The One?
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General school of thoughts:
Some people believes The One comes by fate(yuan)
Some believes in searching for The One (Active)
Some believes in waiting for The One (Passive)
Some believes in having one and making him/her The One
Some believes in the law of probablity (Trying out and find out who's the best)
There are many The Ones (One after another)
Some believes in praying for The One to appear....
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Personally i didn't believe in the One theory.
Any girl whom i love will be the One.
I'm not sure how to phrase it, i just have this feel that there are many people who aren't practical about relationship.
I mean...how do you qualify him or her as the One?
Let's say you're age 20 and waiting for the one, one fine day at 11pm Christmas Eve. You bump onto him/her and got to know one another by chance. You liked him/her from the first time you guys bumped onto one another. You know that he/she is the ONE. Things went on smoothly till went character changes and the relationship started drifting apart.
Everything was done and nothing could draw the two of you together.
So the both of you broke up.
The ONe left and got a new relationship after a few weeks.
My point being: Your The One left and became another girl/guy's The One.
Are you going to be single all your life since The One has left, and there is nomore The One.
Or you'll be waiting for The Two to appear?
Second point being: You think you believe in the One. Do you know what you're believe in? How could you be sure who is the One?
I'm not trying to put off this thinking/concept/belief/theory, but i question this naive thought from many galfriends i spoke to. Many awoke from their thoughts and realised something very important.
Third point: I don't believe in the One thingy but if i were to be more emotional and choose a ideal answer. I'd choose: having one and making him/her The One. Because i believe every relationship happens or a reason and making the best out of it, and making sure i'll leave no regrets, even i know that i cannot control the life span between two persons, it hurts to know it has to end someday. But i've got to make sure that Love truly exists in tat particular relationship and in every relationship...
Why? Mainly because i believe in living to truly taste Love.
The One is what i make out of...not what pops out before me.
Fourth point: If you think he/she is the One now. Think again and again and again. After Five to ten yrs down the road, think again of what you've claimed those days.
Maybe the One standing before you on the Aisle and wearing tuxedo saying wedding vows to you is your eighth or tenth! Haha.
Who knows.....
I'll end here and leave the rest for your thoughts. Don't be too sure of what you think. Don't take everything too seriously, yet do not fool around with things you cherish. Learning to Learn thru experiences is a gift in life.
Cheers -
too much classification oso no good lah
jus get the mai hiam bey pai one...... -
Sorry, I simply can't refrain myself in writing this...
ONCE, there was this 'the FRUIT'. A LEGEND. Heard by MANY, yet only a few truly got to TASTE it... Its SWEETNESS, JUICINESS... The SMELL...
And there was this little boy who happens to bump into this old man (don't ask me why always 'old man'..
) one day... And the old man reveals that he actually grow some of these rare exotic 'the FRUIT'... After much pleading, the old man finally agrees to let the little boy a TASTE of 'the FRUIT'...
He led him into his hut and blindfolded the little boy.. As the little boy got so excited and kept thinking of how 'the FRUIT' would look like and taste like... The old man brought to the attention the SMELL of 'the FRUIT'... Barely able to hold it, the little boy just can't wait to grab 'the FRUIT'....
"Hohoho... Let me hold it for you... Here... Have a bite...."
The little boy excitedly opened up his mouth and took a BITE... SPLENDID... "SO.... This is HOW 'the FRUIT' taste like....??" Thought the little boy... Then slowly, he enjoyed and tasted the rest of 'the FRUIT'....
When he's done. The old man unfolded him to reveal an apple core in his hand... The boy was stunned... Felt CHEATED...
"What..??? This is 'the FRUIT'??! You CHEATED ME you OLD FOOL!!!"
But the old man just replied laughing... "Well... But it certainly tasted good now, doesn't it...?" -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Sorry, I simply can't refrain myself in writing this...
ONCE, there was this 'the FRUIT'. A LEGEND. Heard by MANY, yet only a few truly got to TASTE it... Its SWEETNESS, JUICINESS... The SMELL...
