said tat he n her r jus normal very good frens n noe each other since pri sch. he oso reason tat he jus cant call her n scold her rite?
haiz...i really dunno wat to do now...wat i noe is whenever tis ger name is being mention i cfm v TL... -
do you trust yr bf? if yes, dun nag him so much... just give him friendly reminders tat you are his gf... no point fighting abt this since they know each other so long liao... just keep cool and you will be less TL...
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Hey gal, relax. You are taking things too hard. Why torture yourself?Originally posted by tissue:there is tis ger who is my bf very good fren...
this ger last time did like him b4 n did try to sound him out but my bf rejected her..after he rejected her, she accepted a guy who woo her at tat time and till now they still tger for 3 yrs plus le. BUt..she n my bf still remain as very very close fren..
since last year wen i started wif my bf, i begin to realise tat tis ger n him are kinda close..they did msg, tok n go out wif each other..
till today which made mi damn pissed off.cos i actuali saw wat tis ger sms him..
"i've been crying for 2 days oredi i m very very sad rite now..."
my bf reply:" y wat happen?"
tat ger:"i miss the puppy i gave to someone"
after my bf reply her, she keep smsing him again n again non-stop telling she's been crying now n v v sad, even see newspaper oso remind of the dog.then my bf keep replying ask her dun cry...
at tat moment i m damn pissed oredi..hey come on, wat r u implying?trying to gain sympathy frm my bf?i really dunno wats the purpose lor..can u guys tell mi? i m damn hot rite now!!! i noe tat ger all along had a crush on my bf n trat him real gd but she oredi had bf liao n y cant she msg her bf? y muz she msg him?
can sumone tell mi wat to do? rite now i m damn TL n i jus quarreled wif my bf..he said tat he n her r jus normal very good frens n noe each other since pri sch. he oso reason tat he jus cant call her n scold her rite?
haiz...i really dunno wat to do now...wat i noe is whenever tis ger name is being mention i cfm v TL...
One question.. Do you trust your boyfriend?
If yes, stop all these non-sensical jealousy. It will in turn kill your relationship with him if you don't stop this shit right now!!
If no, then I suggest you do him a favour and break up. Don't torture him further by your distrustful attitude. I wouldn't like a gf who doesn't trust me too. I'll do the same thing. Leave her.
Give yourself a break. RELAX man.. take it easy horsy!
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Hi tissue,
I think u can tell ur boyfriend about ur concerns, so that he can take steps to be more sensitive and mindful. Ask him to be more sensitive and mindful, for example by taking concrete steps such as seeing her less often etc.
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Yeah, I understand how you feel. Very du lan one. Guy's out there, if your gf is constantly showing affection to another guy friend of her's, I'm pretty sure they'll feel the same way too. Talk to him, ask him how it'll feel for him if he were in your shoes.
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Tell him your concern that the girl is trying to get his attention.
She is showing signs that she is interested by her constant SMS.
Tell him that he should not encourage her, just keep his SMS short, even suggesting that she seek out her bf.
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thanx i will do like wat u said...i find ya suggestion quite reasonable..but then my bf did draw the line btw them. he noes wat to do n not wat to do but this ger doesnt draw the line u see..is a BIG BIG sign she is still interested in him!! tats the trouble...haiz..suddenly i feel so down..Originally posted by gerrykoh:Tell him your concern that the girl is trying to get his attention.
She is showing signs that she is interested by her constant SMS.
Tell him that he should not encourage her, just keep his SMS short, even suggesting that she seek out her bf.
Also suggest u double date if they want to go out together.
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1. Read though what the forumites have wrote for you again...Originally posted by tissue:thanx i will do like wat u said...i find ya suggestion quite reasonable..but then my bf did draw the line btw them. he noes wat to do n not wat to do but this ger doesnt draw the line u see..is a BIG BIG sign she is still interested in him!! tats the trouble...haiz..suddenly i feel so down..
2. Have faith in your bf....
3. The biggest reason for him to leave you is probably not because he wanna be with the girl (otherwise he could have done so already?), but more because his gf is giving him unreasonable hard times and he just need to breathe... THINK ABOUT IT....? -
tell ur bf tt u are not happy with it
if situation no improve, then lao niang have to qin zi chu ma liao..... -
I fully understand your situation coz i'm in the same boat too.
