Agony....
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Its really an agony when you are finding it so hard to let go of the person whom you once love so much...
Eating, drinking, watching TV even working... suddenly they can creep into your mind and that's it....
Really its a mental torturing thing to go through this ordeal to have to forget them.
Don't you guys find it so? It's so difficult. -
memories can never be forgotten..somehow somedays u will suddenly think of him/her..u have to live on with it..meanwhile find some fun things to do..catch up with your friends..lim teh..movies..go clubbing..etc..do something!..soon u'll be like me(i was like u b4..can't let go of her..but if u really love her and let her have happiness..i guess it's best to let her go..i rather suffer alone then her..)but hey..i'm enjoyin single life now..no one to report to..can go where i like n do what i want!!..good luck to u.
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yes, is very diffcult but hv to get on wid life mah. no choice, eath still spin, time still move, only close one eye hope for the better nia..i also been through b4,its time when friends come in.Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Its really an agony when you are finding it so hard to let go of the person whom you once love so much...
Eating, drinking, watching TV even working... suddenly they can creep into your mind and that's it....
Really its a mental torturing thing to go through this ordeal to have to forget them.
Don't you guys find it so? It's so difficult.
Gd Luck Brother. -
yo pal... i've read few of ur post b4, think i even replied to one b4. i cld understd how it feels. Think having a fulfilled life --- means family, good frens & some healthy self-esteem--- is a good buffer when ur relationships fail.
But unfortunately, not everyone has the above conditions--- like myself. Hence, a failed romance, whilst it's jus sad for others, its crushing for person like myself.
Anyone dun giv up hope... lotsa of famous ppl went thru great obstacles. Reading their stories inspires me, u can try too
And if u dun mind a fren, can pm me. Maybe we can help each other thru future probs too..
cheers -
time will heal!!
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just change your mindset thats all.
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2 weeks since our break up.....
I often dream of her and wake up full of sweat,
I become a walking corpse when i am on my way to work and study
I have no aim in life
I told her i already stand strong yet i cry when i am alone in the room
Every sms and calls i receive.....I hope it's from her
She breaks my heart but i still love her....
I still hope for her return one day......
I must stand strong,Life must carry on.....maybe the girl in my life is not the one i love most but is the girl that come at the right time
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Hi, me too. But oh well, maybe do something really addictive or things that can make you think very hard until you forget about the person. Difficult, but nonetheless, give it a try. Anyway, if you want to think abt it, just go ahead...dun force yourself to forget what you can't. This will only seep into your subconscious further and further.
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I broke with my ex, we been together 4years 6mths i didnt even cry.Originally posted by doomz:2 weeks since our break up.....
I often dream of her and wake up full of sweat,
I become a walking corpse when i am on my way to work and study
I have no aim in life
I told her i already stand strong yet i cry when i am alone in the room
Every sms and calls i receive.....I hope it's from her
She breaks my heart but i still love her....
I still hope for her return one day......
I must stand strong,Life must carry on.....maybe the girl in my life is not the one i love most but is the girl that come at the right time
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Dear Malcolm,
Perhaps it was easier for me, since I was the 1 who broke up with my ex, & by that time, I'd already given up hope on the relationship. My grieving was during the hurtful process of trying & trying, & realising that things wouldn't improve.
To him, however, the breakup seemed sudden because he didn't take me seriously before when I told him that I wanted to split. He hadn't a clue that I meant what I'd said. He felt hurt, betrayed, etc, when all along, the betrayed party was me.
I too, felt depressed over the split, but it was only for awhile, maybe a month or 2? It helped that my friends took me out, & I had people I could confide in. When I decided to let go & start afresh, they were there to support me & encourage me.
It really helps to have friends there to help you.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by mal_colm1979:Its really an agony when you are finding it so hard to let go of the person whom you once love so much...
Eating, drinking, watching TV even working... suddenly they can creep into your mind and that's it....
Really its a mental torturing thing to go through this ordeal to have to forget them.
Don't you guys find it so? It's so difficult. -
Just live your life as it is....Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Its really an agony when you are finding it so hard to let go of the person whom you once love so much...
Eating, drinking, watching TV even working... suddenly they can creep into your mind and that's it....
Really its a mental torturing thing to go through this ordeal to have to forget them.
Don't you guys find it so? It's so difficult.
ONce you GET A LIFE and lives through it... Things of the past would just washes away eventually...