And there was this little boy who happens to bump into this old man (don't ask me why always 'old man'.. ) one day... And the old man reveals that he actually grow some of these rare exotic 'the FRUIT'... After much pleading, the old man finally agrees to let the little boy a TASTE of 'the FRUIT'...
He led him into his hut and blindfolded the little boy.. As the little boy got so excited and kept thinking of how 'the FRUIT' would look like and taste like... The old man brought to the attention the SMELL of 'the FRUIT'... Barely able to hold it, the little boy just can't wait to grab 'the FRUIT'....
"Hohoho... Let me hold it for you... Here... Have a bite...."
The little boy excitedly opened up his mouth and took a BITE... SPLENDID... "SO.... This is HOW 'the FRUIT' taste like....??" Thought the little boy... Then slowly, he enjoyed and tasted the rest of 'the FRUIT'....
When he's done. The old man unfolded him to reveal an apple core in his hand... The boy was stunned... Felt CHEATED... "What..??? This is 'the FRUIT'??! You CHEATED ME you OLD FOOL!!!"
But the old man just replied laughing... "Well... But it certainly tasted good now, doesn't it...?" Cute story...
Maybe you can tell me how does it relate to my claims?
I just want to know the meaning in details. -
Some people believes The One comes by fate(yuan) --DREAMEROriginally posted by M©+square:General school of thoughts:
Some people believes The One comes by fate(yuan)
Some believes in searching for The One (Active)
Some believes in waiting for The One (Passive)
Some believes in having one and making him/her The One
Some believes in the law of probablity (Trying out and find out who's the best)
There are many The Ones (One after another)
Some believes in praying for The One to appear....
Some believes in searching for The One (Active) -- WORKER
Some believes in waiting for The One (Passive) -- ANTICIPATOR
Some believes in having one and making him/her The One -- WORRIER
Some believes in the law of probablity (Trying out and find out who's the best) -- GAMBLER
There are many The Ones (One after another) -- GONER
Some believes in praying for The One to appear.... THE HOPEFUL -
Welldone... tt boy hated apple... but tastes nice to him coz he ate it, not just see it...Originally posted by Devil1976:Sorry, I simply can't refrain myself in writing this...
ONCE, there was this 'the FRUIT'. A LEGEND. Heard by MANY, yet only a few truly got to TASTE it... Its SWEETNESS, JUICINESS... The SMELL...
And there was this little boy who happens to bump into this old man (don't ask me why always 'old man'.. ) one day... And the old man reveals that he actually grow some of these rare exotic 'the FRUIT'... After much pleading, the old man finally agrees to let the little boy a TASTE of 'the FRUIT'...
He led him into his hut and blindfolded the little boy.. As the little boy got so excited and kept thinking of how 'the FRUIT' would look like and taste like... The old man brought to the attention the SMELL of 'the FRUIT'... Barely able to hold it, the little boy just can't wait to grab 'the FRUIT'....
"Hohoho... Let me hold it for you... Here... Have a bite...."
The little boy excitedly opened up his mouth and took a BITE... SPLENDID... "SO.... This is HOW 'the FRUIT' taste like....??" Thought the little boy... Then slowly, he enjoyed and tasted the rest of 'the FRUIT'....
When he's done. The old man unfolded him to reveal an apple core in his hand... The boy was stunned... Felt CHEATED... "What..??? This is 'the FRUIT'??! You CHEATED ME you OLD FOOL!!!"
But the old man just replied laughing... "Well... But it certainly tasted good now, doesn't it...?"
Well, its not the ONE thing... its the SUITABLE ONE thingy... cool. -
I will choose to remain single all my life.
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Originally posted by M©+square: Cute story...
Maybe you can tell me how does it relate to my claims?
I just want to know the meaning in details.
What I think Devil meant was:
True Love is somewhat like ghost: everyone knows it, but few have seen it. People who 'seemingly' thought that they have encountered The One and lost it - felt it was a mistake. Be it whether he/she may not be The One or whether if that would be the end of everything... people always forgot how good the memories were... how much they have grown from it... how much they have learn.
