hmm.. what happens after a long time...
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uhh, for those who read my previous thread.. i assume you know what happened to me and my bf.. but then.. in the end.. uhh.. glad to say.. we're still back together.. but things doesnt seems to be quite the same..
anyway, uhh, so, when you and your gf/bf has been together for quite a long time.. say.. half a year or more.. will it get more boring in the r/s?? cos its like.. all the places, you've been together. and all the things you've all done it.. and you know you still love him/her.. and he/she, too, loves you as much..
but is there at any point of time.. u jus dread going out with him/her.. not really dread.. but it seems much of a hassle to go out? i mean.. u gotta think of NEW STUFFS, NEW PLACES to go...
any experiences?? im kinda going through this stage now.. maybe you guys will say when you're with your love one.. even going to the same place everyday or every week is still quite enjoyful?? hmm.. i dunno.. any exceptional cases?? -
Maybe time will help.
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how??Originally posted by Burgerking:Maybe time will help. -
Originally posted by potatostick:
Both of you would mature, in body and mind.
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Hmm...invite her over to your place for a movie, snack, UNO, TV...basically you just have to spend more time with her...probably to the extend of cohabiting.Originally posted by potatostick:uhh, for those who read my previous thread.. i assume you know what happened to me and my bf.. but then.. in the end.. uhh.. glad to say.. we're still back together.. but things doesnt seems to be quite the same..
anyway, uhh, so, when you and your gf/bf has been together for quite a long time.. say.. half a year or more.. will it get more boring in the r/s?? cos its like.. all the places, you've been together. and all the things you've all done it.. and you know you still love him/her.. and he/she, too, loves you as much..
but is there at any point of time.. u jus dread going out with him/her.. not really dread.. but it seems much of a hassle to go out? i mean.. u gotta think of NEW STUFFS, NEW PLACES to go...
any experiences?? im kinda going through this stage now.. maybe you guys will say when you're with your love one.. even going to the same place everyday or every week is still quite enjoyful?? hmm.. i dunno.. any exceptional cases??
You also would like to know if both of you are suitable for each other if stayed under one roof...at least she might want to find out for herself.
Rent or download some movies, dramas, serials...and lazed around...relax down and both of you might see if both are comfortable with each other. If yes, you will automatically have topics to discuss about. If no...GOD help you.
Nah...don't worry, just treat it as your good friend or normal friend coming over to your place and you'll be fine.
If you are out of ideas what you would like to do when out with her, accompany her or suggest something she'll like to do or places she would like to go.
One person bored out is better than two person boring out.
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Originally posted by potatostick:uhh, for those who read my previous thread.. i assume you know what happened to me and my bf.. but then.. in the end.. uhh.. glad to say.. we're still back together.. but things doesnt seems to be quite the same..
anyway, uhh, so, when you and your gf/bf has been together for quite a long time.. say.. half a year or more.. will it get more boring in the r/s?? cos its like.. all the places, you've been together. and all the things you've all done it.. and you know you still love him/her.. and he/she, too, loves you as much..
but is there at any point of time.. u jus dread going out with him/her.. not really dread.. but it seems much of a hassle to go out? i mean.. u gotta think of NEW STUFFS, NEW PLACES to go...
any experiences?? im kinda going through this stage now.. maybe you guys will say when you're with your love one.. even going to the same place everyday or every week is still quite enjoyful?? hmm.. i dunno.. any exceptional cases??
This revolves around the problem of the absence of intergrating into each other's life style.
You see, what you are doing is level one in maintaining relationship: namely to hang out. Couple hanging out with each other is as good as hanging out regularly with a good friend - constantly finding new things to do and new places to explore. Don't get me wrong, its good stuff - however, to have intergrated lifestyle served a more lasting and fulfilling effect on the relationship.
What do I mean by an intergrated lifestyle?
I) A common hobby, goal and interest that both of you has AND to enjoy it together. For example, if you two are into music - certain days are definitely burn into the activities.
II) Intergrated friends - hangs out with each other's cliche, whichever is more comfortable.
P.S: You need to have your own life as well. A good relationship essentially needs a healthy lifestyle outside the boundary of your relationship.
