is she just friendly or interested in me?
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I been in your situation before. I met my friends church friend in zouk. We were dancing closely. She held my shoulders and she held my waist while we were dancing. I held her hand and lead her when she need to go to the comfort room. End of the night, I send her back. I was ABIT interested in her then, maybe can say it's a passing crush, we kept contact after that day and we date a couple of times. Eventually, we still remain as friends till now. Now, don't get this idea you are falling for her or she's into you now. My advice to you is too stay busy, and whenever you are free or not, tell her you are busy, see her reactions. When she sms you, tell her you are busy. Play hard to get. Now MAYBE she's interested in you. Boy, you have to play hard to get with her. You control her. Just act busy. Now don't spoil this golden chance telling her you like her all that shit. You will regret. Wait for her. Now you have to play lil' hard to get with her. That's my hardest piece of adivce to know that she's REALLY INTO YOU.
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well, so wat happen to ur story? u tell her u like her and she said 'ok' and that's it?Originally posted by Oyathatsme:I been in your situation before. I met my friends church friend in zouk. We were dancing closely. She held my shoulders and she held my waist while we were dancing. I held her hand and lead her when she need to go to the comfort room. End of the night, I send her back. I was ABIT interested in her then, maybe can say it's a passing crush, we kept contact after that day and we date a couple of times. Eventually, we still remain as friends till now. Now, don't get this idea you are falling for her or she's into you now. My advice to you is too stay busy, and whenever you are free or not, tell her you are busy, see her reactions. When she sms you, tell her you are busy. Play hard to get. Now MAYBE she's interested in you. Boy, you have to play hard to get with her. You control her. Just act busy. Now don't spoil this golden chance telling her you like her all that shit. You will regret. Wait for her. Now you have to play lil' hard to get with her. That's my hardest piece of adivce to know that she's REALLY INTO YOU.
hmmm ok i see how it goes. but everything seemed too smooth for me... i havent ask her on valentine yet. let's see how everything goes. -
yes play hard to get play very hard to get when she touch u make sure u turn hard so she get very hard now very hard to get u get hard when she try to contact you now if u dont get hard u dont get to play u get it dont get it u stupid mofo - Doghunter
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I'm Looking 4 Trouble, where are you?
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I disagree with the suggestion to play hard to get. It may backfire and she may get the impression that u r telling her that u r not interested to get to know her. She may therefore stop her efforts to know u better. Then.....that's it...end of story.....nothing happens....
I suggest u actively take up her efforts and get to know each other better. No need to think whether she is interested to know u as a friend or more than friend. This is for later, what's important is to know more first. -
agree.Originally posted by Li Ka Shing:I disagree with the suggestion to play hard to get. It may backfire and she may get the impression that u r telling her that u r not interested to get to know her. She may therefore stop her efforts to know u better. Then.....that's it...end of story.....nothing happens....
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Just go slow and see how it goes loh... no harm.. as long as she does not take a knife she threaten to kill you when you are not interested in her can lao
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dont think too much and just play along...
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Originally posted by Oyathatsme:Now you have to play lil' hard to get with her. That's my hardest piece of adivce to know that she's REALLY INTO YOU.
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Don't forget that there are also girls who have feelings for the guy but play hard to get!Originally posted by Lovespirit: be'cos of guys like u, we gals suffer... 
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eeerr.....we also suffer cos scared make move too early you all not prepared etc, early rejection?Originally posted by Lovespirit: be'cos of guys like u, we gals suffer... 
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been in your situation before. I met my friends church friend in zouk. We were dancing closely. She held my shoulders and she held my waist while we were dancing. I held her hand and lead her when she need to go to the comfort room. End of the night, I send her back. I was ABIT interested in her then, maybe can say it's a passing crush, we kept contact after that day and we date a couple of times. Eventually, we still remain as friends till now. Now, don't get this idea you are falling for her or she's into you now. My advice to you is too stay busy, and whenever you are free or not, tell her you are busy, see her reactions. When she sms you, tell her you are busy. Play hard to get. Now MAYBE she's interested in you. Boy, you have to play hard to get with her. You control her. Just act busy. Now don't spoil this golden chance telling her you like her all that $@$!. You will regret. Wait for her. Now you have to play lil' hard to get with her. That's my hardest piece of adivce to know that she's REALLY INTO YOU.
i disagree with the advice and agree with LiKaShing and Shlt, dun go and complicate things.
