i need some advise pls
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hi people, first time posting here hopefully can get some advice from everyone...recently, i became quite interested in my classmate whos been in the same class as me for 1 yr plus already but i think i m quite late now because another classmate of mine have a better relation with her and hes able to converse with her much better than me (i dont know if they are interested in each other though), sometimes she will chat with him in sch while i seem like a stranger to her. this may be due to my fault as i did not talk to her in sch much and only sometimes on msn....sigh i m at lost now, should i let this feeling fade away or try to improve relation with her but is it too late?
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No. Its not too late.
Since the two of them are not together yet, you still stand a chance~
After all, getting along well do not mean they can be in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
Try and get to know her better, or else there will be a void in your heart, all the "What if's ..."
"What if i had gone to know her.. what will happen then?"
Go for it, at the worst you end up with a new friend~ -
got other girls in the school also rite? don restrict urself to just her. get to know others as friends first and maybe from there u may find someone more suitable for urself, someone who can comunicate with u.
don daydream about forever just because u like her. could be just a passing phase for u. if both of u no chemistry then forget it, just stay as frens lor -
Originally posted by agnelli:hi people, first time posting here hopefully can get some advice from everyone...recently, i became quite interested in my classmate whos been in the same class as me for 1 yr plus already but i think i m quite late now because another classmate of mine have a better relation with her and hes able to converse with her much better than me (i dont know if they are interested in each other though), sometimes she will chat with him in sch while i seem like a stranger to her. this may be due to my fault as i did not talk to her in sch much and only sometimes on msn....sigh i m at lost now, should i let this feeling fade away or try to improve relation with her but is it too late?
Does it makes you feel better if you are a friend... knew her outside... and not knowing who she is more 'gam' with and such?
What do you think you would do if your situation is as such?
P.S: You got disheartened before any real action actually took place - how do you think you could ever survive trying to woo a girl, competiting among other suitors? Remember: All is fair in love and war.
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yunhaier is right. how can you raise the white flag before the battle horns sound????!!! i am appalled. u like the gal, go get the gal, what is your prob?? u can always increase the number of times chatting with her over msn first, if you happen to be a shy guy. ask her out to study with you. (and you only. that way, she might take a closer look at you) whatever it is, dun flash your white undies so soon in the battle dude...
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Show some courage if u are a man with balls.
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Start leaving bits of impressions and chat up?Originally posted by agnelli:hi people, first time posting here hopefully can get some advice from everyone...recently, i became quite interested in my classmate whos been in the same class as me for 1 yr plus already but i think i m quite late now because another classmate of mine have a better relation with her and hes able to converse with her much better than me (i dont know if they are interested in each other though), sometimes she will chat with him in sch while i seem like a stranger to her. this may be due to my fault as i did not talk to her in sch much and only sometimes on msn....sigh i m at lost now, should i let this feeling fade away or try to improve relation with her but is it too late?
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I kinda understand the feeling u have right now.
do u feel like u are afraid approaching her?
do u feel like u dun know what to do or say when u meet her?
do u fear rejection when she knows u like her?
pal, i have a good news for u.
good news is: ~
Girls NEVER reject anyone who approaches them regardless of any intentions.
It is the body language and sincerity that turns it into a good start or a nightmare ending. -
thanks for the advise guys, really appreciate it. i chat with her on msn a few times before but doesnt seem to have much impact in sch, and it seems like we are almost like strangers in sch dont talk to each other...quite hard to talk to her also because shes always with a group of girls. what keuris said is exactly how i feel
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look, no matter who she is with is not important. treat them as transparent but politely. u need to focus on the girl itself. dun let the fear strangle u. just remember my advice. Girls never reject guys whenever they approach them. it is the guys that screw it all up!Originally posted by agnelli:thanks for the advise guys, really appreciate it. i chat with her on msn a few times before but doesnt seem to have much impact in sch, and it seems like we are almost like strangers in sch dont talk to each other...quite hard to talk to her also because shes always with a group of girls. what keuris said is exactly how i feel
best of hope!
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Get 'disconnected' on a mid msn conversation intentionally. Then the next day you see her, you go... "Sorry I was disconnected yesterday... Yesterday we were talking about...." Best to be 'disconnected' at the mid of something which she's really interested in... Don't say Devil never help you....Originally posted by agnelli:thanks for the advise guys, really appreciate it. i chat with her on msn a few times before but doesnt seem to have much impact in sch, and it seems like we are almost like strangers in sch dont talk to each other...quite hard to talk to her also because shes always with a group of girls. what keuris said is exactly how i feel -
sigh~ i get mind blocked whenever i chat with her like nothing much to say, i m afraid this will affect my chances because she might find me not that 'nice' to chat with...
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If you've got issues communicating with her, what can we say....?Originally posted by agnelli:sigh~ i get mind blocked whenever i chat with her like nothing much to say, i m afraid this will affect my chances because she might find me not that 'nice' to chat with...
Unless you can 'communicate' with her on different 'levels'.... Chances are... Who would really bother to initiate things up with you unless the girl really fancy you in the 1st place...? -
sigh i think things are getting worse for me...her attitude towards me is kinda 'dao' but to the other people its okay, dont have a chance to speak to her other than saying "bye~"
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Then...?Originally posted by agnelli:sigh i think things are getting worse for me...her attitude towards me is kinda 'dao' but to the other people its okay, dont have a chance to speak to her other than saying "bye~" -
thats all lor...did i done something wrong haiz
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Don't expect everything to be SPOON-FEEDED... If like that, might as well I go after her for you...?Originally posted by agnelli:thats all lor...did i done something wrong haiz -
It's not late, find chances to talk with him on homework.
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hey its me again, guys it not that i never take initiative but her attitude towards me is kinda dao for the past few weeks, anything i ask her she seems irritated and i just found out that she blocked me on msn sigh` i think she knows that i like her. I give up le i still want to be friends instead of strangers...what should i do now guys? really lost here...blocked on msn...being dao in sch..can things get any worse
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You've answered your question? On both relationship and friendship.Originally posted by agnelli:hey its me again, guys it not that i never take initiative but her attitude towards me is kinda dao for the past few weeks, anything i ask her she seems irritated and i just found out that she blocked me on msn sigh` i think she knows that i like her. I give up le i still want to be friends instead of strangers...what should i do now guys? really lost here...blocked on msn...being dao in sch..can things get any worse
Some things couldn't be forced. Let time release the tension.
Meanwhile, build on your confidence and esteem.
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should i send her a msg to clear up about everything?
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this is where the skills come in lo... use ur creativity and plan wat to do...
like kite flying, fun is not abt flying the kite up is abt the process whee how u fly it. enjoy,