wat's the logic?
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It's like when girls flirt/cheat, the guys wil find it super hard to forgive, start scolding #$%#$%,calling ugly names... but when Guys do the same, they expect understanding, forgiveness.. Ever give a thought to the other party before u start? Why guys haf the "right" to hurt their supposedly beloved?
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then can you explain to me why there is such a law in sg saying that girls can anyhow shout molest and the guy being charge and put behind the bars...and why not guys shout molest and girls being put behind the bars?
sometimes there are alot of things which cannot be explain de lor...to me everyone is the same..no matter guys/girls..once wrong is always wrong lor~ -
precisely! once wrong is wrong! so guys shldn't be so ego and demanding.. when u hurt someone admit it.. when promise not to hurt anymore keep it.. no excuse saying all guys are like dat... just because of irresponsibility and playfulness, lots of pple got hurt in the process... not dat i'm saying girls aren't wrong but just dat once a guy cheat in a relationship, the majority dun find it a big mistake.. they will say all guys are like dat so?[/quote]
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Dear ~joy~:
I hope you could see this 'logic' objectively.
From your post, i read a bias view on guys.
I'm not sure what background those 'guys' came from and how did you come across the situation, hearsay or from friends or self experience.
How old is the age range of those guys whom you're pointing at? Age matters in this 'logic'
People react to circumstances at different age phrases.
In these times, rarely were there any huge dramas about cheating and flirting situations from either gender.(At least in my point of view)
Each genders have their fair share of dark ugly acts in the closet.
To each it's own, to handle and solve when found out.
Why reaction from Guys are so much different from Girls?
There's many answers to it. But it all depends on how much you're willing to accept.
Hope you'll Stay neutral and objective. Try to come out with matured conclusions.
Cheers -
well, i do understand your frustration in this issue, but may i beg to differ that not all guys do claim that its not their fault to flirt around. Its definately wrong to flirt regardless of what gender you are, but it depends on age group like what M©+square said. My frenz has this mentality that you only live once, n you are only young once, so what waste your youth?? Its a selfish opinion from our pt of view but one has to be selfish to the best of his own interests. I may be wrong if i say this, but i think perhaps when the person has grown more mature and older, he would eventually get sick n tired of flirting and wants to settle down with his gf. I think people tend to make use of their youth to flirt when they are young. Well, i firmly believe in what comes around goes around. But that doesn't mean your partner wun flirt if you don't. I'm such a victim too but i have since moved on and accepted this fact....
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another inequality equation of lifeOriginally posted by ~joy~:It's like when girls flirt/cheat, the guys wil find it super hard to forgive, start scolding #$%#$%,calling ugly names... but when Guys do the same, they expect understanding, forgiveness.. Ever give a thought to the other party before u start? Why guys haf the "right" to hurt their supposedly beloved?
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seriously speaking, what gave u the idea that guys have the right to cheat?
this isn't a guy/girl issue, its a mentality issue. -
i concur with kopio.. it's not a gender issue...
as far as stereotypes go:
it's like if a guy gives a lady a hug, the gf will crucify him...
if the girl gives a man a hug, the guy's supposed to let it slide?
but then, nothing is wrong with either..
if people are beside themselves, they don't trust their partners..
but saying that, we all live, we all must keep learning...
lots of people will fail to take out the beam in their eye while professing to want to remove the mote in their brothers' (or sisters' ) -
When girls flirt, they expect understanding and forgiveness too. When guys flirt with other girls, they get abused by their gfs as well. So i guess maybe u have over-generalized? It's just plain misfortune to have such a demanding bf who insists on his 'right' to cheat yet at the same time would withhold such 'right' from his gf.Originally posted by ~joy~:It's like when girls flirt/cheat, the guys wil find it super hard to forgive, start scolding #$%#$%,calling ugly names... but when Guys do the same, they expect understanding, forgiveness.. Ever give a thought to the other party before u start? Why guys haf the "right" to hurt their supposedly beloved?
