My ex-gf ask me not to treat her well.

• SMAPLionHeart

  1 Apr 05, 17:35

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(
• Oyathatsme

  1 Apr 05, 17:51

  You should move on and focus on other girls.
  
  

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

• SMAPLionHeart

  1 Apr 05, 17:52

  Originally posted by Oyathatsme:

  You should move on and focus on other girls.
  
  

  crazy ar.
  
  i spent so much effort u ask me to move on!
  
  
• Devil1976

  1 Apr 05, 17:52

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

  Why not just be yourself...?
• M©+square

  1 Apr 05, 17:55

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

  Hahaha! really don't bother trying being one. You can't pull that off.
  
  For proper comment - Just read up Dev's advice.
• SinGaporGuy

  1 Apr 05, 17:55

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  crazy ar.
  
  i spent so much effort u ask me to move on!
  
  

  u going to a lost more..
• Oyathatsme

  1 Apr 05, 17:56

  Yeah, you are the nice guy who buys for her the sweetest stuff, with all your sweat and efforts, she gonna be touched by your actions.
  Tell you what, it's all fuc]king bullshit. It won't happen.
  You are so needy. She fears you.
  
  

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  crazy ar.
  
  i spent so much effort u ask me to move on!
  
  

• M©+square

  1 Apr 05, 18:03

  Originally posted by Oyathatsme:

  Yeah, you are the nice guy who buys for her the sweetest stuff, with all your sweat and efforts, she gonna be touched by your actions.
  Tell you what, it's all fuc]king bullshit. It won't happen.
  You are so needy. She fears you.
  
  

  Let's refrain from using any vulgarities.
  
  But in much extend. You're right. He's needy and wussy(?)
  
• Oyathatsme

  1 Apr 05, 18:06

  wussy.
• duotiga83

  1 Apr 05, 18:06

  the 2 wise sage have spoken........time to move on.....the more you do the more miserable you are.......literally means you are making yoourself more than a jerk (a loser actually)
• M©+square

  1 Apr 05, 18:07

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

  Seriously, i suggest you can sort your thoughts out in the last two threads and then take your next course of action.
  
  Seems like you're dragging many issues along the way and creating new ones.
  
  Cheers
• junh

  1 Apr 05, 18:55

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

  dude!! good lar.. u noe lar.. girls and their language.. yes=no, get lost=dun go.. heyhey,, also proves u are so irresistable!! dude!! get ur wedding plans on the way bro!!
  
• Oyathatsme

  1 Apr 05, 19:09

  misleading.. haha
  
  

  Originally posted by junh:

  dude!! good lar.. u noe lar.. girls and their language.. yes=no, get lost=dun go.. heyhey,, also proves u are so irresistable!! dude!! get ur wedding plans on the way bro!!
  

• keuriseudo

  1 Apr 05, 19:20

  Hey Smap! Snap out of it lah.
  
  Can't you for once be your fucking self??!!
  
  If you just be yourself, i'm sure most girls won't tell you what ur ex has told u.
• sgboy2004

  1 Apr 05, 20:01

  Originally posted by duotiga83:

  the 2 wise sage have spoken........time to move on.....the more you do the more miserable you are.......literally means you are making yoourself more than a jerk (a loser actually)

  congrats on yr 20k post
• duotiga83

  1 Apr 05, 20:04

  Originally posted by sgboy2004:

  congrats on yr 20k post

  thanks!
• SMAPLionHeart

  1 Apr 05, 23:36

  really confused la!
  
  
• icecloud

  2 Apr 05, 00:07

  Guess you might need to learn to let go sometimes...
• ak0

  2 Apr 05, 00:45

  is not that she scared might fall for you again , is that she noe u wan the relationship back and trying to ask u not to waste ur time.
  if u continue think she will juz feel irritated.
• SMAPLionHeart

  2 Apr 05, 02:59

  Originally posted by ak0:

  is not that she scared might fall for you again , is that she noe u wan the relationship back and trying to ask u not to waste ur time.
  if u continue think she will juz feel irritated.

  you have hit the nail on it's head.
• jaimeyeo

  2 Apr 05, 05:15

  Originally posted by Oyathatsme:

  Yeah, you are the nice guy who buys for her the sweetest stuff, with all your sweat and efforts, she gonna be touched by your actions.
  Tell you what, it's all fuc]king bullshit. It won't happen.
  You are so needy. She fears you.
  
  

  your heart controls, then u are in it for the rest of the shit.
  
  for us outside, we think its a no-hopeable.
  
  but nothing is absolute.
• shade343

  6 Apr 05, 00:11

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  crazy ar.
  
  i spent so much effort u ask me to move on!
  
  

  I think you are deluded. This is clearly a bad investment.
• T_T & ^_^

  6 Apr 05, 02:12

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

  since she is the one who initiated the breakup then why you still insist?
  
  just let go and look for someone else..
  
  treat her well only when you are sure that you only wanted to be her normal friend..
• ivan-jz

  6 Apr 05, 04:37

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

  Why must you be a jerk and treat her the opposite of how you're treating her at current moment?
  
  I'm new here, I do not know your whole story.
  
  Your story summarized: You want to woo her back, so you start showering her with care n concern. Previously she broke off with you. Now, she doesnt want you to treat her so well because she's afraid she might develop those feelings for you again.
  
  1. If you succeed, and you're back into a relationship with her, she might initiate another break with you. In this case, I would suggest that you do not put in your 100% into the relationship until you've confirmed that your relationship with her has gone into a deeper level.
  
  2. If you decided not to pursue her anymore, don't be a jerk. Be nice to her, but restrain from saying anything or doing anything that might develop her feelings for her.
• wudimax

  6 Apr 05, 05:35

  Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:

  I have begun to show her concern and love...
  its like a hidden sublimal message that tell me that she doesn't want me to treat her well for fear of falling in love with me..
  
  Haiz. What should i do??
  Should i be a jerk and treat her the opposite or continue to treat her well?
  
  =( , if i treat her well ... i might get her back..but she initiated to break =(

  i think she wants to get a better partner, afterall, she does not wish to make th emistake twice, wise choice