Narcissistic
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It's interesting to understand how behaviour could distort one's preception.
Had a conversation with a friend who ranted to me that a considerable number of people kinda hated/dislike (deleted whenever neccessary) him and would do all sort of thing to hinder, make things difficult or simply rude to him. He equate the reasons to a whole lot of things: From their personality, to their mood of the day, to vicious gossip, or even bigoted/unrelated views like 'O-level and below' (education) and him being a christian. (He felt it's could also be the act of devil that is testing and challenging his life and deliberately making things difficult for him because of his religion).
Blame the whole world basically.
Being the listener, I listen. When he finished his final words, I told him about Johari Window (some psychological theory)... about the hidden self.
He immediately rejected the idea that it was himself that breed the animosity. He strongly believed that he did nothing at all and people just reacted this way.
He even claim that he's a deeper thinker and would think very much into people's action and not just 'aiya hack it.' attitude.
All but himself?
Narcissistic?
*** We are all self-absorbed in our own ways. Selfish not because we are, rather, it's the resistance of true acknowledgement. The mind works to repel all that YOU don't want to acknowledge, but the heart does not lie. The mind can cloud the heart, but the heart does not lie.
Disillusion?
Just dispelled an illusionary phrase of a good friend undergoing deceptive relationship with an interesting variable: both the deceived and the deceiving party are known friends. Alof of spilled truth, alot of tears, alots struggle, alot of emotions.
You know, actually alot of these thingy could be spared if acknowledgment play its part. We resist, because we look EVERYWHERE else, denying ourselves the actual reason for our plight... denying a reason for our body, mind and soul to recognise the plight... denying the wisdom to discern the above two points. Of course I told her that she wouldn't understand a single word of what I am saying UNTIL she gain enough wisdom, humble down and acknowledge them.
When the matter hit a climax, she was crying out for comfort and interestingly, I was completely unavailable. (Yunhaier is always busy
). She had no choice but to enlighten herself from within. Contacted her several hours later, she surprised me with her sudden maturity and told me that she finally understood the things that was told to her previously. The amount of tears and raging emotions was incredible then, but all was calm after the storm.
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How often do you resist or deny the acknowledgment of your problematic truth that had been thrown into your path?
When you have KNOWN facts (that are measurable by evidences), but opt to delude yourself and source for other means of explaination for your plight?
....
...
..
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...When you don't love her/him... and acted like you did...?
...When you remain in a dead relationship, thinking you had the power of resurrection.... ?
....When you waited for nothing, waited because WAIT has became a habit....?
...When you know you will leave eventually, but reasons other than love urge you on... ?
..... the list goes on....
Cheers -
the theory from where leh
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just 12 noe the theory from where-pyschological ?
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sorry too chim
my level not that high yet
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More info on Johari Window:
http://www.augsburg.edu/education/edc210/johari.html
A most common psychological tool to let ppl understand themselves. But, if the person involved doesn't have a basic understanding of himself,or in a kind of denial state, then, it really doesn't serve much purpose...
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Haha, nice read anyway
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Humans.... Ain't made to think like machines....
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Hi Yunhaier
There are some people who are the extreme opp. of your friend, everything they blame themselves, earthquake in the sea also their fault. While there are others who are totally like you friends, everything is someone else fault, they are not ashome to point finger at people. Somehow they are totally unaware that the response a person give, is the mirror of what he make them feel about him.
However I feel that you dont have to worry too much about him, mostly because he will mostly lost you as a friend sooner or later if he still doesnt change.
RegardsOriginally posted by Yunhaier:
It's interesting to understand how behaviour could distort one's preception.
Had a conversation with a friend who ranted to me that a considerable number of people kinda hated/dislike (deleted whenever neccessary) him and would do all sort of thing to hinder, make things difficult or simply rude to him. He equate the reasons to a whole lot of things: From their personality, to their mood of the day, to vicious gossip, or even bigoted/unrelated views like 'O-level and below' (education) and him being a christian. (He felt it's could also be the act of devil that is testing and challenging his life and deliberately making things difficult for him because of his religion).
Blame the whole world basically.
Being the listener, I listen. When he finished his final words, I told him about Johari Window (some psychological theory)... about the hidden self.
He immediately rejected the idea that it was himself that breed the animosity. He strongly believed that he did nothing at all and people just reacted this way.
He even claim that he's a deeper thinker and would think very much into people's action and not just 'aiya hack it.' attitude.
All but himself?
Narcissistic?
*** We are all self-absorbed in our own ways. Selfish not because we are, rather, it's the resistance of true acknowledgement. The mind works to repel all that YOU don't want to acknowledge, but the heart does not lie. The mind can cloud the heart, but the heart does not lie.
Disillusion?
Just dispelled an illusionary phrase of a good friend undergoing deceptive relationship with an interesting variable: both the deceived and the deceiving party are known friends. Alof of spilled truth, alot of tears, alots struggle, alot of emotions.
You know, actually alot of these thingy could be spared if acknowledgment play its part. [b]We resist, because we look EVERYWHERE else, denying ourselves the actual reason for our plight... denying a reason for our body, mind and soul to recognise the plight... denying the wisdom to discern the above two points. Of course I told her that she wouldn't understand a single word of what I am saying UNTIL she gain enough wisdom, humble down and acknowledge them.
When the matter hit a climax, she was crying out for comfort and interestingly, I was completely unavailable. (Yunhaier is always busy ). She had no choice but to enlighten herself from within. Contacted her several hours later, she surprised me with her sudden maturity and told me that she finally understood the things that was told to her previously. The amount of tears and raging emotions was incredible then, but all was calm after the storm.
***
How often do you resist or deny the acknowledgment of your problematic truth that had been thrown into your path?
When you have KNOWN facts (that are measurable by evidences), but opt to delude yourself and source for other means of explaination for your plight?
....
...
..
.
...When you don't love her/him... and acted like you did...?
...When you remain in a dead relationship, thinking you had the power of resurrection.... ?
....When you waited for nothing, waited because WAIT has became a habit....?
...When you know you will leave eventually, but reasons other than love urge you on... ?
..... the list goes on....
Cheers [/b] -
Most people are narcissistic to a certain extent... there is a tendancy to delude ourselves into thinking that anything that is wrong in our life lies in others and not ourselves... because the truth can be too painful to bear sometimes...
Anyway i prefer narcisism over depression any day