If you act busy busy, she will think you not interested in her, then she will not call you liao and maybe find another someone who really likes her and take care of each other mutually.
I mean what do you think? its already so obvious liao, what you expect? a gal to woo you??? a guy? tot this is your job?? if you interested in her, tell her, if not interested, also tell her.
then anyway....after stead, if you think not compatible then say so lor and discuss with her, if ok, then set liao rite?
what for, do the busy busy thing? duh!
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ya...but if like what he suggest, act busy and hard to get, the gal will think tt he is not interested...Originally posted by duotiga83:eeerr.....we also suffer cos scared make move too early you all not prepared etc, early rejection?
for a gal who is in love with you, your expression of love will meant a whole world to her... after all, arn't guys already immune to rejection? -
Getting rejected hurts a lot no matter how many times la.. also some girls might get turned off if a guy keeps calling her.. she might get the impression tat hes despo or somethingOriginally posted by Lovespirit:ya...but if like what he suggest, act busy and hard to get, the gal will think tt he is not interested...
for a gal who is in love with you, your expression of love will meant a whole world to her... after all, arn't guys already immune to rejection?
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Up to you all guys out there whether you want to heed my advice or not. It's you who decide.
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You belong to that category which are the rejects. It's so obvious this girl is interested in him, won't she feel that if this LocalGod tells her straight in her face she likes her, she feels it's to easy to get this guy to like her, overallOriginally posted by nightzip:i disagree with the advice and agree with LiKaShing and Shlt, dun go and complicate things.
If you act busy busy, she will think you not interested in her, then she will not call you liao and maybe find another someone who really likes her and take care of each other mutually.
I mean what do you think? its already so obvious liao, what you expect? a gal to woo you??? a guy? tot this is your job?? if you interested in her, tell her, if not interested, also tell her.
then anyway....after stead, if you think not compatible then say so lor and discuss with her, if ok, then set liao rite?
what for, do the busy busy thing? duh!
that will be no fun for her and she tells him let's be friends, Don't you males HEAR that usual phrase most of the time? it's simple. Get it? Don't you guys know how to play mind games? That'swhy you see many of your good pals get rejected all the time, yet not knowing what mistakes they did. It's takes of the art of seduction implying here. Absorb it. -
What happened? I never told her I liked her at all even though initally i liked her back then. We are still friends now, ocasionally still going out as a friend. She asked me out for the past two weeks to catch a movie, but was busy with my school and work. Three times to be exact she asked me out for a date. And at one time, she smsed me and commented " You very busy hor". Then I replied, "Yeah lor... tuesday sat and sunday got work, and the rest school lor...Originally posted by LocalGod:well, so wat happen to ur story? u tell her u like her and she said 'ok' and that's it?
hmmm ok i see how it goes. but everything seemed too smooth for me... i havent ask her on valentine yet. let's see how everything goes.
Something funny happened when I was at work today. There was this gal whom I approached at cosy bay (Kallang) Christmas eve. She's a waitress down there. The reason why I approached was because my friend had a bet with me If I were to get her number, he would treat me to Jack's place. What I did I did an eye contact to her and go up to her and introduce myself and asked her name. *Next* I got her no.
And guess what? I din't know she has a boyfriend untill today, the boyfriend called me up and asked me whether I was free today, I said no. I'm working. And asked me whether I'm going down to cosy bay tonight, I said no. I asked him what happened? He said nevermind.
Obviously her boyfriend is feeling so unsecure and not confident. I guess this gal whom I approached must have told her how I managed to get her number. That's the problem with we guys nowadays, does this action justify that we guys make the girlfriends feel insecure?
If I were the bf, I just don't give Fcuk what happened or how rather that night. I'm confident of myself, of what I do, what I am.
Later on, she smsed me, apologised to me about her boyfriends behaviour.
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tat's wat i always do.always assume the worst.Originally posted by ditzy:Always assume the worst, being friendly with you.
