Am i over sensitive?
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my father actually have a god-son, tt make him my god brother.. what happen is i sense tt he is hitting on me recently..
For instance, he like bo liao will msg me where am i, wana ask me out, tt's still ok cos we are consider "relatives" ma..
however recently he like to mention abt sex stuff and relationship stuff.. hinted by saying tt he know im not as decent as i looked, stuff like tt.. said tt i'm single and alone for too long le, desperate etc.. asked me abt my sex life.. pengz..
i find it very disturbing and uncomfortable... it's like i dun even know him well, how dare he said all those thing of me.. what is this idiot trying to do?
i felt an invasion of privacy when he asked me those qns... I now even fear to go out with him..
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Let your father know about it...
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not workable.. im 21 already, n this guy is 24/25 years old. i think he is getting overboard. and my father doesn't really care abt such thing, as he n my god bro has grown distant over the years...Originally posted by grief00:Let your father know about it... -
Ok.. in that case, I feel that you should make it clear to him that you are annoyed by his remarks. Let him know your stand, that you're not a loose woman. If he continues to be like that, then just ignore him and don't bother to keep in touch with him again.
By the way, I don't think you're over-sensitive. He's just too much! -
Yoz...
U shld make it clear to him tt U feel offended by his comments...n ask him to stop such comments in future...n DUN go out with him...
He is the super despo one...
I tink such comments to either gender are a form of sexual harrassment...
U r nt being overly sensitive to such tins...on the other hand...U shld be sensitive to such tins...
Know hw to protect Urself against such ppl...
Try to stop unnecessary contacts with such ppl...
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still I would suggest U tell ur father.Originally posted by Lovespirit:not workable.. im 21 already, n this guy is 24/25 years old. i think he is getting overboard. and my father doesn't really care abt such thing, as he n my god bro has grown distant over the years... -
ok thank.. i just need assurance tt im not thinkin too much. ya. i will stay away from such moron. thanks for the advice..
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Do something about it.
Tell your your father. I seconded that.
Not doing anything at all only encourages him. -
tell ur god bro OFF.
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yeah.. tell your father.... anyway.. he sounds inmature? is he always like that?
kep away from him better.. -
let him know, let your father know. if it persists, ignore him. if he still pushes on, let the police know. i'm serious.
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no u r not too sensitive.... from the description, this guy is a despo, and wans a free meal... jz ignore him and tell your dad if he continue to harress u...Originally posted by Lovespirit:my father actually have a god-son, tt make him my god brother.. what happen is i sense tt he is hitting on me recently..
For instance, he like bo liao will msg me where am i, wana ask me out, tt's still ok cos we are consider "relatives" ma..
however recently he like to mention abt sex stuff and relationship stuff.. hinted by saying tt he know im not as decent as i looked, stuff like tt.. said tt i'm single and alone for too long le, desperate etc.. asked me abt my sex life.. pengz..
i find it very disturbing and uncomfortable... it's like i dun even know him well, how dare he said all those thing of me.. what is this idiot trying to do?
i felt an invasion of privacy when he asked me those qns... I now even fear to go out with him..
am i too sensitive? -
aiyo,y got so many such people in the world 1.They really dont know how to think 1 leh.
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Juz tell him if he continues doing that, u will report to police as a sexual harrassment case.
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For instance, he like bo liao will msg me where am i, wana ask me out, tt's still ok cos we are consider "relatives" ma..
however recently he like to mention abt sex stuff and relationship stuff.. hinted by saying tt he know im not as decent as i looked, stuff like tt.. said tt i'm single and alone for too long le, desperate etc.. asked me abt my sex life.. pengz..
His idea is to test whether you are the so call " easy girl ". He wants to bed you as soon as possible without paying for it. This type of guy will keep pushing the idea of sex into your head. Haha this type of method already so old liao no one using liao haha... He must really be in heat to be using this.
I explain the method a bit for you to understand how he uses it.
He chose a so call easy target. he knows the target has no boyfriend or is alone at the moment. He will try his best to ask the target out as he knows the best why to handle the target is to be as close as possible. He will keep asking about sex stuff making the target feel curious and start asking him about it. Then he will push for the idea of sex into the target's head by slowly teaching the target to explore herself or to find out wat she wants in her sex life and give it to her. Then bingo he have sex with the girl after that laughing at the target for being so dumb. It will incease his ego and he will find another target.
This method require some time and effort to use but he make a very big mistake. He goes in too fast and never gain target's trust first.
Why I say his type of method already so old liao no one using is becos now days sex is like a everyday stuff. Just ask most of the gals this days if they willing to try it and you can have liao no need to put so much effort lar.
i find it very disturbing and uncomfortable... it's like i dun even know him well, how dare he said all those thing of me.. what is this idiot trying to do?
i felt an invasion of privacy when he asked me those qns... I now even fear to go out with him..
Ways to counter this method.
1) Change handphone without telling him
2) Totally ignore him. As his method requires the target to response but if target never response then no hope liao.
3) say that you are a lesbo
4) attack his ego by saying like he cannot make it , he not handsome or he got no money, etc
am i too sensitive?
Final thought : You are right to be sensitive. YOu have to protect yourself have people like him and no one can help unless you are willing to help yourself.