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Hmm...I do agree that it is really an agony to let go of someone whom you loved so much. But remember, letting go wasn't an option in the first place...it was the only choice. And you certainly felt that some part of your soul is missing...that's inevitable if you are really in love.Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Its really an agony when you are finding it so hard to let go of the person whom you once love so much...
Eating, drinking, watching TV even working... suddenly they can creep into your mind and that's it....
Really its a mental torturing thing to go through this ordeal to have to forget them.
Don't you guys find it so? It's so difficult.
Instead of dwelling sadly on your lost love, hold on to your past happy memories and continue to love that person in your heart. Love that person even though he/she is not physically with you cos love brings hopes and if that love is what will keep you going on and happy sometimes, then that love is definitely worth keeping. Love that person as an image, a mirage, a memories within your heart and love it as what you would have loved that person right now.
Treat it as a love simulation therapy and you will learnt to love the next person that comes along in your heart and be a better lover.
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Hi Malcolm,
There isnt much choices left once she has decided to end the relationship. Take me for example, my ex has engaged with someone else and in your last email to me, she mentioned that I am a trustable and reliable guy but she has no feeling for me cos her heart has gone to another guy. I kept raising questions after questions as to why must she dump me in such ways but think abt it, she has no feelings for me and for what I have done for her meant nothing. Does it matter to her how things end?
Will she ever care aabt how I feel and how muchI suffer? If yes, how coud she just get herself engage with her new bf so fast? For all the tough period that I have gone through with her. I have learnt to face the fact that she has gone. All sweet memories is just memories after all. Really wish her all the best. Hope that I will be blessed with a girl who really treasure me.
Maybe for her, she may treat me as an enemy cos she blame me for accusing her for betraying me and our relationship just end up causing misery and injustice for me to bear.
What can I do? Just kept telling myself to move on. move on with my life. -
Hi Malcolm,
Dont worry.... you r not alone. My ex broke off with me when i was back from outstation. We were together for 3 yrs+ and suddenly she left me. Nobody know how I been through this period of times. We got to move on, it take time.... You have to go through yourself nobody can help you. BTW We broke off less than 1 year and I heard that she is pregnant n married. -
I was with her fr 2 yrs 8 mths to b exact.. yes when we break... its was hell.. i exprience the happiness and saddest day of my life all in one.....happy cos that day i had my covocation,sad cos she broke up wif me officially that day.I was smiling during the whole covocation..... bt deep inside i was crying.. i cry the whole nite b4 ,begging her to come for my covo, and she did.. onli to b late and leave early so as to avoid my parents.Ya we took some pics.. as i dun wan to regret nt taking any wif her.. cos its something once in a life time thing... folloing few mths was hell.. lookign fr work.. and dealign wif the heartbroke. I dunnoe abt her.. cos she keep avoidng me... after that I noe.. one of her friend was chasing her.. she sae give me till dec.. may b can patch..
bt there the guy was chasing her.. and after we broke up ard 4 mths ... she was attached to him.. hahah that guy was her poly friend.. and a friend to me.. I ask myself y.. betryal and heartbroke.. luckily had some friends to tok to me.. else i think i die die... till nw almost one yr.. i sitll cannot forget. Bt i had to move on.. else the one who die is me.. I jsut wan to do well in my career and b much much better then both of them....She have changed.. she no longer the ger who I noe in aug 15. 2001.She had completely changed.. she once love me b4 bt i never treasure her.. now her love is fr other guy..
Still gt think of sweet memories with her.. BT I tell myself.. I msut go out of isolation and b a BETTER MAN
I noe the next gf i have will definitely have all my love and care.
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the thing you need to do... the one thing you need to do now...
IS TO STOP THINKING ABOUT HER
keep busy, focus on your goals, go out with friends and FORCE YOURSELF to focus on what you do and not think about her.
this is how it goes...
when you think about her, you feel sad, when you feel sad, you think even more.... then you feel sadder... then you think alot more....
heard of this commonly used phrase .......
"the more i think about it, the more painful/angry/unhappy i feel"?
it is a vicious cycle. dont go there. -
u love ur girl/guy too much tt why will cry
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I knw how ur feel, ur agony is a universal thing. I guess the universal cure would be time
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cry oso lidat... she wun even noe or care rite... get ur life straight. no use think n think. wasting time oni. usually e next gal will love u more.
for my case la...