What is she thinking?

• javacly

  31 Mar 05, 22:20

  My girl breakup with me last wk, saying that she no longer love me. The problem is that last time i hurted her alot... she been thru alot of shit for me... that's main reason that cause her to go away.
  
  Then after a big fight she agree to let me try to convince her that I am the one till end of apr. During the quarrel, she mentioned that she is giving another guy chances as well.
  
  Is she really giving me a chance or because of the fight where ugly words are used... then she is forced to give me a chance? or is it she is still in love with me?
  
• aRcTiC_sTaR

  31 Mar 05, 22:20

  Ask her.
• elindra

  31 Mar 05, 22:24

  Originally posted by javacly:

  My girl breakup with me last wk, saying that she no longer love me. The problem is that last time i hurted her alot... she been thru alot of shit for me... that's main reason that cause her to go away.
  
  Then after a big fight she agree to let me try to convince her that I am the one till end of apr. During the quarrel, she mentioned that she is giving another guy chances as well.
  
  Is she really giving me a chance or because of the fight where ugly words are used... then she is forced to give me a chance? or is it she is still in love with me?
  

  Err if it was the same scenerio I was in before, it's a girl's way of telling you, there is someone else and that she really has no energy to want to carry on with you anymore.
  
  Honestly, sometimes the guy begs and cries and the girl say some things to give him some hope when seriously there is no hope any longer. If she is still in love with you she won't mention that she is giving another guy chances as well.
  
  If your scenerio is the same as mine, she has already given up on you. Baby steps to salvage the relationship won't even work.
  
• javacly

  31 Mar 05, 22:31

  elindra, yep. I agreed with you. Her heart is dead liao...
  But somehow i still have the slightest hope.
  
  Dun know wat to do to convince her.
• elindra

  31 Mar 05, 22:35

  Originally posted by javacly:

  elindra, yep. I agreed with you. Her heart is dead liao...
  But somehow i still have the slightest hope.
  
  Dun know wat to do to convince her.

  Well, I don't know how bad your situation got to. Maybe not as bad as what I was in before but seriously it is difficult to regain the love you once had. It is going to be very difficult. You really have to know what went wrong and fix it once and for all and not fix it just to get her back and after a while, things just slide back to how it was.
  
  If you can convince her that this is really moving forward and the past is the past, maybe.
• javacly

  31 Mar 05, 22:40

  Haiz... she refused to meet me...
  only can msg / sms / call her.... dun know wat to do....
• chocobeary

  31 Mar 05, 22:42

  Think she is afraid to be hurt by you again, thus she's not giving 100% of her heart/love to you.
• elindra

  31 Mar 05, 22:42

  Originally posted by javacly:

  Haiz... she refused to meet me...
  only can msg / sms / call her.... dun know wat to do....

  maybe u can write her a letter or email on how you feel and what caused you to act the way you did and how r u going to remedy the situation.
• javacly

  31 Mar 05, 22:48

  I wrote her long emails.. saying tat i m suffering now and etc..
  
  i just asked how she feels about it. Just one word "huo kai / deserve it"... wat's u guys think?
• bratpig

  31 Mar 05, 22:50

  maybe u deserve it?
• elindra

  31 Mar 05, 22:51

  Saying that you're suffering don't help, coz she should be used to your begging and crying.
  
  If she said "Serves you right".... Sorry mate things do look very bleak for you.
  
  I'm always wonder why is it when a girl is so nice to a guy, he doesn't appreciate her till it is too late?
• shirurinu

  31 Mar 05, 22:52

  When a gal has given up all hope.. its over.. especially when a new guy is in the picture who is definitely better in the way u treat her.. chances for u.. negative..
  
  Thats what i've been through... and i'm still very happy with my current bf..
• elindra

  31 Mar 05, 22:55

  Originally posted by shirurinu:

  When a gal has given up all hope.. its over.. especially when a new guy is in the picture who is definitely better in the way u treat her.. chances for u.. negative..
  
  Thats what i've been through... and i'm still very happy with my current bf..

  Agreed. That was what I been through as well and he is now my husband.
• chocobeary

  31 Mar 05, 23:00

  Perhaps you can try wooing her all over again? Show her that u are truly repentful...
  
  Jia You!
• shirurinu

  31 Mar 05, 23:12

  Originally posted by elindra:

  Saying that you're suffering don't help, coz she should be used to your begging and crying.
  
  If she said "Serves you right".... Sorry mate things do look very bleak for you.
  
