Lost of words...
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This is a little longÂ… but please bear with it.
*(Not using real names)
Last Saturday around 3am, I received a call from my uncle saying that my cousin Sera had died in a car accident.
I booked an air ticket and took a plane at 5.15pm.
At that time I do not know much detail about what happened yet.
I was thinking a lot about what to say to comfort her sister when I reached there.
I reached the funeral at 8pm and came to realized that things are not as pleasant as it seems. Not one, but two coffins were side by side.
Then I saw SeraÂ’s sister, Viola. Her arm was bandaged, but it seems to be still bleeding. Her brother Daryl then tells me about what happened. -
Sera, Viola, Remy(ViolaÂ’s boyfriend), Ah Lao(SeraÂ’s boyfriend).
4 of them went were in the car.
Ah Lao was the driver, sitting beside him Sera.
Viola behind Sera and Remy beside Viola.
They crashed into a container Truck that stationed at a sharp turn.
Remy died instantly.
SeraÂ’s left face got tear off, chest ripped opened and throat slit.
Viola got unconscious but nothing happened to Ah Lao.
Ah Lao carried Sera out of the car, walked some distanced, looking for help.
He claimed the she was still breathing at that time but didnÂ’t reply to anything he said.
He described that blood squirts out of her throat as she breath heavily. -
Viola got woke up and called for her lover Remy.
But she stopped when she say his brains outside his skull.
Then people stopped for Viola, checking if sheÂ’s dead.
At this point of time when she needed help the most, these people robbed her.
Taking away her wallet and handphone!
Her only source of communication!
Well, Sera then passed away. -
Daryl then tells me that Ah Lao is in the police station.
I asked why, and he told me that he was speeding.
The police suspect him for murder.
The coffins belong to Sera and Remy.
And my poor Viola lost a sister and a lover who is suppose to marry her end of the year.
After hearing this, I wanted to comfort her, say something to make her feel better, but I was totally lost of words.
By the way, RemyÂ’s mum lost a daughter 9 years ago and now a son. -
Very sad case.....seeing your loved ones dead in an ugly & bloody manner.
...and the bastards who robbed the wallet and hp...retribution will come to them. -
What I'm worried now is that she might do things to hurt herself...
I'm now back in singapore already...
All I can do is just to write a letter...
But I really... do not know what should I say... to make her feel better...
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im really so sorry to hear this~
me condolence~
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Omg! This is terrible!
God bless all of them!
Sigh... -
sorry to hear tat...
my condolences -
I'd be lost of words too if I were you.. Try to sort out your thoughts.. Train yourself to be strong to be able to say some comforting words and call Viola bah.. I think a call would be more comforting than letter cuz it's instantly affecting the other party.. Meanwhile, you can also write a snail mail of comfort too.. That's really a terrible thing to happen.. I'm sorry to know that..
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Condolences...
Spend some time in prayer and give some serious thought about the meaning of life? -
tis is really sad... my condolences...
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I feel so loss for words.Its despicable that there are some people who act so kiasu like that...cheer up, take ur time.
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Sudden loss of a loved one is one of greatest pains on Earth. Words are not always necessary for consolation, sometimes an understanding touch on the arm or shoulder could bring on more solace. If you are religious, prayers do help immensely.
This may not be an appropriate time to ask, considering how distraught you are, but I am just curious: If Sera was in the front passenger seat, Viola was sitting behind her, and Remy was behind driver Ah Lao, do you know what was the nature of collision impact that could result in Viola remaining relatively unscathed while Sera and Remy sitting diagonally opposite to each other were mutilated in the accident? I couldn't help thinking the scenario'd have made more sense if Remy was sitting behind Sera instead.
Anyway, it's not really significant -- I was just trying to imagine the collision scenario. Take it easy. -
Dear Iori,
Sorry to hear about such tragic misfortune, my deepest condolences... Perhaps the best way is Not to say anything too much nor too deep to remind her day & night of her loss. She probably already has many people doing that.
Instead, a pretty card with a short para or message may do much more. Something along the lines of, "Anytime you need to talk, please don't hesitate to call, even if it's in the middle of the night" etc may do much more than alot of sad words.
People need time to heal, it's best to let them be. All you can do is to be there when they need you, that might help them feel better in time.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by iori8888:What I'm worried now is that she might do things to hurt herself...
I'm now back in singapore already...
All I can do is just to write a letter...
But I really... do not know what should I say... to make her feel better... -
Originally posted by iori8888:This is a little longÂ… but please bear with it.
*(Not using real names)
Last Saturday around 3am, I received a call from my uncle saying that my cousin Sera had died in a car accident.
I booked an air ticket and took a plane at 5.15pm.
At that time I do not know much detail about what happened yet.
I was thinking a lot about what to say to comfort her sister when I reached there.
I reached the funeral at 8pm and came to realized that things are not as pleasant as it seems. Not one, but two coffins were side by side.
Then I saw SeraÂ’s sister, Viola. Her arm was bandaged, but it seems to be still bleeding. Her brother Daryl then tells me about what happened.
Jie ai shun bian.
Cheers -
Did they arranged for any counseling for her? If not, she should be going for such sessions...Originally posted by iori8888:What I'm worried now is that she might do things to hurt herself...
I'm now back in singapore already...
All I can do is just to write a letter...
But I really... do not know what should I say... to make her feel better...
Meanwhile, just try to be around when she needs someone to talk to and give her some time....? -
By the way, iori8888... Try not to get yourself swirled too deep within... It might not be too healthy.. Besides... Viola probably still needs a bit of a stronger you to give her the appropriate support
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Yeah. I find it weird even after my dad explained it to me.Originally posted by Tuatau:Sudden loss of a loved one is one of greatest pains on Earth. Words are not always necessary for consolation, sometimes an understanding touch on the arm or shoulder could bring on more solace. If you are religious, prayers do help immensely.
This may not be an appropriate time to ask, considering how distraught you are, but I am just curious: If Sera was in the front passenger seat, Viola was sitting behind her, and Remy was behind driver Ah Lao, do you know what was the nature of collision impact that could result in Viola remaining relatively unscathed while Sera and Remy sitting diagonally opposite to each other were mutilated in the accident? I couldn't help thinking the scenario'd have made more sense if Remy was sitting behind Sera instead.
Anyway, it's not really significant -- I was just trying to imagine the collision scenario. Take it easy.
When the car saw the container, the driver turned steering right. But it’s already too late; the left head of the car hit the container. Sera got hit. (Then because of the speed he’s going, sort of like… recoil back the other direction. Well, that's what I think. I don't understand why it went the other way too.) It turned a 360° left till the right rear of the car hit the right side of the container. I was told that the car cut through the container, and stuck in it. And the top cover of the car got ripped open too. -
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Originally posted by iori8888:
Thanks for the clarification. A ghastly sight the scene must have been.
Yeah. I find it weird even after my dad explained it to me.
When the car saw the container, the driver turned steering right. But it’s already too late; the left head of the car hit the container. Sera got hit. (Then because of the speed he’s going, sort of like… recoil back the other direction. Well, that's what I think. I don't understand why it went the other way too.) It turned a 360° left till the right rear of the car hit the right side of the container. I was told that the car cut through the container, and stuck in it. And the top cover of the car got ripped open too.
Looks like Ah Lao had been driving very fast to generate that kind of impact upon collision with the container truck. -
My condolences..
Normally people will be at a loss of words..wanted to console the relatives of the deceased but duno how to..well, juz a hug or a pat on the shoulder would be comforting ba..
And what do we learn from this? Do not speed, especially when there are others in your vehicle. Their lives are in your hands. Be responsible.