Can't a guy and a gal just be good frens and nothing more?
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I have a guy friend, AA. Not very close, but just can get along, can chat and joke, but not close to the extend of can share problems and physically whacking each other. Knew him for half a year, then he got a girlfren, whom he introduced to all of us. At first everything was still alright, but as time past, he seldom join us for meals, and rarely went along for our road trip. And everytime that he joined us, he would definitely bring his girlfren along. But the girlfren would never allow him to talk to me without her presence. He can talk to the other gals in the group, but not me. If there were only 4 of us at a table, and she needed to go to the loo, she'd make him stand outside the loo to wait for her, even though the loo is just like what..less than 10 steps away from the table!?! I have a bf, who is also part of the group, and she also knows him. What possible threat could i be?? This has been going on for 2 years. The last time i met up with the 2 of them, and the rest of the group was more than 6 mths ago. Tomorrow the whole group is having a gathering and i'm of course invited. She had the cheek to call me and tell me to make sure i don't turn up tomorrow. WTF...i have not seen my frens for so long, and she doesn't want me going, just becoz she thinks i'm a threat. I've already given up the frenship with her bf and have absolutely no contact for the past 6 mths. Why is she still doing this?? Can't 2 pple of opposite sex just be frens and nothing more??
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She has no confidence in herself andf her boyfriend.
She feels insecure as she thinks that u are way better than her and ur presenc ealone is enough to make her bf forget abt her and go running to u.
I just cannot stand this kind of pple.
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i say go ahead and join the... she face black her problem. u just talk to ur own frens lorOriginally posted by loneconfuser:I have a guy friend, AA. Not very close, but just can get along, can chat and joke, but not close to the extend of can share problems and physically whacking each other. Knew him for half a year, then he got a girlfren, whom he introduced to all of us. At first everything was still alright, but as time past, he seldom join us for meals, and rarely went along for our road trip. And everytime that he joined us, he would definitely bring his girlfren along. But the girlfren would never allow him to talk to me without her presence. He can talk to the other gals in the group, but not me. If there were only 4 of us at a table, and she needed to go to the loo, she'd make him stand outside the loo to wait for her, even though the loo is just like what..less than 10 steps away from the table!?! I have a bf, who is also part of the group, and she also knows him. What possible threat could i be?? This has been going on for 2 years. The last time i met up with the 2 of them, and the rest of the group was more than 6 mths ago. Tomorrow the whole group is having a gathering and i'm of course invited. She had the cheek to call me and tell me to make sure i don't turn up tomorrow. WTF...i have not seen my frens for so long, and she doesn't want me going, just becoz she thinks i'm a threat. I've already given up the frenship with her bf and have absolutely no contact for the past 6 mths. Why is she still doing this?? Can't 2 pple of opposite sex just be frens and nothing more??
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oh...let me check first, you are a gal?
how she know your hp? anyway, think you should go and catch up with you friends, nothing wrong.
but maybe since you and her got hp nos. then maybe she will be bound to call you again cuz you showed up, so then you can discuss or speak to her patiently that you are not interested in her boyfriend?
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she's too full of confidence..always bullshitting that she's so much better than us, she's an ex-air stewardess. Her bf is so hen-pecked by her that he gives in to everything she says. There's no reason for her to feel afraid.Originally posted by Patrik:She has no confidence in herself andf her boyfriend.
She feels insecure as she thinks that u are way better than her and ur presenc ealone is enough to make her bf forget abt her and go running to u.
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yes, i'm a gal. she has my number because we have known each other for so long, from the same grp of frens. I already have a bf, and she scolds me that i'm an idiot to be so nice to my bf, how on earth can she think i'd be interested in her bf?Originally posted by nightzip:oh...let me check first, you are a gal?
how she know your hp? anyway, think you should go and catch up with you friends, nothing wrong.
but maybe since you and her got hp nos. then maybe she will be bound to call you again cuz you showed up, so then you can discuss or speak to her patiently that you are not interested in her boyfriend? 
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shes the idiot.. or rather... the bf...Originally posted by loneconfuser:yes, i'm a gal. she has my number because we have known each other for so long, from the same grp of frens. I already have a bf, and she scolds me that i'm an idiot to be so nice to my bf, how on earth can she think i'd be interested in her bf?
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she has a very big ego.....
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It's not your problem! The problem lies in her! She shouldnt have the cheek to command others NOT to do something and keep thinking she is all-so-perfect
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Why not?
