How would you feel if you found out ..
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dump him!!
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yea, I think it is the hope that keeps her hanging to him...Originally posted by foxwalk:I think at the end of the day, the problem is she thinks he loves her like she does, but he doesn't. He's just a spineless dump who wants not only her body, but her money. I despise men like these.
Me hates guys like this too, but learn how to walk away from them and we will be fine.
It always comes down to our choice and decision, doesn't it?
i.c.y -
Paying the price but receiving the wrong goods. That's love.
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I'm Looking 4 Trouble, where are you?
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iocy u'r right...
anywayz that guy should be shot russian maffia style -
That's how I felt initially about my ex, but then I think it is better to concentrate the energy on forgiving him. It is easier to get over him that way.Originally posted by Kagari:iocy u'r right...
anywayz that guy should be shot russian maffia style
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wat a disgrace...
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Its another wrong down the whole list of wrongs.
Morally that is.
But if the both of them are happy, why not let it be?
Let me recount a little story about what i heard...
There was a couple living in a small 4-room hdb flat. The husband and the wife were dashing and pretty, and they always held each other's hand when they walked out of the house.
Soon they had a baby, and they were contented.
But the neighbours grew suspicious when New Year/Christmas came, and no one came to visit them.
Eventually, rumours spread that they were not truly married. In addition, they were actually blood siblings!
The MCDS came and took their baby away, given for adoption, while they separated the 2 of them, probably jailing the father and caning him.
So... do you think its right to interfere? Do you think they should have stayed together?
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I think i just started rambling again. But back to the topic..
There are just some things in life that we can do nothing about. We know that the guy is using the girl, and everyone else knows. But would you be the one to dash her dreams and hopes?
Maybe God will be kind and he'll be a loving husband all the way til her death.
In cases like this who knows what will happen? -
" 'Be that word our sign of parting, bird or fiend!' I shrieked, upstarting 'Get thee back into the tempest and the Night's Plutonian shore! Leave no black plume as a token of that lie thy soul hath spoken! Leave my loneliness unbroken!-quit the bust above my door! Take thy beak from out my heart, and take thy form from off my door!' Quoth the raven, `Nevermore.' "
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wif her coz she is rich n for sex?is he taking her as atm or sex slave..Originally posted by foxwalk:one day that your bf is only with you for the sex?
I know a poor girl like this. He is also with her cuz she's rich.
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intro her to better friends?Originally posted by foxwalk:I think at the end of the day, the problem is she thinks he loves her like she does, but he doesn't. He's just a spineless dump who wants not only her body, but her money. I despise men like these.
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chances are
she will hope that she will change him. Touch him with her sincerity. Abide with self sacrificing suffering. Convinced by his callousness, she will cry herself to sleep after intimacy. or lie awake tormented by emotional demons. She pampers him with expensive gifts because now that she feels he is with her cos she is rich, she might lose him if she doesn't pamper him...
she won't let go because she feels if she did, then she don't love him as much as she thinks she does.
He probably would be clueless. Treat her with the same careless affection. I mean what's so bad with enjoying having sex with her? At least I find her attractive what. And its not like i ASK her to buy stuff for me. I also buy some things for her what.
In pain she will eventually confide with some other guy who will fall hopelessly in love with her. cos she very poor thing. so pretty. so suffering. so lovelorn. so faithful. so poor little rich girl.
But she treats him like a spare tyre. Runs to him when she needs someone to cry to, but choose to remain oblivously to how she is treating him for her own uses.
Eventually, the guy dumps her cos he found a hornier and richer babe. She throws herself at this poor guy, who of course rejects because he is gentlemanly. Eventually she gives "him a chance" and they have a few happy months together.
