Betrayal
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How do you feel when you are betrayed by someone you trust? i.e your friends who you expect to stand by you suddenly decide to backstab/betray you. Would you forgive and forget or take revenge?
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we are not in the movies. there is no necessity to take revenge. just stay away from such people. i have personally known a few!!
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Depends.
Definitely a period of cold war.
To forgive or not depends on how well I know that person, whether that was unintentional and whether he/she repent or not. -
I am not the kind to take revenge too. But right now just feel disappointedOriginally posted by dragg:we are not in the movies. there is no necessity to take revenge. just stay away from such people. i have personally known a few!!
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what crime did dey commit ?
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Indeed right now I am in a cold war with them. But it hurts me to know that they are doing this to me when I have trusted them a lot in the past.Originally posted by browniebaobao:Depends.
Definitely a period of cold war.
To forgive or not depends on how well I know that person, whether that was unintentional and whether he/she repent or not. -
Indirectly break off with them a.k.a no longer contact.
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i believe in 'once bitten twice share'Originally posted by rainee:I am not the kind to take revenge too. But right now just feel disappointed
and the chinese saying 'yi4chi4bu4zhong1bai3chi4bu4yong4.' -
haven't contacted them for a few days. But suddenly missed the time we had togetherOriginally posted by Oyster Omelette:Indirectly break off with them a.k.a no longer contact.
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I've been backstabbed and betrayed before.
I don't bother taking revenge - total waste of my limited time and resources. Call me naive, call me a wuss, but I don't believe in exacting vengeance with my own hands. I would rather let fate do the job for me.
The way I see it, such people will eventually find ways and means to make themselves suffer. Almost everyone who chose to mess around with me ended up in suffering one way or the other.
I don't care whether it's divine retribution or pure coincidence, but I like to think that causing suffering to others will eventually lead to suffering for yourself.
Even if they don't seem to be suffering, don't worry - it's just a matter of time before they receive their just deserts. -
I hope what you said is true. But is it silly for me to miss them even after all they have done to me?
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are you a jinx?Originally posted by fudgester:I've been backstabbed and betrayed before.
I don't bother taking revenge - total waste of my limited time and resources. Call me naive, call me a wuss, but I don't believe in exacting vengeance with my own hands. I would rather let fate do the job for me.
The way I see it, such people will eventually find ways and means to make themselves suffer. Almost everyone who chose to mess around with me ended up in suffering one way or the other.
I don't care whether it's divine retribution or pure coincidence, but I like to think that causing suffering to others will eventually lead to suffering for yourself.
Even if they don't seem to be suffering, don't worry - it's just a matter of time before they receive their just deserts.
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Originally posted by shade343:are you a jinx?
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Just be disappointed for now then...?Originally posted by rainee:I am not the kind to take revenge too. But right now just feel disappointed 
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I do not know how I would feel in the future, but right now I just feel sad because they betrayed me in a way that I would never expect them to...Originally posted by Devil1976:Just be disappointed for now then...? -
Originally posted by rainee:
You must have been very close then. Well, like what browniebaobao has said, if the harm was unintentional and they didn't really mean it (more like a careless mistake), then perhaps you could consider forgiveness. If they had really meant to hurt you, then you should move on and look for friends who'd miss you even if you don't miss them.
But is it silly for me to miss them even after all they have done to me? -
They did it deliberately to hurt me. But I do not know why.Originally posted by Tuatau:You must have been very close then. Well, like what browniebaobao has said, if the harm was unintentional and they didn't really mean it (more like a careless mistake), then perhaps you could consider forgiveness. If they had really meant to hurt you, then you should move on and look for friends who'd miss you even if you don't miss them. -
Hi rainee
I hate people who betrayed my trust especially backstabbing "friends". I wont and never forgive, nor will I forget neither will I take revenge. I still still go on and live my life better but I will never forget what they did to me.
RegardsOriginally posted by rainee:How do you feel when you are betrayed by someone you trust? i.e your friends who you expect to stand by you suddenly decide to backstab/betray you. Would you forgive and forget or take revenge? -
hi varatare, thanks for your reply. It is currently very hard for me to forget what they have done to me. Yet, I keep thinking about the friendship we used to have, and I cried.Originally posted by varatare:Hi rainee
I hate people who betrayed my trust especially backstabbing "friends". I wont and never forgive, nor will I forget neither will I take revenge. I still still go on and live my life better but I will never forget what they did to me.
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Originally posted by rainee:
Could you have hurt them unintentionally without knowing it yourself, and they're thirsty for revenge? If you had been really close together, there must be a reason why they wanted to stick a knife between your shoulder blades now. You may feel uncomfortable confronting them directly, but would any of your mutual friends have any idea?
They did it deliberately to hurt me. But I do not know why. -
No, they do not. I might have hurt them unintentionally, I am known to say what's on my mind most of the time and something I said might have angered them without my knowledge.Originally posted by Tuatau:Could you have hurt them unintentionally without knowing it yourself, and they're thirsty for revenge? If you had been really close together, there must be a reason why they wanted to stick a knife between your shoulder blades now. You may feel uncomfortable confronting them directly, but would any of your mutual friends have any idea? -
Hi rainee
A "friend" who backstab is not a friend. And if he/she is not a friend there is no friendship in the beginning. My define of friendship: trust one another, honest to one another and no intention of hurting one another. I fcould then help one another. If there is no friendship in the first place, what is there to think about.
RegardsOriginally posted by rainee:hi varatare, thanks for your reply. It is currently very hard for me to forget what they have done to me. Yet, I keep thinking about the friendship we used to have, and I cried. -
Originally posted by rainee:
Ah... do you want this friendship back? If you do, then you'd have to find out the reason; if not, just bear with it and wait for new friends to come to your life.
I might have hurt them unintentionally, I am known to say what's on my mind most of the time and something I said might have angered them without my knowledge.
However, if you want to minimise the chances of such an incident repeating itself, you might want to hold your tongue a little before saying things that could offend your friends in future. Friendships can be fragile things, even a small careless slip of tongue could break them. -
I do not think I can be friends with them again. But in the future, I will try to think before I speakOriginally posted by Tuatau:Ah... do you want this friendship back? If you do, then you'd have to find out the reason; if not, just bear with it and wait for new friends to come to your life.
However, if you want to minimise the chances of such an incident repeating itself, you might want to hold your tongue a little before saying things that could offend your friends in future. Friendships can be fragile things, even a small careless slip of tongue could break them.
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i might never trust again in a long long time..
