Hi guys, need advice, pls help..
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Hi, tis is mi first posting & i've read many Aunt Agony topics b4 i decided to put tis up..
1 mth ago, mi bf of 4 yes broke up wif mi.. He js sent 2 sms saying tt we arent meant to be, & he wans to start his life afresh.. He has since moved house, cut off his mobile line & changed job to avoid mi..
So far, I hv nv heard fr him again, except tt one time he called mi b4 mi exams (one wk aft we broke up) to ask how I was doing.. I duno is it he feel guilty or wat, or he really does care? But if he did care, y choose 1 wk b4 mi exams to break up wif mi??
Anyone out there can provide sm advice.. Im so sad & depressed.. Im working full time & studying part time, im pretty occupied on wkdaes but wen it cms to wkens, i js break.. Mi heart is bleeding so bad.. I js keep crying wen I am reminded of him..
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"Time is the best healer." The pain is most acute when the memory is most fresh. Just let him go because once a man's heart is no longer with you, it is virtually impossible to win him back and re-live the happy days. Sinking yourself into self-pitying despair would not make him turn back.
You need more time, but don't go through this difficult period alone. Fall back on your family and friends. Go out, watch movies, sing karaoke, shop, pig out, go for a make-over, pick up a new hobby, etc. There are many ways to keep yourself occupied during weekends, and I'm sure after a few more such occupied weekends, you'll start to feel better. -
i think maybe he start missing u? but as a friend maybe.He broke up with u 1week before your exam maybe because he feel that he cannot withstand certain things anymore?But i think u try to forget him?Because if he had care for your feelings,n if there is a need for a breakup,he should not do it or let you know just before your exam...Originally posted by jayne:Hi, tis is mi first posting & i've read many Aunt Agony topics b4 i decided to put tis up..
1 mth ago, mi bf of 4 yes broke up wif mi.. He js sent 2 sms saying tt we arent meant to be, & he wans to start his life afresh.. He has since moved house, cut off his mobile line & changed job to avoid mi..
So far, I hv nv heard fr him again, except tt one time he called mi b4 mi exams (one wk aft we broke up) to ask how I was doing.. I duno is it he feel guilty or wat, or he really does care? But if he did care, y choose 1 wk b4 mi exams to break up wif mi??
Anyone out there can provide sm advice.. Im so sad & depressed.. Im working full time & studying part time, im pretty occupied on wkdaes but wen it cms to wkens, i js break.. Mi heart is bleeding so bad.. I js keep crying wen I am reminded of him.. Life has lost all its colours.. -
allow yourself a period for griefing...
(not too long... maybe 1-2 months...)
then its time to get your life back on track...
move on with your life...
you can surround yourself with friends...
make new friends...
like tat life won't be so lonely...
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Yoz...Originally posted by jayne:Hi, tis is mi first posting & i've read many Aunt Agony topics b4 i decided to put tis up..
1 mth ago, mi bf of 4 yes broke up wif mi.. He js sent 2 sms saying tt we arent meant to be, & he wans to start his life afresh.. He has since moved house, cut off his mobile line & changed job to avoid mi..
So far, I hv nv heard fr him again, except tt one time he called mi b4 mi exams (one wk aft we broke up) to ask how I was doing.. I duno is it he feel guilty or wat, or he really does care? But if he did care, y choose 1 wk b4 mi exams to break up wif mi??
Anyone out there can provide sm advice.. Im so sad & depressed.. Im working full time & studying part time, im pretty occupied on wkdaes but wen it cms to wkens, i js break.. Mi heart is bleeding so bad.. I js keep crying wen I am reminded of him.. Life has lost all its colours..
Since he changed his job...hp no...address...its clear tt he wanna a clean break...forgt abt him n move on...
Concentrate on Ur study...
Time will heal all wounds...
U will find someone better...
Crying over him...do U tink he is worth Ur tears...dun waste Ur tears over someone like him...
