Confused about myself
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Hi all,
I am a guy and I have a problem. In fact, I always have this fantasy of wanting to dress up as a school girl. When I see how the school girls are being cared and pampered by their parents in the streets, my desire grown stronger. Is there anything wrong with me? Am I a crossdresser? Have been tempted to go the uniform retailer to get a CHIJ or MGS uniform.. to dress up and fantasized being cared for.. really confused. pls help.. -
you wanna dress up as a girl to get attention or becoz you feel you are a girl inside you???
if its the former... then you should take steps to be closer with your parents...
if its the later... then you should get professional help to help you sort out your identity... -
why u use my ou xiang nick.....
but anyway, u are not the oni one around.......
for me, i think it's normal for guys to have such fantasies....
but at the end of the day, pls rber tt this society is still not that receptive to such behavior....no doubt we are opening up.....it's slow.....u may encounter difficulties to convince ppl to accept u....it's up to urself how u can take it..... -
I really don't know... am thinking of trying it out and maybe I can stop thinking about it and get it done with? But I am also worried that I may get addicted.Originally posted by hyuuga neji:you wanna dress up as a girl to get attention or becoz you feel you are a girl inside you???
if its the former... then you should take steps to be closer with your parents...
if its the later... then you should get professional help to help you sort out your identity... -
is it really normal for guys to have this fantasy? Why? Do you think I should go ahead, get a uniform to try?Originally posted by FireIce:why u use my ou xiang nick.....
but anyway, u are not the oni one around.......
for me, i think it's normal for guys to have such fantasies....
but at the end of the day, pls rber tt this society is still not that receptive to such behavior....no doubt we are opening up.....it's slow.....u may encounter difficulties to convince ppl to accept u....it's up to urself how u can take it..... -
anyone can help..? sg forumers are known to be very helpful?
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Sure sure.... we ARE "helpful..." We even helped a man that grew boobies...Originally posted by Harisu:anyone can help..? sg forumers are known to be very helpful?
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Harisu, you may wish to check out some old posts below. Another poster seemed to have similar problems and there were some well-intentioned advice given among the expected brickbats.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=128008
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=80006
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=77459
Hope you are not a clone. Take care. -
i think u are really screwed up in ur own way. Im sorry for being so blunt. But just to get ppl to care for u, u wanna dress up like a gerl? come on dude, wake up ur bloody idea.
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Try dressing up as a school boyOriginally posted by Harisu:Hi all,
I am a guy and I have a problem. In fact, I always have this fantasy of wanting to dress up as a school girl. When I see how the school girls are being cared and pampered by their parents in the streets, my desire grown stronger. Is there anything wrong with me? Am I a crossdresser? Have been tempted to go the uniform retailer to get a CHIJ or MGS uniform.. to dress up and fantasized being cared for.. really confused. pls help..
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i know. but you don't understand. I have tried to give up that idea but it just will not go away. I'm thinking of dressing up as a school girl for once to see if it will go away. I have read up on this.. its like if a boy is sissy, the mum will try to dress him as a girl. When he starts to protest, he has waken up..?Originally posted by waattaa!:i think u are really screwed up in ur own way. Im sorry for being so blunt. But just to get ppl to care for u, u wanna dress up like a gerl? come on dude, wake up ur bloody idea. -
i know. but you don't understand. I have tried to give up that idea but it just will not go away. I'm thinking of dressing up as a school girl for once to see if it will go away. I have read up on this.. its like if a boy is sissy, the mum will try to dress him as a girl. When he starts to protest, he has waken up..?Originally posted by waattaa!:i think u are really screwed up in ur own way. Im sorry for being so blunt. But just to get ppl to care for u, u wanna dress up like a gerl? come on dude, wake up ur bloody idea. -
what's your age, harisu?
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22.Originally posted by thoreldan:what's your age, harisu? -
harisu, what are u doing now? NS? schooling?
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schooling. going to NS soon but will defer till cannot defer..Originally posted by HENG@:harisu, what are u doing now? NS? schooling? -
Go find work overseas as a drag queen...hell..go alll the way..get a sex change operation. Live life as u, not what society wants u to be... this is why Im a chocolate scientist
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what school?Originally posted by Harisu:schooling. going to NS soon but will defer till cannot defer..
anyway my frank opinion is that yes, u're probably a crossdresser at least, but that is no a big deal. Fantasy plays and a brief escape of reality is what most crossdressers crave.