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y dun both of u try those childhood games? make sandcastel, fly kite, blah blah blah....
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dont know how toOriginally posted by RaTtY81:y dun both of u try those childhood games? make sandcastel, fly kite, blah blah blah.... -
try my pinch nipple game. its great. sure to rekindle the fire in the relationship.Originally posted by RaTtY81:y dun both of u try those childhood games? make sandcastel, fly kite, blah blah blah.... -
er... u pointing to my typo?Originally posted by bratpig:dont know how to -
n u gonna b burned by the fire...Originally posted by Deportivo:try my pinch nipple game. its great. sure to rekindle the fire in the relationship. -
Hi, having to read your previous thread. Do realise about your current situation. For a start, well, things will never be the same as before after a fight or a "cool down" period as human are emotion being. The hurt or sorrow that both experience will leave a scar, stain or a mark on the mental and emotional front that can never be erased. That is why sometime, something were just so hard to forget.Originally posted by potatostick:uhh, for those who read my previous thread.. i assume you know what happened to me and my bf.. but then.. in the end.. uhh.. glad to say.. we're still back together.. but things doesnt seems to be quite the same..
anyway, uhh, so, when you and your gf/bf has been together for quite a long time.. say.. half a year or more.. will it get more boring in the r/s?? cos its like.. all the places, you've been together. and all the things you've all done it.. and you know you still love him/her.. and he/she, too, loves you as much..
but is there at any point of time.. u jus dread going out with him/her.. not really dread.. but it seems much of a hassle to go out? i mean.. u gotta think of NEW STUFFS, NEW PLACES to go...
any experiences?? im kinda going through this stage now.. maybe you guys will say when you're with your love one.. even going to the same place everyday or every week is still quite enjoyful?? hmm.. i dunno.. any exceptional cases??
Next, talk about getting boring in the r/s. First thing to clarify, half a year or more in a relationship is not considered long time.
And, you feel that your r/s has reach a plateau as having to go to all the familiar places and doing similar things are like a routine or dread. Well, Singapore isn't very big for a start, but there are still a few places that I believe you have never explore yet. Doing similar things such as dining out or watching movie may seems like a routine, but you can try to ask him for a cycling trip or something like that or maybe simply relaxing at a cozy place to chill out.
But overall, it really takes TWO hands to clap to keep the relationship going and enjoyful. If you have done your part in keeping the relationship going, try to talk with him about this. If he feel uncomfortable talking, can ask him to try writing or other form of communication. However, if he don't wish to talk, it may be good to leave it be.
A food for thought here, "There is a limit to what one party can achieve in a relationship that is meant for two." Think about this.
Wish you all the best.
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Instead of shopping & movies every time, staying home is a good way to relax.
U can play mahjong, karaoka, jamming session, see old family photos, go for stroll, borrow CD/ VCD to watch, play with family's pet, do baking, watch sports/ soccer match etc.
These activities can incl. family members, this gives u both a chance to get to know them better & build the bond.
U get to see how the other person lives, his/ her habits.
This is also a try-out to what to expect when u are married. -
hey betta do something! i jus evolved from tt staged! ha... it's normal... yea.. nothing new to try out,.. always doing repetition... sian rite?? i even quarrelled and broke up with her..
now patched le.. i try to keep things fresh den... it's better in a way.. do things she loves.. like for me.. she dun really like walking ard doing nth.. she loves activity.. so i arrange more mahjong, badminton, and if ur gf loves FOOD! haa.. trust me... it applies to me tt i can satisfy my ger thru her STOMACH! ha.. well... dun meet everyday la! try have private times with ur own frenz.. ABSENCE makes the hearts grow fonder.. yea... it's true k..
gd luck den!
well... dun get too itimate sometimes... get wad i'm trying to say? i mean can but not excessive.. addictive to guys... and well.. when bodies fully exploited .. oso no FRESHNESS.. no SENSATION mah.. haha..
