He likes me, he likes me not?
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Hi,
I need some advice here. The situation is like this... I got to know a guy from a 3 days trip organised by my friends.
Initially, I just treated him as a friend... but as times goes on, I found that I grew to like him. During the trip, he asked me whether I like watching movies, I said 'yes'. Then he suggested that next time we could watch movies or go drinking coffee together.
The next day, he called me but my line was engaged as I was toking on the phone. Thus, he called my friend to find out why he couldn't get through and he got my icq no. from my friend. The following day, (which is last Wednesday), he called me and we chatted for a while. He asked me to join him and his friends for a meal during the weekend but I refused cos I had to study for a major test this week.
Since that phone call last Wednesday, I have not heard from him since, and I hardly see him online in icq. I was thinking that probably he is just treating me as a friend only.... I felt foolish but still, I would really like to know about how he felt towards me.. But at the same time, I knew that probably, I will never get the answer.
In your opinion, how can I get him out of my mind? (Cos, I do not wish to be hanging on to a 'friendship' that's not going to work and moreover, I wish to concentrate on my studies at this critical point in time).
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think the guy felt rejected thats y no more call from him...if u still like him, try initiate goin out with him after ure exams
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Think about it.Do you think he has the same feelings as you do?Do you think he like your
type of girl?Try sms him.If you got replies that you think he's treating you more than a
friend,than good luck.Otherwise,you can just
sought out with him and watch his reaction.
Hope i helped.
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Sakaratulz:
I dun dare to ask him out, hehehe... If I ask, he sure knows that I like him one... so I see how lor, if he dun ask me out, then I just hv to try to let go...
Jack84:
SMS is also a gd idea, but too bad... I dun carry a hp overseas, so cannot SMS him. Aiya, probably he already forgot abt me after the trip
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no need to ask also can, just give him some sure hints, that will work wanOriginally posted by autumn:Sakaratulz:
I dun dare to ask him out, hehehe... If I ask, he sure knows that I like him one... so I see how lor, if he dun ask me out, then I just hv to try to let go...
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Like holding his hand or something..
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Dun want la, haha... so direct. If I give him hints and it turns out that he doesn't feel the same way as I do, that will be so paisei for me.Originally posted by sakaratulz:no need to ask also can, just give him some sure hints, that will work wan
Moreover, we hv some common friends, if they also knoe that I like him, it will be so embarrasing, hehe.
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"Try to let go"? It's easier said than done, must get your doubts cleared first, maybe you can get his friends to help you find out from him, but tactfully of course. Maybe ask them to find out for you "how he feels about you" etc...Originally posted by autumn:Sakaratulz:
I dun dare to ask him out, hehehe... If I ask, he sure knows that I like him one... so I see how lor, if he dun ask me out, then I just hv to try to let go...
Jack84:
SMS is also a gd idea, but too bad... I dun carry a hp overseas, so cannot SMS him. Aiya, probably he already forgot abt me after the trip Maybe it's just foolishness on my part.
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
being shy wont get u anywhere...if he does not like u then nvm lor...his loss not uresOriginally posted by autumn:Dun want la, haha... so direct. If I give him hints and it turns out that he doesn't feel the same way as I do, that will be so paisei for me.
Moreover, we hv some common friends, if they also knoe that I like him, it will be so embarrasing, hehe.
[This message has been edited by autumn (edited 14 April 2002).]
better to find out his feelings for u rite now than never ever being able to find out at all rite?
btw just to save face,r u willing to ignore ure feelings?
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Yalor, I m shy and not thick-skin..... so I guess I will not let him know how I felt abt himOriginally posted by sakaratulz:being shy wont get u anywhere...if he does not like u then nvm lor...his loss not ures
better to find out his feelings for u rite now than never ever being able to find out at all rite?
btw just to save face,r u willing to ignore ure feelings?
Btw, u r a guy mah, surely u know that guys will automatically call a gal if he likes her right? If he doesn't call anymore, then there's probably a high chance that he doesn't have feelings for the gal anymore, am I right? -
Can let him know that you're currently BUSY with your studies and wish to know him better after you're back from your studies...?Originally posted by autumn:Yalor, I m shy and not thick-skin..... so I guess I will not let him know how I felt abt him
Btw, u r a guy mah, surely u know that guys will automatically call a gal if he likes her right? If he doesn't call anymore, then there's probably a high chance that he doesn't have feelings for the gal anymore, am I right? -
she likes me NOT!
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ThEsE wOrDs YoU SaId lAsT NigHt
SeEmEd hArMlEsS LikE a ChILd'S SmILe
BuT dId YoU kNoW It StUng My EvErY nErVe?