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hi guys, thx 4 all ur advices, i appreciate it..
I noe he wans a clean break, but y call mi aft one wk? he said in his breakup msgs tt he will nv contact mi again, he wans a clean start & so shld i.. said i hv a wonderful future ahead of mi & all tt crap..
but he aso said it like its mi fault i made him lose his frens & made him change job etc.. im so
of wat he said, chose to say it during exam period! Yet i feel sad.. cos i duno wat went wrong.. he broke up wif mi on thurs, we still went out on wed.. he was perfectly fine, or so it seems..
I duno wat is it i did wrong, or is it i did anythg wrong at all.. guess i'll nv noe..
Aso, he has a track record 4 tis & everytime i try to tok him rd it.. i duno y he like to pick the exam periods, i hate him 4 it.. At first i tot it was js another bout of his madness but now, aft 3 wks.. its hardened to becm a fact.. -
Yoz...Originally posted by jayne:hi guys, thx 4 all ur advices, i appreciate it..
I noe he wans a clean break, but y call mi aft one wk? he said in his breakup msgs tt he will nv contact mi again, he wans a clean start & so shld i.. said i hv a wonderful future ahead of mi & all tt crap..
but he aso said it like its mi fault i made him lose his frens & made him change job etc.. im so of wat he said, chose to say it during exam period! Yet i feel sad.. cos i duno wat went wrong.. he broke up wif mi on thurs, we still went out on wed.. he was perfectly fine, or so it seems..
I duno wat is it i did wrong, or is it i did anythg wrong at all.. guess i'll nv noe..
Aso, he has a track record 4 tis & everytime i try to tok him rd it.. i duno y he like to pick the exam periods, i hate him 4 it.. At first i tot it was js another bout of his madness but now, aft 3 wks.. its hardened to becm a fact..
He said U made him lose his frenz...wat did U do...no offence...but r U too possessive...putting too much restrictions on him during the relationship...
If U dunno wats wrong with the whole relationship n he didnt wanna say...dun bother...if he wanna break up with U...he will use any reasons which some U might find very unreasonable...he juz wanna break up...it doesnt matter wat reasons he used...
Dun hate him for it...hating someone will only make Urself more miserable...tink of the happy times U haf together...lock away the unhappy stuff...why make Urself suffer because of this guy...
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Originally posted by jayne:
"Hate has a reason for everything,
I duno wat is it i did wrong, or is it i did anythg wrong at all.. guess i'll nv noe..
but love is unreasonable."
- V.R. Ahaefvthe
Even if you know, it'll probably not make any sense as he seemed awfully good in giving excuses.
Good luck on your exams.
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i dun wana hate him, really.. but seems like if i dun, i find it real hard to get on wif mi daes.. cos smtimes memories will js cm flooding bck to mi, & i find it difficult to get bck on mi feet again.. smtimes i js wana hide & cry till mi tears turn red..
yes, i admit im too posessive.. i hope he can spent his free time wif mi.. but i am ok if he needs to go out wif frens, js let mi noe 1st so i dun plan anythg..
i got feedbck fr one of his ex-colleagues smtime ago tt smtimes he sees him very stress.. he says tt smtimes work requires OT & he has to choose b/w work & mi.. i admit i dun quite like him working too late cos he has bck problems but if he chooses work instead of meeting mi, i will respect his choice, thou i will kick a fuss..
i admit im a fuss maker, hard to pls.. but 4 yrs has past, he din say a thg.. but i noe miself.. i tried to change a few times, but i guess it wasnt wat he wanted.. so he packed up & left..
i cant believe he went to the extend as to move, cut his line & change job, js to avoid mi.. i cant believe he nv even consider mi feelings! he said in his last msg tt he knew i wld cry, but hes sori.. nvm abt the past, dun matter who rite who wrong, js move on.. he aso says he cant provide 4 mi, cos he has his aged parents at home to feed.. so js let go.. -
r/ship are like these....Originally posted by jayne:i dun wana hate him, really.. but seems like if i dun, i find it real hard to get on wif mi daes.. cos smtimes memories will js cm flooding bck to mi, & i find it difficult to get bck on mi feet again.. smtimes i js wana hide & cry till mi tears turn red..
