WhAT SHould I Do??

• elfrazor

  6 Apr 05, 21:37

  sign, i really dun know what to do...Been with my gf for ard 2 yrs plus..but something happen that i really dun know whether want be with her..pls help..
  
  She is giving me too much pressure, keep scolding and blaming me that i dun help her this n i dun help her that, but in true i already help her a lot liao...sign..i am already very tired as i am currently working n studying at the same time....i know she love me a lot , but is her strong character and keep scolding me that make me feel very sad and disappointed...I am her Bf, but the way she scold me is like totally no respect for me..i really dun know i can tahan till now, i cannot keep being scold and blamed by her,, i am really very tired tired...what should i do?? try toking to her also no use, cause nothing matters more than herself, she protect herself very wel..
  
  sign can any gals or guys tell mi what should i do?? Girls pls advise why is she like that??
  
  
• mach10

  6 Apr 05, 21:42

  oh well, i tahan mine for 1.5yrs... 1.5yrs of hell i would say...
  ur're good, can tahan 2 yrs!!!
  
  i ended mine 6 mths ago. no point, if she dun treasure you, let go.
  
  Your case sounds like my case, but except i tink mine a little worse...
  
  cheerios!
• Ecxentrique

  6 Apr 05, 22:01

  Originally posted by elfrazor:

  sign, i really dun know what to do...Been with my gf for ard 2 yrs plus..but something happen that i really dun know whether want be with her..pls help..
  
  She is giving me too much pressure, keep scolding and blaming me that i dun help her this n i dun help her that, but in true i already help her a lot liao...sign..i am already very tired as i am currently working n studying at the same time....i know she love me a lot , but is her strong character and keep scolding me that make me feel very sad and disappointed...I am her Bf, but the way she scold me is like totally no respect for me..i really dun know i can tahan till now, i cannot keep being scold and blamed by her,, i am really very tired tired...what should i do?? try toking to her also no use, cause nothing matters more than herself, she protect herself very wel..
  
  sign can any gals or guys tell mi what should i do?? Girls pls advise why is she like that??
  
  

  Communication should be your best ally now if you really want to save the relationship.. but of course you should recognise that communications is a two way thing.. if nothing comes out of it.. communcation is also in knowing y she does the things she did to you.. if there are any sense out of this at all.. there should be some reason behind her incessant scoldings and verbal abuse? Have you tried examining yourself as a possible cause.. and is it possible that you are resisting it in your own way which will make her feel that you are not changing some of your bad habits..
  
  so if you think that all else has failed you then you shud end the misery soon.. no point prolonging the suffering for both sides..
• dragg

  6 Apr 05, 22:10

  yes. it takes 2 hands to clap. if one cant then....
• coffeeortea

  6 Apr 05, 23:17

  why would u want such a biatch anyway, someone who doesnt know how to treasure you.. call you her bf? i think thats more like bull crap. she has no respect for you as her boyfriend.
• T_T & ^_^

  6 Apr 05, 23:30

  Talk to her about your problems and if she still insist in her way then i think she also not worth for your love.erm...if she really think that she herself is that important than you,i think is advisable for you to leave her and if she really treasure you,sure she will turn back to you and give in in anyway..
  
  love needs gives and take..if only gives and no take you will only suffer
  and if only take and no give..you are just being selfish and you do not love your partner at all..
• Tuatau

  6 Apr 05, 23:32

  Originally posted by elfrazor:
  try toking to her also no use, cause nothing matters more than herself, she protect herself very wel..

  If talking to her didn't improve the situation, then it is probably better to walk away. At least you would save yourself some dignity for the next better girl.
  
  In relationships, when one party becomes unbearably domineering, sometimes the other party also has to share the blame as well. You may want to be the perfect gentleman, but being a gentleman does not mean you have to suffer all her abuse blindly. By failing to put across the message that your tolerance has a limit, you have succeeded in feeding the monster in her and opening yourself to more frequent abuse instead. In her eyes, you are no longer a gentleman, you are just a punching bag undeserving of her respect.
  
  Who knows? Perhaps your departure would make her appreciate you more and she could be changed for the better when you come back together again.
• InSidiousGG

  7 Apr 05, 10:36

  Gf already like that then when she's ur wife then how...
  
  I say...give yourself a break.
• gerrykoh

  7 Apr 05, 11:03

  Stand up to her. Don't put up with her scolding. Tell her to give u some respect.
  If u cannot get her to improve, then dump her