yea, I think it is the hope that keeps her hanging to him...Originally posted by foxwalk:I think at the end of the day, the problem is she thinks he loves her like she does, but he doesn't. He's just a spineless dump who wants not only her body, but her money. I despise men like these.
That's how I felt initially about my ex, but then I think it is better to concentrate the energy on forgiving him. It is easier to get over him that way.Originally posted by Kagari:iocy u'r right...
anywayz that guy should be shot russian maffia style
wif her coz she is rich n for sex?is he taking her as atm or sex slave..Originally posted by foxwalk:one day that your bf is only with you for the sex?
I know a poor girl like this. He is also with her cuz she's rich.
What would you do if you were her and you found out?
intro her to better friends?Originally posted by foxwalk:I think at the end of the day, the problem is she thinks he loves her like she does, but he doesn't. He's just a spineless dump who wants not only her body, but her money. I despise men like these.
more like both apparently.Originally posted by themoment:wif her coz she is rich n for sex?is he taking her as atm or sex slave..
intro to me!! me very nice one!!Originally posted by foxwalk:I think at the end of the day, the problem is she thinks he loves her like she does, but he doesn't. He's just a spineless dump who wants not only her body, but her money. I despise men like these.
yes that is very trueOriginally posted by M©+square:icy,
Try to read and re-read Yunnie's post.
I hope you'll see something useful.
Cheers
who knowOriginally posted by icyprincess:hmm...one day the girl will realize that she will need something more than what she can get from a man who only wants her for sex and money...I mean, he doesn't love her so how can he satiate her emotional need? Maybe temporarily but once she comes to her senses...it won't be a pretty situation...
i.c.y
Ahem, he admitted it himself. He brought her to a high class restaurant, ordered wine, and left her to pay the bill of close to 200. he's a senior in uni; she's a freshie. she has no idea she;s being made used of. he's a foreigner with a gf back home. he admitted he is just fooling ard with both of them even though the one in singapore is serious abt him. he admitted that he wants to be with rich women who can give him the lifestyle. if these rich women are ok with it, that's cool and none of my bizness even though in my opinion he's scum. but she doesn't know and thinks he loves her too.Originally posted by BaByBoY:yes that is very true
icy, u might be too impulsive to be clear headed
or technically u`re too emotional to make a rational choice
anyway it`s the author that THINKS that the guy is on to her fren for a reason
unless the person admits it himself
otherwise it`ll be just another prejudiced comment
moreover, the couple are in a balance now
why create the turn?
let them be themselves
eventually things will work out
see what fate have planned for them
if a better guy/gal is to come along their path
then let it happen naturally
give him a penectomyOriginally posted by foxwalk:one day that your bf is only with you for the sex?
I know a poor girl like this. He is also with her cuz she's rich.
What would you do if you were her and you found out?
I think you are rational. But overall, you're an emotional person. But so am I. I can cry on cue that's why I never suffer from dry eyes. My bf makes me cry practically everyday... that doesn't sound too good does it?Originally posted by icyprincess:i wash my hands off this. I will stick to my words that our happiness depends on the decision we make. I am being rational when I am saying this. If I am being emotional, I would have said, since this guy is treating you so good, but even with an ulterior motive, you should go with it because he will change one day. This is deluding yourself with hope. Just as you can say maybe one day he will change, there is also a chance that he will never change.
So it is really up to you to whether you want to continue deluding yourself or cut it off totally. Like the saying goes, a leopard will never change its spot.
And please stop calling me too emotional or not clear-headed. You are not me to judge how I am feeling.
i.c.y
maybe maybe maybe. everything must rely on maybe? how about, maybe u'll realise that a Bastard like that guy should be exposed for the Fuckwit he is and publicly shamed.Originally posted by BaByBoY:who know
mabbe one day he`ll grow to love her ya??
take things one step at a time esp for love
Well there are times when I am emotional. I would be lying if I said I didn't hurt when I left him. I cried a lot but I know it was a decision I have to make. There are times we can follow our heart, but by doing so, we have to think with our mind as well. So even if it is painful, I know I had to do what I had to do. I refused to become like a drug addict who only craves for temporary bliss, although knowing fully well that what he/she is doing will only harm her in the end. Getting deluded by false hope, is similar to being a drug addict. I long for love, but I do not want to resolve to that state.Originally posted by foxwalk:I think you are rational. But overall, you're an emotional person. But so am I. I can cry on cue that's why I never suffer from dry eyes. My bf makes me cry practically everyday... that doesn't sound too good does it?
Even 'admitting' can be misunderstandings at times...Originally posted by foxwalk:Ahem, he admitted it himself. He brought her to a high class restaurant, ordered wine, and left her to pay the bill of close to 200. he's a senior in uni; she's a freshie. she has no idea she;s being made used of. he's a foreigner with a gf back home. he admitted he is just fooling ard with both of them even though the one in singapore is serious abt him. he admitted that he wants to be with rich women who can give him the lifestyle. if these rich women are ok with it, that's cool and none of my bizness even though in my opinion he's scum. but she doesn't know and thinks he loves her too.
i think if people are doing things morally wrong or socially unacceptable just like the case that Aaaron quoted, it's perfectly fine as long as both parties know the situation they're in and they're cool with it. this girl does not. that's the diffference. i dun know, but losing faith in human kind. men seem to want women for sex ( a lot of cases i've met are like that), this guy wants sex and money. some women want men for money.
it's a depressing world.
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:chances are
she will hope that she will change him. Touch him with her sincerity. Abide with self sacrificing suffering. Convinced by his callousness, she will cry herself to sleep after intimacy. or lie awake tormented by emotional demons. She pampers him with expensive gifts because now that she feels he is with her cos she is rich, she might lose him if she doesn't pamper him...
she won't let go because she feels if she did, then she don't love him as much as she thinks she does.
He probably would be clueless. Treat her with the same careless affection. I mean what's so bad with enjoying having sex with her? At least I find her attractive what. And its not like i ASK her to buy stuff for me. I also buy some things for her what.
In pain she will eventually confide with some other guy who will fall hopelessly in love with her. cos she very poor thing. so pretty. so suffering. so lovelorn. so faithful. so poor little rich girl.
But she treats him like a spare tyre. Runs to him when she needs someone to cry to, but choose to remain oblivously to how she is treating him for her own uses.
Eventually, the guy dumps her cos he found a hornier and richer babe. She throws herself at this poor guy, who of course rejects because he is gentlemanly. Eventually she gives "him a chance" and they have a few happy months together.
But the ex bf returns begging for forgiveness after being played out by a far more streetwise woman. He suddenly realises what an idiot he was and how he actually really loves her. She crumbles, dump the poor spare tyre and returns to him. (eventually they end up in a miserable loveless marriage)
The other guy mourns for a long time about this girl. His ego was completely destroyed. Bitter, he feels that women are ALLLLL like this and decides to go play computer games instead. Eventually he probably decides Singaporean women are ALL materialistic and superficial. And marries a kalimantan bride.