Doctors cure others but cant cure themselves. So do AAs?
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Pple in AA always give advice to others. When meet with the same scenarios, can they advise themselves with equal efficiency?
I myself don't seems to be able to...
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Ya i totally agree with you on this one. I can advice others reasonably well, but i realize that for me to follow my own advice is very difficult.Originally posted by Imperfect:Pple in AA always give advice to others. When meet with the same scenarios, can they advise themselves with equal efficiency?
I myself don't seems to be able to...
What do fellow AAs think? -
What is it that you are troubled with?Originally posted by Imperfect:Pple in AA always give advice to others. When meet with the same scenarios, can they advise themselves with equal efficiency?
I myself don't seems to be able to...
What do fellow AAs think? -
when in trouble...
its hard to think with a clear mind...
tats why hard to follow own advice...
besides its nice to have ppl support you..
virtually or not... -
it is always easier said than done!!
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I guess...it's because when we advise others, we always see it as others' problem..not my problem..that's why we can advise..we can be rational..
but if it becomes our problem..there will be more complications involved, mixed feelings, pressure etc.. -
nothing actually, jus a thot that came over my mind...Originally posted by browniebaobao:What is it that you are troubled with? -
i can even talk to myself using the advice i give to others and even detach myself from the situation but jus wont work lor...Originally posted by hyuuga neji:when in trouble...
its hard to think with a clear mind...
tats why hard to follow own advice...
besides its nice to have ppl support you..
virtually or not... -
It is always difficult to practise what we preach, especially when it comes to advice on relationships.
Even if we -- being involved in our own relationships -- could detach ourselves momentarily and follow the advice we give others, our assessment of the situation may not be correct in the first place because our emotions and attachments would already have clouded our judgement. For example, we as outsiders could coolly tell that a girl to leave a guy as, based on her description of his actions, he obviously is not suitable for her.
However, when we are in the shoes of the girl, it is usually difficult to assess the situation and describe it objectively in our posts because we'd already have feelings for the guy. There are things, moments and passions shared with him that we'd not have mentioned in the forum, but would have unconsciously tampered with our rational thinking, making it difficult for us to focus on his flaws and apparent incompatibility.
And that is where the beauty of forums like this comes in. It is forums like this that would always ensure a ready pool of third-party observers to help us see when we are blind. -
I am able to practice what I preach becos of the strong will I have.
Is the strong believe that I hold in the words that I say, that helped me through my trouble times.
Most important thing in life is to learn from your mistake and others mistake.
First accept the fact that you have done wrong then understand why is wrong. Learn ways not to make the same mistake and find new ways to counter the probelm should it hit you again. Thats why I can now help people with the new skills I have learn.
When you advice people is easy but you must believe in what you say and act according or else you will never able to self heal yourself in the face of new problems. -
Originally posted by Imperfect:Pple in AA always give advice to others. When meet with the same scenarios, can they advise themselves with equal efficiency?
I myself don't seems to be able to...
What do fellow AAs think?
Ironically, when I am able to do that, my friend calls me a weirdo.
Kaoz... @#!%$@#^#$&$%*!!!!asdfsdgr46375478@!#
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It takes LOTS of 'practices'... And somehow like what Yun has suggested... It's ONLY NORMAL that you CAN'T achieve that level....??Originally posted by Imperfect:i can even talk to myself using the advice i give to others and even detach myself from the situation but jus wont work lor...
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Not sure about AA...but UA knows his limits...given those problems faced by fellow forumites...UA may choose to go and die