2nd chance at fate or a prank?
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It has been about 10 years since me and my best friend drifted away. recently, i got to know a new colleague who resembles my best friend alot. her tone of voice, the way she carries herself, her train of thoughts etc. are so much like my best friend. the resemblance was so strong that sometimes, i mistook her to be my best friend.
after knowing this colleague, memories of the past keep flooding back into my mind, both bad and happy ones. i tried very hard to forget and try to tell myself that this person in front of me is actually my colleague, NOT my best friend. nevertheless, i find myself drawn to this colleague and hope very much to be good friends with her. despite this, i reminded myself repeatedly that i shouldn't be feeling this way and i shouldn't be treating this colleague as a substitute. am i wrong to feel/think this way?
pls advise. wat should i do? i feel that fate is playing a prank on me. just when i was able to move on with my life, IT has to let me know my colleague who resembles my best friend.
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I believe that one should keep a safe distance at work from others, and not be friends. You can be colleagues, that's about it. Because if both her and your ricebowl are at stake and if you go and she won't, she is very likely to want you to break your bowl rather than hers.Originally posted by misery=(:It has been about 10 years since me and my best friend drifted away. recently, i got to know a new colleague who resembles my best friend alot. her tone of voice, the way she carries herself, her train of thoughts etc. are so much like my best friend. the resemblance was so strong that sometimes, i mistook her to be my best friend.
after knowing this colleague, memories of the past keep flooding back into my mind, both bad and happy ones. i tried very hard to forget and try to tell myself that this person in front of me is actually my colleague, NOT my best friend. nevertheless, i find myself drawn to this colleague and hope very much to be good friends with her. despite this, i reminded myself repeatedly that i shouldn't be feeling this way and i shouldn't be treating this colleague as a substitute. am i wrong to feel/think this way?
pls advise. wat should i do? i feel that fate is playing a prank on me. just when i was able to move on with my life, IT has to let me know my colleague who resembles my best friend.
Each man for himself.
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you remind me of a girl that i once knew / see her face whenever i, i look at you
sometimes it may be worth getting to know her better just so you won't be tormented by all that doubting. -
Originally posted by misery=(:It has been about 10 years since me and my best friend drifted away. recently, i got to know a new colleague who resembles my best friend alot. her tone of voice, the way she carries herself, her train of thoughts etc. are so much like my best friend. the resemblance was so strong that sometimes, i mistook her to be my best friend.
after knowing this colleague, memories of the past keep flooding back into my mind, both bad and happy ones. i tried very hard to forget and try to tell myself that this person in front of me is actually my colleague, NOT my best friend. nevertheless, i find myself drawn to this colleague and hope very much to be good friends with her. despite this, i reminded myself repeatedly that i shouldn't be feeling this way and i shouldn't be treating this colleague as a substitute. am i wrong to feel/think this way?
pls advise. wat should i do? i feel that fate is playing a prank on me. just when i was able to move on with my life, IT has to let me know my colleague who resembles my best friend.
Classic
So often, we seek for qualities of someone else in someone else.
Last year March2004 (ard there) you spoke about your so called 'breaking up' with your best friend. Obviously, you and I knew that it was love, not best friend. I believe I did said before one year back.
You could continue your search for your 'best friend' or the qualities that resemble her, for that fantasy is never-dying.
You live for and in your fantasy world.
Welcome to the real world.
A reality that you reject.
Nobody is saying you can't do that - however, what's the ultimate point? Dreams vanished every morning. We cannot always be chasing something that is gone forever or is unreal.
Cheers -
Yun,
you are right. i have been living my life in circles and i can't seem to snap out of it. my problem is more complicated than what you thought. the best friend whom i referred to in this mail is actually my first best friend. the one whom i referred to in my post one year ago was my second and present best friend.
all along, i have not been able to fully recover from the "setback" from my friendship with my first best friend. i can't understand why she would suddenly "disappear" from my life. we did not quarrel or have any misunderstanding but she just left without any explanation and left me danggling there, not knowing what she was thinking, what exactly had happened. i was terribly hurt.
all these years, i tried to live life as best as i could. i moved on and that's when i gotto know my second and present best friend. just when i thought that i had moved on, life has to be so cruel as to let me know my colleague who resembles my first best friend. that is when all past memories keep flooding back and my old scars reopened. once again, i can truly feel again the hurt that i experienced 10 years ago. despite this feeling of hurt, there is also this feeling of unexplained happiness and hope after knowing my colleague. this is a feeling which i haven't experienced before and i do not know how to cope with it.
the fortunate thing (or maybe unfortunate) is that my colleague will be leaving tomorrow. we may not be able to see each other again. this should bring a close to this chapter of my life but somehow, i don't feel happy. i guess i will miss her. strange feeling for someone whom i just gotto know for a few days... -
Originally posted by misery=(:
Friends, even best friends, are not possessions. They come and go in our lives -- we can't stop them. Blessed is the person who could find one friend for life. As friendships fade and die off, though an explanation would be in order, there are times when it really is not necessary. And sometimes, laying the reasons out in the open may just aggravate the hurt on both sides, so some people just choose to let nature take its own course. When that happens, move on and open your heart to let other friends enter.
all along, i have not been able to fully recover from the "setback" from my friendship with my first best friend. i can't understand why she would suddenly "disappear" from my life. we did not quarrel or have any misunderstanding but she just left without any explanation and left me danggling there, not knowing what she was thinking, what exactly had happened. i was terribly hurt.
Don't take it personally, but you really ought to change your nick. Misery attracts misery. -
after today, my life will be back to normal again...
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Such things happen...Originally posted by misery=(:the fortunate thing (or maybe unfortunate) is that my colleague will be leaving tomorrow. we may not be able to see each other again. this should bring a close to this chapter of my life but somehow, i don't feel happy. i guess i will miss her. strange feeling for someone whom i just gotto know for a few days...