mixed feelings....
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I have a gf of 2 years
I love her alot
I fetch her from sch/work whenever i can
i enjoy my time with her and always wish for more
she enjoys her freedom alot and do not like me meddling with her freedom
she likes to hang out with male friends(she organised a badminton outing at sch with 5 guys from her company at night and did not ask me along i wanted she fetch her she says see how) which gives me some sense of insecurity (i am an insecure guy)
my good friend is now her good friend's bf.
for some reasons, they like to chat and exchange info secretly without my knowledge. this has been going on b4 he got attached.
my group of friends are guys and she knows them all.
i am not a people's person and i often get info about them from her then its got a strange feeling on me why is she knowing so much about my friends and i need to get the info from her...
she claims she love me but then i feel she dun love me as much as before when she love to go out with me
now, i need to request to go out with her during the weekends and will be rejected coz she wants to rest at home. but for some reasons, her good friend ask her to cook together she gladly agrees. she loves anime and i spent 2 days watching 10 animes to catch up with her and wanted to watch with her the next 3 animes i have downloaded that saturday and was looking forward to it when she tell me she is cooking and rejected me in joining her. only when she knows that my good friend will be there then she ask me to come along. i was like why can't i be there if my good friend is not around? i know her friend too...
when i try to talk things out, she will say: thats me take it or leave it.
she said a few other things to hurt me too.
she never apologise sincerely for anything.
sometimes, she is driving me nuts. my good intentions are taken as her lost of freedom.
Am i worrying too much?
I think sometimes i am worrying too much
but at the same time, i think she has taken me for granted and does not love me as much as before. i feel i am the only one working on the relationship and sometimes feel a bit hard on getting it moving.
the feeling is unbearable... -
well, high chance she interested with another person. Not to pour cold water here, but from what u said, i tink is almost the case.
Maybe she has a liking for your good fren? u never know wat girls can be thinking these days. They'll will say anything mann.
since she has so many guyfrens... ... ...
Leave it to your imaginations...
Perhaps, she lost that special feeling for you.
Take care. -
Both your ages and horoscopes?Originally posted by Leion:I have a gf of 2 years
I love her alot
I fetch her from sch/work whenever i can
i enjoy my time with her and always wish for more
she enjoys her freedom alot and do not like me meddling with her freedom
she likes to hang out with male friends(she organised a badminton outing at sch with 5 guys from her company at night and did not ask me along i wanted she fetch her she says see how) which gives me some sense of insecurity (i am an insecure guy)
my good friend is now her good friend's bf.
for some reasons, they like to chat and exchange info secretly without my knowledge. this has been going on b4 he got attached.
my group of friends are guys and she knows them all.
i am not a people's person and i often get info about them from her then its got a strange feeling on me why is she knowing so much about my friends and i need to get the info from her...
she claims she love me but then i feel she dun love me as much as before when she love to go out with me
now, i need to request to go out with her during the weekends and will be rejected coz she wants to rest at home. but for some reasons, her good friend ask her to cook together she gladly agrees. she loves anime and i spent 2 days watching 10 animes to catch up with her and wanted to watch with her the next 3 animes i have downloaded that saturday and was looking forward to it when she tell me she is cooking and rejected me in joining her. only when she knows that my good friend will be there then she ask me to come along. i was like why can't i be there if my good friend is not around? i know her friend too...
when i try to talk things out, she will say: thats me take it or leave it.
she said a few other things to hurt me too.
she never apologise sincerely for anything.
sometimes, she is driving me nuts. my good intentions are taken as her lost of freedom.
Am i worrying too much?
I think sometimes i am worrying too much
but at the same time, i think she has taken me for granted and does not love me as much as before. i feel i am the only one working on the relationship and sometimes feel a bit hard on getting it moving.
the feeling is unbearable... -
Hmm...you love her too much already and she knows it and is taking you for granted. Anyway, you should start shopping around for some good girls while waiting for the inevitable to happen.
Hang out with your other girl friends while she does so with her other guy friends.
Time to bring your life to the next level.
