Upsets this time
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It seems like i have more things to complain each week.
Found out something which my bf intended to hide from me but his auntie told me so i went to ask him.
It happened like this.. The auntie asked if i was out with him last night which i wasn't cos he sent me home, den went out after dat which i din know. So i asked why, den she told me the car reeks of alcohol and the passenger seat was pushed very much in front.
So i got so suspicious and went to ask him. He told me he went out to have a drink so i ask with who. den he said with 'Friend' so i jus guessed a name and got right on the first try.
This woman has been msging him and trying to go out wiht him for the past 2 weeks. So she was successful last night. And i asked why din he tell me?
He said, 'Tell you also angry, don't tell you nothing happen' So i told him, i am more pissed if i found out and yes i did find out. Den he said, "see you get jealous'
like really, if that was wat he wants me to do, i will be. N i do feel insecure at times cos he gets attention from girls and he points out that i don trust him enough.
Is it me who don't trust him enough? I am ok with it if he told me b4 hand but i seriously can't stand pple who lied to me. -
dump him, he's wasting your time...
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Basically, at the end of the day, it is how you feel towards him and the relationship you are in.Originally posted by dezling:It seems like i have more things to complain each week.
Found out something which my bf intended to hide from me but his auntie told me so i went to ask him.
It happened like this.. The auntie asked if i was out with him last night which i wasn't cos he sent me home, den went out after dat which i din know. So i asked why, den she told me the car reeks of alcohol and the passenger seat was pushed very much in front.
So i got so suspicious and went to ask him. He told me he went out to have a drink so i ask with who. den he said with 'Friend' so i jus guessed a name and got right on the first try.
This woman has been msging him and trying to go out wiht him for the past 2 weeks. So she was successful last night. And i asked why din he tell me?
He said, 'Tell you also angry, don't tell you nothing happen' So i told him, i am more pissed if i found out and yes i did find out. Den he said, "see you get jealous'
like really, if that was wat he wants me to do, i will be. N i do feel insecure at times cos he gets attention from girls and he points out that i don trust him enough.
Is it me who don't trust him enough? I am ok with it if he told me b4 hand but i seriously can't stand pple who lied to me.
If you feel that you can't trust him, then there is no point continuing this relationship any further because it will only get worst till the extend only one of you will give up or majorly blow up.
I know this through exprience...
Anyway, it is your choice and how much you feel...
Be it for security, love etc...
Once you decided what to do...
Here is a advice...
Whatever choice you make, don't regret it later on in life...
Take care... -
if can't trust don't be together
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Ask yourself if your bf did anything to make you doubt him before this incident. Sometimes guys would rather choose to tell a white lie than to tell the truth. Why? So that woman would not kick up a big fuss over nothing.
Communicate with him that you are feeling insecure and you hope to make this r'ship works. If you're really fine with him going out with his friends, let him know. BUT make sure you do not get angry if he tells you the truth next time.
Trust is the fundamental aspect to a healthy & stable r'ship. Without that, endless squabbles will arise, destroying the r'ship slowly but surely. Give him the trust that he deserves. If he should break it, then you retrieve it. -
So what ya reckon you should do next?Originally posted by dezling:It seems like i have more things to complain each week.
Found out something which my bf intended to hide from me but his auntie told me so i went to ask him.
It happened like this.. The auntie asked if i was out with him last night which i wasn't cos he sent me home, den went out after dat which i din know. So i asked why, den she told me the car reeks of alcohol and the passenger seat was pushed very much in front.
So i got so suspicious and went to ask him. He told me he went out to have a drink so i ask with who. den he said with 'Friend' so i jus guessed a name and got right on the first try.
This woman has been msging him and trying to go out wiht him for the past 2 weeks. So she was successful last night. And i asked why din he tell me?
He said, 'Tell you also angry, don't tell you nothing happen' So i told him, i am more pissed if i found out and yes i did find out. Den he said, "see you get jealous'
like really, if that was wat he wants me to do, i will be. N i do feel insecure at times cos he gets attention from girls and he points out that i don trust him enough.
Is it me who don't trust him enough? I am ok with it if he told me b4 hand but i seriously can't stand pple who lied to me. -
Skeletons slowly crawling out from closet?
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Hmm...wondered why your bf decided to go out with that gal 'Friend' eventually.
Find out his intentions and the real reason behind his intentions first before you conclude this matter.
I felt that he could have told you about his meeting with that 'Friend' of his if his intentions were pure. However, I'm afraid it isn't so simple. You see, he was worried that you might be upset and worse still, stop him from meeting this 'Friend' of his. So...it seems to me that it is rather important for him to meet up with that 'Friend'. Even if he has an important reason behind it, he could have told you about it...unless there is a hidden agenda behind it?
Anyway, don't mean to lead you on...but I also can't stand if my partner lied to me other than giving me a surprise and other pure intentions.
He should have informed you about it if his intentions were honourable. -
Well, i asked him about it already and he said the girl called him very late. His ex clubbing mate. So by the time he went out, i was already asleep and he din want to wake me up.
Den i asked what's so urgent abt meeting up den he said dat she is having bf problems and need someone to talk to.
And u know, the last person anyone will want to talk to is to my bf cos he don give advices. and why would the girl (who happens to be his ex gf's friend) find him instead of her other gfs who are closer. You see. that's why i am so pissed off with him.
He can be jus SO inconsiderate at times. N yet he had the guts to scream at me for making a big fuss. -
Well, i asked him about it already and he said the girl called him very late. His ex clubbing mate. So by the time he went out, i was already asleep and he din want to wake me up.
Den i asked what's so urgent abt meeting up den he said dat she is having bf problems and need someone to talk to.
