neglected..??
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hi pple. uh.. ok.. a short story of mine. ive been going steady with this guy for 6months already. in school, we seldom talk. when we see each other, we jus walk RIGHT PAST. no hellos or anything. yea but of cos we do meet after school and go out together. the problem is.. well i think he is spending really alot more time with his friends than me.. which leads me to feeling neglected. i've never felt this way before.. its like.. well, things were fine for the first few months.. only recently..
last month, he went out with girls, and he didnt tell me. okay i admit maybe im holding him too tightly, i hate to see him with girls, and vice versa. but still i found out, and was pretty pissed. but i already told him i'd changed for him.. i'll be more reasonable, i'll let him go out with anyone he desires as long as he tells me where and who is he with. thats all i needa know. im tryin to control my jealousy here. and he used to be a casanova.. even when he's got a gf, he still go around sms, call girls 'dear' and more. but now he changed already, for the better.. i hope.
weeks ago, something happened and we broke up. but after that, we patched again. since we patched, we had never meet up. cos chinese o was coming. we had no time for each other. and im glad chinese o's over now. then.. i told him i feel that we're really distant now.. and we really should meet up one of these days to catch up.. i miss him alot. and he said yes, he feels it too. but he donno wat to do.. okay fine, den i told him we'll jus go on, let time takes place and see wat happens.
but.. well.. i still do feel a HUGE HUGE gap and insecurity in me. im afraid he'll go back to his old ways, im afraid he'll do unfaithful acts behind me. not that i dont trust him, but he DID it before.. im jus worried. sighs.. and i really don like him spending so much time with his frens.. i do feel neglected. i told him all about how i felt, all he said was sorry. i cant bear to put him down, i dunno why. he seems less interested and doesnt pays much attention to me anymore.. i really cherish this r/s.. as much as i love him, i don wish to end it..
sighs.. i think his heart's already half dead.. and the things we do when we meet, are pretty much of a routine. each morning i receive his sms.. den sometimes like nth much to chat about, unlike other couples. i think now we're still together he's only 'fu yan' me.. yes i know.. it reali hurts.. but.. i cant seem to let him go..
what do i do.... i feel and fear this r/s might be ending soon.. sighs.. -
concentrate on your studies first lah.....your young bf is not yet the committed type yet lah.....
have fun, date a few more....enjoy life. -
true true... i suppose both of u are still like 16?Originally posted by f.1:concentrate on your studies first lah.....your young bf is not yet the committed type yet lah.....
have fun, date a few more....enjoy life.
... well, no use sticking with a guy who cant give u happiness... if u have tried and nothing works, and u r unhappy, be sensible and move on... pls dun do things like offering urself to him in bid to salvage the relationship, it doesnt work that way 
... read too many stories like that already (although dunno how many are true)... -
ehh?? offering myself to him?? ha, sorry, but never will i do that, don worry. yes yes we're both 16.. gotta concentrate on Olvl.. well.. but i reali like him.. sighs.. thats why i feel so vex..Originally posted by mercurialz:true true... i suppose both of u are still like 16? ... well, no use sticking with a guy who cant give u happiness... if u have tried and nothing works, and u r unhappy, be sensible and move on... pls dun do things like offering urself to him in bid to salvage the relationship, it doesnt work that way ... read too many stories like that already (although dunno how many are true)... -
The honeymoon period is over.
Understand the fact that he is not yours. He has the rights to make frens, to have some breathing space and freedom. To me, frens and lover are equally important.
but the fact that he call everyone dear etc..is a bit too much? u nv meet up ever since the patch up? and he fu yan u at times? then i guess he dun love u a lot..
To love somebody, is not to possess...no point holding him tightly if his heart is not with u, coz ultimately u might not only hurt him, but also hurt yourself. -
come let me have sex with you, it's one way of letting your stupid guy go...
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The last post makes it sound like all this is your fault ... let me tell you it isnt .
Okay here goes, if he doesnt aknowledge you when you walk apst each other or with a kiss or a hello or even a smile then this is damn rude. You have to understand that us guys do need to spend time with our mates just as much as you do with yours girrly friends, maybe you could try meeting both with your friends and his at the same timOriginally posted by sunpastilles:hi pple. uh.. ok.. a short story of mine. ive been going steady with this guy for 6months already. in school, we seldom talk. when we see each other, we jus walk RIGHT PAST. no hellos or anything. yea but of cos we do meet after school and go out together. the problem is.. well i think he is spending really alot more time with his friends than me.. which leads me to feeling neglected. i've never felt this way before.. its like.. well, things were fine for the first few months.. only recently..
Its only natural to be jelous, you obviously care for him alot but to be honest i think this guy has issues, i mean when i am in a relationship i want to spend as much time as possible, not going out with other girls, especially not without her ... this is disrespectful
last month, he went out with girls, and he didnt tell me. okay i admit maybe im holding him too tightly, i hate to see him with girls, and vice versa. but still i found out, and was pretty pissed. but i already told him i'd changed for him.. i'll be more reasonable, i'll let him go out with anyone he desires as long as he tells me where and who is he with. thats all i needa know. im tryin to control my jealousy here. and he used to be a casanova.. even when he's got a gf, he still go around sms, call girls 'dear' and more. but now he changed already, for the better.. i hope.