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Dear PotatoStick,
1/2 a yr is Not considered long for a r'ship, actually, it's q. short leh
Mebbi we haf different yardsticks? : )
Anywayz, haf u tried taking the train to JB for the wkend? : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by potatostick:uhh, for those who read my previous thread.. i assume you know what happened to me and my bf.. but then.. in the end.. uhh.. glad to say.. we're still back together.. but things doesnt seems to be quite the same..
anyway, uhh, so, when you and your gf/bf has been together for quite a long time.. say.. half a year or more.. will it get more boring in the r/s?? cos its like.. all the places, you've been together. and all the things you've all done it.. and you know you still love him/her.. and he/she, too, loves you as much..
but is there at any point of time.. u jus dread going out with him/her.. not really dread.. but it seems much of a hassle to go out? i mean.. u gotta think of NEW STUFFS, NEW PLACES to go...
any experiences?? im kinda going through this stage now.. maybe you guys will say when you're with your love one.. even going to the same place everyday or every week is still quite enjoyful?? hmm.. i dunno.. any exceptional cases?? -
Sex
Sex and more sex
after sex
cuddle 20 mins.
That's the way to spice up. -
It's still joyful... In fact... Nowadays, things are much easier... Discover new places... Rediscover old places... New activities you've never tried before...? New shows... Live your days with him just like you would of your own life...Originally posted by potatostick:uhh, for those who read my previous thread.. i assume you know what happened to me and my bf.. but then.. in the end.. uhh.. glad to say.. we're still back together.. but things doesnt seems to be quite the same..
anyway, uhh, so, when you and your gf/bf has been together for quite a long time.. say.. half a year or more.. will it get more boring in the r/s?? cos its like.. all the places, you've been together. and all the things you've all done it.. and you know you still love him/her.. and he/she, too, loves you as much..
but is there at any point of time.. u jus dread going out with him/her.. not really dread.. but it seems much of a hassle to go out? i mean.. u gotta think of NEW STUFFS, NEW PLACES to go...
any experiences?? im kinda going through this stage now.. maybe you guys will say when you're with your love one.. even going to the same place everyday or every week is still quite enjoyful?? hmm.. i dunno.. any exceptional cases??
And ultimately... Remember that it's not about the places you go and things you attend all of the time... But in fact, who you go with... And of course, don't always have to be him.. Can be with friends or even siblings.. Colleagues...?
Last but not least... In a relationship, don't do things just for the sake of doing them...? -
[quote]Originally posted by Oyathatsme:
Sex
Sex and more sex
after sex
cuddle 20 mins.
That's the way to spice up.
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there are a lot of things to do with each other wad... dun need to always come up with NEW things mah... you together for 1 and half year nia get bored already. then those married for 10, 20 years one are wad???
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wow.. thanks guys.. alot of helpful comments (uh maybe except the sex sex and more sex part?? lol) anyway.. thanks.. yeah i see alot of advices here.. haha dunno why you all keep thinkin that im OLD.. like im 20plus or wat.. no no.. im only 16.. haha.. lol..
anyway really a big thank you to all of you again!! *huggs* for everyone. muacks! love ya lots. really thanks.. i'll follow you pple's advices and see what happens then.. wish me luck peeps.
still, THANK YOU ALL!!!!!!! -
You're welcome.Originally posted by potatostick:wow.. thanks guys.. alot of helpful comments (uh maybe except the sex sex and more sex part?? lol) anyway.. thanks.. yeah i see alot of advices here.. haha dunno why you all keep thinkin that im OLD.. like im 20plus or wat.. no no.. im only 16.. haha.. lol..
anyway really a big thank you to all of you again!! *huggs* for everyone. muacks! love ya lots. really thanks.. i'll follow you pple's advices and see what happens then.. wish me luck peeps.
still, THANK YOU ALL!!!!!!!
Remember, take one step at a time.
All the best. Good luck. -
dun get too caught up in dating...Originally posted by potatostick:wow.. thanks guys.. alot of helpful comments (uh maybe except the sex sex and more sex part?? lol) anyway.. thanks.. yeah i see alot of advices here.. haha dunno why you all keep thinkin that im OLD.. like im 20plus or wat.. no no.. im only 16.. haha.. lol..
anyway really a big thank you to all of you again!! *huggs* for everyone. muacks! love ya lots. really thanks.. i'll follow you pple's advices and see what happens then.. wish me luck peeps.
still, THANK YOU ALL!!!!!!!
remember to study for exams...
16 yo == o level year...
very impt...