has she stopped loving me?
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ello brudders n sistas outhere,
today sth happen n i lost my temper,galfren got mad at me said we cant live together anymore,said she got no more feelings for me,,,if i dun move out she will..but i wasnt totally at fault for the incident
we started as a long distance relationship for 2 yrs, it was great we were loving etc,then she came over and we cohabit untill now..whn she first came over, she has got no hot temper, it was me alw took it out on her, she was submissive.. i realised my nonsense when she dumped me abt 2 yrs ago.
then she came bck to me after my constant reassurance that i would change all of me that she finds unacceptable..which i did...
our relationship when on strong again...but she temper got horrid...abit abit only she will loose it, scream and yelled ..but despite all this....she took care of me well..
c my business failed and i lost everything but my gal took care of my welfare, saved me from my money faced n violent family,she provided allowance for me for almost 2 yrs n still on going,paid for the pub,paid for rental bought me thnigs that i wanted and nothing for herself...
i did change all my bad points but i can say that she still finds me not perfect enough for her,eg, when we go out, if we got not up to standard service n i would grumble, galfren became unhappy w me, if i was too blunt with my joke of others, she gets angry n will give me silent treatment etc..
i am striving to climb up again but not relevant opportunity exists yet, i was let down with numerous disappointment,gf told me that she will yang wo..
i said i will be a good partner n wil take care of domestic issues while she be the working one ,, she was ok...
(a suitor bought me expensive gift n my gf saw it, i know she wasnt too happy but i kept quiet)since then she began to say thnigs like her feelings for me died etc ..cuz i told her i stayed in the relationship with her tolerate her temper cuz i m grateful that she yang wo, gave money to me, that night we managed to smooth things out after i tackle her.
then a few days bck, we took a walk at the park she said,if u find u can talk to others(i hv a few suitors)easily n can relate to them, y dun u get in relationship with them.. i was shaovk n ask her y she said that,, she said,if 2 person has got problematic communication issues, better quit it n move on,
i told her i love her, wil take note of her feedbck n change witch i did wanna change..she was happy..
u c gf n i are considered very compatible in terms of horoscope, astrology,we hv common interest,exept we were not from the same country,she came from a wealth family but a wholesome family else i came from wealth family but broken family with abusive father n siblings.we both considered good looking,she has a doctorate education while me only with a diploma
gf said sth like due to my bckgrd(broken family)i stimes say insensitive things targetted towards her parents, which i did but i stopped doing that..cuz i m a person that learns from my mistakes n wil try not to repeat them..
i do love gf very much n really wan her to open up to me more n tel me whats on her mind,i wan her to calm her temper n love me like how she used to...(gf said her temper was caused by me)
i really dun know if things will really work out between gf n i? we hv been together for more than 6 yrs,,, when tru thick n thin n just 1 mth ago gf said she began to hv confidence in us..n she has lowered some of her expectation of me ie she doesnt harp on things like she yang wo, gave me allowance etc..
pls give me honest feedback,,, lately i felt so small, ie no job, no income,no family love, lonely,but i did worked hard prevly n i was quite ok untill i was burnout n quit work for my own business,i alw met with constant failure then success then fail again,i also feel i cant talk to my gf like how i can with my ex gf -
find a job... economy is picking up.... then you will realise the world is not only abt love..... :-)
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No offense. But where's your integrity? How could you allow a woman to pay for your everything?Originally posted by loserME:ello brudders n sistas outhere,
today sth happen n i lost my temper,galfren got mad at me said we cant live together anymore,said she got no more feelings for me,,,if i dun move out she will..but i wasnt totally at fault for the incident
we started as a long distance relationship for 2 yrs, it was great we were loving etc,then she came over and we cohabit untill now..whn she first came over, she has got no hot temper, it was me alw took it out on her, she was submissive.. i realised my nonsense when she dumped me abt 2 yrs ago.
then she came bck to me after my constant reassurance that i would change all of me that she finds unacceptable..which i did...
our relationship when on strong again...but she temper got horrid...abit abit only she will loose it, scream and yelled ..but despite all this....she took care of me well..
c my business failed and i lost everything but my gal took care of my welfare, saved me from my money faced n violent family,she provided allowance for me for almost 2 yrs n still on going,paid for the pub,paid for rental bought me thnigs that i wanted and nothing for herself...
i did change all my bad points but i can say that she still finds me not perfect enough for her,eg, when we go out, if we got not up to standard service n i would grumble, galfren became unhappy w me, if i was too blunt with my joke of others, she gets angry n will give me silent treatment etc..
i am striving to climb up again but not relevant opportunity exists yet, i was let down with numerous disappointment,gf told me that she will yang wo..
i said i will be a good partner n wil take care of domestic issues while she be the working one ,, she was ok...
