Thoughts running rampant in my head...
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Today, as i went on my regular trip to Jurongpoint for my usual games and drink, i chanced upon my 1st girlfriend, and her friend.
Well, they saw me first, when i glanced over i knew it was them right away though.
I decided to sit 'beside' them, and initated a little chat.
I guess its no wonder they took some time to remember me. My cheeks are bigger now, though my hairstyle remains as messy as ever...
I looked at them, and well, they didn't change much. Except for the fact that its already 10:30 but they're still sitting there in their school uniform chatting.
The feeling was really weird, sitting beside them, and i felt my mind wander...
eventually i asked myself, what have i achieved in my life? In these 3 years that i haven't met her, she looks like she's been happy... and i'm glad for her.
But what about me? In what direction am i heading? I've grown a bit fatter, perhaps even lazier, and bah... perhaps i shouldn't say any more.
I want to be as happy as her. I want to live an enriching life...
But i'm unmotivated... like a lot of people i know.
I just ... don't ... feel like ... doing anything.
Or am i paralysed by too much thinking?
I don't want to get a gf because i'm lonely, for that would destroy the meaning of it. But yet, at this rate, i'll probably never taste love.
And what of my life..? Where am i heading? I haven't felt like i have achieved anything since my primary school... at least i won multiple chess trophies then.
Now.. what am i?
Ahhhh....
Just needed to unwind.~ -
with age...we'll become numb...rest assured such thoughts will never recur
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Merry Meet _Aaron_ Di Di,
Well i have already gave you some answers previously & the answers lies in ~*~ Angeli Del Karma ~*~ Messages From The Angelic Realms.
Do not be Lost be Firm & Determined, with Clear & Concise Thought then you will find your Direction in Life...
Blessed Be,
Oceanos -
Maybe it's good that she appeared in your path.
Your thoughts about self gets sharper and finally forces you to redefine what you want in life.
But it needs to be sharp enough to cut you.
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Take more pictures of cats, take up photography man !!
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Well, at least you have the good sense to think that it is wrong to get a girlfriend because of loneliness. I agree that it is a very wrong reason, and he used it on me, so dun ever use it on any girl unless you really want to hurt her in the end.
like the way i m hurt now.
i.c.y -
meow greetings!
hmmm.... life is really a long journey with many twists and turns so there's no point of thinking too far ahead... some say we wont know wat we really want in life until we are middle age liao ... so, its good to ponder abt the past but for the present, just do wat makes you happy and set some reasonable mid term goals... 
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then learn from croco lor, come here to find "wifey" lor
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i don't want to meet my ex ever. i believe in taking things easy, after all you are only in your early 20s. if you rush into one, you won't find a good one. sometimes, certain ppl are worth waiting for. they're worth the wait, trust me.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Today, as i went on my regular trip to Jurongpoint for my usual games and drink, i chanced upon my 1st girlfriend, and her friend.
Well, they saw me first, when i glanced over i knew it was them right away though.
I decided to sit 'beside' them, and initated a little chat.
I guess its no wonder they took some time to remember me. My cheeks are bigger now, though my hairstyle remains as messy as ever...
I looked at them, and well, they didn't change much. Except for the fact that its already 10:30 but they're still sitting there in their school uniform chatting.
The feeling was really weird, sitting beside them, and i felt my mind wander...
eventually i asked myself, what have i achieved in my life? In these 3 years that i haven't met her, she looks like she's been happy... and i'm glad for her.
But what about me? In what direction am i heading? I've grown a bit fatter, perhaps even lazier, and bah... perhaps i shouldn't say any more.
I want to be as happy as her. I want to live an enriching life...
But i'm unmotivated... like a lot of people i know.
I just ... don't ... feel like ... doing anything.
Or am i paralysed by too much thinking?
[color=red]I don't want to get a gf because i'm lonely, for that would destroy the meaning of it. But yet, at this rate, i'll probably never taste love.[/red]
And what of my life..? Where am i heading? I haven't felt like i have achieved anything since my primary school... at least i won multiple chess trophies then.
