My life is a mess
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Introduction
IÂ’m a 32 old guy whoÂ’s never been on a date before, never cared about BGR until now. I consider myself as an average looking guy so when I talk to girls itÂ’s merely as friends. I never thought that itÂ’s not this way with some girls.
Secondary School
Never cared about anything, just play sports and enjoy myself. At this stage my friends started to have BGR. I never really understood why they do this. Girls are just problems.
One day I met a guy friend from another school, he said that I have a lot of admirers but I just “act cool”. I thought he must be joking because I was never interested in girls.
Poly
Got a bit curios about BGR but never gave it try, no confidence. When I see a girls staring at me I thought “Cannot be lah…..She must be looking at someone else. She’s too good looking to be staring at me”.
National Service
No time to think about BGRÂ…..hang out with my guys friends and kept busy with hobbies. Totally never thought about getting a girlfriend.
Working Life
This is where all the drama started to happen. IÂ’m still the same guy..Blur about BGR but now my colleagues are not Girls anymore but Women. I was slowly going to find out the difference. Still blur about the opposite sex I did not know what to do or think or say when they give me compliment,
Compliment Reply
You very cute ErrrrÂ…..thank you
You got girlfriend Why are you asking me this question?
You very handsome “Stunned” No reply…..Just smile
I’m not seeing anyone right now No reponse…wondering “What’s that
got to do with me”
Bring your Gf to the chalet Wondering..”Why she want to see my Gf”
You look like my Ex.Bf No reponse…wondering “What’s that got to do with me”
When are you getting married Why u want to know?
Once my male colleague(already married) hinted to me “that girl likes u…chase after her lah”. I replied ,”Are you nuts….that’s my friend”.
Most of my friends now have steady Gf or getting married and having kids. After all
these years I finally woke up. Hopefully there is hope for me, I regret never took the time
to understand the opposite sex. I think my life would be different now. HaizÂ…Â…(>_<) -
Hmm..this is easy. Please join and participate in all the sgForums outing in the future.
You could sign up for premier membership and you could put up your cute photo for every still single girls out there to drool, dream, admire and go crazy over you. Who knows...you might just be the next Singapore Idol....the real Idol.
Don't worry, your life is not a mess right now. You just need to have alot of friends and some of them need to be gals and hopefully one of them or their friends will end up being ''The One'' for you. -
i like u
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Originally posted by Young Stallion:
There is nothing wrong with making a girl friend a girlfriend if you are interested in the girl and she is available.
Once my male colleague(already married) hinted to me “that girl likes u…chase after her lah”. I replied ,”Are you nuts….that’s my friend”.
It is good that you are not promiscuous and take relationships seriously, so don't regret that it is too late. You aren't that old yet, and there is still time for you to know a girl and work things out.
Just open your mind, and your heart. Don't forget to thicken the skin of your face. -
Well, you must give it a try because you don't want to spend time alone in the future right ? is time for you find a good girl and settle down. Have some confidence , Man !! You Go Tiger !!
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You're right , what a mess of a life .
You have managed to not interact/ ignore about 50% of the people on the island.
What do ya do? Throw the stone & get the pool to ripple! with regard to the oposite sex or just give-up and go gay !
32 is a little old to be playing it coy and shy ! -
Originally posted by margarita:i like u
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to build up your confidence, a quick way is to join a few speed dating session. it will make you more comfortable in holding a conversation with the ladies.
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Group outing my late blooming friend. Just make sure that everyone else has a partner so the two of you will be 'stuck' with each other. Advantage: You can be yourself. Since she likes you already (so u say ur fren says) then it shouldn't be a problem.
Send her home and say 'you had a good time' and ask her if she would like to go out another night. Of course, be truthful, nothing's worse than a lying bastard. Good lead up to popping the question is to ask at anytime of the outing what she likes to do. Try to find out more about that hobby (by talking to her about it) and You can always say you like to try it and ask if she can reccomend how to go about it. Then you ask her to accompany you since it's going to be awkard to go alone. -
This is why I am hunting for a GF at a younger age.
Anyone wants to be my GF? -
32 isn't that bad an age to 'wake up' to in my opinion.
You're in your prime.
You're handsome.
You've got financial stability.
That's what woman are looking for. (Probably add in a few stuff like urm, charming, romantic, etc..)
But its not too late.
Start going for it. Ask your Male colleagues who has been liking you for some time... or even better, ask yourself, who do you LIKE.
I'm sure we don't need to teach you what to do on a first date... but if you do, just ask us here.
Go for it stud~ We'll be rooting for you~ -
as long as u are not gay, there's still hope.
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Sigh...u are a rare gem. Its not too late to start the dating game but most gals will have had much more emotional bagage and experience in love and relationships than u had. Can u handle it and their expectations towards their bfs?.As u know, most gals's standard of the bfs tend to get higher with each bf as they want to correct the previous' faults and seek even greener pastures. At an age of 32, i will say thats if it is destined for you to find someone, you might. But if not, living your life as a single aint too bad either.
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hey Young Stallion...don worry u will get one since u are so famous...not like me :< i have the same thinking like u also....girls are damn troublesome and problem....but then think back....at least u can share the problem together whether sadness or happiness....
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This week I just "broke a girl's heart". I did not want to do it, i gave her so many hints that i was not interested. I hoped to avoid this moment but it was not avoidable.
We are colleagues for 5 years and work together, I know she like me but i only treat her only as a fren and nothing more. I never once implied that I was attracted or interested to her. She been involved in BGR before and even has an admirer. I was very happy when I know this guy was chasing her.
I'm already blur sotong about BGR. It began when I told her that I'm thinking of getting another job, then she started to behave strangely. Everytime she behaves likes this, I just walk off. I really did not want her to say something that she will regret because to me we are just frens.
During lunchtime we sat at the same table, she was very upset. After seeing this i got very upset. I really,really did not want to hurt her. I couldn't even finish my lunch.
Later we did not talk for a while. Going home time, we took the same transport home, talk as though nothing has happened.
Why did she have to do it, she aready know what the answer will be. She hurt me and she hurt herself. After this I don't how to be myself around her anymore. Things are going to get weird when we are working together. -
I’m not seeing anyone right now No reponse…wondering “What’s that
this one cracks me up
got to do with me” -
Girls nowaday are quite open minded...I had lady frens who went after the guy..they are quite handsome and good looking must say .. but it never happen to me leh ... cos me not good looking ... quite sad.....guess in the end... everyone go for looks only.... Guess my life is in a bigger mess than stallion.. I have no romantic prospect nor target ...just loads of works and family commitment to fulfil.... me strained and tired liao....God save pls!
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Dude, you are in a good position at the moment.Just be more attuned to what women want and what they say.
I can't offer much advice sad to say, nearly a decade younger than you I am.Still have thorns in my heart I do.