The One DOESN'T promise final journey - it promise lessons that NOBODY else could give you.
P.S: Even astrology cannot 100% determine The One. There are strong connections between harmonious couples, but freewill has the most say in everything. Harmonious couple could STILL do come to an end and intense relationship can still last forever. So tell me, what's the ultimate definition of The One? 
Cheers -
wow.... Yunhaier.... you really provided useful insights into relationship problems.... good analysis....!!! Bravo!
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/me whisper 'And yes... I have already credited your account with cash.'Originally posted by v gal:wow.... Yunhaier.... you really provided useful insights into relationship problems.... good analysis....!!! Bravo! 
Cheers -
everybody hv own idea of the "one".... but when they left, of course the person is definitely not "the one"... u will only know who is actua "the one" at the end of your life...
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To a large extent, I agree wif u. My best fren decided long ago, tt his 2nd ex was The One, & he'd wait for her, even after going out wif his 3rd gf (which he later broke up wif). Later on, he changed his mind, cosh somebody else swept him off his feet, & he's so happee wif this person, he does ev. thg he can to please her, cherish her & make her happee, cosh he feels she completes him the way his 2nd ex never did. He feels she's The One. Lucky girl, eh? : )
That's me *winkz*
And he's The One for me too : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by M©+square:General school of thoughts:
Some people believes The One comes by fate(yuan)
Some believes in searching for The One (Active)
Some believes in waiting for The One (Passive)
Some believes in having one and making him/her The One
Some believes in the law of probablity (Trying out and find out who's the best)
There are many The Ones (One after another)
Some believes in praying for The One to appear....
___________________________________________________
Personally i didn't believe in the One theory.
Any girl whom i love will be the One.
I'm not sure how to phrase it, i just have this feel that there are many people who aren't practical about relationship.
I mean...how do you qualify him or her as the One?
Let's say you're age 20 and waiting for the one, one fine day at 11pm Christmas Eve. You bump onto him/her and got to know one another by chance. You liked him/her from the first time you guys bumped onto one another. You know that he/she is the ONE. Things went on smoothly till went character changes and the relationship started drifting apart.
Everything was done and nothing could draw the two of you together.
So the both of you broke up.
The ONe left and got a new relationship after a few weeks.
My point being: Your The One left and became another girl/guy's The One.
Are you going to be single all your life since The One has left, and there is nomore The One.
Or you'll be waiting for The Two to appear?
Second point being: You think you believe in the One. Do you know what you're believe in? How could you be sure who is the One?
I'm not trying to put off this thinking/concept/belief/theory, but i question this naive thought from many galfriends i spoke to. Many awoke from their thoughts and realised something very important.
Third point: I don't believe in the One thingy but if i were to be more emotional and choose a ideal answer. I'd choose: having one and making him/her The One. Because i believe every relationship happens or a reason and making the best out of it, and making sure i'll leave no regrets, even i know that i cannot control the life span between two persons, it hurts to know it has to end someday. But i've got to make sure that Love truly exists in tat particular relationship and in every relationship...
Why? Mainly because i believe in living to truly taste Love.
The One is what i make out of...not what pops out before me.
Fourth point: If you think he/she is the One now. Think again and again and again. After Five to ten yrs down the road, think again of what you've claimed those days.
Maybe the One standing before you on the Aisle and wearing tuxedo saying wedding vows to you is your eighth or tenth! Haha.
Who knows.....
I'll end here and leave the rest for your thoughts. Don't be too sure of what you think. Don't take everything too seriously, yet do not fool around with things you cherish. Learning to Learn thru experiences is a gift in life.
Cheers -
Hmm...how about waiting for the potential 'The One' to become the real 'The One'?
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It DOESN'T REALLY MATTER if the person's 'THE ONE'...Originally posted by M©+square: Cute story...
Maybe you can tell me how does it relate to my claims?
I just want to know the meaning in details. If you REALLY LOVE that PERSON, then you should learn to CARE for him / her and TREASURE him / her!
