well its a problem.... but its not the end.... well y dont talk about your interest, or entertainment, or wat u or your partner is interested in... just take up the initiative and start talking....Originally posted by potatostick:a couple doesnt have much to talk about?? like, many quiet and awkward moments when together alone, eg waiting for bus, in the train..
its really.. really frustrating. there is hardly anything to talk about.. all the jokes seems to be so cold.. in your mind you keep thinkin about what to say.. keep findin topics to talk about.. but there's not really much to chat..
does it meanlove's fading?
no more interest/sick of each other?
very little common things?
.. break up?
and.. is it true that lack of communication or communication problem is quite often the cause of couples breaking up? sighs..
a million things to say.. nothing to talk about..![]()
Hmm.. to be honest some guys just don't like talking. Full stop. They wanna keep everything inside and act all macho and stuff.Originally posted by potatostick:im a young lady.
yeah i talked to him about it before. but he doesnt really care much about communication problems. he mentioned its ok, its jus a matter of time, as long as we're together, its alright..
i wrote a letter to him regarding this.. sighs. and he said he'll try to talk more the next time.. i know he's a talkative guy too, but i don understand why issit when with me, he seems to be so quiet. i asked if he's losing interest in me, he said no. and that our communication problem wont affect whats in our hearts. thats what he assured me..
so he has never told you why he is so quiet around you?Originally posted by potatostick:i wrote a letter to him regarding this.. sighs. and he said he'll try to talk more the next time.. i know he's a talkative guy too, but i don understand why issit when with me, he seems to be so quiet. i asked if he's losing interest in me, he said no. and that our communication problem wont affect whats in our hearts. thats what he assured me..
Originally posted by potatostick:Hmm... but you've already told him how you feel. There's nothing you can do loh. Is he under a period of stress or something? That would make him clam up.
hmm, what should i do then?? Lingos, suggestions??
to me, a couple [b]should be talking alot.. like my sis and her bf, they talk on the phone every night. i've got alot of examples, my fren and her bf. they really don seem to run out of topics to talk about. i don really know why.
and he doesnt call me that often to talk too. we tried to talk on the phone, but.. silence was on the line too.really dunno what to do.. sighs.. seeing couples on the streets yakkin away makes me think that perhaps we arent really meant for each other. i have alot of guys friends. i TALK alot when im with them. they even call me quite oftenly to chat.. get wat i mean?? [/b]
my frank opinion.. if the communication is down.. something is wrong somewhere liao. it should be resolved, or else... yap young girl. Cheers and good luck. if not, you are still young.. can try looking for better.Originally posted by potatostick:a couple doesnt have much to talk about?? like, many quiet and awkward moments when together alone, eg waiting for bus, in the train..
its really.. really frustrating. there is hardly anything to talk about.. all the jokes seems to be so cold.. in your mind you keep thinkin about what to say.. keep findin topics to talk about.. but there's not really much to chat..
does it meanlove's fading?
no more interest/sick of each other?
very little common things?
.. break up?
and.. is it true that lack of communication or communication problem is quite often the cause of couples breaking up? sighs..
a million things to say.. nothing to talk about..![]()
Yeah.. communication is of paramount importance.Originally posted by potatostick:i've always thought that communication is the MAIN thing in r/s.. am i right to say that?? i really like him alot.. im sure the feeling's mutual, if not, he wouldn't spend half a year wooing me, and now, another 4mths' time and smses on me.. sighs.. but i really wish to improve this r/s..
i just wanna talk more to him.. is there really nothing i can do?? if he doesnt wish to open his mouth.. thats it? sighss.
can try n focus on topics he likes to get him into carrying on a conversation, or mebbe try (if you feel like) to entertain him when you talkOriginally posted by potatostick:i've always thought that communication is the MAIN thing in r/s.. am i right to say that?? i really like him alot.. im sure the feeling's mutual, if not, he wouldn't spend half a year wooing me, and now, another 4mths' time and smses on me.. sighs.. but i really wish to improve this r/s..
i just wanna talk more to him.. is there really nothing i can do?? if he doesnt wish to open his mouth.. thats it? sighss.
6mths of courtingOriginally posted by potatostick:i've always thought that communication is the MAIN thing in r/s.. am i right to say that?? i really like him alot.. im sure the feeling's mutual, if not, he wouldn't spend half a year wooing me, and now, another 4mths' time and smses on me.. sighs.. but i really wish to improve this r/s..
i just wanna talk more to him.. is there really nothing i can do?? if he doesnt wish to open his mouth.. thats it? sighss.
1st bad presumption. Being a couple doesn't mean that they would definitely have to talk more. Sometimes one can be tired. Enjoys a moment of solitary or just wants a fair bit of privacy. Not everyone's in for an 'active mode' 24 hours (or maybe not even lasting up to 2-3 hours? Varying among individuals? ) around the clock.Originally posted by potatostick:hmm, what should i do then?? Lingos, suggestions??
to me, a couple [b]should be talking alot.. like my sis and her bf, they talk on the phone every night. i've got alot of examples, my fren and her bf. they really don seem to run out of topics to talk about. i don really know why.
and he doesnt call me that often to talk too. we tried to talk on the phone, but.. silence was on the line too.really dunno what to do.. sighs.. seeing couples on the streets yakkin away makes me think that perhaps we arent really meant for each other. i have alot of guys friends. i TALK alot when im with them. they even call me quite oftenly to chat.. get wat i mean?? [/b][/quote]
[quote]Originally posted by potatostick:
i've always thought that communication is the MAIN thing in r/s.. am i right to say that?? i really like him alot.. im sure the feeling's mutual, if not, he wouldn't spend half a year wooing me, and now, another 4mths' time and smses on me.. sighs.. but i really wish to improve this r/s..
i just wanna talk more to him.. is there really nothing i can do?? if he doesnt wish to open his mouth.. thats it? sighss.
One point to note. She's a young lady.Originally posted by Devil1976:1st bad presumption. Being a couple doesn't mean that they would definitely have to talk more. Sometimes one can be tired. Enjoys a moment of solitary or just wants a fair bit of privacy. Not everyone's in for an 'active mode' 24 hours (or maybe not even lasting up to 2-3 hours? Varying among individuals? ) around the clock.
Another thing to note. 'Communication' can be of different things like sharing of activities and moments together... It doesn't necessarily have to be talking...
When he don't wanna 'talk', it's really not a wise thing to keep 'pushing' for it... Trust me, 'talking' just for the sake of 'talking' can be a very boring and hectic thing... The last thing you want is to bored him, stress him out, and makes him feel as if he's 'working' for this relationship...
I would advise you instead to let him have much of his own privacy and time, and strike up APPROPRIATE conversations or activities instead... Remember... 'Communication' is not only about 'talking'... It's also about the things you do together....
And about your wanting to 'improve' this relationship... Takes a little patience yeah...?
PS. Although I would say that there could be a chance that he may be 'difting' from you, but it's never wise to give much credibility to such assumptions in the 1st place. Besides, it's not a healthy.. Whatever's the case, try working your way out through 'activities'?