But the ex bf returns begging for forgiveness after being played out by a far more streetwise woman. He suddenly realises what an idiot he was and how he actually really loves her. She crumbles, dump the poor spare tyre and returns to him. (eventually they end up in a miserable loveless marriage)
The other guy mourns for a long time about this girl. His ego was completely destroyed. Bitter, he feels that women are ALLLLL like this and decides to go play computer games instead. Eventually he probably decides Singaporean women are ALL materialistic and superficial. And marries a kalimantan bride. -
more like both apparently.Originally posted by themoment:wif her coz she is rich n for sex?is he taking her as atm or sex slave.. -
intro to me!! me very nice one!!Originally posted by foxwalk:I think at the end of the day, the problem is she thinks he loves her like she does, but he doesn't. He's just a spineless dump who wants not only her body, but her money. I despise men like these. -
Quoting from the poem titled the Raven by Edgar Allen Poe?
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icy,
Try to read and re-read Yunnie's post.
I hope you'll see something useful.
Cheers -
yes that is very trueOriginally posted by M©+square:icy,
Try to read and re-read Yunnie's post.
I hope you'll see something useful.
Cheers
icy, u might be too impulsive to be clear headed
or technically u`re too emotional to make a rational choice
anyway it`s the author that THINKS that the guy is on to her fren for a reason
unless the person admits it himself
otherwise it`ll be just another prejudiced comment
moreover, the couple are in a balance now
why create the turn?
let them be themselves
eventually things will work out
see what fate have planned for them
if a better guy/gal is to come along their path
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who knowOriginally posted by icyprincess:hmm...one day the girl will realize that she will need something more than what she can get from a man who only wants her for sex and money...I mean, he doesn't love her so how can he satiate her emotional need? Maybe temporarily but once she comes to her senses...it won't be a pretty situation...
i.c.y
mabbe one day he`ll grow to love her ya??
take things one step at a time esp for love -
Ahem, he admitted it himself. He brought her to a high class restaurant, ordered wine, and left her to pay the bill of close to 200. he's a senior in uni; she's a freshie. she has no idea she;s being made used of. he's a foreigner with a gf back home. he admitted he is just fooling ard with both of them even though the one in singapore is serious abt him. he admitted that he wants to be with rich women who can give him the lifestyle. if these rich women are ok with it, that's cool and none of my bizness even though in my opinion he's scum. but she doesn't know and thinks he loves her too.Originally posted by BaByBoY:yes that is very true
icy, u might be too impulsive to be clear headed
or technically u`re too emotional to make a rational choice
anyway it`s the author that THINKS that the guy is on to her fren for a reason
unless the person admits it himself
otherwise it`ll be just another prejudiced comment
moreover, the couple are in a balance now
why create the turn?
let them be themselves
eventually things will work out
see what fate have planned for them
if a better guy/gal is to come along their path
then let it happen naturally
i think if people are doing things morally wrong or socially unacceptable just like the case that Aaaron quoted, it's perfectly fine as long as both parties know the situation they're in and they're cool with it. this girl does not. that's the diffference. i dun know, but losing faith in human kind. men seem to want women for sex ( a lot of cases i've met are like that), this guy wants sex and money. some women want men for money.
it's a depressing world. -
give him a penectomyOriginally posted by foxwalk:one day that your bf is only with you for the sex?
I know a poor girl like this. He is also with her cuz she's rich.
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i wash my hands off this. I will stick to my words that our happiness depends on the decision we make. I am being rational when I am saying this. If I am being emotional, I would have said, since this guy is treating you so good, but even with an ulterior motive, you should go with it because he will change one day. This is deluding yourself with hope. Just as you can say maybe one day he will change, there is also a chance that he will never change.
So it is really up to you to whether you want to continue deluding yourself or cut it off totally. Like the saying goes, a leopard will never change its spot.
And please stop calling me too emotional or not clear-headed. You are not me to judge how I am feeling.
i.c.y -
I think you are rational. But overall, you're an emotional person. But so am I. I can cry on cue that's why I never suffer from dry eyes. My bf makes me cry practically everyday... that doesn't sound too good does it?Originally posted by icyprincess:i wash my hands off this. I will stick to my words that our happiness depends on the decision we make. I am being rational when I am saying this. If I am being emotional, I would have said, since this guy is treating you so good, but even with an ulterior motive, you should go with it because he will change one day. This is deluding yourself with hope. Just as you can say maybe one day he will change, there is also a chance that he will never change.
