The one you are with...
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is he or she the one who u really love in the 1st place? As in is there someone else whom you would really want to be with but due to the irony of life, you are now with someone whom AT FIRST is not the top on your list?
I am facing this kind of irony now. The girl whom I have feelings towards has a boyfriend and of course I would never think of snatching her over but now all of a sudden, another girl came into my life and she, I can tell is interested in me. Now, i am in a dilemma as to whether to go ahead to accept the 2nd girl or not. I am afraid that I would be unfair to her.
Listening to "wo ai de ren" by chen xiao chun right now....
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may i ask .....can u post this question on 'Uncle Agony' Forum pls.
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ROFLMAOOriginally posted by cindtan29:may i ask .....can u post this question on 'Uncle Agony' Forum pls.
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no wonder business at aunt agony dropped.....
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really?Originally posted by cindtan29:may i ask .....can u post this question on 'Uncle Agony' Forum pls.
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YES!! BABY!!Originally posted by twenty47:really? -
If you are interested in someone please do not try to find another.
Do you really wish to hurt another gal, just becos she is "interested in you".
Please clear of the thought of the pervious one before you commit to another.
I have seen people going through the same phase as you and end up losing the two girls. People will know of it and say you are a two timer and chance of finding the rite one will be lower.
Before it all happens you can stop it. As no one else can decide for you.
What I can do is only to sincerely advice you what will happen if you chose this path. You will be the one who will have to suffer if you chose the wrong path. Is up to you. -
The thing is that I see no future with the 1st girl as she seems to be in a rather stable r/s and I think its silly to keep waiting for something thats not going to happen. Does it mean that if my feelings for the 1st girl don't die, then i shall forever not give myself or the other girl a chance?Originally posted by drx:If you are interested in someone please do not try to find another.
Do you really wish to hurt another gal, just becos she is "interested in you".
Please clear of the thought of the pervious one before you commit to another.
I have seen people going through the same phase as you and end up losing the two girls. People will know of it and say you are a two timer and chance of finding the rite one will be lower.
Before it all happens you can stop it. As no one else can decide for you.
What I can do is only to sincerely advice you what will happen if you chose this path. You will be the one who will have to suffer if you chose the wrong path. Is up to you. -
i waited for my girl to go through 2 relationships before we got together... its your call... you can still love her even though she is with another...
to wait or not to wait merely determines whether you want to have a chance to be with her or not...
accepting another now means getting a sub in my eyes
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Dun start a r/s with the second girl if u cant forget the first one.
If you are afraid that you will be unfair, it goes to show that you know you have not totally give up or forget on the first girl.
Ask yourself, do u like this second girl?
Imagine being attached to someone and yet she is thinking of another when she is with you. How would you feel?
If u juz wants to be in love, then forget it. At the most you will be in love with love and not in love with her. -
don't be with 1st girl then MUST choose 2nd girl meh?
just because 1st girl you no chance, 2nd girl likes you
MUST choose one meh?
Because 1st girl you dont have chance liao, you 'Sian'
Because 2nd girl like you, you "Gian"
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Maybe you should give yourself a resting period.
Do not meet any of the 2 girls at all.
At least it will give you time to clear your mind a bit.
You have already accepted the fact that you cannot be with your first love.
Next step is to put this feelings for yr first love into memories.
Admit to yourself that the relationship have ended and is time to close the matter. And then slowly put it into memories in your head.
For the new girl I recomand slowly start being friends first, no need to rush slowly accept her into your life. Go out with her to have fun. Enjoy her company only as a friend, if the new girl really loves you then she will wait for you. Slowly but surely your will notice that your feelings will start to change as both of you will become closer.
This method has helped me before.
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Yoz...Originally posted by twenty47:is he or she the one who u really love in the 1st place? As in is there someone else whom you would really want to be with but due to the irony of life, you are now with someone whom AT FIRST is not the top on your list?
I am facing this kind of irony now. The girl whom I have feelings towards has a boyfriend and of course I would never think of snatching her over but now all of a sudden, another girl came into my life and she, I can tell is interested in me. Now, i am in a dilemma as to whether to go ahead to accept the 2nd girl or not. I am afraid that I would be unfair to her.
Listening to "wo ai de ren" by chen xiao chun right now....
Sometimes...the person we r in a relationship with may nt be the person whom we truly love...its really fate...
Sometimes...real love is a one way traffic...U may love her but she may nt love you...
I face with such probs last time also...I told the gal...I cant really accept her becoz I like another one...it will be unfair to her...she says she dun mind...she juz wanna be with me n thinks tt I will grow to love her one day...I was touched n went onto the relationship...which didnt quite ended off on a gd note...
My case isnt a gd example...but I haf frenz who faced with such decisions n r nw happily in love...so if U tink U wanna try...then U accept her lohz...U might nv know U may start to love her...
Gd luck Dude...
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personally, i will stear clear of any r/s if i know i haven't gotten over the past guy, only when i am sure i am totally over it, will i begin to look else where. in the mean time, if another guy likes me, i will let him know how i trully feel, that is, i'll tell him,"look, i appreciate wad you have done for me. i won't say it is impossible between us, but i still hasnt gotten over it yet. i don't want to be unfair to you."
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Gangster marketing tactics!Originally posted by cindtan29:may i ask .....can u post this question on 'Uncle Agony' Forum pls.
hee....hee....thanks...
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nice.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Because 1st girl you dont have chance liao, you 'Sian'
Because 2nd girl like you, you "Gian" 
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Not sure about you... But for me, there is not really such thing as 'top of the list'.... When you love someone, just love someone... Don't just love someone for the sake of loving someone... You're not only deceiving her, you're also deceiving yourself....Originally posted by twenty47:is he or she the one who u really love in the 1st place? As in is there someone else whom you would really want to be with but due to the irony of life, you are now with someone whom AT FIRST is not the top on your list?
I am facing this kind of irony now. The girl whom I have feelings towards has a boyfriend and of course I would never think of snatching her over but now all of a sudden, another girl came into my life and she, I can tell is interested in me. Now, i am in a dilemma as to whether to go ahead to accept the 2nd girl or not. I am afraid that I would be unfair to her.
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Okie... I shall 'close one eye' and just take the kopi for now....Originally posted by cindtan29:may i ask .....can u post this question on 'Uncle Agony' Forum pls.
hee....hee....thanks...
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hee....sure.....my pleasure.......Originally posted by Devil1976:Okie... I shall 'close one eye' and just take the kopi for now....
PS. Next time I shall make the 'order'. 
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To love many is not to love any at all.
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Just by asking this question it shows you don't really have feelings for the second girl
Please don't take a girl on just out of pity... it's a blardy insult
Originally posted by twenty47:The girl whom I have feelings towards has a boyfriend and of course I would never think of snatching her over but now all of a sudden, another girl came into my life and she, I can tell is interested in me. Now, i am in a dilemma as to whether to go ahead to accept the 2nd girl or not. I am afraid that I would be unfair to her. -
NiceOriginally posted by Tuatau:To love many is not to love any at all.
There is no list.
in our hearts
there`s no place for 2
the one u loveD might not be the one that u`ll end up with
or perhaps u can try to accept one that loves you???
juz make sure u DO love her before u accept her love..
or else the ending won be nice
If you cant be w the one you love
then love the one you`re with
just make sure u`re not playing ard w their feelings and mean it when u love them for what they are and not accept based on pity... Ur so callled `No 1` is history.
Gd luck
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