Originally posted by dirge:
sometimes I feel, inter-country relationship isn't really simple, language, location, different culture of expression... it relly takes alot of time n effort
You're right. Long distance relationships are indeed difficult, and require lots of time, effort and money. I just attended a close friend's wedding couple of months back, and guess what? His wife comes from England, almost like half a world away. He has chalked up so many miles flying that he qualifies for upgrade every time he goes on a trip. And the phone bills... thank heavens for VoIP. It's a good thing his wife is now living in Singapore with him -- he didn't have much left to spend on other things else before that.
Point is: Long distance relationships
do work out at times, even if the odds may be as high as of Singapore getting into the World Cup. Give her some space to breathe first, then reach out for her again. If you still feel the same intensity for her then as you do now, and you could still sense that she has something for you as well, then it may not be a bad idea to go with your heart and persist on.
Oh, one more thing. Phone calls may help to maintain contact, but nothing is more sincere than physical contact. "Out of sight, out of mind." My friend wouldn't have stood a chance if he didn't fly over to meet his then-girlfriend regularly. Make some effort to visit your friend overseas or invite her to come over for a short stay. You could even organise a trip abroad together, if both of you could afford it.
You could fail, but at least you would not regret for not trying. Or you could succeed and end up sharing your life with the special someone whom others have spent entire lifetimes searching. No matter how the relationship turns out, your life has been made richer for it and who knows -- it could perhaps be the most unforgettable experience you'll ever have.