The main problem lies with your bf. On his part, i feel that he shouldn't play along with her by giving her the impression that he would always be there for her. Maybe you should talk to him, get assurance from him and let him know that you feel 'disturbed' by her attention-seeking.
As for her, there is nothing much you can do, just tolerate... DOn't try to reason with her or try to find fault with her as your bf might find that you are immature and not gracious enough to handle such problems in r/s.
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You know herOriginally posted by FireIce:tell ur bf tt u are not happy with it
if situation no improve, then lao niang have to qin zi chu ma liao.....
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they can be good friends mah.. but no chemistry?
erm. haha. im kind of similar to the girl you described in the story.
i've maintained a platonic friendship with this guy whom i used to like ( i told him about it, but of cos it end up nothing) and there was absolute no sparks anymore.
we both still do care for one another (with regular SMSes too) but just purely friends.
so dun worry so much about it ok? -
Perhaps the girl Is still interested in your boyfriend.
So what?
So long your boyfriend still treats her only like a good friend, and nothing else, there should be nothing to worry about.
Instead of blaming anyone, things have gotton so far now. Talk it over with your bf, and tell him that you're unhappy.
Don't shout, don't cry, just talk it over with him as a mature adult.
I'm sure he will understand and try to distance himself a bit more from her.
Don't get jealous. You're the one with the good guy, not her. Remember that. don't play into her game too. -
GEEZZZZZZZ!!!! A puppy dog is not a good reason to cry over for n to find ur bf to confide in too?!?! ....BLOODY HELL.....u should tell her off man! man...i really dislike such childish girls.....
"BOOHUU ,i still cant get over that dog..." -
eh..thanx for ya advise..anyway i've oredi got over this situation..Originally posted by droopyeyes:eh
they can be good friends mah.. but no chemistry?
erm. haha. im kind of similar to the girl you described in the story.
i've maintained a platonic friendship with this guy whom i used to like ( i told him about it, but of cos it end up nothing) and there was absolute no sparks anymore.
we both still do care for one another (with regular SMSes too) but just purely friends. so dun worry so much about it ok?
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The problem is with your boyfriend. He shouldn't give false impression to that girl.
Don't talk about trust or not trust, that's talking c.o.c.k. If he really love you, why don't he do something to make you feel more secure? Can't even do this extremely simple thing for the one he love? Then talk about what lan-jiao love?
The most important thing for a girl in love is: SECURITY. If a guy cannot provide this, but asking the girl to trust him more, blah blah blah...you can forget about this kind of selfish sucker. They sucks.
So, if they continue like this, and you continue to be pissed everytime when you see them sms each other again, how many time you can take it? If cannot take it, you should know you should do something,.
Those guys cannot do this kind of simple things for the one they love, they are just simply super-selfish suckers.
Hey, if there is a chance, do you think that girl still want to be with your boyfriend? If yes, then what kind of friendship is that? Friendship with a purpose? Hah, that sucks. -
hey tissue,
hold no expectations~!! u can choose to be more straight forward and tell ur bf directly how u feel but dont expect much to come out of it... the more expectations u have, the more anger and disappointment u'll feel.... if u love him, u should have more faith in him... try ur best and do ur part as a good gf... should u fail, remember that u've tried... seize every moment of the day and it's better to remain cool... it all depends on oneself, if ur bf doesnt make any effort to keep a distance from this ger, u cant do anything also right?? it all depends on him mah...
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hey tissue,
hold no expectations~!! u can choose to be more straight forward and tell ur bf directly how u feel but dont expect much to come out of it... the more expectations u have, the more anger and disappointment u'll feel.... if u love him, u should have more faith in him... try ur best and do ur part as a good gf... should u fail, remember that u've tried... seize every moment of the day and it's better to remain cool... it all depends on oneself, if ur bf doesnt make any effort to keep a distance from this ger, u cant do anything also right?? it all depends on him mah...
all the best ya~~!!