is this the end??? pls read and give me some useful advice

• c2on2

  5 Mar 05, 17:01

  hi people, yesterday i confessed my feelings to a gal whom i realli liked for some time and i felt we got a chance to be together. i asked her to be my galfren but the answer that i receive is she felt that its too sudden and will consider..
  
  up till now i had not receive any reply from her...
  
  i am feeling sad and losing hope and i got a feeling she is trying to think of how to reject me without me suffering so much.
  
  i am feeling demoralised and losing my focus on my studies and i actually cried a bit last night thinking of this..
  
  any advice ?
  
  
• cutepixie

  5 Mar 05, 17:11

  well...i don't think she doesn't like you as she didnt reject you. She just asked for some time to consider. If she really wasn't interested she would have said no on the spot and ask to be friends instead or something. cheer up ok
• smoke

  5 Mar 05, 17:24

  Originally posted by c2on2:

  hi people, yesterday i confessed my feelings to a gal whom i realli liked for some time and i felt we got a chance to be together. i asked her to be my galfren but the answer that i receive is she felt that its too sudden and will consider..
  
  up till now i had not receive any reply from her...
  
  i am feeling sad and losing hope and i got a feeling she is trying to think of how to reject me without me suffering so much.
  
  i am feeling demoralised and losing my focus on my studies and i actually cried a bit last night thinking of this..
  
  any advice ?
  
  

  Hi c2on2, I don't think she doesn't like you and as what cutepixie said, she would have rejected you on the spot if she doesn't.
  
  There could be something there's hindering her, maybe an unhappy previous relationship, maybe haven't got over her ex, maybe not ready for a new relationship, many many possibilities. Did you find out all these before you actually confessed to her?
  
  Since you have already done what you did, don't worry about the outcome. Continue keeping in touch with her but DO NOT BROACH ON THE TOPIC on starting a relationship. Keep everything as for normal and wait for her to bring up the topic with you.
  
  Good luck!
• c2on2

  5 Mar 05, 22:58

  regarding the considering part it was i who asked her to consider... not she's the one who mentioned it... she was veri quiet and said she find it too sudden and duno wat to say...
  
  
• nuchio

  5 Mar 05, 23:16

  i am sorry to tell you that she doesnt like you.
  
  i am a woman and in my world, there is this thing we call 'give face', a.k.a - not wanting to hurt his pride.
  
  life is very long, you will go on to like others, be rejected and also be liked and reject others along the way till you find your soul mate.
  
  some day, you will wonder what you saw in her and ask yourself why you cried (if you remember).
  
  this is part of growing up. everyone goes through that.
  
  be strong ! you will live.
  
• smoke

  6 Mar 05, 05:13

  Originally posted by c2on2:

  regarding the considering part it was i who asked her to consider... not she's the one who mentioned it... she was veri quiet and said she find it too sudden and duno wat to say...
  
  

  If this is the case, I'm sorry, no chance already.
  
  Don't worry, eventually someone else will come along one day and you'll be happy again.
• BrUtUs

  6 Mar 05, 05:50

  Originally posted by c2on2:

  hi people, yesterday i confessed my feelings to a gal whom i realli liked for some time and i felt we got a chance to be together. i asked her to be my galfren but the answer that i receive is she felt that its too sudden and will consider..
  
  up till now i had not receive any reply from her...
  
  i am feeling sad and losing hope and i got a feeling she is trying to think of how to reject me without me suffering so much.
  
  i am feeling demoralised and losing my focus on my studies and i actually cried a bit last night thinking of this..
  
  any advice ?
  
  

  its not the end yet, mayb u didnt give her enuff feeling for u... ask her out more lor...
• bratpig

  6 Mar 05, 08:54

  face it. she doesnt like you. if she likes you, she doesnt even have to consider.
  some girls are just too polite to reject u on the spot. by dragging on, she is hoping that you will ever forget you asked her that qns.
  
  anyway, dont feel too sad. you'll get used to the feeling
• smoke

  6 Mar 05, 11:57

  Originally posted by BrUtUs:

  its not the end yet, mayb u didnt give her enuff feeling for u... ask her out more lor...

