He Loves me not? Breaking off is the best solution??
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He may be thoughtful at times...bringing me shopping.
But what i want him is to be more understanding..no riding fast bike, got to eat at least 3 full meal a day..is that so difficult?? He can't even do it..
*sigh* he expect more from me..want me to learn to cook his fav food, want me to give him massage after my O/T from work, be understanding with his shift work pattern, must not have any program for individual when we spend our time together.
I had been doing these all these few years, getting tired. I am a human not a machine..even a machine will break down..
But we still love each other maybe we had been 5yrs long together, things can't really change that much between us..think we are stuck...but the problem of his riding and eating habit can't change..very tired of it.
Is breaking off the best way out for us..rather than been unhappy or quarrel or stay on like that till old??
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The question is... Do you think you can stay like that till both of you are old?
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destiny maybe?
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did u try to have a heart to heart talk with him.. it might not be easy.. coz u guys have been together for 5 yrs... too used to everything... trying to change might b difficult and requires a lot of time and effort
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breaking off is not the best solution.
When in a realtionship the most impt thing is understanding and willing to accept the partner faults.
you love him for who he is.
Five years is not a short time.
Are you willing to throw all this away?
There are many people who try so hard to find the rite one and never have such a chance like you. I really hope that you will treasure what you have.
I understand what you just say is just complain only
Is just to let off steam boiling in you.
Everyone have there faults.
No one is perfect.
Are you willing to change your fault if he ask you? -
Have a heart-to-heart talk...seriously, would you be able to keep it up being like this...?
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WomanOriginally posted by CrystalGal:He may be thoughtful at times...bringing me shopping.
But what i want him is to be more understanding..no riding fast bike, got to eat at least 3 full meal a day..is that so difficult?? He can't even do it..
*sigh* he expect more from me..want me to learn to cook his fav food, want me to give him massage after my O/T from work, be understanding with his shift work pattern, must not have any program for individual when we spend our time together.
I had been doing these all these few years, getting tired. I am a human not a machine..even a machine will break down..
But we still love each other maybe we had been 5yrs long together, things can't really change that much between us..think we are stuck...but the problem of his riding and eating habit can't change..very tired of it.
Is breaking off the best way out for us..rather than been unhappy or quarrel or stay on like that till old??
Cooking is the best way to keep you husband home
Washing and Ironing is the best way to make him remember you during work
naggie stops all communications
When your guy speeding, close your eye and pray
Want him to have 3 full meal best way is to eat with him or make breakfast and lunch box for him. Said you are hungry ask him bring you eat supper.
Try arrange outing, pinic or short hoilday. Bring your own food or do things together.
Man
When woman cook, stand by her side chat with her, hug her from behind
appericate her food , help to wash dishes.
Help to hang the cloths becos it to high or wet cloths is too heavy
When woman nags, every of the , or . just reply ya , ok, oh......
When woman compliant you speeding, try to road hog when she is in the car and make others horn you.
When woman tells you to have 3 meals, just show her you did in front of her.
On outing , pinic or short hoilday don't ask anybody along, enjoy and try do everthing together with her, leave money , work and problems aside.
A perfect woman should read both and do both, its ture and I had one. -
strongly agreed .. but easier said than doneOriginally posted by drx:When in a realtionship the most impt thing is understanding and willing to accept the partner faults.
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love problems give me headache.
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no love give me heartache ..Originally posted by dragg:love problems give me headache. 
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erm..maybe if u follow his will and ask him to do so...then everything will be fine...
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Originally posted by F.O.S:
Hey..I really like your words of saying..he really try to be road hog and end up both of us been horn by others..
[b]Woman
Cooking is the best way to keep you husband home
Washing and Ironing is the best way to make him remember you during work
naggie stops all communications
When your guy speeding, close your eye and pray
Want him to have 3 full meal best way is to eat with him or make breakfast and lunch box for him. Said you are hungry ask him bring you eat supper.
Try arrange outing, pinic or short hoilday. Bring your own food or do things together.
Man
When woman cook, stand by her side chat with her, hug her from behind
appericate her food , help to wash dishes.