  I'm always wonder why is it when a girl is so nice to a guy, he doesn't appreciate her till it is too late?

  Its always like that ma... coz they dunno what treasure they have got until they lost it... my ex... just told me few days back... he still felt i was the best and he can't help comparing the current gfs with me... but all has been too late
• starblue

  31 Mar 05, 23:16

  "I wrote her long emails.. saying tat i m suffering now and etc.. "
  
  PUUURRRLLLEEEEEAAASSSSEEEE......
  
  if you were my guy, and you said that to me, i'd roll my eyes untill they just fall short of rolling out of the sockets. you're in the wrong, you go tell her how much you're suffering for what??
  
  when a girl tells you she's got other options, it means she's still has something for you (albeit just a tiny something). if you still don't do anything to get her back, you'll lose her forever. and trust me, telling her how much you're suffering is not the way to do it.
• elindra

  31 Mar 05, 23:20

  Actually I think the girl mentioned has other options because she is already seeing that option on the side and is telling him to lay-off in an indirect way.
  
  Honestly, the last thing you need to do is beg, cry and act pathetic because that act should be older than blue cheese. Old, Mouldy and Cheesy.
  
  If there is still a tiny spark of chance, you really have to be pro-active and show her that you are serious about fixing the problems. Empty promises won't help.
• shirurinu

  31 Mar 05, 23:22

  Originally posted by elindra:

  Actually I think the girl mentioned she has other options because she is already seeing that option on the side and is telling him to lay-off in an indirect way.
  
  Honestly, the last thing you need to do is beg, cry and act pathetic because that act should be older than blue cheese. Old, Mouldy and Cheesy.
  
  If there is still a tiny spark of chance, you really have to be pro-active and show her that you are serious about fixing the problems. Empty promises won't help.

  Agreed!
• loneconfuser

  1 Apr 05, 00:41

  Originally posted by javacly:

  I wrote her long emails.. saying tat i m suffering now and etc..
  
  i just asked how she feels about it. Just one word "huo kai / deserve it"... wat's u guys think?

  maybe she "zui ying xin ruan"?
• javacly

  1 Apr 05, 08:29

  Guys... Thanks for all your comments.
  
  I am thinking since she already have someone in mind, I just have to let it go coz i dun wan her to struggle again.
• Devil1976

  1 Apr 05, 14:05

  Originally posted by javacly:

  Guys... Thanks for all your comments.
  
  I am thinking since she already have someone in mind, I just have to let it go coz i dun wan her to struggle again.

  
• ilovemyrolex

  1 Apr 05, 15:25

  the last time i checked, there're still a lot of gals out there
• Ayla

  1 Apr 05, 16:43

  When a GIRL is quiet,
  Millions of things are running in her mind.
  
  When a GIRL is not arguing,
  She is thinking deeply.
  
  When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of
  questions,
  She is wondering how long you will be
  around.
  
  When a GIRL answers "i'm fine" after a
  few
  seconds,
  She is not at all fine.
  
  When a GIRL stares at you,
  She is wondering why you are lying.
  
  When a GIRL lays on your chest,
  She is wishing for you to be hers forever.
  
  When a GIRL calls you everyday,
  She is seeking for your attention.
  
  When a GIRL wants to see you
  everyday,
  She wants to be pampered.
  
  When a GIRL sms's u everyday,
  She wants you to reply at least once.
  
  When a GIRL says I love you,
  She means it.
  
  When a GIRL says that she can't live
  without you,
  She has made up her mind that you are
  her
  future.
• ILPSY

  1 Apr 05, 17:50

  
  
  

  Originally posted by Ayla:

  When a GIRL is quiet,
  Millions of things are running in her mind.
  
  When a GIRL is not arguing,
  She is thinking deeply.
  
  When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of
  questions,
  She is wondering how long you will be
  around.
  
  When a GIRL answers "i'm fine" after a
  few
  seconds,
  She is not at all fine.
  
  When a GIRL stares at you,
  She is wondering why you are lying.
  
  When a GIRL lays on your chest,
  She is wishing for you to be hers forever.
  
  When a GIRL calls you everyday,
  She is seeking for your attention.
  
  When a GIRL wants to see you
  everyday,
  She wants to be pampered.
  
  When a GIRL sms's u everyday,
  She wants you to reply at least once.
  
  When a GIRL says I love you,
  She means it.
  
  When a GIRL says that she can't live
  without you,
  She has made up her mind that you are
  her
  future.

• SMAPLionHeart

  1 Apr 05, 17:53

  im even worser.