How many is too many??

• brownie6222

  8 Mar 05, 09:28

  hey ppl,
  
  How many ex-sex partners (ie Gf or Bf) are considered too many to bear?
  
  1 EX?
  2 EXs?
  3 EXs?
  
  hope to hear from both guys and gals..
  
  
• FeowFeow

  8 Mar 05, 10:46

  There's No Golden Rule, it depends on how many u're willing to accept. There're those who've played ard during their younger days, but they're sincere in bld'g a future wif u, & haf turned over a new leaf. If they haf No diseases, wld u accept them?
  
  Frankly, if there was a Golden Rule, then perhaps I wldn't haf been accepted by my guy. Not tt I slept ard, but I cld never commit. Exes? Plenty. And the reason I had for getting together wif them was Not necessarily due to love. It was more to do wif companionship. Did I love them? No.
  
  However, those were my younger days. My frens thot of me as a flirt. It's been yrs past oredi, & now my frens noe I'm settled down. By strict pple's definition, I'm Not gd gf/wifey material. Thgs haf changed now, & I'm in my happiest r'ship ever. It cldn't haf happened if my guy din believe in me, & din gimme a chance.
  
  So it's up to u.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by brownie6222:

  hey ppl,
  
  How many ex-sex partners (ie Gf or Bf) are considered too many to bear?
  
  1 EX?
  2 EXs?
  3 EXs?
  
  hope to hear from both guys and gals..
  
  

• brownie6222

  8 Mar 05, 11:30

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:
  There's No Golden Rule, it depends on how many u're willing to accept. There're those who've played ard during their younger days, but they're sincere in bld'g a future wif u, & haf turned over a new leaf. If they haf No diseases, wld u accept them?
  
  Frankly, if there was a Golden Rule, then perhaps I wldn't haf been accepted by my guy. [b]Not tt I slept ard, but I cld never commit. Exes? Plenty. And the reason I had for getting together wif them was Not necessarily due to love. It was more to do wif companionship. Did I love them? No.
  
  However, those were my younger days. My frens thot of me as a flirt. It's been yrs past oredi, & now my frens noe I'm settled down. By strict pple's definition, I'm Not gd gf/wifey material. Thgs haf changed now, & I'm in my happiest r'ship ever. It cldn't haf happened if my guy din believe in me, & din gimme a chance.
  
  So it's up to u.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  [/b]

  hey feow2
  
  nice to hear from you.. mind sharing how many bed partners you had b4 your current one?
  
  my current one had 2 short ones while i had 1 long-term one (3yrs) b4 we met...i do feel kinda uncomfy whenever i think abt her past but wat-e-heck..its the PAST!! hence i just wana find out from the board the general opinion if possible..cheers
• FeowFeow

  8 Mar 05, 11:42

  Brownie,
  
  Look carefully, "Not tt I slept ard"
  
  It was my attitude towards r'ships then tt was prettie bad. Love needn't be a factor, I juz wanted companionship & fun.
  
  And thgs haf changed now : )
  
  In a nutshell, wat I was sez'g was tt, it's up to how many a person can accept, & if the partner u're considering is sincere in turning over a new leaf & being wif u. Then make ur decision : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by brownie6222:

  hey feow2
  
  nice to hear from you.. mind sharing how many bed partners you had b4 your current one?
  
  my current one had 2 short ones while i had 1 long-term one (3yrs) b4 we met...i do feel kinda uncomfy whenever i think abt her past but wat-e-heck..its the PAST!! hence i just wana find out from the board the general opinion if possible..cheers

• brownie6222

  8 Mar 05, 11:49

  yeah..agree =)
  
  well, i guess judgement is never a good thing..humans have to be accepted for who they are, then the change will happen..
  
  =)
  
  
• FeowFeow

  8 Mar 05, 11:53

  It depends on whether they love u enuff to change too : )
  
  I dun try to change my guy, altho sometimes I do tell him somethg he does makes me unhappee. Or sometimes when we dun agree on somethg, we try to discuss it. Or worst comes to worst, we agree to disagree (I still think Brad Pitt's HOT wat *sulkz*)
  
  He does the same for me lorr...
  
  Happily, we've tried our best to avoid doing the thgs tt upset each other : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by brownie6222:

  yeah..agree =)
  
  well, i guess judgement is never a good thing..humans have to be accepted for who they are, then the change will happen..
  
  =)
  
  

• Waterapple

  8 Mar 05, 12:06

  Originally posted by brownie6222:

  hey ppl,
  
  How many ex-sex partners (ie Gf or Bf) are considered too many to bear?
  
  1 EX?
  2 EXs?
  3 EXs?
  
  hope to hear from both guys and gals..
  
  

  I have some bad experiences before.
  
  However, if you are talking about how many ex sex partners of my bf I can bear with, I think zero. I would not want my bf to have any ex sex partners before, yet I would not reject him because of his past.
  
  The past action shouldn't be the deciding factor whether you should continue your relationship with your partner in life.
• brownie6222

  8 Mar 05, 12:17

  ya lor..the past shall not determine the future, in fact, it should be the other way..hahaha =)
  
  my gal and i value communication and she's in fact done nothing wrong..i mean every1 has a past..ugly or pleasant..its still a past and honestly mine wasnt that glam either..but i have changed and matured...still learning thou..hee
  
  we have learnt to be sensitive to each other's feelings and emotions and i think progress is pretty evident..thank God!! phew....
  
  wat e heck..life goes on..its the person that makes the relationship a beauty not the person's past..rite? haha =)
  
  cheers
  
  
• FeowFeow

  8 Mar 05, 17:26

  Another way of looking @ it is:
  
  A person's past shapes who he/she is now : )
  
  If I hadn't gone thru wat I had, then I wldn't be able to help pple from a non-academic pt of view (Yunhaier's the expert here, my knowledge is only based on my own life's experiences but I juz try to help, nonetheless).
  
  No matter wat, a person can change (Not necessarily for the better, Not necessarily for the worse), & we shdn't condemn a person & box him in as unable to change. Of cosh, there'll always be some leopards ard
  
  It juz depends on the circumstances, & the sincerity of tt person.
  
  Gd tt u're happee wif ur girl : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by brownie6222:

  ya lor..the past shall not determine the future, in fact, it should be the other way..hahaha =)
  
  my gal and i value communication and she's in fact done nothing wrong..i mean every1 has a past..ugly or pleasant..its still a past and honestly mine wasnt that glam either..but i have changed and matured...still learning thou..hee
  
  we have learnt to be sensitive to each other's feelings and emotions and i think progress is pretty evident..thank God!! phew....
  
  wat e heck..life goes on..its the person that makes the relationship a beauty not the person's past..rite? haha =)
  
  cheers
  
  

• mach10

  9 Mar 05, 00:24

  Originally posted by brownie6222:

  hey ppl,
  
  How many ex-sex partners (ie Gf or Bf) are considered too many to bear?
  
  1 EX?
  2 EXs?
  3 EXs?
  
  hope to hear from both guys and gals..
  
  

  Maybe people like you should attack Geylang, then you find out the answer...
• RaTtY81

  9 Mar 05, 01:15

  alot of ex is not a prob i feel. as long as u dun bring ur emotional baggage to the next person can liaoz...
• browniebaobao

  11 Mar 05, 17:23

  I would say the figure is juz a number..wat's important is whether u were serious with those r/s.