ShAtTeReD mY PrIde,
LeFt mE ScArReD
i MiGhT nEvEr bE tHe sAmE aGaiN
fOr tHeSe wOrDs YoU sAiD
aRe fOrEvEr eNgrAvEd
LiKe A MemORy CuRtAin
DraWn aCrOSs ReaSons
bUt YOU--- ReMEmBeR
I WoUld SuRviVe -
Originally posted by bigdeal:she likes me NOT! What's unbearable is not when she declare that she don't love you..? It's when you don't know if she's out for you or if she just PLAYING you out...?
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Hi Devil1976,Originally posted by Devil1976:Can let him know that you're currently BUSY with your studies and wish to know him better after you're back from your studies...?
Well, actually he's not in Singapore now... hehe, he's also overseas studying in the same school as me but he's a Malaysian.
Regarding your suggestion of emailing him, I hv actually thought of that today and will try to email him when I m free from my studies -
U should not hide ur feeling from him. U will regret if u dun tell him how u feel. U will even hate urself from staying away from him. Leting him go is just a temporary method. If u really like him, the more u avoid him, the more u will miss him and the more u can't concentrate on your studies.
What u should do is ask him out to find out how he feels abt u, if he dun like u, then let go. U have nothing to lose if u let go later or sooner. Instead, u learn something new from it. Gd luck.
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when he first ask u out and u decline the offer, he might feel its a rejection(some guys do)thays y u never hear from him and u probably wont unless u do something abt itOriginally posted by autumn:Btw, u r a guy mah, surely u know that guys will automatically call a gal if he likes her right? If he doesn't call anymore, then there's probably a high chance that he doesn't have feelings for the gal anymore, am I right?
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Is there a general "yardstick" tat measures the lvl of rejections guys can take? hmm.. guess nowadays guys prefer gers to be more pro-active rt?Originally posted by sakaratulz:when he first ask u out and u decline the offer, he might feel its a rejection(some guys do)thays y u never hear from him and u probably wont unless u do something abt it -
this type of thing cannot generalize wan cos diff guys have diff rejection tolerance level...some got skin buaya-thick wan, some skin a little prick can tear wan
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Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by bigdeal:
[b]she likes me NOT! What's unbearable is not when she declare that she don't love you..? It's when you don't know if she's out for you or if she just PLAYING you out...?[/B][/QUOTE]
no la... its the way she reacts after telling her my feelings... reject for me is "jia chang bian fan" u understand this chinese words? it means very normal and frequently.. they will try to siam u as much as possible..
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ThEsE wOrDs YoU SaId lAsT NigHt
SeEmEd hArMlEsS LikE a ChILd'S SmILe
BuT dId YoU kNoW It StUng My EvErY nErVe?
ShAtTeReD mY PrIde,
LeFt mE ScArReD
i MiGhT nEvEr bE tHe sAmE aGaiN
fOr tHeSe wOrDs YoU sAiD
aRe fOrEvEr eNgrAvEd
LiKe A MemORy CuRtAin
DraWn aCrOSs ReaSons
bUt YOU--- ReMEmBeR
I WoUld SuRviVe -
Hihi,
Just a little update on my case. I emailed that guy a few days ago to ask him whether he wants the photos taken together at the trip, and he replied that he wanted the photos.
Hee, in his reply email, he asked me when I was free and mentioned that he wanted to treat me for a meal... Well, I was quite happy to 'hear' that. But at the same time, I tell myself not to put too much hope in our 'friendship', keke...cos I think, maybe he's just being friendly that's all... so I shall see how it goes lor -
All the best to your date, hope to hear your gd news soon...Originally posted by autumn:Hihi,
Just a little update on my case. I emailed that guy a few days ago to ask him whether he wants the photos taken together at the trip, and he replied that he wanted the photos.
Hee, in his reply email, he asked me when I was free and mentioned that he wanted to treat me for a meal... Well, I was quite happy to 'hear' that. But at the same time, I tell myself not to put too much hope in our 'friendship', keke...cos I think, maybe he's just being friendly that's all... so I shall see how it goes lor
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
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it seems to be a gd sign that he keeps asking u out. i think u shouldn't be too shy, at least call him? a call certainly does not mean that u like him.. if it really have that meaning, then he has already called u, meaning that he likes u!!~ well, that is still just an assumption.. i think u should keep staying contact wif him, sms him, email him or call him etc.
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I think that being friendly is a good start to move onwards... If you go out with him you might find out whether both of you really 'click' together or not...Originally posted by autumn:Hihi,
Just a little update on my case. I emailed that guy a few days ago to ask him whether he wants the photos taken together at the trip, and he replied that he wanted the photos.
Hee, in his reply email, he asked me when I was free and mentioned that he wanted to treat me for a meal... Well, I was quite happy to 'hear' that. But at the same time, I tell myself not to put too much hope in our 'friendship', keke...cos I think, maybe he's just being friendly that's all... so I shall see how it goes lor
There once this gal that told me about how she treat dates offers - if she's not interested she'll just say not free each repeatedly, if she's interested she'll suggest a alternative date if she's really busy on the day suggested by the guy.
Multiple refused dates could easily be read as rejection by others...