Good luck. -
If you ask me...Originally posted by Leion:I have a gf of 2 years
I love her alot
I fetch her from sch/work whenever i can
i enjoy my time with her and always wish for more
she enjoys her freedom alot and do not like me meddling with her freedom
she likes to hang out with male friends(she organised a badminton outing at sch with 5 guys from her company at night and did not ask me along i wanted she fetch her she says see how) which gives me some sense of insecurity (i am an insecure guy)
my good friend is now her good friend's bf.
for some reasons, they like to chat and exchange info secretly without my knowledge. this has been going on b4 he got attached.
my group of friends are guys and she knows them all.
i am not a people's person and i often get info about them from her then its got a strange feeling on me why is she knowing so much about my friends and i need to get the info from her...
she claims she love me but then i feel she dun love me as much as before when she love to go out with me
now, i need to request to go out with her during the weekends and will be rejected coz she wants to rest at home. but for some reasons, her good friend ask her to cook together she gladly agrees. she loves anime and i spent 2 days watching 10 animes to catch up with her and wanted to watch with her the next 3 animes i have downloaded that saturday and was looking forward to it when she tell me she is cooking and rejected me in joining her. only when she knows that my good friend will be there then she ask me to come along. i was like why can't i be there if my good friend is not around? i know her friend too...
when i try to talk things out, she will say: thats me take it or leave it.
she said a few other things to hurt me too.
she never apologise sincerely for anything.
sometimes, she is driving me nuts. my good intentions are taken as her lost of freedom.
Am i worrying too much?
I think sometimes i am worrying too much
but at the same time, i think she has taken me for granted and does not love me as much as before. i feel i am the only one working on the relationship and sometimes feel a bit hard on getting it moving.
the feeling is unbearable...
If i were in your shoes...
Break and disappear...
You don't need this crap...
You can find someone else who is better...
Some people will never appreciate you until you are gone...
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She might be those kind who is more independent.. and can look after herself.. even though she has or no bf! Well.. do remember you love her just the way she is.. You have to accpet her who she is.. If you cant take it.. Then why in the first place you both were together?Originally posted by Leion:I have a gf of 2 years
I love her alot
I fetch her from sch/work whenever i can
i enjoy my time with her and always wish for more
she enjoys her freedom alot and do not like me meddling with her freedom
she likes to hang out with male friends(she organised a badminton outing at sch with 5 guys from her company at night and did not ask me along i wanted she fetch her she says see how) which gives me some sense of insecurity (i am an insecure guy)
my good friend is now her good friend's bf.
for some reasons, they like to chat and exchange info secretly without my knowledge. this has been going on b4 he got attached.
my group of friends are guys and she knows them all.
i am not a people's person and i often get info about them from her then its got a strange feeling on me why is she knowing so much about my friends and i need to get the info from her...
she claims she love me but then i feel she dun love me as much as before when she love to go out with me
now, i need to request to go out with her during the weekends and will be rejected coz she wants to rest at home. but for some reasons, her good friend ask her to cook together she gladly agrees. she loves anime and i spent 2 days watching 10 animes to catch up with her and wanted to watch with her the next 3 animes i have downloaded that saturday and was looking forward to it when she tell me she is cooking and rejected me in joining her. only when she knows that my good friend will be there then she ask me to come along. i was like why can't i be there if my good friend is not around? i know her friend too...
when i try to talk things out, she will say: thats me take it or leave it.
she said a few other things to hurt me too.
she never apologise sincerely for anything.
sometimes, she is driving me nuts. my good intentions are taken as her lost of freedom.
Am i worrying too much?
I think sometimes i am worrying too much
but at the same time, i think she has taken me for granted and does not love me as much as before. i feel i am the only one working on the relationship and sometimes feel a bit hard on getting it moving.
the feeling is unbearable...
You jolly-well know that she's taking you for granted.. Does she ever consider or treated you as her bf?? SOmeone who is close and can talk to?? During these two years.. do you both communicate well? Has both actually open up to each other.. that you can talked anything under the sun..?? Or jus me is me.. and she is she.. Now she would rather talked and share things with her friends than you.. Be it a guy or a girl..
I know that you tried to talk to her.. and all she answered back was either one word.. or she couldn't be bothered.. Since now all communications between you both has broken down.. Do you still think that this relationship will last further?? Sometimes love need not have to say it out loud.. actions are more important..