So it is really up to you to whether you want to continue deluding yourself or cut it off totally. Like the saying goes, a leopard will never change its spot.
And please stop calling me too emotional or not clear-headed. You are not me to judge how I am feeling.
i.c.y -
maybe maybe maybe. everything must rely on maybe? how about, maybe u'll realise that a Bastard like that guy should be exposed for the Fuckwit he is and publicly shamed.Originally posted by BaByBoY:who know
mabbe one day he`ll grow to love her ya??
take things one step at a time esp for love
GUYS! wtf is wrong with u lot? defending someone like that!
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Well there are times when I am emotional. I would be lying if I said I didn't hurt when I left him. I cried a lot but I know it was a decision I have to make. There are times we can follow our heart, but by doing so, we have to think with our mind as well. So even if it is painful, I know I had to do what I had to do. I refused to become like a drug addict who only craves for temporary bliss, although knowing fully well that what he/she is doing will only harm her in the end. Getting deluded by false hope, is similar to being a drug addict. I long for love, but I do not want to resolve to that state.Originally posted by foxwalk:I think you are rational. But overall, you're an emotional person. But so am I. I can cry on cue that's why I never suffer from dry eyes. My bf makes me cry practically everyday... that doesn't sound too good does it?
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Even 'admitting' can be misunderstandings at times...Originally posted by foxwalk:Ahem, he admitted it himself. He brought her to a high class restaurant, ordered wine, and left her to pay the bill of close to 200. he's a senior in uni; she's a freshie. she has no idea she;s being made used of. he's a foreigner with a gf back home. he admitted he is just fooling ard with both of them even though the one in singapore is serious abt him. he admitted that he wants to be with rich women who can give him the lifestyle. if these rich women are ok with it, that's cool and none of my bizness even though in my opinion he's scum. but she doesn't know and thinks he loves her too.
i think if people are doing things morally wrong or socially unacceptable just like the case that Aaaron quoted, it's perfectly fine as long as both parties know the situation they're in and they're cool with it. this girl does not. that's the diffference. i dun know, but losing faith in human kind. men seem to want women for sex ( a lot of cases i've met are like that), this guy wants sex and money. some women want men for money.
it's a depressing world. -
The standard lovestory script. Just change the names.
Love makes masochists out of us allOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:chances are
she will hope that she will change him. Touch him with her sincerity. Abide with self sacrificing suffering. Convinced by his callousness, she will cry herself to sleep after intimacy. or lie awake tormented by emotional demons. She pampers him with expensive gifts because now that she feels he is with her cos she is rich, she might lose him if she doesn't pamper him...
she won't let go because she feels if she did, then she don't love him as much as she thinks she does.
He probably would be clueless. Treat her with the same careless affection. I mean what's so bad with enjoying having sex with her? At least I find her attractive what. And its not like i ASK her to buy stuff for me. I also buy some things for her what.
In pain she will eventually confide with some other guy who will fall hopelessly in love with her. cos she very poor thing. so pretty. so suffering. so lovelorn. so faithful. so poor little rich girl.
But she treats him like a spare tyre. Runs to him when she needs someone to cry to, but choose to remain oblivously to how she is treating him for her own uses.
Eventually, the guy dumps her cos he found a hornier and richer babe. She throws herself at this poor guy, who of course rejects because he is gentlemanly. Eventually she gives "him a chance" and they have a few happy months together.
But the ex bf returns begging for forgiveness after being played out by a far more streetwise woman. He suddenly realises what an idiot he was and how he actually really loves her. She crumbles, dump the poor spare tyre and returns to him. (eventually they end up in a miserable loveless marriage)
The other guy mourns for a long time about this girl. His ego was completely destroyed. Bitter, he feels that women are ALLLLL like this and decides to go play computer games instead. Eventually he probably decides Singaporean women are ALL materialistic and superficial. And marries a kalimantan bride.