Pple should just be more open-minded n less possessive.. helps in a r/s alot.. -
My guess. There're either thing(s) which you don't know about or she just simply hate you.Originally posted by loneconfuser:I have a guy friend, AA. Not very close, but just can get along, can chat and joke, but not close to the extend of can share problems and physically whacking each other. Knew him for half a year, then he got a girlfren, whom he introduced to all of us. At first everything was still alright, but as time past, he seldom join us for meals, and rarely went along for our road trip. And everytime that he joined us, he would definitely bring his girlfren along. But the girlfren would never allow him to talk to me without her presence. He can talk to the other gals in the group, but not me. If there were only 4 of us at a table, and she needed to go to the loo, she'd make him stand outside the loo to wait for her, even though the loo is just like what..less than 10 steps away from the table!?! I have a bf, who is also part of the group, and she also knows him. What possible threat could i be?? This has been going on for 2 years. The last time i met up with the 2 of them, and the rest of the group was more than 6 mths ago. Tomorrow the whole group is having a gathering and i'm of course invited. She had the cheek to call me and tell me to make sure i don't turn up tomorrow. WTF...i have not seen my frens for so long, and she doesn't want me going, just becoz she thinks i'm a threat. I've already given up the frenship with her bf and have absolutely no contact for the past 6 mths. Why is she still doing this?? Can't 2 pple of opposite sex just be frens and nothing more?? -
serious case of overposessive gf... jz give her the finger n tell her u r not interested in her bf... and continue on wif ur gathering... n purposely talk to him...Originally posted by loneconfuser:I have a guy friend, AA. Not very close, but just can get along, can chat and joke, but not close to the extend of can share problems and physically whacking each other. Knew him for half a year, then he got a girlfren, whom he introduced to all of us. At first everything was still alright, but as time past, he seldom join us for meals, and rarely went along for our road trip. And everytime that he joined us, he would definitely bring his girlfren along. But the girlfren would never allow him to talk to me without her presence. He can talk to the other gals in the group, but not me. If there were only 4 of us at a table, and she needed to go to the loo, she'd make him stand outside the loo to wait for her, even though the loo is just like what..less than 10 steps away from the table!?! I have a bf, who is also part of the group, and she also knows him. What possible threat could i be?? This has been going on for 2 years. The last time i met up with the 2 of them, and the rest of the group was more than 6 mths ago. Tomorrow the whole group is having a gathering and i'm of course invited. She had the cheek to call me and tell me to make sure i don't turn up tomorrow. WTF...i have not seen my frens for so long, and she doesn't want me going, just becoz she thinks i'm a threat. I've already given up the frenship with her bf and have absolutely no contact for the past 6 mths. Why is she still doing this?? Can't 2 pple of opposite sex just be frens and nothing more?? -
air stewardesses are dumb sh.its...case closed...tell her to get the heck out of your face...
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I pity her bf. But then, it is because there is such a spineless, hen-pecked guy that creates such a Bitch
Also, there should be more to the story than what is written here, be it known or unknown to the author. -
I seriously think it's her problem either that of her bf (ur fren) might have mentioned somethng else...so she has no confidence in herself and her bf.
But hor...if I were u...just turn up. It's her PROBLEM and not urs...you have ur fun and don't let her get on ur nerves. -
go for the outing, flirt with your guy friend in front of the bitch.
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complicated situation .. are they married? both of them? if they are then it's really impossible to be friends.. if they're not married then it's OK, this is normal reaction between you and them.. so if she hates you then that's it.. jealous mahhhh... she dont want you to be there and steal her BF lah.. you get me.. well maybe you can still turn up but come a bit later lah.. I mean late lah.. and then just ignore her... pretend nothing happen.. frankly she got no right to tell you like that coz she's not married to him yet..and you got the right to do your way.. think what is best for you.. OK cheer up lah.. anyway there's so many handsome looking guys out there why worry.. smile..Originally posted by loneconfuser:I have a guy friend, AA. Not very close, but just can get along, can chat and joke, but not close to the extend of can share problems and physically whacking each other. Knew him for half a year, then he got a girlfren, whom he introduced to all of us. At first everything was still alright, but as time past, he seldom join us for meals, and rarely went along for our road trip. And everytime that he joined us, he would definitely bring his girlfren along. But the girlfren would never allow him to talk to me without her presence. He can talk to the other gals in the group, but not me. If there were only 4 of us at a table, and she needed to go to the loo, she'd make him stand outside the loo to wait for her, even though the loo is just like what..less than 10 steps away from the table!?! I have a bf, who is also part of the group, and she also knows him. What possible threat could i be?? This has been going on for 2 years. The last time i met up with the 2 of them, and the rest of the group was more than 6 mths ago. Tomorrow the whole group is having a gathering and i'm of course invited. She had the cheek to call me and tell me to make sure i don't turn up tomorrow. WTF...i have not seen my frens for so long, and she doesn't want me going, just becoz she thinks i'm a threat. I've already given up the frenship with her bf and have absolutely no contact for the past 6 mths. Why is she still doing this?? Can't 2 pple of opposite sex just be frens and nothing more?? -
Hello,
U`re the 1st time i ever see such a thing happen to a gal..
