Cross Culture Relationship, HELP!!!
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I've fallen for a Polish guy and the feeling is mutual but my parents are very conservative and only allow boyfriend from the same ethnic background. I am falling deeper and deeper and I don't know what to do. My dad will definitely pengsan when he finds out. Has anyone been in the same situation before? How do you deal with it? HELP!
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Dominik mnie ciebie rowniez brakuje! -
How old are u ?
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23, turning 24 this year. Why? Does it matter?
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you are still young.............u will have more bf later on..............
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as u said......your parent will not support this kind of r/s
1st case:
you go wif that bf and maybe you will upset your parents
2nd case:
forget this man.........get on wif your life
and pray hard that he is not the man meant to be in your life. -
I don't want to live my life thinking 'what if...'
Besides I had 3 boyfriends before, all from the same racial background and yet things still turned ugly. I just don't understand why the race issue means so much to them. Can anyone explain why? -
Besides I've known him for years, it didn't happen overnight.
You won't forget your friend who dig you out from shit all the time would you? -
if your "them" refer to your parents then.........ASK THEM.
just kidding..........that's the way they were taught. Human bean are resistant to change u know. But u can change them. i belive cross marriage is becoming more normal nowadays. but to be together will not be easy.
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have u ever thought that maybe u and him were meant to be frd and not in r/s...............
and IF u and him got together and things dont work out.............that time u both maybe also cannot be frd also.
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if i was u i will go ahead wif this r/s provided that i think that that man can give me wat i need and have wat i need.
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moondaisy,
It's a tough choice between listening to your parents and being with someone you like.
Your parents are important. Try speaking to them about this (usually mother will be easier to talk to), they may change their attitude after knowing your boyfriend's character. If after that, your parents say to dump him... contemplate it. Make your choice.
Meanwhile, enjoy the times you have together. -
Young?Originally posted by john hunter:you are still young.............u will have more bf later on..............
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Originally posted by john hunter:have u ever thought that maybe u and him were meant to be frd and not in r/s...............
and IF u and him got together and things dont work out.............that time u both maybe also cannot be frd also.
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Try to make them comfortable with your bf and his cultural background... Let them understand that he's a HUMAN too... Let them understand that the MAIN ISSUE in LOVE is NOT ethnic background but whether your bf really cares for you..? If they question you, ask them if they want you to be happy too? Unless they have other VALID reason(s), let your parent see and understand how much your bf loves you... Can arrange some opportunity for your bf to go your house to have a simple dinner with your parents or even arrange for an outing between your parents and your bf?Originally posted by moondaisy:I've fallen for a Polish guy and the feeling is mutual but my parents are very conservative and only allow boyfriend from the same ethnic background. I am falling deeper and deeper and I don't know what to do. My dad will definitely pengsan when he finds out. Has anyone been in the same situation before? How do you deal with it? HELP!
I WISH you LUCK?
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i fall for a malay gal.. aint that worse? and i have fallen into deep shit for her..Originally posted by moondaisy:I've fallen for a Polish guy and the feeling is mutual but my parents are very conservative and only allow boyfriend from the same ethnic background. I am falling deeper and deeper and I don't know what to do. My dad will definitely pengsan when he finds out. Has anyone been in the same situation before? How do you deal with it? HELP! -
so sad to hear that.. as for me, i can nv go against my parents cos' i cannot stand the pressure they give me.. so if i were u, i would give him up..
however, i do believe that u should try to fight for it.. show to ur parents that he really treats u well n try to make them at least be able to communicate a little, if not i dun think they will approve it! -
relac lah, Mohammad BigDeal... humans aren't an eternal race anywez. Crossbreed then crossbreed loh.Originally posted by bigdeal:i fall for a malay gal.. aint that worse? and i have fallen into deep shit for her..