So easy to get attached these days... why not me??
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It seems so easy to get attached these daysÂ… I see more couples almost everywhere. The moment I leave home, from on board the MRT or bus to the food court for a meal by myself, there is hardly a chance where I wonÂ’t see some loving couples displaying public affections. Not only are there more couples everywhere, the ages of couples are also getting younger, some teenagers around 13-14 holding hands & kissing in public has become a common sight..
I have long avoided going to Orchard road & most shopping areas, ‘cos I feel uncomfortable & inferior around all these couples. I feel especially envious when I see other guys with very pretty & nicely dressed GF. Not only are the gals beautiful & dolled up, they also appeared devoted & loving to their boyfriends. A far cry from most of the dates I had so far--- my GF are mostly some plain lookers & most importantly, I feel they hardly love me.
My last ex was a perpetually busy person--- juggling work, going clubbing till the wee hours with large group of friends every weekend. Everytime she meets me, she would look dead beat, dead broken (usually carrying less than $10) & dressed casually. Am I supposed to feel blessed & proud to have such a GF?? I donÂ’t knowÂ… some may criticize me for having high expectations or not understanding enoughÂ… but I feel rely shortchanged in such a relationship.
Except for one ole friend who shares some of my sentiments, practically everyone else I know is attached. My classmates, my peers, my cousinsÂ… everyone seems to be attached. I feel so infuriated & desperate sometimes. I really feel desperate now, thinking I should shed all my integrity & kindness , lie & cheat, do whatever it takes to achieve the success long eluding me. Anyway, it seems like the biggest jerks always have the most pretty & devoted GF, at least IÂ’ve seen several such occurrences. Am I psychotic to think this way??!!
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hey, you're prince cumming. wad could go wrong?? lolz....
dude. the more desperate you are, the more you wun get your gal...
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im single, but im not looking. no probs for me.
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Like we usally say:" Those attached will try hard to gain back their freedom, while those sigle will try hard to loose their freedom.
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Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
Get a grip of yourself and your mentality... Otherwise, I also see no point even if you DO have a gf
It seems so easy to get attached these daysÂ… I see more couples almost everywhere. The moment I leave home, from on board the MRT or bus to the food court for a meal by myself, there is hardly a chance where I wonÂ’t see some loving couples displaying public affections. Not only are there more couples everywhere, the ages of couples are also getting younger, some teenagers around 13-14 holding hands & kissing in public has become a common sight..
I have long avoided going to Orchard road & most shopping areas, ‘cos I feel uncomfortable & inferior around all these couples. I feel especially envious when I see other guys with very pretty & nicely dressed GF. Not only are the gals beautiful & dolled up, they also appeared devoted & loving to their boyfriends. A far cry from most of the dates I had so far--- my GF are mostly some plain lookers & most importantly, I feel they hardly love me.
My last ex was a perpetually busy person--- juggling work, going clubbing till the wee hours with large group of friends every weekend. Everytime she meets me, she would look dead beat, dead broken (usually carrying less than $10) & dressed casually. Am I supposed to feel blessed & proud to have such a GF?? I donÂ’t knowÂ… some may criticize me for having high expectations or not understanding enoughÂ… but I feel rely shortchanged in such a relationship.
Except for one ole friend who shares some of my sentiments, practically everyone else I know is attached. My classmates, my peers, my cousinsÂ… everyone seems to be attached. I feel so infuriated & desperate sometimes. [b]I really feel desperate now, thinking I should shed all my integrity & kindness , lie & cheat, do whatever it takes to achieve the success long eluding me. Anyway, it seems like the biggest jerks always have the most pretty & devoted GF, at least IÂ’ve seen several such occurrences. Am I psychotic to think this way??!!
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Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
Time to change ur nick to Prince Charming instead of Cumming?
It seems so easy to get attached these daysÂ… I see more couples almost everywhere. The moment I leave home, from on board the MRT or bus to the food court for a meal by myself, there is hardly a chance where I wonÂ’t see some loving couples displaying public affections. Not only are there more couples everywhere, the ages of couples are also getting younger, some teenagers around 13-14 holding hands & kissing in public has become a common sight..
I have long avoided going to Orchard road & most shopping areas, ‘cos I feel uncomfortable & inferior around all these couples. I feel especially envious when I see other guys with very pretty & nicely dressed GF. Not only are the gals beautiful & dolled up, they also appeared devoted & loving to their boyfriends. A far cry from most of the dates I had so far--- my GF are mostly some plain lookers & most importantly, I feel they hardly love me.