You have to learn to let go.. YOu are the only one who is holding on to it.. and tryin g to revive this relationship.. Is not easy.. Move on.. There's no turning back.. only to walk straight ahead.. YOu don't need anyone to tell you wat to do.. You already decided.. and have the answer to yourself.. Just do what's right for you.. Is all about what you think..
Cheers.. -
u from JJC ?
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Your gf is sociable & she likes the attention from all the guys.
As she said, u have to put up with it or learn to let go.
U should join them for group outings & be less possessive.
Monitor how she behaves within the group.
Is she particularly nice to anyone? -
In some ways, this dude is right.Originally posted by mach10:well, high chance she interested with another person. Not to pour cold water here, but from what u said, i tink is almost the case.
Maybe she has a liking for your good fren? u never know wat girls can be thinking these days. They'll will say anything mann.
since she has so many guyfrens... ... ...
Leave it to your imaginations...
Perhaps, she lost that special feeling for you.
Take care.
I used to have gf like that. Have many love for her and wanting to be with her all the time but somehow, she seem to have time for everybody except me.
And trust me, It's not an eazy feeling. At the end of it... it's splits ville between the both of us.
Though it might not be the same for you, but do be prepared for the worst... and you will know when one day she says, "We need to talk....".
My advice is be confident in yourself. I know it is not eazy to let someone whom you love, go. But at times like these... you will need to be strong and remember this, it will not kill you but only make you stronger.
Well, at least it did for me.
Good luck to you my friend. All in this forum have spoken. The rest is up to you. -
trust me bro... time 2 recover frm ur pain n look 4 a new gf.... wot u describled juz happened 2 me nt so long ago.... n guess wot?! it took ger less than 2wks 2 be wif a new guy!!!! i felt so hurt n betrayed when she actu told me stuff abt her n tt guy bastard.... trust me.... nxt time dun gif ur gf 2 much freedom but then dun tie her dwn 2 much.... learn 2 balance it in ur nxt relationship.... gd luck!!
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don jump the gun. it could be ur gf char that she likes to socialise alot. some guys have that char also. (like me
) My wife and I both have our share of friends from the opposite sex. and u have to learn to accept that though she may love u, she will still want to have her friends. (else wedding dinner all ur frens and she don have frens very sianz)
Being together means to be able to accept her as she is and she doing the same to u. changing each other wil not work cos we don come from a factory that manufacture people according to customer's specs.
if u are the insecure type and she is the sociable type, i would be tough for u to accept her behavior. you may still be young and as u grow, ur char will change too. it may be for the better or worse, depending on how u shape urself. U may need more time to accept her.
last resort if u don wanna go crazy over ur wild imagination is to leave her.but let her know the real reason. -
Hi Leion, i believe she's still schooling..tertiary level?
Like what some say, not trying to pour you with cold water, but girls ard that age aren't ready to settle down yet...
Someone has mentioned that she might have lost the interest in you, well...could be very true..
In my opinions, you're a very safe spare tyre...i.e. if she dun work out with that friend of ur, or whoever, she can always turn to you..coz she knows very well that you won't go away from her...
If she likes to have so much freedom, well..let it be...for what i know, most girls would really like to have their bfs by their side, whenever possible..if not, y bother to find a bf in the 1st place? Yes..freedom, there has to be...we need to breathe too...need to spend some time with frenz n to catch up..in that way, i strongly believe that this kinda relationship will worth out perfectly...
You used to trust your gf, but not now anyway..becoz of the insecurity she has gave you...there's a crack in this relationship...n most of us see that there's no point in carry on with these kinda relationship n to even hurt yourself even more in the future...
It also seems that she doesn't really enjoy with you ard...i.e. she's more happy with your fren than with you...not to say i'm putting salt in your wound, you nv know what's between them..imagine for the worst and prepare for it...the "green hat"...
Let her know how you feel again...n if the answer from hr is still "That's me...Take it or leave it"....well..LEAVE IT.....you've to be a man sometimes...dun be a Gu Niang....
And i say again, "Leave it"....she's really not worth your love n contributions...
When she say "Take it or leave it" it would means that she's not even loving you at all...she only need you when she's need it...otherwise or so...you're nothing to her...do you understand??
I hope you can seek our advices n be sure that most of us are willingly to help whenever possible...