Now.. what am i?
Ahhhh....
Just needed to unwind.~ -
a lot of pple get attached for that reason.Originally posted by icyprincess:Well, at least you have the good sense to think that it is wrong to get a girlfriend because of loneliness. I agree that it is a very wrong reason, and he used it on me, so dun ever use it on any girl unless you really want to hurt her in the end.
like the way i m hurt now.
i.c.y -
yea, but it wun be for long. If you the girl and then one day your bf said to you,"I am just with you because I am lonely and wants company, how would you feel?"Originally posted by foxwalk:a lot of pple get attached for that reason.
I feel like my emotions have been cheapened.
i.c.y -
well, if tat is one of the reason,then so be it. Human relationships are complex, it is not abt one reason, but a multitude of it coupled with experiences and emotions. the fear of Loneliness is no doubt one not so convincing reason, but it is one driving force for some (or many) to purse out of their home; to fill that emotional void in them, better than to really for the purpose of filling their sexual desire !Originally posted by icyprincess:yea, but it wun be for long. If you the girl and then one day your bf said to you,"I am just with you because I am lonely and wants company, how would you feel?"
I feel like my emotions have been cheapened.
i.c.y
oops, croco too sensible liao, must change must change -
he just doesn't care dats all..all he cares is abt his own loneliness, never tot what wud happen when I find out he is with me just cos of dat...Originally posted by sgboy2004:well, if tat is one of the reason,then so be it. Human relationships are complex, it is not abt one reason, but a multitude of it coupled with experiences and emotions. the fear of Loneliness is no doubt one not so convincing reason, but it is one driving force for some (or many) to purse out of their home; to fill that emotional void in them, better than to really for the purpose of filling their sexual desire !
oops, croco too sensible liao, must change must change
i.c.y -
look at it this way, unless he's honest and u can minimize ur hurt?Originally posted by icyprincess:yea, but it wun be for long. If you the girl and then one day your bf said to you,"I am just with you because I am lonely and wants company, how would you feel?"
I feel like my emotions have been cheapened.
i.c.y
yes i know what you mean. thats why i dun like to rush into things, meaning even if i'm lonely i dont want to be attached for the sake of being attached. and i pick my "targets" carefully.. -
well...yea now I think that at least he is being honest with me. Otherwise I might get hurt even worse in the end...Originally posted by foxwalk:look at it this way, unless he's honest and u can minimize ur hurt?
yes i know what you mean. thats why i dun like to rush into things, meaning even if i'm lonely i dont want to be attached for the sake of being attached. and i pick my "targets" carefully..
I think he never did realize just how much I take this seriously..he thought I was only looking for fun as well, well at first I thought that too but...
i.c.y -
Well my friend, I'm glad you took some time to think about this. Maybe the way you write here doesn't fully describes your deepest thoughts, but I just wanna give you one advice and I hope you go and pursue this right away.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Today, as i went on my regular trip to Jurongpoint for my usual games and drink, i chanced upon my 1st girlfriend, and her friend.
Well, they saw me first, when i glanced over i knew it was them right away though.
I decided to sit 'beside' them, and initated a little chat.
I guess its no wonder they took some time to remember me. My cheeks are bigger now, though my hairstyle remains as messy as ever...
I looked at them, and well, they didn't change much. Except for the fact that its already 10:30 but they're still sitting there in their school uniform chatting.
The feeling was really weird, sitting beside them, and i felt my mind wander...
eventually i asked myself, what have i achieved in my life? In these 3 years that i haven't met her, she looks like she's been happy... and i'm glad for her.
But what about me? In what direction am i heading? I've grown a bit fatter, perhaps even lazier, and bah... perhaps i shouldn't say any more.
I want to be as happy as her. I want to live an enriching life...
But i'm unmotivated... like a lot of people i know.
I just ... don't ... feel like ... doing anything.
Or am i paralysed by too much thinking?
