x2, she most likely wont listen since she is blinded by love... Best is to hope and pray that she realise her mistake soonOriginally posted by Oyster Omelette:Advice will fall into deaf ears.
Left her to experience the pain herself instead.
She will came to know the light one day.
She may suffer in the future according to what we think might happened. However, what we think is not important to her cos it is afterall her own life and judgment that she decides to have her future with this guy.Originally posted by laurence82:This story actually is more for gals, guys can also comment...
Let say u got a best friend, she is ur best friend in the world, u all do things together since young, adore the same guys in school, join the same club, etc etc
Then when u all grew older, she found the love of her life - a boyfren. She is soon gonna be married to this guy.
But u know, this guy is the worst scum the world ever produced. He has done lots of bad things before, mabbe flirting around, have a second gal, while still having the first gal, terrible stuff
u know she is gonna suffer if she is gonna get married to this guy.
What would you do?![]()
Not an alient topic.. been thru somthing like dat.. I am a guy and I do have a close female friend. The situation is somewhat different in that she knows that the guy is the worst scum the world has produced cos she did catch the guy in bed with someone else and openly flirting (in her presence). But still she stuck with him.. took a great deal of effort to talk sense into her and paint her real dark and glommy images of her doomed "marriage" with this guy if she continues til marriage.. Well she bought into the idea and so decided to not continue the relationship. She's with someone else now (no not me) but she still pines (occassionally for this guy)..Originally posted by laurence82:This story actually is more for gals, guys can also comment...
Let say u got a best friend, she is ur best friend in the world, u all do things together since young, adore the same guys in school, join the same club, etc etc
Then when u all grew older, she found the love of her life - a boyfren. She is soon gonna be married to this guy.
But u know, this guy is the worst scum the world ever produced. He has done lots of bad things before, mabbe flirting around, have a second gal, while still having the first gal, terrible stuff
u know she is gonna suffer if she is gonna get married to this guy.
What would you do?![]()
Actually no one can judge somebody else with whatever they thought.Originally posted by laurence82:But u know, this guy is the worst scum the world ever produced. He has done lots of bad things before, mabbe flirting around, have a second gal, while still having the first gal, terrible stuff
agrees... esp when she's so in love with that guy...Originally posted by elindra:You can advise and show the evidence but remember one thing:
The messenger gets the blame.
It is a common thing for someone who does not want to know to blame and kill the messenger. So be prepared that for her happiness you might unwittingly sacrifice the relationship you have with her.
and another thing... when u r talking to her in times of trouble, dun say "I told u so" kind of wordings.... will only be rubbing salt on her wounds nia...Originally posted by laurence82:wow, great discussion
yah, its true, when someone trust or love someone else deep enuff, no matter what third party say, the advice will fall deaf ears...there might be even quarrels and breakdown in friendship
this question was thrown up during a discussion with frens, and one of the really good solution i heard was this
'well let him or her be, but as a friend, if you really cherish your friendship, dont forget abt him or her, there will be one day when she or he will regret it, and might be even be in trouble, but what u can do is to have the door open always, a door which your friend come through to u in times of trouble"
she will be very du lanz oso.. den she will remember never to approach u for advice or wateva..Originally posted by coolger03:and another thing... when u r talking to her in times of trouble, dun say "I told u so" kind of wordings.... will only be rubbing salt on her wounds nia...
Either have a heart to heart talk with her. Or show some evidence to her. Maybe even have a lady frd to tell her.Originally posted by laurence82:This story actually is more for gals, guys can also comment...
Let say u got a best friend, she is ur best friend in the world, u all do things together since young, adore the same guys in school, join the same club, etc etc
Then when u all grew older, she found the love of her life - a boyfren. She is soon gonna be married to this guy.
But u know, this guy is the worst scum the world ever produced. He has done lots of bad things before, mabbe flirting around, have a second gal, while still having the first gal, terrible stuff
u know she is gonna suffer if she is gonna get married to this guy.
What would you do?![]()
as a good fren u have to let her know wat u know...Originally posted by laurence82:This story actually is more for gals, guys can also comment...
Let say u got a best friend, she is ur best friend in the world, u all do things together since young, adore the same guys in school, join the same club, etc etc
Then when u all grew older, she found the love of her life - a boyfren. She is soon gonna be married to this guy.
But u know, this guy is the worst scum the world ever produced. He has done lots of bad things before, mabbe flirting around, have a second gal, while still having the first gal, terrible stuff
u know she is gonna suffer if she is gonna get married to this guy.
What would you do?![]()
Let her be...Originally posted by laurence82:This story actually is more for gals, guys can also comment...
Let say u got a best friend, she is ur best friend in the world, u all do things together since young, adore the same guys in school, join the same club, etc etc
Then when u all grew older, she found the love of her life - a boyfren. She is soon gonna be married to this guy.
But u know, this guy is the worst scum the world ever produced. He has done lots of bad things before, mabbe flirting around, have a second gal, while still having the first gal, terrible stuff
u know she is gonna suffer if she is gonna get married to this guy.
What would you do?![]()