My last ex was a perpetually busy person--- juggling work, going clubbing till the wee hours with large group of friends every weekend. Everytime she meets me, she would look dead beat, dead broken (usually carrying less than $10) & dressed casually. Am I supposed to feel blessed & proud to have such a GF?? I donÂ’t knowÂ… some may criticize me for having high expectations or not understanding enoughÂ… but I feel rely shortchanged in such a relationship.
Except for one ole friend who shares some of my sentiments, practically everyone else I know is attached. My classmates, my peers, my cousinsÂ… everyone seems to be attached. I feel so infuriated & desperate sometimes. [b]I really feel desperate now, thinking I should shed all my integrity & kindness , lie & cheat, do whatever it takes to achieve the success long eluding me. Anyway, it seems like the biggest jerks always have the most pretty & devoted GF, at least IÂ’ve seen several such occurrences. Am I psychotic to think this way??!!
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u wana cum until when?
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the pasture is always greener on the other sideOriginally posted by Agressor:Like we usally say:" Those attached will try hard to gain back their freedom, while those sigle will try hard to loose their freedom.
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wen ur cuming, they are going
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hey some people nv had a bf or gf in their life but i never hear them complain.
since you got gfs before liao why complain so much.
Either lower your expectations or get a life.
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sure u can easily get a gf, play around for 1 month, then break up. do you want that?
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Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
It seems so easy to get attached these daysÂ… I see more couples almost everywhere. The moment I leave home, from on board the MRT or bus to the food court for a meal by myself, there is hardly a chance where I wonÂ’t see some loving couples displaying public affections. Not only are there more couples everywhere, the ages of couples are also getting younger, some teenagers around 13-14 holding hands & kissing in public has become a common sight..
I have long avoided going to Orchard road & most shopping areas, ‘cos I feel uncomfortable & inferior around all these couples. I feel especially envious when I see other guys with very pretty & nicely dressed GF. Not only are the gals beautiful & dolled up, they also appeared devoted & loving to their boyfriends. A far cry from most of the dates I had so far--- my GF are mostly some plain lookers & most importantly, I feel they hardly love me.
My last ex was a perpetually busy person--- juggling work, going clubbing till the wee hours with large group of friends every weekend. Everytime she meets me, she would look dead beat, dead broken (usually carrying less than $10) & dressed casually. Am I supposed to feel blessed & proud to have such a GF?? I donÂ’t knowÂ… some may criticize me for having high expectations or not understanding enoughÂ… but I feel rely shortchanged in such a relationship.
Except for one ole friend who shares some of my sentiments, practically everyone else I know is attached. My classmates, my peers, my cousinsÂ… everyone seems to be attached. I feel so infuriated & desperate sometimes. [b]I really feel desperate now, thinking I should shed all my integrity & kindness , lie & cheat, do whatever it takes to achieve the success long eluding me. Anyway, it seems like the biggest jerks always have the most pretty & devoted GF, at least IÂ’ve seen several such occurrences. Am I psychotic to think this way??!!
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You seen how loving couples are.... have you ever see their problems?
Behind every loving couple lies their own relationship problems; behind every smile is a tear hidden.
Of course you don't see these on the street do you?
It's damn fringin` easy to get attached... so fringing` easy.
How many relationships can truely be fulfilling and lasting? (while it last)
P.S: Love is like beseiged castle; those who are inside wanna get out, while those who are outside wants to get in.
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Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
Well my friend, dont worry, your time will come. Haha, for i believe, God is now appointing a soulmate to you...relationship starts early will also end early..
It seems so easy to get attached these daysÂ… I see more couples almost everywhere. The moment I leave home, from on board the MRT or bus to the food court for a meal by myself, there is hardly a chance where I wonÂ’t see some loving couples displaying public affections. Not only are there more couples everywhere, the ages of couples are also getting younger, some teenagers around 13-14 holding hands & kissing in public has become a common sight..
I have long avoided going to Orchard road & most shopping areas, ‘cos I feel uncomfortable & inferior around all these couples. I feel especially envious when I see other guys with very pretty & nicely dressed GF. Not only are the gals beautiful & dolled up, they also appeared devoted & loving to their boyfriends. A far cry from most of the dates I had so far--- my GF are mostly some plain lookers & most importantly, I feel they hardly love me.
My last ex was a perpetually busy person--- juggling work, going clubbing till the wee hours with large group of friends every weekend. Everytime she meets me, she would look dead beat, dead broken (usually carrying less than $10) & dressed casually. Am I supposed to feel blessed & proud to have such a GF?? I donÂ’t knowÂ… some may criticize me for having high expectations or not understanding enoughÂ… but I feel rely shortchanged in such a relationship.
