Somebody special
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Can a girl really like a guy....a colleaque, be with him everyday unitil the last day they work together. Keep it all inside and move on with life.
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can why not ?
no big deal.
happens all the time. -
can.. it is possible.. good luck =)
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It will be quite tough, the gawning thought of not knowing what could have been will keep going in ur mind forever
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I think the topic title is very unromantic. 'Someone Special' would have a better effect.
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even scully slept wif mulder... X Files
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Hmm... Why ask?Originally posted by Young Stallion:Can a girl really like a guy....a colleaque, be with him everyday unitil the last day they work together. Keep it all inside and move on with life. -
WellÂ….Girls tend to behave strangely on their last working day. She will do or say something to puzzle you. ItÂ’s maybe the last time she will ever see u and the last chance to know whether u like her.
Two of my female colleaque from China who was going back home and never coming back to Singapore said strange things to me.
1. “Can you be my boyfriend, I think you are really handsome.”…...I was so shocked that I never even reply. I always treated her as a friend and she never even hinted that she liked me.
I took a group photo of our frens and give it as a present to her. Later that night
she called me and said that I touched her heart. She went back home, worked in a shoe store and got married to the boss.
2. “Will you marry a girl from a different race”. I said “Yes, if I like the girl and she makes me really happy”. I thought this was just a general question. I always treat her as a sister. She has a SG BF who was going back home with her.
On the last day, she asked for my photograph but sadly I did not give it to her. They got married after a few months. Recently her husband is in SG for business, I think I will pass photo to him to pass to her back in China.
Some girls just behave strangely like staring at you, sad expression and keep to herself for the whole day.
I know itÂ’s hard to say goodbyeÂ…Â…but friends really care, I think itÂ’s really unfair to leave without saying anything. -
There are people who end up marrying not the one whom they love, but the one who loves them.
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I think it's better that you start lookin 4 the one,rather than thinkin why they ask u dis n dat.........
Esp 4 ladies to tell u or request something, they hv made the 1st move... u r still as blur as a sotong ah........
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You mean all of the above constitutes a first move? Very ambiguous lei
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Mr.............. askin 4 his photo n such are hints .............Originally posted by DriftingGuy:You mean all of the above constitutes a first move? Very ambiguous lei
I guess u r oso single. -
Hmm.
I think doing these kinda stuff on a last day to me feels like:
Giving it a last shot.
"I've never had the guts to tell him before, but since its my last day, why not try and see what can happen?"
The picture thing is probably something to remember you by, don't want to think too deep here..
But yea, if you said you like them, they would probably have led very different lives.. -
to be loved is a blessing, but will such marriages lasted ?Originally posted by Tuatau:There are people who end up marrying not the one whom they love, but the one who loves them. -
To be loved is a blessing?Originally posted by starExcaliblur:to be loved is a blessing, but will such marriages lasted ?
I should think twice about that.
It's hard to accept someone you don't love no matter how much that person loves you. It's like oil and water..it'll never mixed. -
Like peace and Dubya Bush.Originally posted by laosu:To be loved is a blessing?
I should think twice about that.
It's hard to accept someone you don't love no matter how much that person loves you. It's like oil and water..it'll never mixed.
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Originally posted by starExcaliblur:
"The greatest thing you'll ever learn
to be loved is a blessing, but will such marriages lasted ?
Is just to love and be loved in return."
- Eden Ahbez
Guess it depends on the individual. People who marry those that love them probably have some liking for the partner as well -- it's quite hard to imagine a marriage with a person for whom you have absolutely no positive feelings.
Wouldn't know if such marriages last -- there is no way of verifying it with statistics -- but there is this couple I know of which the wife initially did not love the husband as he loves her. When they first knew each other, she had merely thought of him as a friend, perhaps "best friend", and didn't hesitate to let him know when he first professed his love for her. The best friend was naturally hurt and she probably was prepared to lose this friend, but he chose to remain at the sidelines as her friend.
At that time, the lady had been through a few traumatic relationships and had been hurt by a few men whom she loved deeply but who somehow had not loved her as much as they had claimed. Some had been unwilling to commit, some had left when the love died out. And all this while, the best friend still continued to be by her side supporting her, while silently suffering to hear her relate her relationship problems with other men.
The turning point came on the day the lady realised she was pregnant from a recently-ended relationship. She sought out the man who was responsible. He was not willing to accept the responsibility, but was willing to pay for the abortion. Too hurt to accept his money, the lady had wanted to abort the baby herself, but being an independent working lady, she had also wanted to bring up the baby alone. Confused, she confided in the best friend.
In a generous move that proved that his love for her was true and unwavering, the best friend offered to be the father of the unborn child. The lady was deeply moved by his gesture, but the thought of marrying the person she had rejected and had always regarded as just a friend troubled her. Though the best friend was not an effeminate man, it was like marrying a "jie mei (sister)" to her. So she asked for more time to consider, while putting off the decision to abort her child.
It was not known what changed her mind, but after more than a month, the lady finally gave in and said "yes". She probably thought that marrying a man who loves her in spite of her condition was much better than marrying one whom she may love but who would never accept her child. The couple was married a few months later with the bride carrying an embarrasingly-distended belly at the solemnisation ceremony.
The baby son was born soon after, and true to his word, the husband treats him like his own. The couple had another child two years later, and till this day after five years they are still happily married. It would seem that the lucky lady has finally found "the man" -- the best friend whom she had liked but not loved and the husband whom she has grown to love.
A story I've heard from among my circle of friends, though I suspect some details may have been embellished for dramatic effect. I'd guess that sometimes when people get hurt so much by those whom they love but who do not love them, accepting those who love them may be a welcome relief to the battered heart. -
yup.. possible... first hand experience.Originally posted by Young Stallion:Can a girl really like a guy....a colleaque, be with him everyday unitil the last day they work together. Keep it all inside and move on with life.