How do pple survive relationships ? painful breakups?
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im curious , im experiencing the 1st one and the only 1 in my life...
feels so bad and deeply hurt...
i wonder how can pple say..ive been thru 4-5 relationships b4...
really admire them...
1 is enuf..im sticking to it.. -
i must give you some support.Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:im curious , im experiencing the 1st one and the only 1 in my life...
feels so bad and deeply hurt...
i wonder how can pple say..ive been thru 4-5 relationships b4...
really admire them...
1 is enuf..im sticking to it..
thank you very much
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It' s never easy to go thru breakups.. but wif time, we'll eventually move on.. and if u're lucky to meet someone who noes how to appreciate u along the way, the pain and hurt will be relieved to a great extent..Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:im curious , im experiencing the 1st one and the only 1 in my life...
feels so bad and deeply hurt...
i wonder how can pple say..ive been thru 4-5 relationships b4...
really admire them...
1 is enuf..im sticking to it..
at this moment u might still dwell wif it..let time heal ba.. take care! -
i agree that time will heal everythingOriginally posted by ~Lyn~:It' s never easy to go thru breakups.. but wif time, we'll eventually move on.. and if u're lucky to meet someone who noes how to appreciate u along the way, the pain and hurt will be relieved to a great extent..
at this moment u might still dwell wif it..let time heal ba.. take care! -
they sae practise makes prefect.. more time u have it.. more u immue
Bt frankly.. i still cannot recover from my first failure relationship even though almost 1 yr already..... 3 more mths to a yr.... sad...... bt life have to move on.. time will definitely heal.
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It's never been easy, that's why affairs of the heart is usually very difficult to solve and heal. Even if given time, some might not be able to pick themselves up from the fall. So the trick is to dwell in it for a few days, then try telling yourself everyday that each day is a challenge for me, I MUST forget what I've been through, I MUST 'punish' myself whenever I think of it again (e.g take up new hobby, make new friends etc.)
You are not the only one, maybe you could also read up relationship advices on the net/books/magazines. The more vulnerable a person is, the more he/she needs advices/assurance. -
this applies to all trials in life...
always look on the bright side of life. even suffering has its own rainbow.
n you will find your sufferings and sorrows are no more than just passing phases in life tt you haf to endure. not unless you allow em to remain permanently etched in your psyche... -
time will make ur heart numb. its really hard, esp u noe tat ur ex got another bf...
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Hi man...
My gal just broke off with me again after 2 years... My previous one also 2 years... she broke off with me also.... before that 1 1/2 year, also she broke off with me....
I am still here. Time will definitely heal all wounds. Trust me.....
The people here are fantastic... they sure work one.... see so many problem here until you will get over it...
Trust me.. anything can PM me ok??
If interested can read my thread
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=129128
take care ok?? cheers@! -
Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:
The number of failed relationships one has to undergo in life is, unfortunately, not something that one could control. The only thing that one could perhaps control is how to pick up the pieces, learn from the failed lesson, and become a better and wiser person for the next relationship.
1 is enuf..im sticking to it.. -
when ever i'm heartbroken....i would come to aunt agony and read all the post...it help
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Haiz, alot of pple experiencing same thing in life..
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When faced with a breakup one must learn the important lessons as to why it happen?
There are many breakups in the world and this shows that there is no such thing as nice fairy tales ending for any couple who will not fight hard for a relationship.
1) Breakups help you grow up and be more realistic to life.
2) It helps you to love the next one in a much better way.
3) It gives you another chance to fix mistakes which you had made in the pervious relationship.
4) It helps you to choose your next gf more wisely.
The formula I use to handle breakup is stated below.
1) understand that you have breakup with your gf and she has left you. Blaming her or you is really of no use. Accept that you have return to single life again.
2) Please do not waste time looking at hp for her call or sms. Her email, icq ,msn has stopped coming and she have disappear from your life.
3) Burn up all photos or letters between you and her. Yes it helps. I have done it myself in order to stop myself from any more false hopes.
4) Slowly return to life. Remeber the days you had, when you are alone without her ? You are born alone into the world so it shows that you can make it alone without anyone.
5) Go out with friends and have fun. yes pure fun.
6) In time, you will look back and say hey " I wonder why I never thought of leaving her earlier, she got so many bad habits that i never notice before."
Final thought :
Breakup are really hard on anyone and you are not alone. Everyone must go through breakups in order to treasure what they have in life.. -
This is part of life that people hv to go through if they chance upon it.If ur tis gf is lik my ex,who cohibit wid me for 5 years(cos her dad died,mom remarry),then one day she jus walk out on you...that is even more misery.Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:im curious , im experiencing the 1st one and the only 1 in my life...
feels so bad and deeply hurt...
i wonder how can pple say..ive been thru 4-5 relationships b4...
really admire them...
1 is enuf..im sticking to it..
I believe my pain may not be less then yours, & i think there may be more jia lat stuff mayb some forumers here encountered,well, for my case, i jus move on, its tough but at least i'm still here,sometime talking rubbish or sharing stuff.
But if u really is hurt, u will be very sian of char bors, even how chio, how lock,also will not trust them..not say all lik tat but got the past hindering you...cos i hv lots of chio bu who work in ktv as friends, i also lik not interested..cos lik abit gv up on females liao unless mirical happen.
So buck up, dun think so much,live life to the fullest, go happy, enjoy wid friends,do stuff which u cun do in te past..
Move On. Its no choice, Gd Luck.Friend.
as for how to survive..i last time after break up every MONDAY go "Char Xuan KTV" wed is Zouk,friday is Wong2,saturday is meet-up wid car friends..
mostly drunk , can also sing till drop tears(not joking).Then slowely find out i'm wasting my time, so i buck up, throw money to get more BHP from my car then change friend & slowley slowely change lifestyle...its hard but i manage to get over it..
there is a saying, "Time Heal Any Wound" -
Life is all about moving on. If you continue to stay put in one position, you will remain there forever. If you choose to remain in grief, there you will be. Happiness is not a matter of fate. It is a matter of choice.
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Good question.
But let me answer your question with another;
How do people go through life and its many pains, tribulations, and disappointments? -
Ask urself whether that person who u love are worth loving...if u think that u love him/her... but if he/her do not love u anymore... tell urself this...that person is the loser as he/she is not having the love u have for them... and u shld move on to find those who will really gain frm ur love...
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Time is the best medicine to heal the pains & getting a substitute is antiseptic for a short period of time ...............
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Time is the best medicine to heal the pains & getting a substitute is antiseptic for a short period of time ...............
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hmm... maybe, you can juz have a good cry after your breakup and thinking that its his/her loss that he/she doesn't want to be together with you anymore?
Never really experience breakup before... only heartache... normally, i juz have a good cry after that! it works! -
They probably either got more efficient in handling relationships, or they got too used or numb to it...Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:im curious , im experiencing the 1st one and the only 1 in my life...
feels so bad and deeply hurt...
i wonder how can pple say..ive been thru 4-5 relationships b4...
really admire them...
1 is enuf..im sticking to it.. -
well , you can always try being homosexual .. my class has twice as much girls as guys , and all guys are gay in my class .. except for one nerd , he's our only guy ... we just like to act gay ... forget about female existence ... with so many faggots in my class , my breakup don't hurt so much ...
first love is sort of the most hurtful .. unless you stead in primary five without a clue ... that's pathetic .. kids these days .... after some time , you'll learn to live alone again ... study is always an option ..
about the gay thing ... it's all for fun .. please don't come looking for me for the wrong things ... -
takes time...it's over....face it and get over it.