yes, i admit im too posessive.. i hope he can spent his free time wif mi.. but i am ok if he needs to go out wif frens, js let mi noe 1st so i dun plan anythg..
i got feedbck fr one of his ex-colleagues smtime ago tt smtimes he sees him very stress.. he says tt smtimes work requires OT & he has to choose b/w work & mi.. i admit i dun quite like him working too late cos he has bck problems but if he chooses work instead of meeting mi, i will respect his choice, thou i will kick a fuss..
i admit im a fuss maker, hard to pls.. but 4 yrs has past, he din say a thg.. but i noe miself.. i tried to change a few times, but i guess it wasnt wat he wanted.. so he packed up & left..
i cant believe he went to the extend as to move, cut his line & change job, js to avoid mi.. i cant believe he nv even consider mi feelings! he said in his last msg tt he knew i wld cry, but hes sori.. nvm abt the past, dun matter who rite who wrong, js move on.. he aso says he cant provide 4 mi, cos he has his aged parents at home to feed.. so js let go..
if there is a need to hate him, hate him..... its only when you totally get over this break up and carry on with life, then you will realise that it wasnt anyones fault......
being possessive or wat isnt the issue here.... i do witness some of my friends whom had possessive partners and they are doing fine..... common... we are mature adults to know what is right and wrong....
as for him calling u back.... put it this way, sometime human are very complex animal.... they might say this but do another..... by him contacting you a week later, might also means he regret his actions and wanted to be back with you, it can be also becos the thought that its too harsh to end the frienship this way and he might want to continue being your fren....
why dont you ask yourself this qn : if he wants to be back with you, will he yet suggest another break up in the future like what he had did before?
why dont give yourself a break, get your life moving.... there are still alot of wonderful things that you can see in life.... -
maybe you should really get back to him after all.. that is provided u still love him.. there must be some serious reason why he choose to do so.. perhaps it's time to get down and have some understanding talks between e two of you..
or it might be him having another gf.. anyway this is not impossible though.. however I still feel like you should do what your heart wanted u to do.. yet not your mind kidda way.. I know you would kidda hate him perhaps? but still at the same time miss him alot..
seriously I still think you should go find him(meet him up, never have a serious conversion at phone) at least ask for the real reason why he did so.. at least tell him you want to share his burden with him(parents) or if he really had another relationship.. den say thanks to him for being honest so that you could move on without any regrets
anyway do keep us inform of e outcome..
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Hi gal... think you're too busy wif ur studies and work... he might need someone that gifs him attention. Well if you think u dun haf e time for him.... y bother.... at least y're only 'part-tor-ing'... if u're married then it'll be a bit late... worst got children will be even worst! So juz treat it as part n parcel of life....
I think it's good that u know it early stage like now.... got a fren... together 10yrs... get married for e sake of getting married.... u know wat happened after 2 years.... both go each ways....
If u need someone to tok to... i dun mind borrowing my ears... but u gotta remember hor... me a bit ah pek wan hor... will be bery loh-so.... kekkekk
Leon-pek-pekOriginally posted by jayne:i dun wana hate him, really.. but seems like if i dun, i find it real hard to get on wif mi daes.. cos smtimes memories will js cm flooding bck to mi, & i find it difficult to get bck on mi feet again.. smtimes i js wana hide & cry till mi tears turn red..
yes, i admit im too posessive.. i hope he can spent his free time wif mi.. but i am ok if he needs to go out wif frens, js let mi noe 1st so i dun plan anythg..