Help to hang the cloths becos it to high or wet cloths is too heavy
When woman nags, every of the , or . just reply ya , ok, oh......
When woman compliant you speeding, try to road hog when she is in the car and make others horn you.
When woman tells you to have 3 meals, just show her you did in front of her.
On outing , pinic or short hoilday don't ask anybody along, enjoy and try do everthing together with her, leave money , work and problems aside.
A perfect woman should read both and do both, its ture and I had one.
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I always pray when i sit on his bike but i will never shut my eyes..'touch wood' if anything happen, i won't know how to react on it...So i can say i am always alert. 
He often say i didn't accompany him to eat..but i have no choice.. cos i always believe that gals should look after our figure while guys should eat to give gals security and comfort. 
Anyway,your words really wake me up..thanks a million, pal!!
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I am not willing to throw this relationship away..but breaking off is always coming out of my mouth whenever we have quarrel..feel very tired of the same quarrel again and again.Originally posted by drx:breaking off is not the best solution.
When in a realtionship the most impt thing is understanding and willing to accept the partner faults.
you love him for who he is.
Five years is not a short time.
Are you willing to throw all this away?
There are many people who try so hard to find the rite one and never have such a chance like you. I really hope that you will treasure what you have.
I understand what you just say is just complain only
Is just to let off steam boiling in you.
Everyone have there faults.
No one is perfect.
Are you willing to change your fault if he ask you?
I did try and told him i will change my fault and it is very hard.. but his speeding habit 'touch wood' will kill one or us or others. It is too dangerous. 
eating habit is not difficult by only eating 3 full meals a day. He can't eat that.. i don't want to look bigger in size when us looking at us.. -
U should never bring up break up in any quarrels... coz this will affect ur relationship a great deal... break up will be imprint subconsciously in ur mind.. thus when u feel tired of everything.. break up would just popped into ur mind.Originally posted by CrystalGal:I am not willing to throw this relationship away..but breaking off is always coming out of my mouth whenever we have quarrel..feel very tired of the same quarrel again and again.
I did try and told him i will change my fault and it is very hard.. but his speeding habit 'touch wood' will kill one or us or others. It is too dangerous.
eating habit is not difficult by only eating 3 full meals a day. He can't eat that.. i don't want to look bigger in size when us looking at us..
How fast is his speed?
Some people just dun have the time to have 3 full meals.. u can always remind him to have his meals.. but u can't expect him to follow coz sometimes he might just be too busy to have his meals..some people will only eat when they feel hungry... if they dun feel hungry how could u make him swallow his food? i think eating 3 full meals is not much a problem.. just that u take it too hard? -
He can ride as fast as 180km/h in expressway..really very dangerous and end up quarrelling when we reach my house. That is what i am doing now reminding him to eat..Originally posted by shirurinu:U should never bring up break up in any quarrels... coz this will affect ur relationship a great deal... break up will be imprint subconsciously in ur mind.. thus when u feel tired of everything.. break up would just popped into ur mind.
How fast is his speed?
Some people just dun have the time to have 3 full meals.. u can always remind him to have his meals.. but u can't expect him to follow coz sometimes he might just be too busy to have his meals..some people will only eat when they feel hungry... if they dun feel hungry how could u make him swallow his food? i think eating 3 full meals is not much a problem.. just that u take it too hard? very tiring one.. he also listen until very sian liao.. He is a kind of person who won't feel hungry when he is concentrate in his work (apply in both his personal stuffs or office work)
Maybe i really that it too hard..cos just 3 meals a day, as a guy he can't even finished up all.."sigh" -
Crystalgal,Originally posted by CrystalGal:He can ride as fast as 180km/h in expressway..really very dangerous and end up quarrelling when we reach my house. That is what i am doing now reminding him to eat.. very tiring one.. he also listen until very sian liao.. He is a kind of person who won't feel hungry when he is concentrate in his work (apply in both his personal stuffs or office work)
Maybe i really that it too hard..cos just 3 meals a day, as a guy he can't even finished up all.."sigh"
Like me express my feel of eating on behalf of your BF. I have the same problem as your bf, I am under weight and skinny. I am born to be worry and feel stress even weekend or off day. In simple words I just do not know how to rest my mind.
