Hiya waterfalz,
Despite common thinking, its not that easy to get pregnant. Just visit any gynae or fertility clinic and you will quickly realise that you're not alone.
An adult female has only a 24-48 hour window period (usually 24) per month where she is fertile.....and that may not necessary mean every month either.
This window period can be estimated (around 13 days after the start of your period, if your period is regular), but it differs from person to person. A semi-accurate way is to get the strip test (from pharmacies) which can indicate when you are just near your peak period to get pregnant.
For many couples, failure to get pregnant is often due to the following:
- Wrong timing.
- Low sperm count.
- Bad sperm quality.
- Egg not being produced.
- Egg quality is bad.
- Other complications like kinked/blocked fallopian tubes, etc.
For the above common problems, modern medical science can come to the rescue (at quite a high price too - usually thousands of $). Depending on the problem, the doctor may recommend the following:
- Keep trying by yourselves (they usually won't because they wanna earn $).
- IUI (injecting his sperms directly and deeply into you, via a syringe). $2000.
- IVF (withdrawing your eggs, fertilising them with his sperm externally, then implanting the embryo back into you). $10,000.
- See a Traditional Chinese Medicine sinseh (although unproven and unexplained by western medical science, it is a documented fact that TCM has helped and does help. Thong Chai in Singapore is famous for this.). $cheap.
Of course, just as with any other situation in life, there are some problems which cannot be overcome medically....but this is very rare. Whatever the case, doctors recommend that if you've tried by yourselves for one year and still have no success, then its time for a check-up.
If you want to start with a cheap way (TCM sinseh), I can recommend you to one.....BUT she would probably ask you to go for a medical checkup with a gynae first, so that she'll know whats wrong and what to prescribe. TCM takes around 6 months to work.
Lastly, its very important to make sure that you guys are using the right hole!

Good luck!