i got feedbck fr one of his ex-colleagues smtime ago tt smtimes he sees him very stress.. he says tt smtimes work requires OT & he has to choose b/w work & mi.. i admit i dun quite like him working too late cos he has bck problems but if he chooses work instead of meeting mi, i will respect his choice, thou i will kick a fuss..
i admit im a fuss maker, hard to pls.. but 4 yrs has past, he din say a thg.. but i noe miself.. i tried to change a few times, but i guess it wasnt wat he wanted.. so he packed up & left..
i cant believe he went to the extend as to move, cut his line & change job, js to avoid mi.. i cant believe he nv even consider mi feelings! he said in his last msg tt he knew i wld cry, but hes sori.. nvm abt the past, dun matter who rite who wrong, js move on.. he aso says he cant provide 4 mi, cos he has his aged parents at home to feed.. so js let go.. -
i noe he will do it again if we patch.. i js duno y he does it, or even try to get back wif mi.. i noe he isnt trying to get back wif mi, cos wen i ask him to address mi by nick (we hv little names 4 each other), he refused to.. he js kept silent on the other line.. den said he hv to go..Originally posted by anfuni:r/ship are like these....
if there is a need to hate him, hate him..... its only when you totally get over this break up and carry on with life, then you will realise that it wasnt anyones fault......
being possessive or wat isnt the issue here.... i do witness some of my friends whom had possessive partners and they are doing fine..... common... we are mature adults to know what is right and wrong....
as for him calling u back.... put it this way, sometime human are very complex animal.... they might say this but do another..... by him contacting you a week later, might also means he regret his actions and wanted to be back with you, it can be also becos the thought that its too harsh to end the frienship this way and he might want to continue being your fren....
why dont you ask yourself this qn : if he wants to be back with you, will he yet suggest another break up in the future like what he had did before?
why dont give yourself a break, get your life moving.... there are still alot of wonderful things that you can see in life....
i still rem the last thg i asked him in tt last call was wen will he surface again - he said he will call mi.. which i doubt so.. hving done all tis, y bother surfacing again? lies, all lies..
i dun wana patch bck wif him cos i really c no future.. but its js so painful.. like thousands of blades cutting thru mi, & i hv to painstakingly pull them out 1 by 1, & den learn to move on aft cleaning up mi wounds.. -
Originally posted by jayne:
You may want to let go, but your signature seems to hint that if he does come back to you again, you'd gladly receive him with open arms again.
so js let go..
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I am waiting.. Waiting, waiting for his return..
Given his track record, if that is really what you are waiting for, then just treat this as a short "break" or cool-off period, and concentrate on your exams first. Maybe he'd really be back again after that.
I probably shouldn't have assumed that his heart is no longer with you in my earlier post. For someone with such a track record, maybe his definition of "break-off" is more like "let's-not-see-each-other-for-a-while", than like "get-out-of-my-face-for-good". -
*smiles*Originally posted by jayne:i noe he will do it again if we patch.. i js duno y he does it, or even try to get back wif mi.. i noe he isnt trying to get back wif mi, cos wen i ask him to address mi by nick (we hv little names 4 each other), he refused to.. he js kept silent on the other line.. den said he hv to go..
i still rem the last thg i asked him in tt last call was wen will he surface again - he said he will call mi.. which i doubt so.. hving done all tis, y bother surfacing again? lies, all lies..
i dun wana patch bck wif him cos i really c no future.. but its js so painful.. like thousands of blades cutting thru mi, & i hv to painstakingly pull them out 1 by 1, & den learn to move on aft cleaning up mi wounds..
breaking up are like that..... thats also part of growing up...... just remember its not the duration of a r/ship that you need to consider, you dont start to get together and only decided to break up 10 yrs later when you think he is not the one for you....
its more on the "feeling"....... if you think that the r/ship cant work out anymore, just let go and move on with your life.....
about the matter of him calling/contacting you, you might want to consider to either change your number or refuse to pick up his calls.... i believe you are mature enough to decide what are the appropriate actions just to keep him out of your world(if you really want to).....
last but not least, if you decided to let go..... PLEASE, let go and move on with life..... being half-hearted doesnt helps in the situation and it might even make the whole thing gone wrong.....
if you decided to hold on, sit down and discuss with him what are the expectation in the r/ship and communicate(cos its impt in a r/ship).... of cos, no half hearted thing again... you dont decide to hold on and at the same feeling that he isnt the one for you ya?
