How would you know .. ?
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How would you know if your partner is bored/tired with you?
I think I'm becoming paranoid. I keep thinking that my bf doesn't love me as much as he used to. Thing is he hasn't scolded me, or gotten irritated at me.. nothing of these sorts.. just... feel that the way he looks at me sometimes is different from last time.
We've been together for 2+ yrs.. and we've been a simple couple.. no major quarrels....... -
go for short break and things will lighten up. don't see one another for a week or 2
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well,since you can say the r/s is already 2years+,you can't expect everything to be the same as before...things changes and times goes by..so need not think that much and don't even try to pick up any quarrels becuz of this...
just relac and find a day which the two of you cna have a lomantic date out~ -
physically or emotionally ?
sometimes, absence do makes the heart grew fonder -
may also makes a heart goes wild~
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Try to spice up your romantic life together... Go travel, cook at home, give him a good massage. etc.Originally posted by juz_A_gal:How would you know if your partner is bored/tired with you?
I think I'm becoming paranoid. I keep thinking that my bf doesn't love me as much as he used to. Thing is he hasn't scolded me, or gotten irritated at me.. nothing of these sorts.. just... feel that the way he looks at me sometimes is different from last time.
We've been together for 2+ yrs.. and we've been a simple couple.. no major quarrels.......
Do something out of the normal. Is he working/student? What about your profile? What you doing also.? Sometimes guy/gal when working will feel very bored with work so other part of life also may be affected. -
okok, do yourself a favor... stop thinking so much... y? if hes tired of u, u probably wont be seeing him liao.... instead of thinking of all these unnecessary things, y dun u use that much energy to treat yr bf better and think of ways of continue add spice to your relationship....Originally posted by juz_A_gal:How would you know if your partner is bored/tired with you?
I think I'm becoming paranoid. I keep thinking that my bf doesn't love me as much as he used to. Thing is he hasn't scolded me, or gotten irritated at me.. nothing of these sorts.. just... feel that the way he looks at me sometimes is different from last time.
We've been together for 2+ yrs.. and we've been a simple couple.. no major quarrels.......
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cherish him while u can and don be too sensitive.Originally posted by BrUtUs:okok, do yourself a favor... stop thinking so much... y? if hes tired of u, u probably wont be seeing him liao.... instead of thinking of all these unnecessary things, y dun u use that much energy to treat yr bf better and think of ways of continue add spice to your relationship....
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thanx peeps. i guess i'm just paranoid. maybe it's another mood swing? hmm.. but no. i'll never pick a quarrel juz 'cos of issues like this. too trivial and unsubstantiated.
i only see him once a week 'cos he's serving ns and working part time, while i'm working full-time and studying part time. our only day we meet is saturday. occasionally sunday night when he's not too tired.
i can't travel 'cos of classes. only in june do i get a short holiday. maybe i'll plan one then.
yeah, i always make it a point to do something special for him. or at least pop some surprise gift. ah. once i finish my studies (2-3yrs more!!!) i guess i can do more for him then. -
ok good to hear that... keep cool... goodluck in your relationship!Originally posted by juz_A_gal:thanx peeps. i guess i'm just paranoid. maybe it's another mood swing? hmm.. but no. i'll never pick a quarrel juz 'cos of issues like this. too trivial and unsubstantiated.
i only see him once a week 'cos he's serving ns and working part time, while i'm working full-time and studying part time. our only day we meet is saturday. occasionally sunday night when he's not too tired.
i can't travel 'cos of classes. only in june do i get a short holiday. maybe i'll plan one then.
yeah, i always make it a point to do something special for him. or at least pop some surprise gift. ah. once i finish my studies (2-3yrs more!!!) i guess i can do more for him then. -
If you want it to be SWEET, SATURDAYs are already GOOD ENOUGH...Originally posted by juz_A_gal:thanx peeps. i guess i'm just paranoid. maybe it's another mood swing? hmm.. but no. i'll never pick a quarrel juz 'cos of issues like this. too trivial and unsubstantiated.
i only see him once a week 'cos he's serving ns and working part time, while i'm working full-time and studying part time. our only day we meet is saturday. occasionally sunday night when he's not too tired.
i can't travel 'cos of classes. only in june do i get a short holiday. maybe i'll plan one then.
yeah, i always make it a point to do something special for him. or at least pop some surprise gift. ah. once i finish my studies (2-3yrs more!!!) i guess i can do more for him then.
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u almost same as me...with my gf for 19mths...she said i don love her as much...or rather i have changed...but i don feel any diff...nv had any major quarrels...but alot of small disagreement...funny.
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Once honeymoon period is over, everything gets routine & boring.
Don't worry abt your bf losing interest.
U will know cos he will start making excuses for not meeting u, less phone calls & SMS etc.
Think of creative ways of spending time together- go for nature walks/hiking, attend concerts/ shows, learn some new sports or dancing, try baking/cooking.
Don't neglect your own friends, go on group dates, do volunteering together.
Even at home, u can start a picture album or download yr fav. love songs, give him a facial/ massage/ colour his hair etc.
U can read up in internet/ books for more ideas -
i agree with gerrykoh.Originally posted by gerrykoh:Once honeymoon period is over, everything gets routine & boring.
Don't worry abt your bf losing interest.
U will know cos he will start making excuses for not meeting u, less phone calls & SMS etc.
Think of creative ways of spending time together- go for nature walks/hiking, attend concerts/ shows, learn some new sports or dancing, try baking/cooking.
Don't neglect your own friends, go on group dates, do volunteering together.
Even at home, u can start a picture album or download yr fav. love songs, give him a facial/ massage/ colour his hair etc.