Except for one ole friend who shares some of my sentiments, practically everyone else I know is attached. My classmates, my peers, my cousinsÂ… everyone seems to be attached. I feel so infuriated & desperate sometimes. [b]I really feel desperate now, thinking I should shed all my integrity & kindness , lie & cheat, do whatever it takes to achieve the success long eluding me. Anyway, it seems like the biggest jerks always have the most pretty & devoted GF, at least IÂ’ve seen several such occurrences. Am I psychotic to think this way??!!
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Hey dude... let me judge u by wat u've written here, u r one god-damn boring guy u know tat??
Now tat I've caught ur attention, please hear me out b4 u start blowing ur top at me, but if u think I sounded unreasonable at any point, please do feel free to flame me.
Letz turn back the clock to the time when u were with ur ex. Watz ur mindset like at tat time?? Watz makes u attracted to her?? Y didn't u join her when she go clubbing?? Wat makes u break up with her??
If my deduction is correct, u didn't spend enuff time with her. U should be the one accompanying her when she go clubbing so u'll get to understand more about her lifestyle. She wore casual clothes when she go out with u because she feels comfortable with u, she even drag herself out of the bed even if she's dead-beat, just to go out with u. But, touch ur heart and ask urself this... will u do the same for her? If not, (no offends but) I believe u chase her just to get the free sex, or some kick from the ego thingy like, "Yo look, I have a gf, and u doesn't have one, sucka!!". Yes?? No??
Now, turn the clock back to the present time, r ready to
1)accept another stranger into ur life??
2)Or u wanna get a gf because all ur friends got 1
3)because ur lonely
If itz 2), I suggest u can forget about it _|_ *shows middle finger*, cos u sound like me when I was 10-years-old who wants a multi-button pencil-box, "because all my friends got one, y not me??".
U really need to ask urself, do u really need a gf?? Someone who u can speak casually to, someone who can share ur woes, someone who u r willing to dig ur heart out just to show it to her bcos u loved her, despite of her looks.
Ok, letz now look at the quotes in RED below. Yeap, I too think this way, but tat was in the past. I asked around, and found out, y. This is wat the gals told me, "They know how to have fun". Yeap, itz tat simple. But besides tat, u have to do some self-observation, "y r they so fun? Wat attracts those babes to them?"
This is wat I've observed from these so-called J-E-R-Ks(u can also add-in ur own):
1)They r bold - they dare to do anything for their chicks, without the fear of loosing their ego/face, they protected their gf fiercely and almost always know wat to do in difficult situations.
2)They know how to have fun - they r playful, but not to the extreme, and they know WHERE to go to have fun
3)They know how to play dress-up - which means, they know how to impress them at the 1st impression, which counts, bonus points.
4)They look confident - yes, LOOK confident, but not OVERLY-confident like some ego obsessed freak. The way they talk the talk, walk the walk, the way they carry themselves, they way they make themselves at home/feel comfortable, well tat doesnt mean u can dig ur nose infront of the gals.
So those jerks ...to us.... are actually very loving bf(not all though) to their gf. As for "devoted gf" they got, tat is only the surface, but u do know it whether they r dating another guy behind their back?? Or they go out with them because of the money? Likewise to the guys.
ok ok... I'll stop here... getting long-winded. Doubt all of u have the patience to read everything if I write anymore longer.Originally posted by Prince Cumming:It seems so easy to get attached these daysÂ… I see more couples almost everywhere. The moment I leave home, from on board the MRT or bus to the food court for a meal by myself, there is hardly a chance where I wonÂ’t see some loving couples displaying public affections. Not only are there more couples everywhere, the ages of couples are also getting younger, some teenagers around 13-14 holding hands & kissing in public has become a common sight..
I have long avoided going to Orchard road & most shopping areas, ‘cos I feel uncomfortable & inferior around all these couples. I feel especially envious when I see other guys with very pretty & nicely dressed GF. Not only are the gals beautiful & dolled up, they also appeared devoted & loving to their boyfriends. A far cry from most of the dates I had so far--- my GF are mostly some plain lookers & most importantly, I feel they hardly love me.
My last ex was a perpetually busy person--- juggling work, going clubbing till the wee hours with large group of friends every weekend. Everytime she meets me, she would look dead beat, dead broken (usually carrying less than $10) & dressed casually. Am I supposed to feel blessed & proud to have such a GF?? I donÂ’t knowÂ… some may criticize me for having high expectations or not understanding enoughÂ… but I feel rely shortchanged in such a relationship.
