Something that me think worth thinking..

• tan_william

  9 Apr 05, 02:51

  How many of the people here will spend some time in the day just to totally concentrate and listen to what your gf/bf/wife/hubby/family got to say??me have been getting alot of complains from my friends that they felt neglected and seen some of my friends breaking up just because their partners couldn't even give them 5 mins of their time to listen to them..giving them a 'am i not even worth 5 mins' kinda feeling..most of the time the other party will be doing something else when my friends are talking to them..yes..they could really be listening..but the doing other things action will turn off the speaker..giving them a 'I am not interested' feeling..thus the speaker will end up not saying anything..or go find other person to pour out what they wanna say..in the long run this will become a very big gap/drift to the couple..
  
  Me just feel that in each day..there are 1440 mins..so just concentrate 5-10 mins each day to listen to what your other half have to say is not alot of your time..think it will help you both understand each other more..
  
• Qo|phin

  9 Apr 05, 02:53

  i'm listenin.....
• Tuatau

  9 Apr 05, 11:16

  Communication is vital in a healthy relationship, and no communication is possible without listening.
  
  Any fool who loves the sound of his/her voice can talk, but listening -- as in really listening, not just hearing sounds going through the ears -- is a skill.
• ILPSY

  9 Apr 05, 11:43

  I agree that communication is important. But that really depends on the topic of discussion. If the purpose of communication is to discuss important stuff or sharing intimate conversations, then, I agree that it is important. But, if the topic of conversation is to gossip or nag, then, it is redundant. Females, on average speak about 6-7,000 words whereas males, 2-3,000 words. Sometimes, you juz can't help it, just to switch off because you are juz too tired from work and need to rest and relax your mind, then, your loved ones came and starts to nag, complain or gossip. It does turn ppl off. So, I will normally tell the other party that I dun want to hear anything of that, which comprises of complaining. Other stuff such as nagging or gossiping, is actually fine with me.
• dragg

  9 Apr 05, 11:45

  time and again we hear people say they are too busy..... so much so it has now become a cliche.
  
  wonder what makes them so busy?
• ILPSY

  9 Apr 05, 11:49

  Originally posted by dragg:

  time and again we hear people say they are too busy..... so much so it has now become a cliche.
  
  wonder what makes them so busy?

  Give them the benefit of doubt!
  
  Some are really too busy, whereas the others are juz finding excuses!
• dragg

  9 Apr 05, 11:52

  Originally posted by ILPSY:

  Give them the benefit of doubt!
  
  Some are really too busy, whereas the others are juz finding excuses!

  call me skeptical if you want.
  
  my brother owns an advertising firm. he has 4 kids to feed. yet he has no problem making time for his kids and wife. it is a matter of whether they try hard enough.
  
• FeowFeow

  11 Apr 05, 11:49

  *grinz* Dun haf tt problem wif my guy
  
  We take time out to listen to each other's day, & we made it a routine so tt both of us can unwind & tok out problems or happee & farnie moments @ work.
  
  THEN, we start tokking or doing other thgs : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by tan_william:

  How many of the people here will spend some time in the day just to totally concentrate and listen to what your gf/bf/wife/hubby/family got to say??me have been getting alot of complains from my friends that they felt neglected and seen some of my friends breaking up just because their partners couldn't even give them 5 mins of their time to listen to them..giving them a 'am i not even worth 5 mins' kinda feeling..most of the time the other party will be doing something else when my friends are talking to them..yes..they could really be listening..but the doing other things action will turn off the speaker..giving them a 'I am not interested' feeling..thus the speaker will end up not saying anything..or go find other person to pour out what they wanna say..in the long run this will become a very big gap/drift to the couple..
  
  Me just feel that in each day..there are 1440 mins..so just concentrate 5-10 mins each day to listen to what your other half have to say is not alot of your time..think it will help you both understand each other more..
  

• dragg

  11 Apr 05, 11:52

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  *grinz* Dun haf tt problem wif my guy
  
  We take time out to listen to each other's day, & we made it a routine so tt both of us can unwind & tok out problems or happee & farnie moments @ work.
  
  THEN, we start tokking or doing other thgs : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  that's the way mdm!!
• FeowFeow

  11 Apr 05, 12:22

  Eh, eh, eh, dun anyhow anyhow call pple Mdm hor I'm too YOUNG for tt, okie? *bonkz bonkz bonkz*
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by dragg:

  that's the way mdm!!