Originally posted by granny goose:i am currently torn between 2 friends. one of them used to be closer to me (let's call Friend A), the other is my very good friend (let's call Friend B). but recently, Friend A seems to be rather nonchalant in my affairs. each time, i told her stuff, she would give uninterested and non-committal answers. i have tried talking to her regarding this matter, saying that i wish she can show more concern with my life but we always end up quarrelling. this makes me very frustrated to the extent that i decide to minimise contact with her.
on the other hand, i feel totally at ease with Friend B. we had since grow closer during this period (after i quarrel with Friend A, i find myself seeking the company of Friend B). Friend B is very understanding. she is always able to make me feel very comfortable in her presence. she is interested in my affairs and she always try to make me feel valued with the little things she does / said.
fellow forumers, what should i do? i don't wish to give up on Friend A but we seem to be drifting further apart each day. further, i also find myself drawn towards Friend B. please help.
then just give in to her lor sometimes...yi ren tui yi bu...Originally posted by granny goose:A is not having any problems. she is very happy. problem with us is that we quarrel over the slightest things these days.
Originally posted by granny goose:i am currently torn between 2 friends. one of them used to be closer to me (let's call Friend A), the other is my very good friend (let's call Friend B). but recently, Friend A seems to be rather nonchalant in my affairs. each time, i told her stuff, she would give uninterested and non-committal answers. i have tried talking to her regarding this matter, saying that i wish she can show more concern with my life but we always end up quarrelling. this makes me very frustrated to the extent that i decide to minimise contact with her.
on the other hand, i feel totally at ease with Friend B. we had since grow closer during this period (after i quarrel with Friend A, i find myself seeking the company of Friend B). Friend B is very understanding. she is always able to make me feel very comfortable in her presence. she is interested in my affairs and she always try to make me feel valued with the little things she does / said.
fellow forumers, what should i do? i don't wish to give up on Friend A but we seem to be drifting further apart each day. further, i also find myself drawn towards Friend B. please help.
Originally posted by granny goose:from what i know, A is not facing any problems right now. in fact, she always give me that attitude whenever i talked to her and this is very frustrating.
yes, A and B knows each other but they are not on talking terms.
Originally posted by granny goose:Hm. I may be just jumping to conclusions, but some things could be coming to light.
from what i know, A is not facing any problems right now. in fact, she always give me that attitude whenever i talked to her and this is very frustrating.
yes, A and B knows each other but they are not on talking terms.
u not seeing the need for such feelings dun mean that ur fren A does not. and it is possible that A thinks that since ur close to B.. means u dun like her as much anymore etc etc.. which then explains why shes cold and unconcerned.. all r assumptions tho.... but them being not on speaking terms even... well...Originally posted by granny goose:all along A and B couldn't get along but i maintain friendship with them separately. i am not sure if there is a tinge of envy/jealousy between them but i don't see a need for such feelings. B has been a close friend all this while and A knows it. but i don't deny that i become closer to B recently.
yah. I agree with that. Sometimes solitude is much better.Originally posted by granny goose:sometimes i feel that it is better to be alone. friends at times will unexpectedly treat you as dirt. any seconders?
Hmm...I don't see anything wrong with it. Your Friend A and B is behaving according to what they usually does...just because you think that Friend A is becoming bo chap towards you and you wanna dump this friendship? What kind of friend are you?Originally posted by granny goose:i am currently torn between 2 friends. one of them used to be closer to me (let's call Friend A), the other is my very good friend (let's call Friend B). but recently, Friend A seems to be rather nonchalant in my affairs. each time, i told her stuff, she would give uninterested and non-committal answers. i have tried talking to her regarding this matter, saying that i wish she can show more concern with my life but we always end up quarrelling. this makes me very frustrated to the extent that i decide to minimise contact with her.
on the other hand, i feel totally at ease with Friend B. we had since grow closer during this period (after i quarrel with Friend A, i find myself seeking the company of Friend B). Friend B is very understanding. she is always able to make me feel very comfortable in her presence. she is interested in my affairs and she always try to make me feel valued with the little things she does / said.
fellow forumers, what should i do? i don't wish to give up on Friend A but we seem to be drifting further apart each day. further, i also find myself drawn towards Friend B. please help.
are you saying that i have been insensitive to A and that when the needed attention from A is not met, the relationship turn sour?Originally posted by M©+square:Humans tend to demand the environment to suit themselves. If not it doesn't suit them, it's a tough time to go through.
Not surprised when a friend wants the attention needed but not met. And ended up a sour relationship.
One could also fall in the trap of insensitivity towards people around.
Nothing wrong with that just got to learn awareness.
Life is a cycle. When you criticise others. Sometime in your life, you'll do the same and be criticised.
Cheers
i'm not trying to imply anything.Originally posted by granny goose:are you saying that i have been insensitive to A and that when the needed attention from A is not met, the relationship turn sour?