Yes there is the chance that u will get addicted if u start. OF course u have to search deeper with regards to your envy of schoolgirls, because perhaps your...... true self doesn't just stop at being a crossdresser alone. I have to point out though, that even if u dressed up, u wouldn't get the sort of care n pampering from your parents or anyone else which u so envy. Indeed it can cause yr parents others to misunderstand u and be particularly nasty towards you.
Ultimately though, u have to consider if you will be happy doing so or not. I would encourage you to explore this area further, because it might be something deeper which you have long supressed or not known about. -
IMHO, there is really nothing wrong in dressing up as a school girl. So just go ahead and do it if you can afford the means to.
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yes.. thats why i intend to buy a MGS uniform from a retailed to see if it will go away or stay. If it goes away..good. if it stays, too bad, will have to live with it. Right now, my head is exploding.. what will my gf think? sigh.. how to handle..?Originally posted by HENG@:what school?
anyway my frank opinion is that yes, u're probably a crossdresser at least, but that is no a big deal. Fantasy plays and a brief escape of reality is what most crossdressers crave.
Yes there is the chance that u will get addicted if u start. OF course u have to search deeper with regards to your envy of schoolgirls, because perhaps your...... true self doesn't just stop at being a crossdresser alone. I have to point out though, that even if u dressed up, u wouldn't get the sort of care n pampering from your parents or anyone else which u so envy. Indeed it can cause yr parents others to misunderstand u and be particularly nasty towards you.
Ultimately though, u have to consider if you will be happy doing so or not. I would encourage you to explore this area further, because it might be something deeper which you have long supressed or not known about. -
u should see if u can get her involved in dressing you up. Girls sometimes actually like the idea of being able to be in control and dominate her man. It is kinky play and can be a bit of a turn on for them to see the guy they know so well in a totally new light.Originally posted by Harisu:yes.. thats why i intend to buy a MGS uniform from a retailed to see if it will go away or stay. If it goes away..good. if it stays, too bad, will have to live with it. Right now, my head is exploding.. what will my gf think? sigh.. how to handle..? -
u like that heng?Originally posted by HENG@:u should see if u can get her involved in dressing you up. Girls sometimes actually like the idea of being able to be in control and dominate her man. It is kinky play and can be a bit of a turn on for them to see the guy they know so well in a totally new light. *kinky* -
oh yes. verrrrrry kinky.Originally posted by alexkusu:u like that heng? *kinky*
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please bring it to the bar or ditzy's corner... there are kids in here.Lets not corrupt their young mindsOriginally posted by HENG@:oh yes. verrrrrry kinky. -
it could be some fetish...and this is not the best place to solicit for advise as it is a matter of personal choice and preference. it would even seem condescending to say this is right/wrong, black or white. unless you are here to reinforce certain preconceptions others have about cross dressers. these decisions, as with many other decisions; e.g. taking drugs, shoplifting, having sex, slap a stranger, or those things that allure one with danger yet excitement, are not so much about a 'dare' to take the first step to do something, and subsequently, because of that decision, to determine your ultimate choice. it is a more complicated process and the self-doubt and evaluation stages are continuous. So, you could positively reinforce such behaviour by dressing up and hanging around bugis street and you get all the admiration you wished. Or to negatively 'shame' yourself by doing so in a different venue where you know you know you would likely be humiliated/beaten up. then again, these external experiments may not present the best solutions to suppress your internal desires. so, you are just worried about how you present yourself to society and the community, then you should weigh your priorities. but who knows, time changes, adn with the setting up of the IR, the garbement may one day set up some simon cabaret and their 1-stop shopping & sexual reassignment/modification medical HQ here to rival bangkok and be the best in batam and jb.Originally posted by Harisu:Hi all,
I am a guy and I have a problem. In fact, I always have this fantasy of wanting to dress up as a school girl. When I see how the school girls are being cared and pampered by their parents in the streets, my desire grown stronger. Is there anything wrong with me? Am I a crossdresser? Have been tempted to go the uniform retailer to get a CHIJ or MGS uniform.. to dress up and fantasized being cared for.. really confused. pls help..