Love Thyself
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The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door,
in your own mirror...
and each will smile at the other's welcome,
And say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you...
all your life, whom you ignored
for another,
who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
...peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
For after all that's said and done,
Only by learning to love yourself,
will you learn
to live unselfishly.
..........."I try more and more to be myself, caring relatively little
whether people approve or dissaprove" ...Vincent Van Goh
Does anyone really understand how to actually love oneself selflessly? -
I must say..
Once in a while i hear these two words, "love yourself". But i have never truly understood what it meant.
Does it mean to splurge on yourself once a while?
Does it mean not to be cruel to yourself?
Not to subject yourself to things you don't like?
But how possible is that?
Does it mean to be more optimistic?
To treat yourself better?
To love yourself as you would a lover?
Yet why do they say that only after we learn to love ourself, can we love others? Is loving ourself the first true step in this thing called Love?
I'm still wondering.. -
Hi BabyRS
The essential of your topic is veru profound. What I am going to "say" here maybe not what you are looking for. But I hope my sharing of what I feel can help you.
I feel basically we are too hard on ourself. Learn to be more forgiving to yourself. Learn to say "no" to thing in life sometimes. Learn to be more responsible for yourself. I believe that is the first step to love thyself.
RegardsOriginally posted by BabyRS:
The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door,
in your own mirror...
and each will smile at the other's welcome,
And say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you...
all your life, whom you ignored
for another,
who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
...peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
For after all that's said and done,
Only by learning to love yourself,
will you learn
to live unselfishly.
[b]..........."I try more and more to be myself, caring relatively little
whether people approve or dissaprove" ...Vincent Van Goh
Does anyone really understand how to actually love oneself selflessly?[/b] -
Originally posted by BabyRS:
You bet I do.....?
The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door,
in your own mirror...
and each will smile at the other's welcome,
And say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you...
all your life, whom you ignored
for another,
who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
...peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
For after all that's said and done,
Only by learning to love yourself,
will you learn
to live unselfishly.
[b]..........."I try more and more to be myself, caring relatively little
whether people approve or dissaprove" ...Vincent Van Goh
Does anyone really understand how to actually love oneself selflessly?[/b]
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Too much and you are lablled as narcissistic.
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Originally posted by BabyRS:
"Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."
Does anyone really understand how to actually love oneself selflessly?
- Matt 22:39
Self love is about fully embracing oneself unconditionally, realising one's own strengths and accepting one's own flaws. Contrary to popular opinion, self love is not about being self-centered, which stems from insecurity of not knowing oneself and hatred of one's own flaws.
When one doesn't love oneself unconditionally, the limited, judgmental, conditional love one gives oneself is all one has, to give anyone. When one sees oneself as flawed, one not only sees others as flawed, but also resents others for seeing the flaws in oneself.
If one decides, instead, to embrace oneself as one is, one would have the capacity to accept and love others as they are. Hence unconditional love for oneself, far from being an act of selfishness, is the most generous thing one could ever do. -
Wow...too much called zhi lian kuang
+1...
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why even bother to try? the concept of self-love is too profound for my grasp, beyond the comprehension of many.
wot do we haf to lose by hating ourselves? many pple hated emselves and became successful in life all the same... -
Define 'successful'Originally posted by devoid05:why even bother to try? the concept of self-love is too profound for my grasp, beyond the comprehension of many.
wot do we haf to lose by hating ourselves? many pple hated emselves and became successful in life all the same...
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i think love yourself de first step: never resort to self-mutilation, suicide or wadever that will harm yourself... the rest can come in later.
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I concur... couldn't have put it better myself. Then again ~ it's all a matter of perception, isn't it?Originally posted by Tuatau:"Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."
- Matt 22:39
Self love is about fully embracing oneself unconditionally, realising one's own strengths and accepting one's own flaws. Contrary to popular opinion, self love is not about being self-centered, which stems from insecurity of not knowing oneself and hatred of one's own flaws.
When one doesn't love oneself unconditionally, the limited, judgmental, conditional love one gives oneself is all one has, to give anyone. When one sees oneself as flawed, one not only sees others as flawed, but also resents others for seeing the flaws in oneself.
If one decides, instead, to embrace oneself as one is, one would have the capacity to accept and love others as they are. Hence unconditional love for oneself, far from being an act of selfishness, is the most generous thing one could ever do.
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There's vast difference between self acceptance/contentment and self OBSESSION.Originally posted by Qo|phin:Wow...too much called zhi lian kuang
+1...
Cheers -
success means achieving wotever you set your sights on... the more unattainable the feat, the more successful you become should you manage to achieve it.Originally posted by Devil1976:Define 'successful'
an example wld be charles schulz, millionaire author of peanuts who hated himself so much he wld think of suicide everytime he's left alone. -
Hmm....to each it's own.Originally posted by devoid05:success means achieving wotever you set your sights on... the more unattainable the feat, the more successful you become should you manage to achieve it.
an example wld be charles schulz, millionaire author of peanuts who hated himself so much he wld think of suicide everytime he's left alone.
Read up my siggy?
Cheers -
well, a little self-love is a good thing, but too much of it can be absolutely fatal.Originally posted by Qo|phin:Wow...too much called zhi lian kuang
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yar... i read.Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm....to each it's own.
Read up my siggy?
Cheers
refreshing n biblical.
can i haf both my soul n the world? -
Balance is the secret.Originally posted by devoid05:yar... i read.
refreshing n biblical.
can i haf both my soul n the world? -
Originally posted by BabyRS:
Subjective? Yes, pretty much so.
I concur... couldn't have put it better myself. Then again ~ it's all a matter of perception, isn't it? -
+ 1Originally posted by M©+square:Balance is the secret. -
last i heard, you spoil yourself.Originally posted by Devil1976:You bet I do.....? -
REALLY...??? <Originally posted by nuchio:last i heard, you spoil yourself.
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The problem often is... People actually don't even know what they want... Or even thought that's what they wanted all along until they've gone way too far to stop... Or to go back on a reverse road....Originally posted by devoid05:success means achieving wotever you set your sights on... the more unattainable the feat, the more successful you become should you manage to achieve it.
an example wld be charles schulz, millionaire author of peanuts who hated himself so much he wld think of suicide everytime he's left alone. -
the pursuit of such successes is meaningless n immaterial... i just realised it aft reading your post. damn wot took me so long to realise that? thanks for enlightening me.Originally posted by Devil1976:The problem often is... People actually don't even know what they want... Or even thought that's what they wanted all along until they've gone way too far to stop... Or to go back on a reverse road.... -
I think 'Dignity and self respect' would be tantamount to self-love.
Maybe having the confidence to stand up for what YOU believe in is also loving yourself enough to fight for your beliefs. After all... when you love someone or something you may choose to overlook their/its faults.
'Self-love' to me is an abstract noun that cannot be easily defined. But the bottomline is... only by loving yourself unconditionally you will then be able to have the confidence to tackle Life head-on. Because whatever it is you choose to do, you will know that regardless of the mistakes that you may make, you are still proud to be you. -
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What dreams might come....?