ok, at least have some respect to her decision... a) cant help on that, go c a doc mayb when u moving towards marriage, no need to rush now right...? b) how to control? either u diy or both of u help each other do it..... but talk to her about it... be frank la...Originally posted by Guru78:Have known my gf for more than a year nw. We are in the mid 20s. We developed from heavy petting to one day, had intercourse. It was her first and the moment we tried, she felt sharp pain. I know it's natural as it was her first. But even after a few times, it was still painful to her. She was so tensed up even though we were relaxed during foreplay before intercourse. It seems she's very stressed.
After a while, she told me not to try anymore as she's too scared. We were very relaxed during foreplay and it's only when intercourse, she's so tense up. I had 'counselled' her before, but to no avail. Anyway, since she is so scared, I decided to respect her and abstain from intercourse totally.
Have the following questions to enquire:
a) When I had intercourse with my ex before, I was also her 1st. During the first two times of intercourse, she felt pain. But after that, it was 'smooth sailing'. However for my current gf, even after a few times, she felt so much pain even though we were well 'lubricated'. Is it because of her size, as she is quite small size?
b) I know I have to respect her wishes to abstain from intercourse, as i don't want to hurt her. But to be frank, as a guy, I have my own urges and sometimes I find it hard to control. Just like to know, whether anyone here has been a couple but never had intercourse with his gf during the relationship? How can you control? I know love not only encompass the physical self..but to be frank, how to ccntrol the urge then?
Thanks! Hope to receive frank and sincere views.
Originally posted by Guru78:Have known my gf for more than a year nw. We are in the mid 20s. We developed from heavy petting to one day, had intercourse. It was her first and the moment we tried, she felt sharp pain. I know it's natural as it was her first. But even after a few times, it was still painful to her. She was so tensed up even though we were relaxed during foreplay before intercourse. It seems she's very stressed.
After a while, she told me not to try anymore as she's too scared. We were very relaxed during foreplay and it's only when intercourse, she's so tense up. I had 'counselled' her before, but to no avail. Anyway, since she is so scared, I decided to respect her and abstain from intercourse totally.
Have the following questions to enquire:
a) When I had intercourse with my ex before, I was also her 1st. During the first two times of intercourse, she felt pain. But after that, it was 'smooth sailing'. However for my current gf, even after a few times, she felt so much pain even though we were well 'lubricated'. Is it because of her size, as she is quite small size?
b) I know I have to respect her wishes to abstain from intercourse, as i don't want to hurt her. But to be frank, as a guy, I have my own urges and sometimes I find it hard to control. Just like to know, whether anyone here has been a couple but never had intercourse with his gf during the relationship? How can you control? I know love not only encompass the physical self..but to be frank, how to ccntrol the urge then?
Thanks! Hope to receive frank and sincere views.
imagine one guy ram your as s and u feel shiok , den another ramp ur as s and u feel pain. den always remember that guy who gave u a bad ramp pain as s and u will know the solution to your problem. why the guys ramp u because as your frens they need to releive stress orso since chi cken need to pay and not clean, gal frens must respect and they need to relieve their tension. as 4 ur gf, let me conole her for u.
Originally posted by Guru78:Have known my gf for more than a year nw. We are in the mid 20s. We developed from heavy petting to one day, had intercourse. It was her first and the moment we tried, she felt sharp pain. I know it's natural as it was her first. But even after a few times, it was still painful to her. She was so tensed up even though we were relaxed during foreplay before intercourse. It seems she's very stressed.
After a while, she told me not to try anymore as she's too scared. We were very relaxed during foreplay and it's only when intercourse, she's so tense up. I had 'counselled' her before, but to no avail. Anyway, since she is so scared, I decided to respect her and abstain from intercourse totally.
Have the following questions to enquire:
a) When I had intercourse with my ex before, I was also her 1st. During the first two times of intercourse, she felt pain. But after that, it was 'smooth sailing'. However for my current gf, even after a few times, she felt so much pain even though we were well 'lubricated'. Is it because of her size, as she is quite small size?
b) I know I have to respect her wishes to abstain from intercourse, as i don't want to hurt her. But to be frank, as a guy, I have my own urges and sometimes I find it hard to control. Just like to know, whether anyone here has been a couple but never had intercourse with his gf during the relationship? How can you control? I know love not only encompass the physical self..but to be frank, how to ccntrol the urge then?
Thanks! Hope to receive frank and sincere views.
well, from the start of the r/s we agreed on a "no sex" policy. it wasn't hard to abstain if we both knew where the line was drawnOriginally posted by Guru78:b) I know I have to respect her wishes to abstain from intercourse, as i don't want to hurt her. But to be frank, as a guy, I have my own urges and sometimes I find it hard to control. Just like to know, whether anyone here has been a couple but never had intercourse with his gf during the relationship? How can you control? I know love not only encompass the physical self..but to be frank, how to ccntrol the urge then?
Thanks! Hope to receive frank and sincere views.
a) No.Originally posted by Guru78:Have known my gf for more than a year nw. We are in the mid 20s. We developed from heavy petting to one day, had intercourse. It was her first and the moment we tried, she felt sharp pain. I know it's natural as it was her first. But even after a few times, it was still painful to her. She was so tensed up even though we were relaxed during foreplay before intercourse. It seems she's very stressed.
After a while, she told me not to try anymore as she's too scared. We were very relaxed during foreplay and it's only when intercourse, she's so tense up. I had 'counselled' her before, but to no avail. Anyway, since she is so scared, I decided to respect her and abstain from intercourse totally.
Have the following questions to enquire:
a) When I had intercourse with my ex before, I was also her 1st. During the first two times of intercourse, she felt pain. But after that, it was 'smooth sailing'. However for my current gf, even after a few times, she felt so much pain even though we were well 'lubricated'. Is it because of her size, as she is quite small size?
b) I know I have to respect her wishes to abstain from intercourse, as i don't want to hurt her. But to be frank, as a guy, I have my own urges and sometimes I find it hard to control. Just like to know, whether anyone here has been a couple but never had intercourse with his gf during the relationship? How can you control? I know love not only encompass the physical self..but to be frank, how to ccntrol the urge then?
Thanks! Hope to receive frank and sincere views.