  If our brother here still persist, she'll start avoiding him and he'll feel worse. It's better that he'll just drop her a msg once in a while to find out if she's fine.
• Waterapple

  7 Mar 05, 09:30

  Originally posted by nuchio:

  i am sorry to tell you that she doesnt like you.
  
  i am a woman and in my world, there is this thing we call 'give face', a.k.a - not wanting to hurt his pride.
  
  life is very long, you will go on to like others, be rejected and also be liked and reject others along the way till you find your soul mate.
  
  some day, you will wonder what you saw in her and ask yourself why you cried (if you remember).
  
  this is part of growing up. everyone goes through that.
  
  be strong ! you will live.
  

  I am sorry to say this but I have to second what is mentioned above by nuchio. This girl has rejected you though she does not say it in your face. Her heart and mind do.
  
  However, if you really want to pursue her, just go on. Be just a little bit more perseverance but do not annoy her. Just let her know that whether she like you or not, your feelings for her don't change and you don't need her to repay you with anything. Soon one day she would discover more of what you are and this may mean a second chance.
  
  
• gerrykoh

  7 Mar 05, 10:04

  Give her time to consider, don't rush her.
  In the meantime just remain friends & showing your good qualities.
  Slowly she may change her mind.
• BaByBoY

  7 Mar 05, 10:18

  Originally posted by c2on2:

  hi people, yesterday i confessed my feelings to a gal whom i realli liked for some time and i felt we got a chance to be together. i asked her to be my galfren but the answer that i receive is she felt that its too sudden and will consider..
  
  up till now i had not receive any reply from her...
  
  i am feeling sad and losing hope and i got a feeling she is trying to think of how to reject me without me suffering so much.
  
  i am feeling demoralised and losing my focus on my studies and i actually cried a bit last night thinking of this..
  
  any advice ?
  
  

  Dear c2on2,
  
  do not fret over what the ans maybe
  even if she`s to reject you
  it`s not the end of the world
  LOVE IS A PROCESS, NOT AN ANSWER
  do not demand any answer from her
  it`s you who love her and want to provide a gd life for her
  if u jus rush her for an immediate ans
  then you`ll most prob get a negative ans
  and that wil be bad for both parties
  
  keep on lovin her and show her care and concern
  humans are emotional being
  one day i believe she`ll be touched by ur sincerity
  
  If you love her set her free,
  if she comes back
  she`ll be yours ( old but true )
  
  work hard for the time bein
  even if she don accept you now
  she might in the future
  
  YOU ONLY NEED TO BE SUCCESSFUL ONCE
  and cherish it
  
  Good Luck
  BaByBoY
  
• Devil1976

  7 Mar 05, 12:59

  Originally posted by c2on2:

  hi people, yesterday i confessed my feelings to a gal whom i realli liked for some time and i felt we got a chance to be together. i asked her to be my galfren but the answer that i receive is she felt that its too sudden and will consider..
  
  up till now i had not receive any reply from her...
  
  i am feeling sad and losing hope and i got a feeling she is trying to think of how to reject me without me suffering so much.
  
  i am feeling demoralised and losing my focus on my studies and i actually cried a bit last night thinking of this..
  
  any advice ?
  
  

  You simply can't make a proposal without expecting any chance of being rejected...?
• jojoma

  7 Mar 05, 13:03

  Give her sometimes, she might be sorting out her tots.
  Let her action and words confirm it.
• c2on2

  13 Mar 05, 14:41

  hehe i think i succeeding already.. she responds quite positively to me nowadays and we resume our chit chat sessions and occasional outings together..
  
• nightzip

  13 Mar 05, 15:26

  ok, zhai jie zhai li.
  
  remember dun do things too fast, and also express your love and concern for her if ever you all go out together, like where to eat, buy food for her, etc..be gentlemanly.
• Devil1976

  13 Mar 05, 19:12

  Originally posted by c2on2:

  hehe i think i succeeding already.. she responds quite positively to me nowadays and we resume our chit chat sessions and occasional outings together..
  

  ~Good luck!
• RyanKoh

  13 Mar 05, 19:22

  Slowly lah, good things are meant to be wait....
• alexkusu

  13 Mar 05, 20:41

  Well, u asked, so u got 50% chance now...its like gambling..only thing is u have to wait abit..then hit jackpot~ if not, then play other lottery