bgr help.
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forumites, nid ur opinion.
had an arguement with gf.
sentosa outing was postpone yet again frm ytd to today and postpone from today to tmr. was suggesting other places to relax as time was late at ard 2+ pm today. gonna make it back home for dad bday dinner at ard 8+. i decided nt to go sentosa due to time constraints. gf was throwing tantrum at my hse after i decided nt to go sentosa. showing mi a face, and i ask her to go other place instead but kip giving mi a "face". i suggested some 3,4 other places which is near to my hse but a hell "no".. kip arguing dat 3+ can rch sentosa and will be back my 7+. i said if i wanna go sure i wanna enjoy and not with time constraints. after dis,didnt even tok to mi at my hse, after dat bring her bag out and left the hse. being a bf, i gif chase. and arguments start to throw.
she said i was on long wkends coz of vesak and simply wasted today and she wanna spend quality time with mi. ytd she was bz with smthing on and therefore a day was gone. and today was the onli day dat she can enjoy being with mi. but is cancelling sentosa outing called nt spending quality time? makes mi wonder. its been happening 2,3 times alreadi.
forumites, izit my fault? advise ? -
NOT your fault. your GF is being unreasonable. Then again, she might have PMS. So NO WONDER.
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yes yr fault. what time constraint? tat is also an excuse.
if u r in a rush, u should not hv promised.
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1stly i didt promise to go sentosa. i onli said i wanted to go.Originally posted by Apollo_sg:yes yr fault. what time constraint? tat is also an excuse.
if u r in a rush, u should not hv promised.
and when u promise, u dun expect to break it.
and she told mi dat tmr which is today she cldnt acc coz cousin wedding. and dis came as last min thingy to me coz i tot today thr is still time to go sentosa. -
just set a time to go next week lor...ok
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i dun tink there is a nid liao. she initiate a broke up dis morningOriginally posted by sgboy2004:just set a time to go next week lor...ok -
dat was lame.Originally posted by WrX_STi:i dun tink there is a nid liao. she initiate a broke up dis morning
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i guess there is other factors dat make her initiate a breakup.Originally posted by Ito_^:dat was lame. -
aiyo, liddat breakup...hmmm, sounds like it is not just this issue nia...it is cumulative one... must be lots of "small" incidences that led to this...Originally posted by WrX_STi:i dun tink there is a nid liao. she initiate a broke up dis morning
mi sad for u... well, maybe let her cool cool off first ok -
lol.
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true true.Originally posted by WrX_STi:i guess there is other factors dat make her initiate a breakup.
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alot ppple been telling mi dis.. but how long..Originally posted by sgboy2004:aiyo, liddat breakup...hmmm, sounds like it is not just this issue nia...it is cumulative one... must be lots of "small" incidences that led to this...
mi sad for u... well, maybe let her cool cool off first ok -
give her a day...then sms her to tell her how u feel, and ask her to come out for a cool talk ...Originally posted by WrX_STi:alot ppple been telling mi dis.. but how long.. -
the nxt time i see her is nxt wkend?Originally posted by sgboy2004:give her a day...then sms her to tell her how u feel, and ask her to come out for a cool talk ... -
i c...but keep sending her some sms during the week, or talk on the phone if can...ok
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on my part, i wan. but on her part, does she wan?
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Well pal, seems you're caught in the "Have GF while in NS" situation.
As we all probably know, being in NS means your gf probably gets to see you once or twice a week. And that is 5 times too little for some pple i know.
I don't know about your gf being the needy type or not, but i do know that for a NS relationship to work both sides have to be understanding...
Perhaps the two of you are not mature enough for this relationship, or both sides think that they have given a lot, while not sparing enough for the other's feelings.
Perhaps you could look at the past few months, how have you been acting. Write it out and look at it from a third person view. Is it too much?
Hope it all works out in the end...
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3+ to 7+ is ok wor..I normally go ard 11 and leave within 4-6pm.
She din say u muz stay with her till after 8 mah..7 plus can go back..still alright..long weekend and doing nth..really a bit sianz half.
I wun mind if juz going there to see sunset..spend some time together..
So u feel that it's a lst min thingy coz she said that she could not make it.....She have to be understanding also ba..and because of this, she wants a break up? I think this incident triggered the break up..before this..was there any other conflicts/unhappiness? Haiz. -
You find out?Originally posted by WrX_STi:on my part, i wan. but on her part, does she wan?
Personal advice on the 1st issue of your post. Don't speak reason 1st. Make 'love'. In other words, kiss and make up 1st... If you agree with me that you find your relationship of utmost importance in spite of the amount of 'unreasonability' that she's currently giving to you? (in other words, if you find her damn unreasonable beyond hope. You might just wanna give up?)
Personal advice on the overall situation. Like what the others have mentioned, there could be other factors or accumulative ones. What I wanna tell you is... If something's really COMING IN HIT FOR YOU, there might be little you could be doing to prevent it... Especially when you're not even certain what it is.
BUT if this is a case where you CAN DO SOMETHING about it, WOULD YOU WANNA DO IT
SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AT ALL COST 