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Woah... this is like really turning to a hot debat session.. You know what? it hard to know what the other party is thinking... so normally guys, Being guys, just does want to throw away all his pride and also does not want to act like a SOB. so he just plays it cool hoping that he can catch a hint on what the other party is trying to say. Its not that we are playing with feelings or not prepared.. its just ... ladies are not as transparent as they think they are and expect us to know everything? No hard feelings.. We all just want to prevent an nasty situation
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Hmmm, I dun advise play hard to get or act busy...(eg, what if u say u not free then she somehow found out u r very free??).
Remember being honest is the better way to go in the long run, cos if things
dont work out, you still have the R.E.S.P.E.C.T cos u treated her rightly and fairly. On the other hand, if you swine and dine the way thru, you will be label
as a B@stard and i am sure all your mutual friends will hear abt it.
Also, I know its quite flattering to get such attention from a girl, but dun let it cloud your judgment, just jollow your heard but guided by the brain ( if you got one heheh )
Anyway good luck.....
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Flirting is part and parcel of our lives. Learn well and do not read too much into it. This will save you lotsa headaches.
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dear all, thanks for all the replies and ur concern.
here's the update and it makes me even more confused...
wel, i went to clubbing last sat and met my guy frd(who is a frd of her). He told me something abt her(which he got from his gf who is a best frd of the girl i wooing). She had a bf in australia. so i was a bit confused as in whether to proceed or not... was quite disappointed initially... but well, i might just give it a try.
i met her on sunday, we went for a movie. it's our first date together after that clubbing. after that, we had fun rides and took pictures together. after i sent her home, i sms her telling her that i have feeling for her and whether we can be more than friends. and guess wat she replied?
'eh!? dun joke with me leh, not funny le.... blah blah blah'
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LocalGod, I already advised you on what to do. I told you to do what exactly what i meant. Now you screwed everything up by telling her you have feelings for her. I told you to act busy right? By doing this I can say you pratically give yourself 0% chance from progressing to more than friends. I advised you to move on and find a new chick. That's what you GUYS ALWAYS MAKE THIS SILLY MISTAKE. LOOK AT YOU. YOU ARE A FAILURE. LOOK AT MY ADVICE AGAIN ON TOP. ABSORB IT.Originally posted by LocalGod:dear all, thanks for all the replies and ur concern.
here's the update and it makes me even more confused...
wel, i went to clubbing last sat and met my guy frd(who is a frd of her). He told me something abt her(which he got from his gf who is a best frd of the girl i wooing). She had a bf in australia. so i was a bit confused as in whether to proceed or not... was quite disappointed initially... but well, i might just give it a try.
i met her on sunday, we went for a movie. it's our first date together after that clubbing. after that, we had fun rides and took pictures together. after i sent her home, i sms her telling her that i have feeling for her and whether we can be more than friends. and guess wat she replied?
'eh!? dun joke with me leh, not funny le.... blah blah blah'
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Hmmm, you showed your cards and toss the ball to her court too soon perhaps. Should have continue to go out get to know her more before the confession.Originally posted by LocalGod:dear all, thanks for all the replies and ur concern.
here's the update and it makes me even more confused...
wel, i went to clubbing last sat and met my guy frd(who is a frd of her). He told me something abt her(which he got from his gf who is a best frd of the girl i wooing). She had a bf in australia. so i was a bit confused as in whether to proceed or not... was quite disappointed initially... but well, i might just give it a try.
i met her on sunday, we went for a movie. it's our first date together after that clubbing. after that, we had fun rides and took pictures together. after i sent her home, i sms her telling her that i have feeling for her and whether we can be more than friends. and guess wat she replied?
'eh!? dun joke with me leh, not funny le.... blah blah blah'
hmmm now i confused. maybe i shld give up. maybe i shld give it a shot...
1) If she's toying, then she will be happy u fall in her trap liao
2) If she serious, she might think twice now...cos u confessed too soon (only after meeting twice...might be frighten of the speed of development
3) happy ending
Anyway, too few inputs to be certain which direction it will go.
Just "shun qi zhi ran" and in time will "sui ruo shi chu" one....so hope for the best prepared for the worst....
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yea i screwed up everything... i was going too fast...
after that sms, i didnt mention abt that anymore... just be the usual self...
today she finally confessed to me abt her bf in oversea... and she hint to me that their current relationship is on down hill...
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Another advises for u. NEVER TRUST 100% PERCENT WAT WOMAN SAY!.