U can read up in internet/ books for more ideas
if u really feel insecure, why not make more friends, expand ur circle of friends. have ur own life. if the worst really happens, at least u ve got a life, and ur own group of friends, plus potential suitors too.
u r still very young. keep ur options open. -
try going for an image change; example a new hairdo, put on slight make up if u doesn't, change of dress code to something more sensual...and sense of touch is very impt in a relationship. these changes will let him take note of you more and realise that u're still as pretty and loving as u guys used to be....Originally posted by juz_A_gal:How would you know if your partner is bored/tired with you?
I think I'm becoming paranoid. I keep thinking that my bf doesn't love me as much as he used to. Thing is he hasn't scolded me, or gotten irritated at me.. nothing of these sorts.. just... feel that the way he looks at me sometimes is different from last time.
We've been together for 2+ yrs.. and we've been a simple couple.. no major quarrels.......
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Dear Gal,
In the beginning of courtship, chemistry is apparent, & there're many new thgs u dunno abt ur partner, even if he was ur fren before. U'd never experienced the way he treats someone he has special feelings for. Ev. thg, combined wif the heady experience of somethg new, sends out sparks of romance & u treasure ev. min together.
After 2 yrs, tt mystery abt ur partner fades, & wat's left in place is a solid frenship & love tt provides support when u need it, genuine care & concern for u without the need to impress. U see the real guy u've entered a r'ship wif, & decide whether or Not u can spend the rest of ur life wif tt person.
New experiences or little surprises may help in keeping tt little spark tt has faded, & it takes work to make the r'ship last, but it can, & chances r, it will, if both sides r committed enuff to see thgs thru. It'll be the greatest reward in ur life.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by juz_A_gal:How would you know if your partner is bored/tired with you?
I think I'm becoming paranoid. I keep thinking that my bf doesn't love me as much as he used to. Thing is he hasn't scolded me, or gotten irritated at me.. nothing of these sorts.. just... feel that the way he looks at me sometimes is different from last time.
We've been together for 2+ yrs.. and we've been a simple couple.. no major quarrels....... -
NICE...Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Gal,
In the beginning of courtship, chemistry is apparent, & there're many new thgs u dunno abt ur partner, even if he was ur fren before. U'd never experienced the way he treats someone he has special feelings for. Ev. thg, combined wif the heady experience of somethg new, sends out sparks of romance & u treasure ev. min together.
After 2 yrs, tt mystery abt ur partner fades, & wat's left in place is a solid frenship & love tt provides support when u need it, genuine care & concern for u without the need to impress. U see the real guy u've entered a r'ship wif, & decide whether or Not u can spend the rest of ur life wif tt person.
New experiences or little surprises may help in keeping tt little spark tt has faded, & it takes work to make the r'ship last, but it can, & chances r, it will, if both sides r committed enuff to see thgs thru. It'll be the greatest reward in ur life.
FeowFeow -
Mini crisis or the beginning of the end?Originally posted by juz_A_gal:How would you know if your partner is bored/tired with you?
I think I'm becoming paranoid. I keep thinking that my bf doesn't love me as much as he used to. Thing is he hasn't scolded me, or gotten irritated at me.. nothing of these sorts.. just... feel that the way he looks at me sometimes is different from last time.
We've been together for 2+ yrs.. and we've been a simple couple.. no major quarrels.......
Ask for some time away from him - see if he care.
If he doesn't, maybe it's time to call this r/s quits. -
my partner and i do have our own circle of friends. he has more (i generally would like to think it's 'cos guys just bond better with guys) and yes i've met them. i have my own small but close-knit circle too.
we're just really bz with our lives and a saturday together is too precious for me to miss with him... if we do miss it, it's only 'cos he's got duty, or i've got class. that kinda thing.
i think trust is the biggest foundation we must have, else this wouldn't have worked at all. i trust my guy to be faithful and loyal to me. and he has the same trust in me. i dun call to check on him, partially prob 'cos i also dun wanna become one of those paranoid galfrenz. those are just freaky.
i make it a point not to let the romance fade away completely. i'll always do stuff to make this special. i don't expect him to change. in fact he's always been like that..... haha! we gals are a funny bunch. he'd be a fantastic husband.. and i really look forward to that day.................... too bad still gotta wait long long loooooooooong. -
well, u got hope there!
my sister is getting married soon, and her boyfriend? was with her since sec 3...
These things still happen these days yah!!
NS drains energy, thoughts, life... seize the day is the word. cool! Kambatte!! -
hmm. r/s is hard work isn''t it?Originally posted by juz_A_gal:my partner and i do have our own circle of friends. he has more (i generally would like to think it's 'cos guys just bond better with guys) and yes i've met them. i have my own small but close-knit circle too.
we're just really bz with our lives and a saturday together is too precious for me to miss with him... if we do miss it, it's only 'cos he's got duty, or i've got class. that kinda thing.
i think trust is the biggest foundation we must have, else this wouldn't have worked at all. i trust my guy to be faithful and loyal to me. and he has the same trust in me. i dun call to check on him, partially prob 'cos i also dun wanna become one of those paranoid galfrenz. those are just freaky.
i make it a point not to let the romance fade away completely. i'll always do stuff to make this special. i don't expect him to change. in fact he's always been like that..... haha! we gals are a funny bunch. he'd be a fantastic husband.. and i really look forward to that day.................... too bad still gotta wait long long loooooooooong.
You've done ur part to keep the romance alive but HAS HE?
ppl change and some take different directions. you're writing in becuz you not too happy with him currently. have a discussion with him and c where the prbolem lies.
sori. You may see him as ur future husband but he may no longer feel the same about you. that's life
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