(a suitor bought me expensive gift n my gf saw it, i know she wasnt too happy but i kept quiet)since then she began to say thnigs like her feelings for me died etc ..cuz i told her i stayed in the relationship with her tolerate her temper cuz i m grateful that she yang wo, gave money to me, that night we managed to smooth things out after i tackle her.
then a few days bck, we took a walk at the park she said,if u find u can talk to others(i hv a few suitors)easily n can relate to them, y dun u get in relationship with them.. i was shaovk n ask her y she said that,, she said,if 2 person has got problematic communication issues, better quit it n move on,
i told her i love her, wil take note of her feedbck n change witch i did wanna change..she was happy..
u c gf n i are considered very compatible in terms of horoscope, astrology,we hv common interest,exept we were not from the same country,she came from a wealth family but a wholesome family else i came from wealth family but broken family with abusive father n siblings.we both considered good looking,she has a doctorate education while me only with a diploma
gf said sth like due to my bckgrd(broken family)i stimes say insensitive things targetted towards her parents, which i did but i stopped doing that..cuz i m a person that learns from my mistakes n wil try not to repeat them..
i do love gf very much n really wan her to open up to me more n tel me whats on her mind,i wan her to calm her temper n love me like how she used to...(gf said her temper was caused by me)
i really dun know if things will really work out between gf n i? we hv been together for more than 6 yrs,,, when tru thick n thin n just 1 mth ago gf said she began to hv confidence in us..n she has lowered some of her expectation of me ie she doesnt harp on things like she yang wo, gave me allowance etc..
pls give me honest feedback,,, lately i felt so small, ie no job, no income,no family love, lonely,but i did worked hard prevly n i was quite ok untill i was burnout n quit work for my own business,i alw met with constant failure then success then fail again,i also feel i cant talk to my gf like how i can with my ex gf
You may have face lotsa setbacks in your career. What you should do now is not to harbour on the past anymore or you used to be successful blah blah blah! Plan your route well. Life is not always smooth sailing. When you fell, you get up. You learn from mistakes and make sure it doesn't happen.
From what you said abt you staying in the r'ship, tolerating her temper cos you are grateful that shes paying for your everything. Do you truly love her or do you love yourself more??? I think you are a selfish man who is afraid of loneliness! Where's your self-esteem, your integrity, your principles??? -
there are too many things that I don't really know
very hard to tell you ...
with regards to having issues at finding work, buck up on that loh.. -
Gosh....you must have definitely hit rock bottom in your life right now. Well, before I try to help you...I must say that you really deserved your current fate right now.
Hmm...well, you see...why you are in such a state currently is mainly due to yourself. You dwell in self-pity and this affected all your decisions that eventually brought you to this state.
If there is something that has been bothering your mind and heart all along and it doesn't concerns your girlfriend, I would like you to drop/forget all of them right now. You need to do that before you can move on and pick up your life and get it on track again. Do you have a religion? If yes, pay more attention to your religion as it will bring peace to your mind.
Throw away all your current pride, you won't be needing them at this stage. You must be a learner to life again in order for you to pick up life itself once again.
If you managed to do all those, I can tell you that you have gotten rid of all the factors that have brought you all the misfortunate. And...your girlfriend, she loves you a lot and has sacrificed a lot for you. And if you really love her, treasure her before you regret it...and I can assure you that you definitely will regret it if you don't treasure her now.
And by plain saying that you love her doesn't means that you really love her, you know? I have yet to read anything that tells me that you like/love her.
Go get yourself any job, give her a hug EVERYDAY and start to pay some real concern for her please. What she needs is real concerns and actions from you...to pacify her spent emotions and love on you.
Living off any girl is not good for any guy...and it should've never happened in the first place. Not even if she offers and she loves you heaps...never never live off a girl...that's a very poor and shallow attitude towards life.
I hope this helps you a bit...even if it is 1% or 0.0001%. You will definitely need to start your life again and it will won't be easy. Do that for the sake of your girlfriend please. Good luck.
Ohh...your girlfriend hasn't stopped loving you, just that she is terribly terribly terribly disappointed with you. And you still have 1% chance of salvaging this situation...it all depends on the decision that you will be making. Think of her before you decide on anything and remember...she still loves you deep inside her heart.
Good luck once again. -
forget is parn, no use advising this idiot...he's beyond hope...let him stew in his own shi.t...
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x2Originally posted by parn:Gosh....you must have definitely hit rock bottom in your life right now. Well, before I try to help you...I must say that you really deserved your current fate right now.
Hmm...well, you see...why you are in such a state currently is mainly due to yourself. You dwell in self-pity and this affected all your decisions that eventually brought you to this state.
If there is something that has been bothering your mind and heart all along and it doesn't concerns your girlfriend, I would like you to drop/forget all of them right now. You need to do that before you can move on and pick up your life and get it on track again. Do you have a religion? If yes, pay more attention to your religion as it will bring peace to your mind.
Throw away all your current pride, you won't be needing them at this stage. You must be a learner to life again in order for you to pick up life itself once again.
If you managed to do all those, I can tell you that you have gotten rid of all the factors that have brought you all the misfortunate. And...your girlfriend, she loves you a lot and has sacrificed a lot for you. And if you really love her, treasure her before you regret it...and I can assure you that you definitely will regret it if you don't treasure her now.
And by plain saying that you love her doesn't means that you really love her, you know? I have yet to read anything that tells me that you like/love her.
Go get yourself any job, give her a hug EVERYDAY and start to pay some real concern for her please. What she needs is real concerns and actions from you...to pacify her spent emotions and love on you.
Living off any girl is not good for any guy...and it should've never happened in the first place. Not even if she offers and she loves you heaps...never never live off a girl...that's a very poor and shallow attitude towards life.
I hope this helps you a bit...even if it is 1% or 0.0001%. You will definitely need to start your life again and it will won't be easy. Do that for the sake of your girlfriend please. Good luck.
Ohh...your girlfriend hasn't stopped loving you, just that she is terribly terribly terribly disappointed with you. And you still have 1% chance of salvaging this situation...it all depends on the decision that you will be making. Think of her before you decide on anything and remember...she still loves you deep inside her heart.
Good luck once again.
I guess there are still hope for you to get her back.
Stop self pitying yourself. You have a responsiblity for her.
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I think u need to find a job and upgrade yourself.