STOP WASTING YOUR TIME trying to figure out if the person's really 'the one' or even if there's such thing as 'the one'... If the person you TRULY LOVE now is not 'the one', does that mean you should just dump him / her? -
For your friend's case. We'll just wait and see lor.Originally posted by FeowFeow:To a large extent, I agree wif u. My best fren decided long ago, tt his 2nd ex was The One, & he'd wait for her, even after going out wif his 3rd gf (which he later broke up wif). [colour=blue]Later on, he changed his mind, cosh somebody else swept him off his feet, & he's so happee wif this person, he does ev. thg he can to please her, cherish her & make her happee, cosh he feels she completes him the way his 2nd ex never did. He feels she's The One.[/colour] Lucky girl, eh? : )
That's me *winkz*
And he's The One for me too : )
FeowFeow
As like i've said. A relationship is not complete just by seeing couple happy. I have seen cases of a couple(both my close friends but the guy is a player converted by this girl into a good bf) satisfying one another in many aspects and they looked really blissful. I've had chances to ask each of them personally how they've felt being in their relationship, and they were happy.
Lucky guy and girl....until one fine day, they broke up and he called me up crying away. He didn't understand a single thing he did wrong.
Something i found out from her. She had a quiet desire for a adventurous and playful guy. My friend is too 'NICE' to her and she agreed being happy with him cos he did all she wanted a guy to. But he lacks something. So she left.
>>>Too too many of such cases, ASk YUnnie and Dev about it. He believes in that she had completed him, does it apply the same to her? How would anyone know other then herself? Foundation of relationship, duration of being together, personality traits, character compatibility, being most important when looking into a more secured relationship. Social circle and external factors comes next.
Like in my fourth point, i have already stood on my point.
We can do our best, however we cannot control another party of emotions and depth of love unless AOS is applied.
And like your friend have said. He believed in 'Some believes in searching for The One (Active)'
Half of me will bless him, but the other half denies his point.
His decision in years down the road might become a pattern or broken relationship might lead him to evolve for better or worse.
Eg. 2nd gf - the One then changed to the present gf(the One)
Then present gf broke up, 4th gf became the one...he chnged his mind many times.
Dearest FeowFeow,Originally posted by Yunhaier:[b]The One DOESN'T promise final journey - it promise lessons that NOBODY else could give you.
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I like this quote below. Thanks Brutus...nice contribution
[quote]Originally posted by BrUtUs:
everybody hv own idea of the "one".... but when they left, of course the person is definitely not "the one"... u will only know who is actually "the one" at the end of your life...
For your guy, time will tell. And i really hope he's the One for ya too!
Cheers -
Why do want to wait? Any good reasons for it?Originally posted by parn:Hmm...how about waiting for the potential 'The One' to become the real 'The One'? -
Orh, in short it's my point three la.Originally posted by Devil1976:It DOESN'T REALLY MATTER if the person's 'THE ONE'... If you REALLY LOVE that PERSON, then you should learn to CARE for him / her and TREASURE him / her!
STOP WASTING YOUR TIME trying to figure out if the person's really 'the one' or even if there's such thing as 'the one'... If the person you TRULY LOVE now is not 'the one', does that mean you should just dump him / her?
Yunnie got his concept of the story. Cloud version.
I've got mine. M© version.
But in Love. What is the role of old man? God or cupid or Lesson or destined enlightenment??? Hmm..
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Waiting for the person to learn how to love, waiting for the person to decide to fall in love, waiting for the person to love me.Originally posted by M©+square:Why do want to wait? Any good reasons for it?
So which category do I fall into? -
The passive one.Originally posted by parn:Waiting for the person to learn how to love, waiting for the person to decide to fall in love, waiting for the person to love me.
So which category do I fall into? -
The One comes by fate(yuan)
got fate will meet the one I truly love if not, then wait n wait loh -
Originally posted by M©+square:Orh, in short it's my point three la.
Yunnie got his concept of the story. Cloud version.
I've got mine. M© version.
But in Love. What is the role of old man? God or cupid or Lesson or destined enlightenment??? Hmm.. 