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hi tasty, i dun tink he has another gf, cos he really cant afford (or rather, which gal wans a guy wif no $$?).. i'll be straighforth, his pay is only enuf 4 his bring-home & his spenditure, & only a little left 4 savings..Originally posted by tastybanana:maybe you should really get back to him after all.. that is provided u still love him.. there must be some serious reason why he choose to do so.. perhaps it's time to get down and have some understanding talks between e two of you..
or it might be him having another gf.. anyway this is not impossible though.. however I still feel like you should do what your heart wanted u to do.. yet not your mind kidda way.. I know you would kidda hate him perhaps? but still at the same time miss him alot..
seriously I still think you should go find him(meet him up, never have a serious conversion at phone) at least ask for the real reason why he did so.. at least tell him you want to share his burden with him(parents) or if he really had another relationship.. den say thanks to him for being honest so that you could move on without any regrets
anyway do keep us inform of e outcome..
how many 4 years do we have in our lifetime?
i tried means & ways to find him.. go to his aunt's hse, visit his previous rented rm, all say he not there, all say wld help mi contact him.. but not one has got back to mi.. i js dun gedit.. mebe they js dun bother or js dun wana be involved..
but tt was intially.. mi frens & family has toked mi thru & i hv decided to give it up.. js tt mi heart not satisfied y aft 4 yrs like tis? y at tis time? y? y? y?
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Hi jayne,
Well mayb your bf hv his own difficulties which cannot tell U. Guy do hv ego when they facing problem, they would not tell anyone not bcos he dont trust them. It mayb bcos he might think that even he tell U, it might b a burden for U. Guy would like to keep everything inside them and "sometime the one who hurt U most is the one who love U most". It take time to show. -
Originally posted by jayne:
Which girl would want a guy with no money? Sorry to interrupt, but aren't you one yourself? Didn't you love him all the same despite knowing he has no money?
i dun tink he has another gf, cos he really cant afford (or rather, which gal wans a guy wif no $$?)
At least he has a stable job, and he is not really broke or debt-ridden. He just has some heavy commitments and cannot afford to splurge too much on girlfriends, that's all. Most girls in Singapore are independent and have incomes themselves anyway. If a girl really loves a guy, it wouldn't really matter if he did not have a lot of money to spend on her (as long as he did not keep asking her for money, which is another story). In fact, there are some guys in Singapore who don't earn as much as their girlfriends do, and their relationships are still going on strong.
Not saying that he has another girlfriend of course -- just pointing out that sometimes money is not really a big matter when it comes to relationships.
The other posters have given some good advice, but whether you choose to wait or to move on, it is best you focus on what is immediately ahead. You'll be doing yourself a big favour if you keep yourself busy in preparation for the exams now. Hope that in one or two weeks from now, when you come back to this forum again after your exams, you'll be a happier person. -
hi murphy, i am not sure if he has his own difficulties.. but he is the type to keep silent abt his troubles.. e last time he called mi i joked wif him how cm he hiding?? I asked is it he owe loanshark $$? he said, "sorta.." but refuse to elaborate..Originally posted by murphydannylfc:Hi jayne,
Well mayb your bf hv his own difficulties which cannot tell U. Guy do hv ego when they facing problem, they would not tell anyone not bcos he dont trust them. It mayb bcos he might think that even he tell U, it might b a burden for U. Guy would like to keep everything inside them and "sometime the one who hurt U most is the one who love U most". It take time to show.