Except for one ole friend who shares some of my sentiments, practically everyone else I know is attached. My classmates, my peers, my cousinsÂ… everyone seems to be attached. I feel so infuriated & desperate sometimes. I really feel desperate now, thinking I should shed all my integrity & kindness , lie & cheat, do whatever it takes to achieve the success long eluding me. Anyway, it seems like the biggest jerks always have the most pretty & devoted GF, at least IÂ’ve seen several such occurrences. Am I psychotic to think this way??!! -
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
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Originally posted by Boo777:
First of all, I wld like to say a BIG THANK YOU for ur controversial but helpful, thoughts-provoking comments.
Hey dude... let me judge u by wat u've written here, [b]u r one god-damn boring guy u know tat??
Now tat I've caught ur attention, please hear me out b4 u start blowing ur top at me, but if u think I sounded unreasonable at any point, please do feel free to flame me.
Letz turn back the clock to the time when u were with ur ex. Watz ur mindset like at tat time?? Watz makes u attracted to her?? Y didn't u join her when she go clubbing?? Wat makes u break up with her??
If my deduction is correct, u didn't spend enuff time with her. U should be the one accompanying her when she go clubbing so u'll get to understand more about her lifestyle. She wore casual clothes when she go out with u because she feels comfortable with u, she even drag herself out of the bed even if she's dead-beat, just to go out with u. But, touch ur heart and ask urself this... will u do the same for her? If not, (no offends but) I believe u chase her just to get the free sex, or some kick from the ego thingy like, "Yo look, I have a gf, and u doesn't have one, sucka!!". Yes?? No??
Now, turn the clock back to the present time, r ready to
1)accept another stranger into ur life??
2)Or u wanna get a gf because all ur friends got 1
3)because ur lonely
If itz 2), I suggest u can forget about it _|_ *shows middle finger*, cos u sound like me when I was 10-years-old who wants a multi-button pencil-box, "because all my friends got one, y not me??".
U really need to ask urself, do u really need a gf?? Someone who u can speak casually to, someone who can share ur woes, someone who u r willing to dig ur heart out just to show it to her bcos u loved her, despite of her looks.
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After the break-up, I did went thru a deep reflective process--- In fact, she mentioned some of the stuff u said, like how I shld appreciate her efforts for meeting up with me despite her hectic schedules. Why she dressed casually ‘cos she was tired after the week of work.
Now, am I willing to do the same for her? My answer is a honest YES… if anyone wld believe me. The reason I felt “shortchanged” ‘cos I’m one who is willing to do a lot for my partner. Maybe that’s why I have high expectations towards her as well.
Put urself in my shoes, do u think u or anyone wld feel HAPPY in such a relationship. All the talks wonÂ’t change the fundamental fact that she is a busy person who can gives very little to the relationship.
When IÂ’m outside alone or with my frens, I canÂ’t help but wonder why I canÂ’t have a fulfilling & carefree relationships, like the many couples whisking past me. Most of my peers have very free, accommodating girlfriends, nice ppl who wld dressed up & make an effort for their boyfriends.
Maybe I sound superficial with above wordsÂ… but IÂ’m just being unpretentious abt my feelings. -
Better than me for your situation,i don't even have one for my lifetime yet.
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it's okie to have no gfs becoz u can always tell ppl u are unable to committ in a relationship, or u are no the relationship kind of guy. But dont ever ever tell ppl u are still a virgin, coz that's not okie. it explains why u have no gf. but if u r not a virgin an u got no gf, that's cool.
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thought i posted a reply, but don't see it... anyway, i said," Be honest. Be sincere and Be yourself."
I think the best a person can do is look honestly at oneself and know one's weakness. As usual, anything is excess is not good (the only exception is money, but i digress)
Imagine you're a gal and you read your own post, would you like/love a guy like that? Go figure it out.
Best of luck -
Change must come from within.
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Man i must makes changes,but i have difficulty finding the right woman,i do need some reflections how to be more appealin to girls.
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u are not only the one
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Love is a part of life, not all of it. You can do with it and can also do without it.
With it, u can also do without. Without it, u can also do with. -
Mix around, dun try to hard to impress and be natural.
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Thanks for the advice.
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Guess what, recently at my younger brothers (he is 14 btw) birthday party, he introduced me to his galfriend! Some chirpy convent gal.. He cheekily asked me what I thought of her.
"Well u guys get things started really early these days", mustering some humor to cover my shock/embarassment.. I dun know what I was feeling then, I guess it's just a confluence of emotions. It was a horrible night, the fact that it was a party pack with 14 year olds didn't make things any better.
The next few nights actually got me thinking abt myself; a self-examination of sorts. Was it just me? Or pherhaps I haven't met the right person yet or worst I'm destined to be single all my life. I just slept through it all and woke up the next morning likes if nothings happended. Such is life.
So.. I think U should just let things run its course. I feel if you push the issue, you'll just end up hurting yourself. I'm sure sometime soon some gal will come knocking at the door.