Qn for the girls: Will you ever forgive someone who...

• rumie

  2 Mar 05, 21:53

  sigh...
• hopy

  2 Mar 05, 22:07

  hmmm... depends on whether i found it out myself or he confess himself
• rumie

  2 Mar 05, 22:20

  Originally posted by hopy:

  hmmm... depends on whether i found it out myself or he confess himself

  so what if:
  
  he confessed?
  
  you find out?
  
  got diff meh?
• hopy

  2 Mar 05, 22:23

  Originally posted by rumie:

  so what if:
  
  he confessed?
  
  you find out?
  
  got diff meh?

  got.. if he confessed, it shows that he knows that wat he's doing is actually wrong... but if i find it out myself... tt's it
  
  but then other factors into play would be like r u2 married, hv kids anot lah
• tan_william

  2 Mar 05, 22:28

  but will you trust him again??
• hopy

  2 Mar 05, 22:32

  Originally posted by tan_william:

  but will you trust him again??

  i wld.. but then its harder to build it up again.. takes time n efforts fr both parties.. as the saying goes, no matter how nice u put back the pieces of a broken vase, the cracks will still be there.. so must really make the effort to n most couples wld choose the easy way out..
• rumie

  2 Mar 05, 22:32

  Originally posted by hopy:

  got.. if he confessed, it shows that he knows that wat he's doing is actually wrong... but if i find it out myself... tt's it
  
  but then other factors into play would be like r u2 married, hv kids anot lah

  what if he breaks up with you first, cos he knows he's wrong and dun wanna hurt you further by staying on.
  
  then tell you the truth?
  
  will you still detest him?
• hopy

  2 Mar 05, 22:35

  Originally posted by rumie:

  what if he breaks up with you first, cos he knows he's wrong and dun wanna hurt you further by staying on.
  
  then tell you the truth?
  
  will you still detest him?

  then u must 1st find out whether the real reason behind the breakup is really bcoz he dun wanna hurt u or he wants to be w/ the other gal...
• rumie

  2 Mar 05, 22:41

  Originally posted by hopy:

  then u must 1st find out whether the real reason behind the breakup is really bcoz he dun wanna hurt u or he wants to be w/ the other gal...

  assuming he really dun wanna hurt you... then? still detest?
• rumie

  2 Mar 05, 22:42

  wah, the rate of replying for this post, like msn like that... quite instant leh~
• hopy

  2 Mar 05, 22:43

  Originally posted by rumie:

  assuming he really dun wanna hurt you... then? still detest?

  think i wld still give him 1 chance if he really shows sincerity in changing for the better ba..
• hopy

  2 Mar 05, 22:45

  Originally posted by rumie:

  wah, the rate of replying for this post, like msn like that... quite instant leh~

  if im still online tt is
• juz_A_gal

  3 Mar 05, 08:01

  wah. buey tahan 2-timers. means 2 sides also got feelings one....
  anyway... if want me to trust him again, gonna take a hell of a lot of convincing.
  if i find out on my own, then i guess r/s gone case liaoz. but then again, want to cut off on the spot immediately with him will be very difficult.. sighz... 'cos the love is still there... so whether in e end i forgive him... er... dunno lehz. see his convincing power bah.
  
  if confess to me, then i'll ask him to choose. if he chooses me, then fine, i'll try to see past it. on the spot he must choose, and he must cut off from the other person COMPLETELY.
• icepole

  3 Mar 05, 10:15

  personally, i would end the r'ship regardless if i found out or he confessed.
  
  why would he do such thing if he truly loves me in the first place? is the love for each other so fragile that one could not withstand temptation? did he think of the consequences? why can't he be man enough to practice fidelity?
  
  i'll never forget the pain he has inflicted on me. that's it!
• icyprincess

  3 Mar 05, 10:29

  I would break up with him, and when I break up with someone, there goes the friendship as well.
  
  Maybe one day this will change, but so far this has been the rule...
  
  i.c.y
• parn

  3 Mar 05, 10:50

  Will forgive him...afterall forgive is divine right?
  
  And I will continue to be loving to him to the point when I'm 110% sure that he is definitely in love with me, then I will dump him absolutely. But before that, have to make sure that he have to make alot of sacrifices for me to forgive him for his two-timing affair.
  
  If a guy can betray you once, he can and will definitely betray you again.
  
  Time to die.
• wishhunter

  3 Mar 05, 11:01

  forgive but no more chance
• FeowFeow

  3 Mar 05, 11:59

  It depends on the situation. If I find out on my own & confront him, & he confesses & is truly sorree, I will forgive. The pain will be there for awhile, but if I can see he's truly making an effort, I'll still forgive.
  
  But if it happens again, then No more chances.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by rumie:

  ... had cheated on you? As in, double-timing you?
  
  Will you ever talk to him again?
  
  Why yes?
  
  And why not?

• Waterapple

  3 Mar 05, 16:37

  I would forgive him. But he must bear the consequences of a break up with me. We would only remain as normal friends with minimal friendship for each other.
  
  
• elindra

  3 Mar 05, 16:43

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  It depends on the situation. If I find out on my own & confront him, & he confesses & is truly sorree, I will forgive. The pain will be there for awhile, but if I can see he's truly making an effort, I'll still forgive.
  
  But if it happens again, then No more chances.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Agreed!
• ShrodingersCat

  3 Mar 05, 17:06

  i think if slept with someone
  sincerely SORRY
  and wish to make up for it
  and he is worth it
  yeah i will forgive
  
  BUT if it is an extended TWO timing thing
  then nope. Cos two timing is unforgiveable. its like difference between
  manslaughter and premeditated murder.
  
  
• Haze|

  4 Mar 05, 09:24

  me not willing to forgive ..
  i wld tell myself that i deserve a much better guy than this unfaithful jerk.
  
  
• gerrykoh

  4 Mar 05, 09:46

  No. The relationship is based on lies, he has two-timed so how to know he will not do it again.
• choco B

  4 Mar 05, 09:48

  I may want to try, but not sure if I have the grace to forgive or not.
  
• Devil1976

  4 Mar 05, 12:22

  Originally posted by parn:

  Will forgive him...afterall forgive is divine right?
  
  And I will continue to be loving to him to the point when I'm 110% sure that he is definitely in love with me, then I will dump him absolutely. But before that, have to make sure that he have to make alot of sacrifices for me to forgive him for his two-timing affair.
  
  If a guy can betray you once, he can and will definitely betray you again.
  
  Time to die.

  ......