do u think the maids too much or is it my fault?
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do u think the maids too much or am i really that terrible?well,today i went to my boyfriends house as i had not seen him in a long while.when i left the room.i didnt realise that cos of my period,the white bedsheets had 2 red coin- sized stain on it.i REALLy didnt know about it when i left the room.then as i was relaxing in the hall with my boyfriend,the maid stormed down the stairs and demanded to know why the expensive white bedsheets were stained?she was screming that i was stupid,dirty and disgusting and that she totally HATE me to come to his house(my boyfriend lives with his parents)...so my boyfriend stuck up for me and demanded her to stop screaming.she didnt but she ordered me to go to the room and clean up the bed as she wa not gona do it.i was really embarassed and after a while i went up to clean it up.she gave me a look when i was cleaning up.i was soooooooo embarassed that i couldnt hold back my tears...i hid in the toile for a while and started weeping..my boyfriend who suspected something wrong,went to check on me n comfort me.anyways he say the maid gota go cos she answers back to her employers and is stupid.DO U THINK THE MAID WAS 2 MUCH OR IS IT TOTALLY MY FAULT?plz tell me.im CONFUSED.....
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Ask your BF to keep some sanitary pads/tampons in his house for emergencies in the future...
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wow .. tis maid so fierce .. u serious?
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How come the maid is acting like the mistress of the house
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Your fault isn't intentional.Therefore you don't deserve to be treated that way.Even though a maid is also a human and will get angry,there is no excuse for her to shout at you this way.All i can say is don't take this too hard.The maid was rude and with such attidue,she will never be able to hold on to a single job for long.Originally posted by rootbeer:do u think the maids too much or am i really that terrible?well,today i went to my boyfriends house as i had not seen him in a long while.when i left the room.i didnt realise that cos of my period,the white bedsheets had 2 red coin- sized stain on it.i REALLy didnt know about it when i left the room.then as i was relaxing in the hall with my boyfriend,the maid stormed down the stairs and demanded to know why the expensive white bedsheets were stained?she was screming that i was stupid,dirty and disgusting and that she totally HATE me to come to his house(my boyfriend lives with his parents)...so my boyfriend stuck up for me and demanded her to stop screaming.she didnt but she ordered me to go to the room and clean up the bed as she wa not gona do it.i was really embarassed and after a while i went up to clean it up.she gave me a look when i was cleaning up.i was soooooooo embarassed that i couldnt hold back my tears...i hid in the toile for a while and started weeping..my boyfriend who suspected something wrong,went to check on me n comfort me.anyways he say the maid gota go cos she answers back to her employers and is stupid.DO U THINK THE MAID WAS 2 MUCH OR IS IT TOTALLY MY FAULT?plz tell me.im CONFUSED..... -
Hmm...yeah...ask the maid to go->sack her->deport her back to her third-world country->let her go rot in her own country->let her karma comes to her in the form of her own countrymen.Originally posted by rootbeer:do u think the maids too much or am i really that terrible?well,today i went to my boyfriends house as i had not seen him in a long while.when i left the room.i didnt realise that cos of my period,the white bedsheets had 2 red coin- sized stain on it.i REALLy didnt know about it when i left the room.then as i was relaxing in the hall with my boyfriend,the maid stormed down the stairs and demanded to know why the expensive white bedsheets were stained?she was screming that i was stupid,dirty and disgusting and that she totally HATE me to come to his house(my boyfriend lives with his parents)...so my boyfriend stuck up for me and demanded her to stop screaming.she didnt but she ordered me to go to the room and clean up the bed as she wa not gona do it.i was really embarassed and after a while i went up to clean it up.she gave me a look when i was cleaning up.i was soooooooo embarassed that i couldnt hold back my tears...i hid in the toile for a while and started weeping..my boyfriend who suspected something wrong,went to check on me n comfort me.anyways he say the maid gota go cos she answers back to her employers and is stupid.DO U THINK THE MAID WAS 2 MUCH OR IS IT TOTALLY MY FAULT?plz tell me.im CONFUSED.....
Well, we're petty, proud and very social conscious...so it's natural that we'll do what we can to get that kind of maid out of our society.
Else, we can be forgiving, humble and friendly...so we'll be nice to the maid until her contract is up and don't renew her service anymore. <---- But this is absolute bullsh|t....
Time to get another maid...a more obedient maid who knows her status in the family. -
quite clearly you should get your bf to inform his parents to sack the maid on the spot. send her back to working in the jungle. see how she feels shouting at the monkeys. don't worry about the ramifications of sacking the maid. you can do it by notifying the agency. pack her back to her home country. she doesn't deserve to be in singapore.
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so fierce. your boyfriend's mother is the maid?
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Lesson learnt- don't sit on people's bed when you are having your period.
The maid may be rude & bossy but she is not your concern. It is up to your bf's parents to talk to her. I don't think her behaviour warrants termination.
Maybe the blood stain seep into the mattress so very hard to remove.
U have to understand her frustration. She is protecting her owner's possession. -
mayb ur bf's mum did warn her about deductin her pay if she spoils anyting in d house? I've never seen a maid so bad before.