i'm sure there will be guys who have the same complaint as u lor, those who have gfs who are aggressive, possessive yet flirtateous. -
ai ya .. nt all like tat wat ... jus tat u suay .. got some jerk .. peel off eye's stamp .. next time take mag glass examine next bf to be lor ..Originally posted by joai28:well, i do understand your frustration in this issue, but may i beg to differ that not all guys do claim that its not their fault to flirt around. Its definately wrong to flirt regardless of what gender you are, but it depends on age group like what M©+square said. My frenz has this mentality that you only live once, n you are only young once, so what waste your youth?? Its a selfish opinion from our pt of view but one has to be selfish to the best of his own interests. I may be wrong if i say this, but i think perhaps when the person has grown more mature and older, he would eventually get sick n tired of flirting and wants to settle down with his gf. I think people tend to make use of their youth to flirt when they are young. Well, i firmly believe in what comes around goes around. But that doesn't mean your partner wun flirt if you don't. I'm such a victim too but i have since moved on and accepted this fact.... -
those are irresponsible people. tell him not all guys are like that!!!Originally posted by ~joy~:precisely! once wrong is wrong! so guys shldn't be so ego and demanding.. when u hurt someone admit it.. when promise not to hurt anymore keep it.. no excuse saying all guys are like dat... just because of irresponsibility and playfulness, lots of pple got hurt in the process... not dat i'm saying girls aren't wrong but just dat once a guy cheat in a relationship, the majority dun find it a big mistake.. they will say all guys are like dat so?[/quote] -
It doesn't give men more 'rights' to cheat and flirt, but scientifically speaking.. Men tends to have a higher 'explorative' nature and especially in sexual gratifications... This is all in the hormones... A more minority of the girls can face such a problem too... The rest like most of you have already mentioned, would be balanced off by mentality...Originally posted by ~joy~:It's like when girls flirt/cheat, the guys wil find it super hard to forgive, start scolding #$%#$%,calling ugly names... but when Guys do the same, they expect understanding, forgiveness.. Ever give a thought to the other party before u start? Why guys haf the "right" to hurt their supposedly beloved? -
Dear Joy,
Mebbi it'd help us readers here in AA to assist u more if u dun subscribe to guy bashing?
Anywayz, whether it's a guy cheating or a girl cheating, it's wrong. However, guys & girls haf the right to try & work out issues wif the partner they cheated on, & if the partner is understanding & gives them a chance, the r'ship may be salvaged provided the cheating partner mends his/her ways.
It's the perogative of the person who's been cheated on, we dun haf a right to judge whether the decision made to give the cheating partner a chance is correct or Not.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by ~joy~:It's like when girls flirt/cheat, the guys wil find it super hard to forgive, start scolding #$%#$%,calling ugly names... but when Guys do the same, they expect understanding, forgiveness.. Ever give a thought to the other party before u start? Why guys haf the "right" to hurt their supposedly beloved? -
Again, there is a simple truth. In fact, a fact; GUYS are lustful animals.
I'm a guy, and I know how SEX, is almost always on our minds.
It's nature. But as we grow older, we see further beyond sex. And sex becomes just a luxury, and not an addiction or lifestyle.
We seek more for intangible values in life and in partnerships. -
interesting how people always relates cheating with Sex.Originally posted by ShutterBug:Again, there is a simple truth. In fact, a fact; GUYS are lustful animals.
I'm a guy, and I know how SEX, is almost always on our minds.
It's nature. But as we grow older, we see further beyond sex. And sex becomes just a luxury, and not an addiction or lifestyle.
We seek more for intangible values in life and in partnerships.
Not necessariy so. -
Yoz...Originally posted by ~joy~:It's like when girls flirt/cheat, the guys wil find it super hard to forgive, start scolding #$%#$%,calling ugly names... but when Guys do the same, they expect understanding, forgiveness.. Ever give a thought to the other party before u start? Why guys haf the "right" to hurt their supposedly beloved?
Gal...
U can choose nt to forgive Ur guy if he ever cheats on U...
Either gender will haf the tendency to cheat...
The issue here is how U seperate lust n emotions...when guys flirt/cheat...most likely the 'motivating' reason is lust...when gals flirt/cheat...lust may still play a part but I believe most gals will place much more emotions on 'affairs' when compared to guys...
No one haf any rights to hurt their beloved...
Regardless of gender...both will wan understanding n forgiveness from their beloved when they make mistakes...U will wan Ur guy to forgive U if U ever make a mistake rite...
Maybe U haf been hurt by a guy...but pls do nt pass judgement on all the guys becoz of one jerk...there r still gd guys ard...
Cheers...