My gf always as me to eat more but seriously in my mind I hate it , I only eat to show her and stop her from nagging me. Sometime I will lie to her that I eat alot during lunch to avoid heavy dinner that she brought me to.
I pretend to enjoy food just to see her smile, I eat lunch just to keep myself contiune working for the rest of the 1/2 working day. Eating is a troublesome and waste of time to me.
I can't help you much in solving this, if I did I will do it myself
Just to share with you this maybe how he feel, make him suffer no more and it might help in your r/s. -
Huh, I tok she complaining BF eat too much her figure haywire?Originally posted by F.O.S:Crystalgal,
Like me express my feel of eating on behalf of your BF. I have the same problem as your bf, I am under weight and skinny. I am born to be worry and feel stress even weekend or off day. In simple words I just do not know how to rest my mind.
My gf always as me to eat more but seriously in my mind I hate it , I only eat to show her and stop her from nagging me. Sometime I will lie to her that I eat alot during lunch to avoid heavy dinner that she brought me to.
I pretend to enjoy food just to see her smile, I eat lunch just to keep myself contiune working for the rest of the 1/2 working day. Eating is a troublesome and waste of time to me.
I can't help you much in solving this, if I did I will do it myself
Just to share with you this maybe how he feel, make him suffer no more and it might help in your r/s. -
Stress could be a problem that causes him to drive fast.
I think alot as mentioned above, lucky I had a gf that is a good listener.
But I can't wait to share with her each time I enter the car, while driving traffic is taking up lots of concentrations, I am still thinking of my probelms in office, family, bussiness....... I always try to drive faster so that I can reach the destination and sit down start thinking about what I want to think.
Driving is no longer relax for me , I feel so tiring and I hate it.
Check your bf for the following :
Did he often have stomachach?
Did he go to the toilet half way of the meal or immediately after meal?
After a quarrel or argue is his driving faster?
cannot sleep at night?
always wake up in the middle of the night and cannot get back to sleep?
Wake up by a slight movement or pin drop sound.
If he has the above, he is having the same problem as me. -
He can ride as fast as 180km/h in expressway..really very dangerous and end up quarrelling when we reach my house. That is what i am doing now reminding him to eat.. very tiring one.. he also listen until very sian liao.. He is a kind of person who won't feel hungry when he is concentrate in his work (apply in both his personal stuffs or office work)Originally posted by Ayukat:Huh, I tok she complaining BF eat too much her figure haywire?
Maybe i really that it too hard..cos just 3 meals a day, as a guy he can't even finished up all.."sigh" -
wow that's really fast 180km/h...
get him to change, but if he refuses, guess best you guys break up. if you are willing to make big changes for him whereas he doesn't want to change for you, thaT's a probelm.
i believe you know what you should do. -
Hey...he really did have stomache immediately after meal. He did ride faster when we quarrel/argue think he is trying to release his anger by rriding fast on the road.Originally posted by F.O.S:Stress could be a problem that causes him to drive fast.
I think alot as mentioned above, lucky I had a gf that is a good listener.
But I can't wait to share with her each time I enter the car, while driving traffic is taking up lots of concentrations, I am still thinking of my probelms in office, family, bussiness....... I always try to drive faster so that I can reach the destination and sit down start thinking about what I want to think.
Driving is no longer relax for me , I feel so tiring and I hate it.
Check your bf for the following :
Did he often have stomachach?
Did he go to the toilet half way of the meal or immediately after meal?
After a quarrel or argue is his driving faster?
cannot sleep at night?
always wake up in the middle of the night and cannot get back to sleep?
Wake up by a slight movement or pin drop sound.
If he has the above, he is having the same problem as me.
Due to his work, he have some problem in sleep well at night..he told me before that night time is his working time (Personal Stuffs) and morning (around 5plus) is his sleeping time.Thus he only sleep less than 2 hours.
I also don't know what/how to do with his sleeping problem.