messed up...need some advice
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hi aunt agony n every1 else here, i'm here seeking advice on wad i shld in my situation, please read my story.
i'm turning 15 dis year, n the beginning of this story was last year just slightly 1 week before school closed, when i began liking a girl frm the neighbour class. it was hard to explain how much i liked her...i'm sure it wasn't love at first sight, and i myself until todae can't realli find the explaination to it. it was the first time i liked someone else..well, u can sae tt it is quite "late" time to fall in love since pple already starting in primary school.
i knew a friend in my class, well he was quite a good friend of some close friends i have in my class. then once in the hall there was this competition or like giveaway presents for pple when they go out to answer a question, i did n gort this watch, it was supposingly limited edition. not knowing wad to do with it, i asked my friend, to pass it to her, since he knows many people from that class as he goes in to flirt occasionally. well, it was rejected and the next day, i realize that many people was trying to search who was the person who gave the watch. soon it was revealed.
then the situation progressed till the last day of school, it was still unclear to the people of that class whether i realli like her anot since the present given could be a joke. it was the last day n i was feeling really nervous since after that it would be theholidays and i don't get to see her anymore. so i went in bravely into the class and confessed to her. of course, since it was after exams there were no teachers...i didn't really get rejected, just an awfully long string of silence. it was painful, trust mi, n so i left, feeling anxious and relived at the same time. the worlds ultimate oxymoron.
during the holidays, i chatted up with her friends over MSN n found out that she had blocked mi when i tried to add her. my dream was like shattered at that moment but i din wanted to give up. so i continued chatting with her friends, knowing more about her..and everything just went normally till this year's valentine's day.
i realized she liked the manga "inu yasha", so i bought a VCD set for her from comics connection. it was considered like quite pricey for a valentine day's gift and all her friends told mi that she would reject it. i gave it to her, which was rejected and her fren beside her took it for her. currently it's with another of her friend, who is only lending it and will return to her after she has watched it.
the only problem i have here is i don't want to give up. her friend says that she's scared of me since when i confessed she was only at the end of her sec 1 year, which probably freaked her out, she says she doesnt' like me. well, i don't expect her to like me back in anyway but is there anyway i can be friends with her AT LEAST? even after her friends and even my friends convinced her she stil doesn't want to unblock me? does she need time to sort things out? or why is she avoiding me? it feels very painful to thing of this statemate situation.
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you're 15? hmmm
My advice: get over here. You're still young, maybe you'll fall for another along the way.
Reason? Simple, she has more than 1 reason to reject you, and if you persist, you'll end up as Robert Toh. (carrot-head/cai tao) Her friends will utilise you just because they knew you wanted their favour because of her. And soon you will go on different ways after school.
It's going to kill you when your important exams come along the way. You'll worry that she'll not talk to you, or keep in contact when you all leave school etc.
So, my advice is get over it.
And you're still entitled to another option: Ignore my advice and choose what you want. I tabled an advice, it's up to you to accept. -
dude. dont be stupid. dont waste so much money. dont waste ur time. when u grow up, you will laugh over it. trust me. concentrate on your school work. and always remember, there's no such thing as liking someone just by seeing her. that would be lust. even though you think its fate or whatever bull shit. i regretted having a boy friend when i was your age..
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erm... think u should just stay out of her life.... since she really have no interest in you as a fren and more.... so just more on and jion another group of frens...
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huh? you 15 years old only and you said it too late to fall in love? ermm.. it nowadays kids get mature more faster or i got mature too late , i fall in love onli start to work ...
My advise to you is .. dont push too hard... she already scare of you now and if you continue , she will just totally ignore you or when she see you .. she will hide. Maybe to her, she think it still too young to tok about love, she jus wan to concentrate on studies, why dont you treat her as normal fren now , maybe find a excuse to tok abt studies or discuss homework, as least .. she dont have the impression that you onli go for love. -
i never even borther to read ur story after i saw the 1st line..i am 15
my advice, go accumulate some age first before u talk abt r/ship matter..
think abt it..u have zero financial stability now...go pak tor or whatever also take parents $$...
taking parents $$ to sian char bor is not what a man shd be doing.
Its all crush thingy...
get over it..and get back to your books. -
As many had said, u got more important things to worry abt then a girl who dun return your feelings.
Anyway, I understand u prob are unable to forget abt her etc etc, suggest u go do something you enjoy most (hobbies) or pick up one sport like tennis, squash or even gym workout... ..that will distract you enough to let time heal ya little heart...
Hang in there kid
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You know...
You should try putting yourself into her shoes.
A 15 year old boy approaches you, a 13 year old girl.
He suddenly comes over and say "I like you alot, can you be my gf..?"
Girl: ?!?!
Do you see what has happened here? You have either 1) Scared her half to death. 2)Confused: huh..??! What does he mean? 3) Flattered: wah, got guy ask me go stead.
Judging from the silence though, its either option 1) or 2).
How to get over this? You have made a very bad impression to her...
I don't think she'll forget you for as long as she lives.
Please move on, it'll take a lot of effort to woo this girl... i mean a lot...
You're still very young, don't worry, you'll find others... like the rest of us too..~ -
saw his friendster, Qing Ping..and inside bukit panjang govt high..
so young kid..haiz -
Corporal Ong once told me...
There are many fishes in the pond......... -
Perhaps you can go apply for your school talentime..
find 5 guys and sing v6's change the world...
with the mv in the background..
=)
i can be your choreographer if u want.. -
hey... MAnz.. Life is about experiencing.. IF u truely like her, then dun give up.. Otherwise will you regret it? Jus REmember the pain u'll be inflicting on her after you both break up in the future... IF u truely love her you wont be hurting her.. Trust me, Know her for at least 1 whole year.. With at least weekly chatting with her.. SHe definately trust, believe, like you better.. At least then u stand a chance.. But since U already told her u like her.. Its gonna take a long time for her to forgot about it...
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Been thru that stage liaow . . . frankly you should just give up on it. Sec school is the worst time to go dating. By the relationship will never last past the o levels.
As i have always said, never fall deep in love, especially one that is one sided. You must know when you have to wake up and pull yourself out otherwise you will lose focus on everything else that is important in life. -
Love is overrated. go find something useful to do
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gina ke tache
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yuh....and even if it lasts beyond O level....when she or u go further studies.....u will see how many different fishes in the pond one.....in the end one of u sure 2 time the other one...Originally posted by CenturionMBT:Been thru that stage liaow . . . frankly you should just give up on it. Sec school is the worst time to go dating. By the relationship will never last past the o levels.
As i have always said, never fall deep in love, especially one that is one sided. You must know when you have to wake up and pull yourself out otherwise you will lose focus on everything else that is important in life. -
like going fast....Originally posted by HENG@:Love is overrated. go find something useful to do
going furious....
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bump bump, bumpbump, ba bump bump, bumpbump bump!Originally posted by sidestep1984:like going fast....
going furious....
.....legally.......