Why life cannot treat me a little bit kinder?
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Why am i so crazy love a gal which i know she will only accept me as friends and not her boyfriend? I willing to do everything for her even though she is not my gf and knowing she won't accept me. Am i very silly and foolish in relationship?
The feeling is slowly killing me. I wonder how long more before i breakdown, -
life sometimes deals you crap... it was never a fair shake...
however, we learn and we live and we move on...
and then we grow...
you're a dude.. take it on the chin and move on...
be her friend... and learn to move on...
it's hard but if you decide to move on and stick to it, you will eventually...
good luck! -
if you really love a person...
you should set her free...
if she doesn't return...
it was never meant to be...
juz be friends...
if sh'e fated to be your gf...
she will... -
Yes, you are very silly and foolish.Originally posted by loner2004:Why am i so crazy love a gal which i know she will only accept me as friends and not her boyfriend? I willing to do everything for her even though she is not my gf and knowing she won't accept me. Am i very silly and foolish in relationship?
The feeling is slowly killing me. I wonder how long more before i breakdown,
Worry not, you will become smart, eventually.
You are willing to do everything because you want something in return - her affection. That is the problem, lah.
Be altrustic, don't expect any thing in return. Do and forget.
Do that sincerely.
Don't Do and forget, in the hope of ......................... -
haiz...just learn to let go and life will be easier on you. I have gone thru this before as well, at that time I felt like life is so unfair to me. But now, when I look back, I do not think I would change a thing. Because maybe that experience also teaches me how to cherish love more, esp when you have found the right one
i.c.y -
your situation is like rick price's 'heaven know'
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Love cannot be forced~ if she likes you..she will comes to you...if not...you wait untill die also no use lah~
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everytime i see posts like that i feel like beating the Shit out of the poster. they don't know what's called unkind.
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dun worry...ya not the only one in singapore facing this kind of problem...
time takes away all despair and burden...trust me...ya will grow out of it...take it as just a phase of life... -
Life is unkind when u dun know where ur next meal is coming from.
Life is unkind when u are down wif terminal illness
Life is unkind when u dun know if u'll wake up again tmr
Life is unkind when u dun have a roof over ur head
Life is unkind when u lose ur loved ones forever
Life is unkind when everyone deserts u.
How is life unkind to u again??
huh... some gal dun like u ah... wah... so ke lian...
wake up, n grow up. -
Originally posted by loner2004:
Life would not be treating you kinder if the girl had accepted you as a boyfriend even when she didn't love you.
Why am i so crazy love a gal which i know she will only accept me as friends and not her boyfriend? I willing to do everything for her even though she is not my gf and knowing she won't accept me. Am i very silly and foolish in relationship?
The feeling is slowly killing me. I wonder how long more before i breakdown,
Love cannot be brought to order. Do not blame life for being unkind to you when someone does not love you. Blame yourself for being unkind to you when you choose to be obsessed with one who does not love you.
If you are truly willing to do everything for her, then why not this simple task: respect her decision and give her peace? -
she's not the one for you.... that's all....
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Dear Loner,
There're reasons why she won't accept you, perhaps she feels you're Not the person she's looking for to spend time with, to love & to cherish. Rather than accept you now only to dump you & hurt you later, she's actually doing you justice as a friend. Many do Not understand that, but I hope you do.
At least you're still friends with her, I've had personal experiences whereby the guy turned nasty after I rejected them, or rejected their appeals (read: pressure) to patch things up.
Enjoy her as a friend. She has done her duty by you : ) Someone else who's able to appreciate you in a relationship kinda way will come along.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by loner2004:Why am i so crazy love a gal which i know she will only accept me as friends and not her boyfriend? I willing to do everything for her even though she is not my gf and knowing she won't accept me. Am i very silly and foolish in relationship?
The feeling is slowly killing me. I wonder how long more before i breakdown, -
Hi loner2004
I love the title of your topic. And I can share with you my point of view why life cannot treat you a little bit kinder. To me I feel it is because you dont treat yourself a little bit kinder. So start treat yourself a little kinder, dont push yourself so hard and learn to let thing go naturely.
RegardsOriginally posted by loner2004:Why am i so crazy love a gal which i know she will only accept me as friends and not her boyfriend? I willing to do everything for her even though she is not my gf and knowing she won't accept me. Am i very silly and foolish in relationship?
