Deadweight?
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Ever had the feeling that u are deadweight among ure frens?
like u dont really have frens
but then u manage to make a group of new close frens...
as years pass.....
feels like u are deadweight when around them...
and makes u feel damn terrible like a pariah... -
you just have a low self-esteem, i'm thinking...
hey.. do more stuff with them.. be a little bit more pro-active, they're friends.. you can get away with stuff with them around
have more confidence in yourself.. start by saying: "i can!" and believe it! -
nah...i get the point that i'm deadweight with them.....as much as i try to fit in....they'll be them and i'll just be me....like some sorta social meritocracyOriginally posted by the Bear:you just have a low self-esteem, i'm thinking...
hey.. do more stuff with them.. be a little bit more pro-active, they're friends.. you can get away with stuff with them around
have more confidence in yourself.. start by saying: "i can!" and believe it! -
its like a case of 'its nice while it lasted'
now its like theyre bz..
and when i ask them out or talk to them...they bring up alot of excuses...but if they ask themselves out..it'll be ok...that kinda thing..'on short notice' works among them but when i use 'on short notice'..they just couldnt be bothered -
Make new friends.
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then, like the deadpoet says, time to make new friends...
just like in love, you wanna find the prince, you gotta kiss a lotta frogs
start by joining us when we have open invitations to events in the forumsOriginally posted by sidestep1984:its like a case of 'its nice while it lasted'
now its like theyre bz..
and when i ask them out or talk to them...they bring up alot of excuses...but if they ask themselves out..it'll be ok...that kinda thing..'on short notice' works among them but when i use 'on short notice'..they just couldnt be bothered -
Originally posted by the Bear:just like in love, you wanna find the prince, you gotta kiss a lotta frogs
Frogs not toads hor. -
Isnt there anything that u guys do in common?
Why do u feel left out??? -
sometimes with a group of friends you just can't compare how well they treat someone else than they treat you
If you start to weigh this, ultimately, you will become very unhappy one. Because in any group, some people are closer to other people than OTHER people. Just take it easy and dont take everything to heart too much.
Sometimes I feel when it comes to people who tend to be very sensitive, it is diffficult to be friends with them not because you dont WANT to be, but because they make it very difficult for you to be. They don't remember the times that you are genuinely nice to them, or the times the whole group enjoy being together. However, each time you happen to be busy or really tired, they will chalk it up against you and in the end, when you try to make it up, often respond with a little bit of sarcarsm like "finally got time talk to me har?"
Nobody wants their friendship to be put to task all the time ba.
I am not sure if you are like this... so not accusing you at all ok? Just that I do feel that among good friends, dont need to be too calculating. BUT if the problem is that your friends aren't good friends to you, perhaps you should go make other firends with similar hobbies that will enjoy doing what both of you enjoy doing? -
dunno arh..its not like i ask them out everytime.....like once in a while...but nvm arh...deadpoet's reply makes the most sense and is for the better.
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u guys mind a malay in those eventS?Originally posted by the Bear:start by joining us when we have open invitations to events in the forums -
what has being a malay person gotta do with anything?Originally posted by sidestep1984:u guys mind a malay in those eventS?
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i feel closer to the chinese but from experience majority of chinese dont prefer malays ard them arh..Originally posted by the Bear:what has being a malay person gotta do with anything? -
maybe the immature lot
again, what has it got to do with anythingOriginally posted by sidestep1984:i feel closer to the chinese but from experience majority of chinese dont prefer malays ard them arh.. -
I guess nothing...Originally posted by the Bear:maybe the immature lot
again, what has it got to do with anything -
only thing is, sometimes we go to pubs.. but can order non-alcoholic drinks right?
here's an insane recipe which tastes pretty good.. 1/2 glass of orange juice + 1/2 glass of coca cola... pretty good and you'll not get the runs too!Originally posted by sidestep1984:I guess nothing... -
*cough cough*Originally posted by the Bear:only thing is, sometimes we go to pubs.. but can order non-alcoholic drinks right?
here's an insane recipe which tastes pretty good.. 1/2 glass of orange juice + 1/2 glass of coca cola... pretty good and you'll not get the runs too!
did i hear alcohol?
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stop coughing
and yes you did.. you heard my good friend Al Cohol
you can call him Al
Originally posted by sidestep1984:*cough cough*
did i hear alcohol?
*cough cough* -
i get that quite often... its like if there are 3 of us in an outing, the other 2 always seemed closer to each other.
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feeling like a freak on a leash...... you wanna feel alive......Originally posted by sidestep1984:Ever had the feeling that u are deadweight among ure frens?
like u dont really have frens
but then u manage to make a group of new close frens...
as years pass.....
feels like u are deadweight when around them...
and makes u feel damn terrible like a pariah...
feeling like I have no release...... so do I...
how many times have I felt diseased? ...You wanna feel alive...
Nothing in my life is free... is free......