I don't want to get a gf because i'm lonely, for that would destroy the meaning of it. But yet, at this rate, i'll probably never taste love.
And what of my life..? Where am i heading? I haven't felt like i have achieved anything since my primary school... at least i won multiple chess trophies then.
Now.. what am i?
Ahhhh....
Just needed to unwind.~
What's missing in your life: - Direction
Direction = Objective = Vision
Conclusion = You need a vision. Go pursue it. If you can, pray for it.
yours sincerely,
S.H.I.N. -
Originally posted by _Aaron_:Today, as i went on my regular trip to Jurongpoint for my usual games and drink, i chanced upon my 1st girlfriend, and her friend.
Well, they saw me first, when i glanced over i knew it was them right away though.
Hey man, i understd that feelings... meeting bac old frens frm the past do invoke some strong reflective feelings, like how have i progressed compared to my peers?
For me, the thing i noticed is most of my pri & sec sch classmates have grown taller than me... used to be quite anguish
I decided to sit 'beside' them, and initated a little chat.
Thats why sometimes i avoid them if i see them.... usually i avoid all ex-gf, frens who have parted with me unhappily. Paradoxically, the only ppl i may acknowldege are those who were never close to me in the 1st place
I guess its no wonder they took some time to remember me. My cheeks are bigger now, though my hairstyle remains as messy as ever...
I looked at them, and well, they didn't change much. Except for the fact that its already 10:30 but they're still sitting there in their school uniform chatting.
The feeling was really weird, sitting beside them, and i felt my mind wander...
eventually i asked myself, what have i achieved in my life? In these 3 years that i haven't met her, she looks like she's been happy... and i'm glad for her.
But what about me? In what direction am i heading? I've grown a bit fatter, perhaps even lazier, and bah... perhaps i shouldn't say any more.
I want to be as happy as her. I want to live an enriching life...
But i'm unmotivated... like a lot of people i know.
Bro, take heart. i REALLY share that feelin... in fact i'm amazed by how quickly most of my ex has moved on with life, whilst i remained stagnant (emotionally or otherwise)
Like u, i dun wan get a gf for the sake of easing my loneliness, but at the same, seeing her with another guy whilst i am alone does make me feel like a loser..
I just ... don't ... feel like ... doing anything.
Or am i paralysed by too much thinking?
I don't want to get a gf because i'm lonely, for that would destroy the meaning of it. But yet, at this rate, i'll probably never taste love.
And what of my life..? Where am i heading? I haven't felt like i have achieved anything since my primary school... at least i won multiple chess trophies then.
Now.. what am i?
Ahhhh....
Just needed to unwind.~ -
But its good to have such reflective emotions now... we are still young... better than to lead a self deluding satisfying existence, only 2 have regrets & rude shocks later in life..
Though i'm living like a worm now.... i believe there is still chance to make good all that i've lost. Same to u...
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Originally posted by _Aaron_:Today, as i went on my regular trip to Jurongpoint for my usual games and drink, i chanced upon my 1st girlfriend, and her friend.
Well, they saw me first, when i glanced over i knew it was them right away though.
I decided to sit 'beside' them, and initated a little chat.
I guess its no wonder they took some time to remember me. My cheeks are bigger now, though my hairstyle remains as messy as ever...
I looked at them, and well, they didn't change much. Except for the fact that its already 10:30 but they're still sitting there in their school uniform chatting.
The feeling was really weird, sitting beside them, and i felt my mind wander...
eventually i asked myself, what have i achieved in my life? In these 3 years that i haven't met her, she looks like she's been happy... and i'm glad for her.
But what about me? In what direction am i heading? I've grown a bit fatter, perhaps even lazier, and bah... perhaps i shouldn't say any more.
I want to be as happy as her. I want to live an enriching life...
But i'm unmotivated... like a lot of people i know.
I just ... don't ... feel like ... doing anything.
Or am i paralysed by too much thinking?
I don't want to get a gf because i'm lonely, for that would destroy the meaning of it. But yet, at this rate, i'll probably never taste love.