he's malaysian, PR here & he hasnt gone home 4 wks.. normally he has to go home once a mth to make payment 4 his parents house.. i noe tis cos i called his home & his ma answered..
his ma aso said that she has been unable to contact him as his fone was off.. i hope she is not lying abt being unable to contact him.. but doesnt matter if she is.. its her son..
i hv tried to contact her recently but turns out e land line has been sliced.. she did say tt they have a $400 outstanding bill not paid, so they face a cut soon..
i hv her mobile, but hv yet to exercise tt choice yet.. i dun wan to like disturb her.. cos i duno watever she is telling is the truth? -
Hi Jayne
I had went through a few break up myself before. And some very unpleasent one too. I understand the pain and lost that you are having now. I remember in one of my break up I even cried for six months.
But do you know how I get over it? It is very easy, just let go. It hurt. It pain. The feeling of losting something in your life. All these feeling I understand and it arent easy to let go either.
But you need to get your life back. Facing it, he had break up with you and right now he is having his life but what of you? You still hanging on to the past and that is why it pain so deep. Face it, let go and have your life back. Dont stop at where you are now, the world wont stop spinning because you have a break up and feel awful about it.
RegardsOriginally posted by jayne:Hi, tis is mi first posting & i've read many Aunt Agony topics b4 i decided to put tis up..
1 mth ago, mi bf of 4 yes broke up wif mi.. He js sent 2 sms saying tt we arent meant to be, & he wans to start his life afresh.. He has since moved house, cut off his mobile line & changed job to avoid mi..
So far, I hv nv heard fr him again, except tt one time he called mi b4 mi exams (one wk aft we broke up) to ask how I was doing.. I duno is it he feel guilty or wat, or he really does care? But if he did care, y choose 1 wk b4 mi exams to break up wif mi??
Anyone out there can provide sm advice.. Im so sad & depressed.. Im working full time & studying part time, im pretty occupied on wkdaes but wen it cms to wkens, i js break.. Mi heart is bleeding so bad.. I js keep crying wen I am reminded of him.. Life has lost all its colours.. -
Probably just wanna check if you're okie... Maybe guilty..? Anyway, try not to think beyond all these... Often gonna be unhealthy....Originally posted by jayne:Hi, tis is mi first posting & i've read many Aunt Agony topics b4 i decided to put tis up..
1 mth ago, mi bf of 4 yes broke up wif mi.. He js sent 2 sms saying tt we arent meant to be, & he wans to start his life afresh.. He has since moved house, cut off his mobile line & changed job to avoid mi..
So far, I hv nv heard fr him again, except tt one time he called mi b4 mi exams (one wk aft we broke up) to ask how I was doing.. I duno is it he feel guilty or wat, or he really does care? But if he did care, y choose 1 wk b4 mi exams to break up wif mi??
Anyone out there can provide sm advice.. Im so sad & depressed.. Im working full time & studying part time, im pretty occupied on wkdaes but wen it cms to wkens, i js break.. Mi heart is bleeding so bad.. I js keep crying wen I am reminded of him.. Life has lost all its colours..
Whatever reason he had left you for , it should be for good... Learn to pick up your life and just move on for now....? -
hi varatare, thx 4 ur advice.. It is js wat i wana do, let go.. but does it always hurt so bad? I duno if e other party is hurting, but I noe i am hurting like mad.. Mi frens all say he hurts to, even guilty, cos he made e cut..Originally posted by varatare:Hi Jayne
I had went through a few break up myself before. And some very unpleasent one too. I understand the pain and lost that you are having now. I remember in one of my break up I even cried for six months.
But do you know how I get over it? It is very easy, just let go. It hurt. It pain. The feeling of losting something in your life. All these feeling I understand and it arent easy to let go either.
But you need to get your life back. Facing it, he had break up with you and right now he is having his life but what of you? You still hanging on to the past and that is why it pain so deep. Face it, let go and have your life back. Dont stop at where you are now, the world wont stop spinning because you have a break up and feel awful about it.