The feeling is slowly killing me. I wonder how long more before i breakdown, -
She has totally occupied your visions. Why don't you take a step back? You will see there are a lot of better gals besides her. You just need that little courage to take that step.
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Well, I would not use a term like "better". For who is "better" than the other.
But rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. Some take it and some can't stomach it.
Some feel that they can be friends. Some feel, that after being in a relationship, it would better if they became strangers, for how would the new partner of the one they love feel, if the new partner knows that the ex, who still has intense emotions is still in the picture, even as "a friend".
A fellow moderator of a forum said it well: how can there be a future when the past is present?
Maybe, it would be good if he was her friend. Maybe. It would also be good if he went away, for what good would come if he sees her all the time, she knows of his feelings for her, and she's finds another. How would her boyfriend then react when she tells him that he's in love with her but he's only a friend? He'll be tormented, and her boyfriend would be suspicious.
It does not take proof to break up a relationship, just suspicion would do.
There are so many things to think about. But only one person can make that decision and that would be him.
I do hope he'll make a good decision. And that no one would need to be hurt more than is necessary.Originally posted by shadowlunar:She has totally occupied your visions. Why don't you take a step back? You will see there are a lot of better gals besides her. You just need that little courage to take that step. -
We reject ppl and others reject us.
There's no right or wrong here. Its juz that we lacked the qualities that others are looking for and vice versa.
Juz take it easy. No point dwelling on it and force your way, or else, you may lose a fren in the end... -
I feel you brother... Cos right now, i'm going through the same thing...
I told her i'd let go, but deep down... i didn't
I told her if she needed me anytime, i'll be there
I assured to her that i'd stop woo-ing her, and i will.
Sometimes... i think you just need to let go... -
actually i'll say..... sometimes you just need to "get used" to it.... instead of letting go...Originally posted by WoShiNoobie:I feel you brother... Cos right now, i'm going through the same thing...
I told her i'd let go, but deep down... i didn't
I told her if she needed me anytime, i'll be there
I assured to her that i'd stop woo-ing her, and i will.
Sometimes... i think you just need to let go... -
I guess so...Originally posted by Estee:actually i'll say..... sometimes you just need to "get used" to it.... instead of letting go...
But mine isn't so bad... she says she want to know me better b4 giving a definite answer... a small glimpse of hope... -
Thanks for all your advice. But when i come to relationship i am very failure. I already see the hole in front, i still carry on walking till i fall inside. Then it will take me very very long to climb out of the hole.
What should i do? I do envied people to have a nice gf to share the happiness & sorrow. I also envied why some people can get in & out of a relationship so easily?
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Yoz...Originally posted by loner2004:Why am i so crazy love a gal which i know she will only accept me as friends and not her boyfriend? I willing to do everything for her even though she is not my gf and knowing she won't accept me. Am i very silly and foolish in relationship?
The feeling is slowly killing me. I wonder how long more before i breakdown,
Dude...
Move on...go n find someone who will accept n love U...I been thru too many times...
Life is a never ending learning process...this is juz one of the lessons...its time for U to move on to others...
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Life sucks, It Stinks and Shi_ts happens. Take it and live it.
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Originally posted by loner2004:Thanks for all your advice. But when i come to relationship i am very failure. I already see the hole in front, i still carry on walking till i fall inside. Then it will take me very very long to climb out of the hole.
What should i do? I do envied people to have a nice gf to share the happiness & sorrow. I also envied why some people can get in & out of a relationship so easily?
Sigh.......................................................
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Boy come I teach you how to forget her lar
Sure work!!
First look yrself in the mirror
look closely
next slap yrself darn hard until red marks appear on yr face.
Pain or not ? If not, slap more till it hurts.
The pain will remind you that you are still a man, no longer a boy.
It helps to wake you up from the so call dreamworld you are having.
She say do not love you liao you even how much force her, rape her or buy her diamonds will not change her heart one lar.
Waste time on her for wat? can earn money meh?
She only laugh and call you a wimp in front of her friends.
Then people will say that you cannot make it at all behind your back.
You want that to happen?
BE strong!!
This is not a goody tale with a happy ending and you are not the so call prince.
SO WAKE UP YR FKING IDEA!