And what of my life..? Where am i heading? I haven't felt like i have achieved anything since my primary school... at least i won multiple chess trophies then.
Now.. what am i?
Ahhhh....
Just needed to unwind.~
This is in fact my most recommended reply and advice to friends who had their ex broke up with them for reasons they cannot accept (or simply it was a 'bad' relationship). Because only our new life can truely speak for themselves - if we are truely leading a far much better life than before and if the emotional release has truely benefited us.
It's about time to work on yourself in four aspects:
Physical
Emotional
Spiritual
Psychological
P.S: Strengthen and improve - you will find yourself evolving into something new gradually.
Cheers -
Met my 1st gf the other day too... HMV....
She DUMPED me back then. She was on a 'spree' and 'game' with her brother... To see who can get the most number of steads within the shortest period of time....
When she decided to leave me back then, she told me one day I'll 'understand' why....
Till today I still don't 'understand' ley....?
Anyway... HECK. DON'T KNOW why I would even be interested in her in the 1st place? SERIOUSLY, I WON'T even bother to give her a 2nd look today....
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I am good in planning and often did things or make decisions to go in flow with my life's plannings or designed up plans that will cushion in case I fail in what I do; sometimes these decisions are not happy ones and often I chose to do things that I am not willing to. Sometimes, we just wished that we took an alternate path.
We all wonder if our decisions in life was correct or whether our current decisions now will prove to be right for us.. It's life, I supposed. IMO, there is nothing wrong in being lazy, lie back and think about life issues once a while. -
go do something, like i go to the gym thrice a week to relief stress and....to combat loneliness cos there got many people and i dun feel so lonely there.
better to do something to keep urself fit and busy than to ponder and see your health slowly deteriorate. -
well, 1st gf vs now, should have been quite a period of elapsed time... taste shd've changed.Originally posted by Devil1976:Met my 1st gf the other day too... HMV....
She DUMPED me back then. She was on a 'spree' and 'game' with her brother... To see who can get the most number of steads within the shortest period of time....
When she decided to leave me back then, she told me one day I'll 'understand' why....
Till today I still don't 'understand' ley....?
Anyway... HECK. DON'T KNOW why I would even be interested in her in the 1st place? SERIOUSLY, I WON'T even bother to give her a 2nd look today.... -
Thanks for the help guys.
Just to let you all know, we separated cause i(we?) found out that we were just in love with love, or rather, there was mutual attraction, but we were both young and shy, i was 17, and she was 14..
Didn't really meet up and all, and only held hands once for a little while. It was actually quite a scare for me to meet up with her everytime, cause there was really nothing much to say between us.
Haha, those were funny memories.. nice ones too.
Hmm, i keep telling myself to get a goal, to do this, to do that... but i must admit i lack motivation. Its that first step thats hard (and maybe the next 9 steps..) and stopping me from doing what i want to do..
Like getting a new hairstyle, exercising, picking up a new sport, etc.
There are so many things more to say, but its hard to put it in words...
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Changing hairstyle, changing sports... etc... blah blah blah...Originally posted by _Aaron_:Thanks for the help guys.
Just to let you all know, we separated cause i(we?) found out that we were just in love with love, or rather, there was mutual attraction, but we were both young and shy, i was 17, and she was 14..
Didn't really meet up and all, and only held hands once for a little while. It was actually quite a scare for me to meet up with her everytime, cause there was really nothing much to say between us.
Haha, those were funny memories.. nice ones too.
Hmm, i keep telling myself to get a goal, to do this, to do that... but i must admit i lack motivation. Its that first step thats hard (and maybe the next 9 steps..) and stopping me from doing what i want to do..
Like getting a new hairstyle, exercising, picking up a new sport, etc.
There are so many things more to say, but its hard to put it in words...
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You can change your environment and looks all you want. But if you change what's within you yourself... things will still remain the same.
Circumstances don't change unless you change on the inside.
yours faithfully,
S.H.I.N.