Regards
But how do u stop those memories (gd/bad) fr cming bck? Do u js let e memories cm & go? Or do u try to stop them midway? Either way i hv tried, & both r js as painful..... -
Its not you cant let go.....Originally posted by jayne:hi varatare, thx 4 ur advice.. It is js wat i wana do, let go.. but does it always hurt so bad? I duno if e other party is hurting, but I noe i am hurting like mad.. Mi frens all say he hurts to, even guilty, cos he made e cut..
But how do u stop those memories (gd/bad) fr cming bck? Do u js let e memories cm & go? Or do u try to stop them midway? Either way i hv tried, & both r js as painful.....
You just cant convince yourself how can a person give up a 4 yr r/ship without any valid reason?
its not the duration, its more on the "feelings" itself..... One dont drag till so long eg. 4 yrs, 10 yrs, then realise that the r/ship dont suits him/her.... maybe its a blessing in disguise that this r/ship ends earlier....
For the case how come he is still contacting u, put it this way, he is vain? cos he only realise how much he still cares for you after giving up..... but but.... ask yourself, will you like this kind of guy that actually do things in impluse?
How to stop remembering/thinking keeping in contact etc etc.... is not difficult.... its just the same as how you stop those people that you dont like from approaching you in life....
everything lies in your head.... now you are lost.... give yourself some time..... sit down and think what you want for yourself in the future.... set some goals and targets and start to follow them..... -
Originally posted by jayne:hi varatare, thx 4 ur advice.. It is js wat i wana do, let go.. but does it always hurt so bad? I duno if e other party is hurting, but I noe i am hurting like mad.. Mi frens all say he hurts to, even guilty, cos he made e cut..
But how do u stop those memories (gd/bad) fr cming bck? Do u js let e memories cm & go? Or do u try to stop them midway? Either way i hv tried, & both r js as painful.....
Memories are there to tell u that u have been through it.
If u can really let go, whatever sad or happy memories, u will take it all very naturally.
Since he is so determined to cut off all contacts from you...let him go. Even if you get him back and his heart is no longer with you, what's the point? Time will heal the pain..but to be able to let go or not still depends on your determination. -
hi anfuni, yes, u hit home.. I js cant convince miself.. I dun believe it.. aft so long, den tell mi tt it wun work out.. wat is tis??Originally posted by anfuni:Its not you cant let go.....
You just cant convince yourself how can a person give up a 4 yr r/ship without any valid reason?
its not the duration, its more on the "feelings" itself..... One dont drag till so long eg. 4 yrs, 10 yrs, then realise that the r/ship dont suits him/her.... maybe its a blessing in disguise that this r/ship ends earlier....
For the case how come he is still contacting u, put it this way, he is vain? cos he only realise how much he still cares for you after giving up..... but but.... ask yourself, will you like this kind of guy that actually do things in impluse?
How to stop remembering/thinking keeping in contact etc etc.... is not difficult.... its just the same as how you stop those people that you dont like from approaching you in life....
everything lies in your head.... now you are lost.... give yourself some time..... sit down and think what you want for yourself in the future.... set some goals and targets and start to follow them.....
to mi, he was js feeling guilty.. wen he called mi, i kept asking him y? wat r e reasons? den he kept saying wait till mi exams r ovr, but i tell him, it was! ee 1st dae he called mi, was ee dae mi exams were ovr.. den he said give him smtime, he wld tell..
den the nxt dae he called mi again, tis time i pushed him.. i wanted to noe there & den, dun drag anymore! den i got it.. he told mi exactly wat he said in the msg.. i asked him was it possible we give it one more shot? he js said "no".. cos mi parents object & all.. but wen i told mi mum, she js slammed bck tt they objected rite fr e start, he realised only now?
i keep wanting to noe e reasons y, cos these excuses js dun seem valid to mi.. i duno is it i am js stubborn, in denial or wat.. i am confuse miself..