To be honest if he has cheated once before and if you broke up over it then there really isnt much hope, sorry to be so negatove but things dont work when one has cheated ... i think you are better of with out him
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well, he used to do that (callin other girls dear even when he's attached).. ya i know he's got the rights to make frens and everything else.. yes i know. i realised i've been holding him abit too tight too.. but i feel insecured.. i dunno why im feeling like this.. but.. maybe he jus doesnt gimme muchh security feelings ba.. and also.. i think that he's hiding things from me.. wat i wan him to realise is that im his gf.. im always here for him.. and always will. im someone he shld confide in, seek advise from and go thru thick and thin together. but that doesnt seems like the case.. think he still don get it, dumb guy lol. hais..Originally posted by browniebaobao:The honeymoon period is over.
Understand the fact that he is not yours. He has the rights to make frens, to have some breathing space and freedom. To me, frens and lover are equally important.
but the fact that he call everyone dear etc..is a bit too much? u nv meet up ever since the patch up? and he fu yan u at times? then i guess he dun love u a lot..
To love somebody, is not to possess...no point holding him tightly if his heart is not with u, coz ultimately u might not only hurt him, but also hurt yourself.
and i think we'll be meeting this fri.. not confirmed thou.. if only he can treat frens n lover equally, i wouldnt title my thread "neglected"
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Originally posted by sunpastilles:well, he used to do that (callin other girls dear even when he's attached).. ya i know he's got the rights to make frens and everything else.. yes i know. i realised i've been holding him abit too tight too.. but i feel insecured.. i dunno why im feeling like this.. but.. maybe he jus doesnt gimme muchh security feelings ba.. and also.. i think that he's hiding things from me.. wat i wan him to realise is that im his gf.. im always here for him.. and always will. im someone he shld confide in, seek advise from and go thru thick and thin together. but that doesnt seems like the case.. think he still don get it, dumb guy lol. hais..
and i think we'll be meeting this fri.. not confirmed thou.. if only he can treat frens n lover equally, i wouldnt title my thread "neglected"
sorry but to be blunt..but he might not consider u as his gf?
i used to have the mindset as u..wat i dun care whether he loves me or not, dun care whether he needs me or not, i only want to be there for him...esp thru the period that he got into some trouble...but then after so long, then i realized that if he dun love or need me, whether im there for him or not will not make a difference to him..coz he nv treated me as part of his life.
If it's juz a one way traffic...no point holding on.. -
as above the guy needs his own time stop being so obsessive. calling other girls dear not sure maybe his habit, no real reason for him to change that esp if you haven't told him. very long never see each other , got problem better go and see him now and see whats up.
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Your bf don't seem committed. It is bad that he ignores u & treat u like a stranger in school. That is not the way to treat your gf.
Don't hang on cos it looks like one-sided love.
Let him go cos he seems to be losing interest.
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Personal advice, 'O' levels 1st. The other you might have much less to control the situation. Try not to get yourself hit with 2 stones at one time.Originally posted by sunpastilles:ehh?? offering myself to him?? ha, sorry, but never will i do that, don worry. yes yes we're both 16.. gotta concentrate on Olvl.. well.. but i reali like him.. sighs.. thats why i feel so vex.. -
Hey girl, when u go out and meet some really nice guys, u will noe this guy is worth peanuts to u mann. go out and make more friends. u will find one much better.
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Hey girl, when u go out and meet some really nice guys, u will noe this guy is worth peanuts to u mann. go out and make more friends. u will find one much better.
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Hey girl, when u go out and meet some really nice guys, u will noe this guy is worth peanuts to u mann. go out and make more friends. u will find one much better.
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most relationship during teenage lives are like this is.first few months=honeymoon period where the world exist for only the both of you.after tat generally most people will go back to their frens or just simple spend much lesser time with u.
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hey gal...hope the so many advice given isn't falling onto deaf ears ok. stay cheerful & focused on your studies. u will know that u get out of this one easily when u have something more worthwhile to focus on......your future and yourself. good luck!
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heyy im 16 tis yr too..ya mi situation iz somehow..yaa worse so dun worry too much abt it..ni bu shi jui zhao gao de haha
anyway..it seems lyk a one sided love to me..i wont go ard callin other ppl dear or watever laa when i noe dat i haf a stead le..if he does dat..i means dat u dun mean anything to him la..juz being wif u for the sake of it lor
sorie if i offended u in anywayyz yaa jiayouus for Os k!! -
wow so many replies. thanks. alot of you ask me to concentrate on Olvls.. yeah don worry i will. even now holidays, i do meet up my study group and start revising already. and sorry for the late reply pple.. wasnt really free for the past 2days..
hmm, well, we jus met yesterday.. things were like the past.. realised i really miss him alot. then after that go home liao.. sms awhile, he asked to stop again.. argh.. i already find us quite distant le.. then still must stop smsing becos of his stupid bill. i really donno wat or who is he smsing/calling outside... so i asked him what or who is he exactly busyin with. he said some problems, den he over use the sms.. den i asked again wat problems.. he jus say some problems loh.. its like.. hais.. he's still hiding things from me.. i jus feel very unsafe..
hmm and about his 'calling other pple dear' and such acts.. my frens all say he change liao leh.. not as flirt or wat as before. sure i do hope its true. seems pretty much true to me too.. i have absolutely why he does that too.. maybe cos for the fun.. but if he still does that now, and lets me find out.. gosh.. i dunno how im gonna handle.. hais.. still pretty distant now.. despite the long hours meet up yesterday..
i know there are many better guys outside.. but then.. very idiotically, my heart fell for this one. sighs.... but i really appreciate and thank all you people's replies.. really a big thank you. -
Wow,your bf doesnt realise how fortunate he is to have his gf worrying over him.
Give me his hp number,Ill ask hint him to view this thread.If he truly cares abt you,things will change pretty soon.