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I think the maid was Fucked up. she doesnt have periods one meh?Originally posted by rootbeer:do u think the maids too much or am i really that terrible?well,today i went to my boyfriends house as i had not seen him in a long while.when i left the room.i didnt realise that cos of my period,the white bedsheets had 2 red coin- sized stain on it.i REALLy didnt know about it when i left the room.then as i was relaxing in the hall with my boyfriend,the maid stormed down the stairs and demanded to know why the expensive white bedsheets were stained?she was screming that i was stupid,dirty and disgusting and that she totally HATE me to come to his house(my boyfriend lives with his parents)...so my boyfriend stuck up for me and demanded her to stop screaming.she didnt but she ordered me to go to the room and clean up the bed as she wa not gona do it.i was really embarassed and after a while i went up to clean it up.she gave me a look when i was cleaning up.i was soooooooo embarassed that i couldnt hold back my tears...i hid in the toile for a while and started weeping..my boyfriend who suspected something wrong,went to check on me n comfort me.anyways he say the maid gota go cos she answers back to her employers and is stupid.DO U THINK THE MAID WAS 2 MUCH OR IS IT TOTALLY MY FAULT?plz tell me.im CONFUSED..... -
not your fault lah...Originally posted by rootbeer:do u think the maids too much or am i really that terrible?well,today i went to my boyfriends house as i had not seen him in a long while.when i left the room.i didnt realise that cos of my period,the white bedsheets had 2 red coin- sized stain on it.i REALLy didnt know about it when i left the room.then as i was relaxing in the hall with my boyfriend,the maid stormed down the stairs and demanded to know why the expensive white bedsheets were stained?she was screming that i was stupid,dirty and disgusting and that she totally HATE me to come to his house(my boyfriend lives with his parents)...so my boyfriend stuck up for me and demanded her to stop screaming.she didnt but she ordered me to go to the room and clean up the bed as she wa not gona do it.i was really embarassed and after a while i went up to clean it up.she gave me a look when i was cleaning up.i was soooooooo embarassed that i couldnt hold back my tears...i hid in the toile for a while and started weeping..my boyfriend who suspected something wrong,went to check on me n comfort me.anyways he say the maid gota go cos she answers back to her employers and is stupid.DO U THINK THE MAID WAS 2 MUCH OR IS IT TOTALLY MY FAULT?plz tell me.im CONFUSED.....
anyway its her job to clean up things wat...
why she gotta scream at you to clean up the stains...
besides she got no rite to tell you tat she hates you for going to your bf's hse... its not her hse wat...
get your bf to sack her lah... send her back...
we shouldn't torlerate this kind of behaviour... -
1 thing I learnt about the behaviours of maids before they go back to their country is, they will be totally different. Their bad attitudes will reveal and they wouldn't hold back to shout at you should they feel unhappy about anything.
It's not your fault totally. I'm sure all gals dread stains on their menses. But maybe you could be a little bit more careful next time?
I think the maid is over-reacting. But, let the matter rest. She is going back anyway. -
To be frank both of you have faults
1)You were not responsible to keep track of your mensus
2)Even if you knew of it, you did not wear santiary pads
The maid should not have shout at you, she should have just cleaned it
1)The bedsheet is not bought by her
2)You dont shout at someone who is related to the employer -
Maybe the maid had mensus during the same time as you thats why she is angry
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Some maids are like that, especially when they know that they will be sent home soon. It is really not your fault. Who can predict such thing. So don't put it to heart, and since your bf did not blame u at at, just forget it and back to normal.
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sorry did i missed something but if u dunno u left the stain. how did u manage not to stain ur dress. cos if it is 2 dots on the mattress, that must b a pair of spots so large, 1/2 the world would hv noticed it. unless u r wearing birthday suit and walking ard the house. or just another likely story spinner.Originally posted by rootbeer:do u think the maids too much or am i really that terrible?well,today i went to my boyfriends house as i had not seen him in a long while.when i left the room.i didnt realise that cos of my period,the white bedsheets had 2 red coin- sized stain on it. -
Some conservative Asian women (and men) believe that it is extreme bad luck and unhygienic to touch another woman's period stains. They also believe that it is proper etiquette for a woman to clean up her own period stains. One has often heard many toilet-cleaning ladies complaining viciously in the office about inconsiderate lady staff indiscriminately leaving their "Japanese roti buns" about in the female toilets.
Don't take to heart the harsh comments from the maid. She probably was brought up in that kind of traditional environment and may also have been spoilt by your boyfriend's family to raise her voice at guests who violate her sense of etiquette. Just ignore her barking, but be mindful of leaving your stains behind in future (make sure you are well-protected against heavy flow days), especially in public places -- you wouldn't want some old grandmother raising a ruckus on the MRT train over a seat you have stood up to let her sit, just because she saw a small cheery "Japanese flag" on it. -
Hmm?? How come you didn't know when your menses came?? Weird, heh. But it's ok, the maid was too much too. I suggest you forgo the incident instead of dwelling too much. Next time, bring a pad with you, just in case. (I had one similar incident as you, but surprisingly, they didn't scold me o_O , but looking back, I thought it was quite unhygenic of me to leave such 'imprint', I could have run to the toilet to check when I realise my uterus was feeling funny)