And u know, the last person anyone will want to talk to is to my bf cos he don give advices. and why would the girl (who happens to be his ex gf's friend) find him instead of her other gfs who are closer. You see. that's why i am so pissed off with him.
He can be jus SO inconsiderate at times. N yet he had the guts to scream at me for making a big fuss. -
Hmm... Sorry... Can't help but to think it's fishy..?Originally posted by dezling:Well, i asked him about it already and he said the girl called him very late. His ex clubbing mate. So by the time he went out, i was already asleep and he din want to wake me up.
Den i asked what's so urgent abt meeting up den he said dat she is having bf problems and need someone to talk to.
And u know, the last person anyone will want to talk to is to my bf cos he don give advices. and why would the girl (who happens to be his ex gf's friend) find him instead of her other gfs who are closer. You see. that's why i am so pissed off with him.
He can be jus SO inconsiderate at times. N yet he had the guts to scream at me for making a big fuss.
Either you don't know him very well, or you don't know his true colors at all...? -
i have trusted him all along.
Exactly. I think its fishy too. i told him 'girls would ask a guy whom they are not so close with to discuss bf problems - pls lor, it will end up in bed'
He tells me i am too creative and should become a director.
you see, that's the thing.
Sigh, and the frens he mixes w aren't exactly the best pple you can find around. One sleeps arnd too often.
Gross man -
Nay.... This is not necessarily true what....Originally posted by dezling:i have trusted him all along.
Exactly. I think its fishy too. i told him 'girls would ask a guy whom they are not so close with to discuss bf problems - pls lor, it will end up in bed'
He tells me i am too creative and should become a director.
you see, that's the thing.
Sigh, and the frens he mixes w aren't exactly the best pple you can find around. One sleeps arnd too often.
Gross man
If you're not comfortable with anything, should just let him know directly rather than bottle things up? Try not to kick a big fuss out of it, but not healthy just to swallow something up yeah....? -
dump him, and be croco'sOriginally posted by dezling:It seems like i have more things to complain each week.
Found out something which my bf intended to hide from me but his auntie told me so i went to ask him.
It happened like this.. The auntie asked if i was out with him last night which i wasn't cos he sent me home, den went out after dat which i din know. So i asked why, den she told me the car reeks of alcohol and the passenger seat was pushed very much in front.
So i got so suspicious and went to ask him. He told me he went out to have a drink so i ask with who. den he said with 'Friend' so i jus guessed a name and got right on the first try.
This woman has been msging him and trying to go out wiht him for the past 2 weeks. So she was successful last night. And i asked why din he tell me?
He said, 'Tell you also angry, don't tell you nothing happen' So i told him, i am more pissed if i found out and yes i did find out. Den he said, "see you get jealous'
like really, if that was wat he wants me to do, i will be. N i do feel insecure at times cos he gets attention from girls and he points out that i don trust him enough.
Is it me who don't trust him enough? I am ok with it if he told me b4 hand but i seriously can't stand pple who lied to me.
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So wheres the trust...Originally posted by dezling:i have trusted him all along.
Exactly. I think its fishy too. i told him 'girls would ask a guy whom they are not so close with to discuss bf problems - pls lor, it will end up in bed'
He tells me i am too creative and should become a director.
you see, that's the thing.
Sigh, and the frens he mixes w aren't exactly the best pple you can find around. One sleeps arnd too often.
Gross man -
Trust is a really big word. and it entails a lot of responsibility and understanding.
I have talked out with him. Seemed like the issue is more or less settled. Cos he realized how uncomfortable i was. Den i mentioned to him if he was in my shoes and i gave him the same treatment as he gave me. So he said he wouldn't like it either.
So i presumed it is ok.
You know, when you hear too many stories of girls finding their bfs sleeping with other girls when their gfs not arnd, you will know when to trust or not. Though i might be generalizing, it might be true to a certain extent. No?
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at least he tell u ur guess of the gal name is rite.... if he told u is a guy with him ytd u also cant do anything ma.. this part he is honest. but y the front seat must push to the front le.... wierd...
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No lor, he din tell. I guesed it. cos that girl is SHORT!Originally posted by ak0:at least he tell u ur guess of the gal name is rite.... if he told u is a guy with him ytd u also cant do anything ma.. this part he is honest. but y the front seat must push to the front le.... wierd... 
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Hmm...maybe they are both quite close to each other. I wouldn't go out even if my best friend called me anytime after midnight...would be sleeping already. Whoever calls me after midnight better make sure that they are at their most desperate ends and going to die, else will will definitely get scolding from me.Originally posted by dezling:Well, i asked him about it already and he said the girl called him very late. His ex clubbing mate. So by the time he went out, i was already asleep and he din want to wake me up.
Den i asked what's so urgent abt meeting up den he said dat she is having bf problems and need someone to talk to.
And u know, the last person anyone will want to talk to is to my bf cos he don give advices. and why would the girl (who happens to be his ex gf's friend) find him instead of her other gfs who are closer. You see. that's why i am so pissed off with him.
He can be jus SO inconsiderate at times. N yet he had the guts to scream at me for making a big fuss.
Also hate those people who like to ks (kill steal) other people's bf/gf.
Well, guess your bf wouldn't be so nice to just go out with anyone he's not interested in at the middle of the night...unless he's some sort of messiah trying to save the world or a preacher? -
Not all guys are straight. Some are gay, so doesn't end up in bed...Originally posted by dezling:i have trusted him all along.
Exactly. I think its fishy too. i told him 'girls would ask a guy whom they are not so close with to discuss bf problems - pls lor, it will end up in bed'
He tells me i am too creative and should become a director.
you see, that's the thing.
Sigh, and the frens he mixes w aren't exactly the best pple you can find around. One sleeps arnd too often.
Gross man