seriously i tink it shouldnt be ur fault in this case
it came across my mind that you MIGHT HAD been a threat to her r/s w her bf???
what ponders me is that since u already haf a bf and AA haf a gf, why would she want to call you to warn you not to go instead
if u wanna she continues to be like that
i suggest to you that u play it tough w her
tell her that you do not like her bf...
and make sure u turn up for the reunion
then u keep talking to HER bf...
see how bad can she get??
if she ever flare up
it`s her that will be pai seh
and not you ya??
if she wanna get nasty
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i realli can't see wat sort of threat i could have been. AA is just like a hi and bye fren to me, but he's my bf's best fren. Even when we go out, i stick myself to my bf, i dun even go near AA.Originally posted by BaByBoY:Hello,
U`re the 1st time i ever see such a thing happen to a gal..
seriously i tink it shouldnt be ur fault in this case
it came across my mind that you MIGHT HAD been a threat to her r/s w her bf???
what ponders me is that since u already haf a bf and AA haf a gf, why would she want to call you to warn you not to go instead
if u wanna she continues to be like that
i suggest to you that u play it tough w her
tell her that you do not like her bf...
and make sure u turn up for the reunion
then u keep talking to HER bf...
see how bad can she get??
if she ever flare up
it`s her that will be pai seh
and not you ya??
if she wanna get nasty
get even more nasty Already told her b4 i will never like her bf, and she's still like that.
Yeah, i went for the reunion, only stayed 15 mins though. Go there hi and bye and see her flare up. -
way to go, gal~Originally posted by loneconfuser:i realli can't see wat sort of threat i could have been. AA is just like a hi and bye fren to me, but he's my bf's best fren. Even when we go out, i stick myself to my bf, i dun even go near AA. Already told her b4 i will never like her bf, and she's still like that.
Yeah, i went for the reunion, only stayed 15 mins though. Go there hi and bye and see her flare up. -
Wow she is sure bitchy!Originally posted by loneconfuser:i realli can't see wat sort of threat i could have been. AA is just like a hi and bye fren to me, but he's my bf's best fren. Even when we go out, i stick myself to my bf, i dun even go near AA. Already told her b4 i will never like her bf, and she's still like that.
Yeah, i went for the reunion, only stayed 15 mins though. Go there hi and bye and see her flare up.
Cheers,
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I'm so sorry to hear about this.Originally posted by loneconfuser:I have a guy friend, AA. Not very close, but just can get along, can chat and joke, but not close to the extend of can share problems and physically whacking each other. Knew him for half a year, then he got a girlfren, whom he introduced to all of us. At first everything was still alright, but as time past, he seldom join us for meals, and rarely went along for our road trip. And everytime that he joined us, he would definitely bring his girlfren along. But the girlfren would never allow him to talk to me without her presence. He can talk to the other gals in the group, but not me. If there were only 4 of us at a table, and she needed to go to the loo, she'd make him stand outside the loo to wait for her, even though the loo is just like what..less than 10 steps away from the table!?! I have a bf, who is also part of the group, and she also knows him. What possible threat could i be?? This has been going on for 2 years. The last time i met up with the 2 of them, and the rest of the group was more than 6 mths ago. Tomorrow the whole group is having a gathering and i'm of course invited. She had the cheek to call me and tell me to make sure i don't turn up tomorrow. WTF...i have not seen my frens for so long, and she doesn't want me going, just becoz she thinks i'm a threat. I've already given up the frenship with her bf and have absolutely no contact for the past 6 mths. Why is she still doing this?? Can't 2 pple of opposite sex just be frens and nothing more??
Now, here's an advice. Do what you think is right. Don't let anyone decide for you what you should or should not do! Not even that girl. It's your life and your rights! Continue being friends with the guy whom you know. Don't give up the friendship. Every friendship is precious.
As far as I know, this girl is totally insecurewith herself and her boyfriend. She should not be in a relationship at the first place! The guy is also a dumbass for allowing her to take control of his life. If I were him, I'll give that s.l.u.t. a boot manz! But anyway, continue doing what's right. Don't let anyone control your beliefs.
All the best!
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she`s just paranoid..Originally posted by loneconfuser:i realli can't see wat sort of threat i could have been. AA is just like a hi and bye fren to me, but he's my bf's best fren. Even when we go out, i stick myself to my bf, i dun even go near AA. Already told her b4 i will never like her bf, and she's still like that.
Yeah, i went for the reunion, only stayed 15 mins though. Go there hi and bye and see her flare up.
ignore her in the future ya?
and u did the right thing in goin
don be scared of her ya?